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#1 dwanyewest

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Posted 24 November 2013 - 02:51

I dunno if this been asked before but I always wondered why there aren't as many hetrosexual male escorts catering for women. Why does anyone think women don't seem to pay for sex in anyway near the same numbers as men.



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Posted 24 November 2013 - 04:38

Because we don't have to! If a woman wants meaningless casual sex all she needs to do is get online to an adult dating site, swingers site, chatroom or place an ad and be inundated with potential suitors!
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Posted 24 November 2013 - 05:08

For a man there is no such thing as meaningless sex.


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Posted 24 November 2013 - 05:53

Lydia's hit the nail on the head although to be fair (no offence intended) it's not exactly rocket science.

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Posted 24 November 2013 - 06:35

Men are able to enjoy sex for its own sake, women need an excuse to have sex. Whether that is down to evolutionary psychology or supression of female sexuality, or a mixture of both, is a debate for another day.



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Posted 24 November 2013 - 07:34

By the same token Lydia, why are there loads of guys online outnumbering the women look for casual sex.

Answer to both questions is that men are generally more hornier than women and will actively try to find it on the paid or non paid scene...

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Posted 24 November 2013 - 09:26

Like Lydia said - why would a woman have to pay for it if she can easily pick up hot guys for free?  The market for male (straight) escorts must be very very small.  

 

But women that look for casual sex are pretty rare in my opinion...and they are typically branded as 'sluts' by other women which leads to even fewer women exploring their sexuality to the fullest.  



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Posted 24 November 2013 - 09:50

Most women dont like sex. This means its easy for the ones that do.



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Posted 24 November 2013 - 10:55

Us men are much more generous with our sexual favours than the ladies and are far more willing to grant them for free.

 

That said, I wonder how many of us could deliver a BFE worth paying for......and what on Earth a BFE would be!


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Posted 24 November 2013 - 12:04

Most women dont like sex. This means its easy for the ones that do.

Sorry no thats utter tommy rot. What an earth makes you think women don't like sex?


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Posted 24 November 2013 - 12:24

'cause women are more fussy about who they have sex with

 

or is that the other way around :)


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Posted 24 November 2013 - 13:42

Because we don't have to! If a woman wants meaningless casual sex all she needs to do is get online to an adult dating site, swingers site, chatroom or place an ad and be inundated with potential suitors!

 

You're correct, but I am sure there are also women who are not physically attractive or are excessively shy, who can't find suitors - even online. The interesting thing is that it is obvious they themselves do not create a market for desiring and paying for male escorts, as their male equivalents obviously do. I don't know whether it is a cultural/society/environment thing; whether some women have lower sex drives or they are more picky than men regarding sex and relationships, or if it is a moral issue- I have no idea.

 

But I'm sure those women, the potential female clients, are out there- they obviously just prefer a different lifestyle and are not prepared to pay for sex. I do know that there are specialist male escort agencies out there catering for females- but the potential market is very small. If you want to make money as a male escort you really have to be bisexual or homosexual. It's just another illustration of the differences between men and women and the differences in life experiences.


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Posted 24 November 2013 - 13:48

Bibi, some women like sex, but a lot, possiblity the majority dont seem to.

 

A Spanish WG once told me that the UK was a great place to work because British women "dont like sex".

 

My wife, my mates wives, there is another thread on here about wives all suggest this.

Maybe it just wives that dont like sex.

 

I'd say WGs tend too or it would be really hard to do.



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Posted 24 November 2013 - 14:14

I wrote something about male escorts a while ago- I don't think i am allowed to link it to my website- but here's the text of it:

 

There really isn't much of a market for male escorts, straight ones anyway, I've not looked into gay escorts so I have no idea really I'm only guessing.

Now, every escort will tell you that at some point they will get an email that goes something like this:

Hi babes, I am a male escort here on adultwork and I get loads of requests for couples and I wondered if you'd like to work with me? How about we get together and I promise we'll get loads of work. 

Hmm, you mean you want to shag me for free and hope I'll get you work as a couple.

However this is marginally better than the I'm a male escort and if you fancy some mutual fun without each other charging let me know. 

Yes, because I really don't get enough sex *rolls eyes*

I had a quick look at Adultwork to see how many male escorts catering for women there were and found 9,784 in the UK compared to 17,532 women catering for men which means about 30% of all escorts on Adultwork 30% are men which is actually higher than I expected. 

