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Posted 22 February 2012 - 18:53

hey guys i just wanted to say im finding it hard to cum in time I normally go for hand releif only and it some times can be difficult to finnish off and cum. It can be abit annoying. So just wondered is that comman and also is there any tips you could give me to help me work it out? thanks

#2 busencumen

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Posted 22 February 2012 - 18:54

maybe go further for full penetration then?
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#3 randy88

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Posted 22 February 2012 - 19:23

Longer period of abstinence possibly?
If it flies, floats or fornicates, it's probably cheaper to rent.

#4 Diamond Geezer

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Posted 22 February 2012 - 19:31

Are you taking Viagra or Levitra? I find it a problem to cum with either.


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Posted 22 February 2012 - 19:36

I don't to come these days with escorts and am not at all concerned - more interested in getting her to come or at least to enjoy herself.

The nicer the girl the less likely I am to come - head enjoying chat and personality rather than focussed on the sex going on.

But I am older and others of course won't have same attitude but I am very happy how things have turned out and so of course no pressure to finish off - more likely girl determined she can get me to come. Often interesting.
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Posted 22 February 2012 - 20:04

Sometimes you can try too hard and fail. If you can find a way of relaxing it may help. Talk to the lady you are with, explain to her what you are like and tell her what you particularly enjoy, and what you don't. As with all sex communication is key!

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Posted 22 February 2012 - 20:33

Dear Contributors,

Thanks to down for posting.

Ejaculatory dysfunction (as the medics say) can be a serious problem for many men (and women). The underlying causes are usually related to stress, pressure or anxiety. Firstly you want to avoid "clock watchers". Girls who clock-watch are no good for a man finding it difficult to cum. Give yourself time to warm-up, using favoured stimuli. If girls in crotchless stockings turn you on, take some along to a meet. /smile.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt=':)' /> If you're not sure what turns you on, experiment with different "niches" (bbw, ethnic, mature...etc). Unless you try something new, how will you ever know what works for you?

Diet and fitness can also make a difference - Bananas, cream and steak are good for ejaculation, as is yoga (since yoga oxygenates the blood that circulates to the penis). Gentle warm oil massage before any foreplay is also a good "warm up" technique. Personally, I'd avoid chemical solutions like viagra, for the simple reason organic treatments are less likely to cause imbalance.

Let me know how you get on.

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Posted 22 February 2012 - 21:16

hey guys i just wanted to say im finding it hard to cum in time I normally go for hand releif only and it some times can be difficult to finnish off and cum. It can be abit annoying. So just wondered is that comman and also is there any tips you could give me to help me work it out? thanks



I found this on a couple of occasions but i think its all in the head(pardon the pun) , stress related or you know the clock is ticking and it just takes over.
I've also completed an appointment before without coming. My fault. It just wasnt ever going to happen although she tried her best.
I've learnt to just relax and enjoy the moment of fantasy.

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Posted 22 February 2012 - 21:30

Dear Contributors,

Thanks to down for posting.

Ejaculatory dysfunction (as the medics say) can be a serious problem for many men (and women). The underlying causes are usually related to stress, pressure or anxiety. Firstly you want to avoid "clock watchers". Girls who clock-watch are no good for a man finding it difficult to cum. Give yourself time to warm-up, using favoured stimuli. If girls in crotchless stockings turn you on, take some along to a meet. /smile.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt=':)' /> If you're not sure what turns you on, experiment with different "niches" (bbw, ethnic, mature...etc). Unless you try something new, how will you ever know what works for you?

Diet and fitness can also make a difference - Bananas, cream and steak are good for ejaculation, as is yoga (since yoga oxygenates the blood that circulates to the penis). Gentle warm oil massage before any foreplay is also a good "warm up" technique. Personally, I'd avoid chemical solutions like viagra, for the simple reason organic treatments are less likely to cause imbalance.

Let me know how you get on.

Kind Regards,

DrSex


Ah! haha so funny lol lol Dr Sex /laugh.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt=':lol:' /> /laugh.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt=':lol:' />

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Posted 22 February 2012 - 21:42

i need a doctor

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Posted 22 February 2012 - 21:42

If time is the issue, why not book longer?