However, on closer investigation I looked at the profiles of the 53 male escorts advertising in Hounslow. Most have no feedback at all, which doesn't mean they have never had a booking, but is a good indicator of how busy someone is. A few had feedback that was hidden and a few only had feedback as a client not a provider.  None of the profiles looked very professional and one might go as far as to say that they are probably simply men who think they can get some sex and make a bit of cash in the process. 

The prices were all much lower than what female escorts charge. One 27 year old was advertising 30 minutes for £10 and £20 for an hour! 

I decided to Google male escort agencies to see if I could find a more professional kind of man. The first site I stumble across is called Gentlemen4hire. They claim 'Our male escorts offer companionship for your required occasion, they do not offer any sexual services or "extras" ' and this is repeated in the FAQ section, saying they will not respond to emails asking for sexual services. They don't claim to be a classy or sophisticated site nor claim their escorts are smart, handsome or debonair which is a good job really. Looking at the escort profiles they seem to be a mix of some genuinely quite handsome men with professional photos and bulging biceps and twinkly eyes. However many have holiday photos, self taken pictures with mobiles in front of the bathroom mirror and fuzzy ones that were taken on a night on the lash. Hardly classy. 

These male escorts write their own profiles which means they vary in style. One man says 
'I have a nice sense of humour, I like to travel and going out, watching football and drinking beer :)' which isn't really inspiring if you're looking for a gentleman to attend a blacktie dinner dance with. Another man (who looks like he's trying to be a bit gangster in the photo) says "I can travel anywhere in London. I charge 40 pounds a hour, if ur interested let me know. I'm available at all times 24 hours".


The site says that they don't charge but that all the cash required is paid to the escort. So, how does this site make any money I wondered. Well, on investigation they charge £9.99 for a month and £19.99 for a 3 month advert. Even though the claim not to be about sexual services some of then men clearly do, one saying 
I do full body naked massages, sex, my personal speciality (licking) and sex however you would like it.


Sigh me up now!

Moving on, I did a bit more searching and found a forum for male escorts and this is where I really discovered the pitfalls of male escorting. Page upon page of questions and warnings about scams and complaints from members saying they weren't getting any business.  This site is chock full with stories of men who have paid out hundreds of pounds signing up to an agency who promised them lots of work. Here is one brief story:

I joined this company 10 days ago i was advised that i had already been set up with a local woman, this fell through and then was rebooked for 3 days later to then be told she cant go due to breaking her leg. its now been 10 days since i joined and departed with £400 for the joining fee with no work coming my way.


Seriously, the whole site is full of posts similar to the one above and this articlereflects that.

However, there are some genuine escorts out there who do make a living and some sites that don't appear to be scams. This site seems very genuine and has extensive media coverage. I also found a very nice sounding man who offers services as both a male escort and a dating coach. He talks about helping women with their self confidence, intimacy phobia as well as other services such as business help and practical help such as chauffeuring and shopping.  He says 'A number of referrals come from health care services, often for women with intimacy issues - sometimes due to emotional or physical abuse at some stage in their lives.'


He seems very professional and genuine and certainly more encouraging than the 'Let me lick you!' merchants on Adultwork! Who knows how well he does though. 

So, why don't women pay for sex? 
Well, in short they don't need to! You only have to look on those naughty adult dating sites, swingers sites, the NSA section on Craigslist and various chatrooms to see that there and hundreds of men looking for illicit encounters and far far less women. I know in my pre escorting days when I experimented with picking up men on the internet I would get a massive amount of responses and if I had wanted to I could have several men every day of the week, talk about shooting fish in a barrel!

Secondly, I think there are some gender differences that do exist, obviously not the same for all women, but here is a quick list.

  1. Women are more likely to prefer having sex with someone they know well or are in love with.
  2. There is a stigma still attached to promiscuous women and many wouldn't want to be seen as a slut, even to strangers.
  3. Women often have less of a need for sex than men. Yes, I know this is massively generalising! Or even if they do have the urges are less inclined to act on the urge. 
  4. Safety- women are (and should) be careful about meeting a stranger for sex. I think they are more likely than men to worry about the dangers. 


Of course there are male escorts out there who are all about the date and acting as companions for social occasions and women who use male escorts in this way and not for sex. I don't know any women who have used such a service though. 


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Posted 24 November 2013 - 16:41

Super post Lydia - you have covered the whole area and debunked well the notion that any women at all pay male escorts for sex. You would have thought that horny old grannies would pay young studs - but they just don't - there's no market at all.