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Posted 22 February 2012 - 21:51

couple of options book a longer stay to ensure you are satisfied to completion with out feeling rushed or the woman feeling you are taking the mickey or finding you are left hanging so to say as the clock ticks time up

Tell the woman it takes you ages to cum cut out the small talk massage etc and get straight to it

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Posted 22 February 2012 - 21:51

For MissCupcake

Hee Hee Hee.... A girl with a sense of humour is a joy forever.... /wink.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt=';)' />
Couldn't resist checking your website....One word seems to sum-up the experience: "wow" !

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Posted 22 February 2012 - 23:00

Bananas, cream and steak!!!!! Sounds an odd meal /laugh.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt=':lol:' />

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Posted 23 February 2012 - 02:49

Yeah, I would agree. For me the best and most enjoyable climax and overall enjoyment of every second is with a girl that offers GFE and also makes the effort and is an active participant. For that best I have come across that is still available is Chantel from 007. Although around time I first noticed Chantel was meeting a girl called Apple from 007, she was pretty good, great SE Asian type of body, and although not as active and energetic as Chantel still provided a very kinda sweet GFE experience, almost like being with a girl that was slightly new to sexual activity.

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Posted 23 February 2012 - 13:32

Hand relief only eh? I know you're not paying to wank yourself but sometimes they just don't know what they're doing so DIY

Edited by Thepacifist, 23 February 2012 - 13:33.


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Posted 23 February 2012 - 15:55

Bananas, cream and steak!!!!! Sounds an odd meal /laugh.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt=':lol:' />


Do they have to be eaten in that order?

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Posted 24 February 2012 - 01:48

Hmmm.....

You guys never heard of steak and chips followed by a banana split? /tongue.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt=':P' />

Anyway, it's interesting some posters mention "book for longer". The irony is that perfect ejaculations aren't related to time. Time itself is connected with pressure (deadlines, money, schedules) in the guy's mind. Tub-thumbing, bone-shaking orgasms are related to how stimulated you feel by your partner.

I study ejaculations very carefully /smile.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt=':)' /> A man is capable of having four foot thundering orgasms when he's with the right girl. And they are out there, guys. You just need to know what you're looking for in a sexual partner.

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Posted 24 February 2012 - 11:22

hey guys i just wanted to say im finding it hard to cum in time I normally go for hand releif only and it some times can be difficult to finnish off and cum. It can be abit annoying. So just wondered is that comman and also is there any tips you could give me to help me work it out? thanks


Hi down,

If the delayed ejac is something new you're experiencing, it may be a good idea to mention it to your GP. Changes in sexual function can be indicative of other medical conditions.

There have been some useful tips here:

Time constraints can put pressure on performance. If you have been used to short punts, then it may be worth trying a longer one to give you a chance to unwind.

Stress is a big factor, and unfortunately many guys punt to try to relieve stress... which can compound the problem.

Sometimes finding a regular you really "click" with can help, and you may feel more relaxed about telling a regular about the problem. But avoid becoming too dependent on one wg.

Try to keep reasonably fit and eat healthily, but some of the wackier dietry suggestions above won't help.

Good luck with this.
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Posted 25 February 2012 - 00:35

Amen, Reverand... /smile.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt=':)' />

Overdependency on WGs is an interesting topic in itself. Generally, the better organised you are before a meet, the more you'll get out of the experience. Personally, I think asking the right questions and getting a "feel" for the WG before a meet can pay big dividends.

I sought the services of a few regular girls in the heady days of "The Golden Credit Card"... Little Ruby, as she was known, wore stockings and suspenders, could be hired with a male companion for group hardcore and gave a superlative "no rush" service that had me coming very hard. (Would have been interesting employing her with a fellow punter if I'd known how to contact one.. Early days of the Net at the time). She had a disarming personality and kindly manner...But such WGs are rare.....

Ahh Ruby....Where are you now?

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PS: Curiously enough, she advertised in the (low cost) "Bargain Pages". Is that still going I wonder...?

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Posted 25 February 2012 - 08:41

May I say Dr Sex, even with only 10 posts you are fast becoming my favourite poster here, perceptive insights & amusing anecdotes, please keep it up!(oops!)

On occasion (30% of my meetings) I find it difficult to acheive a climax, I've never had any trouble in a LTR, but with escorts I do, I put it down to a combination of lack of sensation inside a condom and consequent numbness, unfamiliarity/apprehension with the girl, the time constraint weighing upon my mind, feeling that I need to impress the girl rather than focus more on my pleasure.

Strangely I always manage to cum at a party, where the erotic assault on the senses is quite intense but the pressure to cum is off as you can move on to another girl without recriminations.

Interesting to hear your insight about finding the right girl. Some have made me cum on the first visit, there doesn't seem to be any rhyme or reason to it and they weren't always the ones I found most physically attractive... but maybe I should concentrate on these.

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Posted 25 February 2012 - 10:33

I have occasionally had the same problem, I think the stress thing related to the time you have booked is true,you feel you have to perform before your time runs out so you stress out!

I found a soulution of sorts that worked for me sometimes, I have a thing about Schoolgirl uniform, I have my escorts dress this way and I find it just makes me so horny that it's almost inevitable that I cum, try getting her to dress the way that turns youon, good foreplay helps too and it's not uncommon for me to have my head between a girls legs for 15 or moreminutes!

Ihave triedthe Viagra and Levitra thing andthey have,forme,very littlesuccess, better to try and relax and be more adventurous.

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Posted 25 February 2012 - 12:59

hard to cum in time, god wish i did, im 51 and take kamagra to, the girl i see now i can play with snog and mess around, have deep froced throat with her fine, but as soon as i get her on her knees bum in the air and start fucking her, five or six strokes im pulling out cos i know i will cum, might be esier if i chose a ugly old women but then dont think id get it up:(

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Posted 25 February 2012 - 21:39

Dear Contributors,

For venturer: "keeping it up.... " of course, is the name of the game /wink.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt=';)' /> Thankyou, too, for your kind words of encouragement.

I must admit, the "party" scene entirely passed me by, although group sex was proposed by three of my female contacts during the early "renaissance" period of chatrooms. (Chatrooms these days appear to be on the wane due to a complex host of legal and social issues). Are there any good chats still available, please? (I'd love to know...)

I found many female partners via the chatroom route, surprisingly, none of these were WGs. Most were mature women seeking "excitement" outside lacklustre (or even dysfunctioning) marriages. (I suspect many men logged into "chat" for the same reason). /smile.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt=':)' />

Of course, the right kind of "excitement" is the key to generating knee-trembling orgasms for both men and women. This can apply to WGs, as well as "Casuals". Unless you feel excited by your partner(s), the whole affair will descend into a kind of tortuous race against time. Curiously, the three chatroom contacts mentioned were all willing to do hard anal and gangbangs, but probably could not even discuss this with their "regular" partners. (A classic case of Freudian repression).

Anyway, I notice alot of guys mention various drugs... I know my dietry advice seems "wacky" /tongue.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt=':P' /> but I did study this indepth. Bananas contain natural sugars that give a man the right kind of energy (widely used by Special Forces Guys), proper steak contains iron (that is great for the blood- and its blood that makes your pecker hard, guys) while real fresh cream contains calcium and fats that will also promote sperm production (I think...) /biggrin.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt=':D' />

Kind Regards,

DrSex

PS: I might have to double check the cream/sperm production claim, it's been awhile since my research project.

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Posted 27 February 2012 - 15:49

Anyway, I notice alot of guys mention various drugs... I know my dietry advice seems "wacky" /tongue.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt=':P' /> but I did study this indepth. Bananas contain natural sugars that give a man the right kind of energy (widely used by Special Forces Guys), proper steak contains iron (that is great for the blood- and its blood that makes your pecker hard, guys) while real fresh cream contains calcium and fats that will also promote sperm production (I think...) /biggrin.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt=':D' />

Kind Regards,

DrSex

PS: I might have to double check the cream/sperm production claim, it's been awhile since my research project.


Oh dear!

Erm, DrSex, are you able to tell us where you 'studied' nutrition indepth (sic)? And was your research project ever published in a peer-reviewed journal?

Just askin.

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Posted 27 February 2012 - 19:11

Dear Reverend ... How's the pulpit? /tongue.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt=':P' />

Okay, you ask fair questions - So here's the answers:

Rev asks: "are you able to tell us where you 'studied' nutrition indepth?"

I originally studied brain chemistry for over a year. This was an academic project initiated by myself, no universities or medical research groups took part. (Unless you include the medical books I studied).

My studies uncovered that diet plays a direct part in promoting sexual and mental health. Unfortunately, processed foods (such as ready-meals) often contain refined sugar (aka "the white killer"), lack fibre and long-chain fatty acids (omega 3) are destroyed or absent.

Special forces, or survival experts, often use (cooked) oats and bananas as a "high energy" food, eaten in the morning before physical activity. The payoff being energy is released into the blood-stream gradually through the day - stress levels decrease, ability to perform increases.

Rev asks: "was your research project ever published in a peer-reviewed journal?"

No, sorry. Most of the findings were pre-published in medical, or specialist research books found via the library.

Anyone suffering from stress, or headaches, will benefit from omega 3 (long chain fatty acids) and natural sugars (found in fruit). Leave those choccy bars for a weekend treat. /smile.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt=':)' /> Omega 3 capsules or oily fish will do wonders for your brain and joints, while natural sugars will keep you going all night long.... Don't take my word for it, try it and see ! /biggrin.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt=':D' />

Kind Regards,

DrSex /ph34r.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt=':ph34r:' />

PS: I re-checked my claim about full fat cream and sperm production. A study carried out by a doctor in Spain found that "men with higher-quality sperm tended to consume more fruits, vegetables and skim milk." Sorry, I was just plain wrong on that point. /wacko.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt=':wacko:' />

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Posted 28 February 2012 - 00:35

DrSex, thank you for your answers to my two questions.

They were most illuminating.
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Posted 28 February 2012 - 10:09

I quite often take ages to cum. I've had a couple of sessions of 2 hours where I just managed it whereas other hour long sessions where I haven't been anywhere near.
It's not always a physical thing but psychological for me - I generally hold back until I feel the woman is satisfied. Find it difficult to break this way of thinking and if I feel a woman is just going through the motions or really faking it, this decreases my chances as well.
I tend to find it hard to cum on demand as well like when she says "cum on my tits" and I'm thinking "I'm up for that for sure!" and it just isn't happening even if I do it myself.

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Posted 28 February 2012 - 20:22

Dear Contributors,

For the Reverend - "Let he who illuminated this, illuminate me" /wink.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt=';)' /> (Thanks for the jolly banter. Please keep me in your prayers)

For willstewart - Sorry to hear of your travails... /sad.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt=':(' /> 2 hour sessions where you "just managed" it sounds painful /wacko.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt=':wacko:' />
But your story does provide a powerful example of non-stimulus. I'd be interested to know your current diet and what you find stimulating in a sexual partner.... Have you tried experimenting with different niches? (Group, bbw, ethnic... to name but 3!)

I realise these are private matters, but we do have a private instant messenger on PunterNet.

Kind Regards,

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Posted 28 February 2012 - 21:00

When I first started punting I either: couldnt get a proper erection; would get one, then cum immediately if sucked; would go soft when the condom was put on; or cum immediately after penetration.

Now look at me - lol

I can control myself pretty well, more or less cum when I am ready; I can usually repeat in half an hour.

The difference - I am very experienced with wg's and have no nerves; I know I am going to have a good time and so i am completely relaxed when I arrive; I don't have any kind of targets for my encounters anymore; I rarely masturbate, saving it for the girls, tho this has got easier to do in the last few years as I have got older.

I don't worry about any notions of satisfying the girls, but again this is a confidence thing.

So my advice would be, go with the flow. I would have been quite happy not to cum when I started, as long as i had a good stiffie. I could always wank afterwards, it doesn't matter if you cum, its still sex.