 

The film midnight cowboy shows a hopeful young stud going from mid west to new new york trying to make it as a male whore - he ends up living in a condemned building with a filthy little runt of a tramp played superbly by dustin hoffman. That about says it all. Of course there is american gigolo - but I think that film was just made to tickle a few fancies - I think midnight cowboy is closer to the truth.



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Posted 24 November 2013 - 16:52

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I'm going to predict that the female market (gay or straight) will grow as fast as the rise we are seeing in female FTSE 500 board directors...

I don't think that busy professional women have the time or the inclination to deal with time wasters on the net when they want sex. (Even though we can get it free).

The net also carries safety issues as Minxy said. I won't even do incalls for safety reasons. I book safe 5* hotels with good security and cameras.

And, going to the local bar when you get over 35 has declining appeal (and success rate!)

Swinging is geared towards couples. So what does the growing number of single and successful women do when they want sex? Escorts are an obvious solution.

IMHO I think the numbers are low because:

1. The service provider market is not set up to meet the needs of the growing number of women with high disposable income...... yet.
2. For me the STIGMA of paying for sex as a female held me back for years. It's even less acceptable than it is for men.
3. The law is not pubic knowledge. For safety reasons, women don't want to be near the criminal element of our society.

It certainly isn't a low sex drive! Pmsl.
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Posted 24 November 2013 - 16:56

I dunno if this been asked before but I always wondered why there aren't as many hetrosexual male escorts catering for women. Why does anyone think women don't seem to pay for sex in anyway near the same numbers as men.

There isn't any need and I think it's this;

 

Sex drive for many women isn't as strong, or at least is different to that experienced by most men - different hormones, different influences and expectations from themselves and society as a whole.

 

Most women can find a willing male to have sex with them if they so desire.

 

Thirdly I am not so sure males can service the same number of clients, in the same way women can cope with numerous males.


It's common sense.
 


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Posted 24 November 2013 - 17:13

Bibi, some women like sex, but a lot, possiblity the majority dont seem to.
 
A Spanish WG once told me that the UK was a great place to work because British women "dont like sex".
 
My wife, my mates wives, there is another thread on here about wives all suggest this.
Maybe it just wives that dont like sex.
 
I'd say WGs tend too or it would be really hard to do.

I would agree that for some married ladies they perhaps like sex less in the same way that you guus maybe get a bit bored or experience the spark going but most women who are in love or lust like sex.I believe the Spanish working girl was being quite tongue in cheek.
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Posted 24 November 2013 - 17:49

Most women can find a willing male to have sex with them if they so desire.


Sounds about right to me. Male sex organs do seem to rule a man's brain far more than a woman's tender bits.
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Posted 24 November 2013 - 17:59

Because we don't have to! If a woman wants meaningless casual sex all she needs to do is get online to an adult dating site, swingers site, chatroom or place an ad and be inundated with potential suitors!

Indeed this is of course true. Even very ugly women can pull men as there are always men who might find such women attractive whether sober or drunk, i see this both while out and at the Woodford Grab-A-Granny night. ;)



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Posted 24 November 2013 - 18:03

Like Lydia said - why would a woman have to pay for it if she can easily pick up hot guys for free?  The market for male (straight) escorts must be very very small.  

 

But women that look for casual sex are pretty rare in my opinion...and they are typically branded as 'sluts' by other women which leads to even fewer women exploring their sexuality to the fullest.  

Yes sadly true, very narrow minded in the 21st century but this is widespread thinking even now of some, although its slowly getting better as i see it. More women dont care about what others think of them than i have ever known, i hope that continues and people do what makes them happy and/or gives them some fun.



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Posted 24 November 2013 - 19:52

Sorry no thats utter tommy rot. What an earth makes you think women don't like sex?

have you checked mumsnet lately ? 


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Posted 24 November 2013 - 20:18

So does mumsnet speak for the majority of women then?Most of my friends like sex just fine and no they are not wgs but neither are they the harridans from that particular site.
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Posted 24 November 2013 - 20:34

So does mumsnet speak for the majority of women then?Most of my friends like sex just fine and no they are not wgs but neither are they the harridans from that particular site.

Indeed, the problem for me is how can anyone know its the majority, some or many is the furthest i would go, in this case in my view its some women.



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Posted 24 November 2013 - 20:52

1) More women attribute more sentimental value towards sex 

 

2) Testosterone increases sex drive

 

3) There are greater consequences for women, i.e. they have a higher chance of catching stds and of course pregnancy

 

4) The culture we have today 'shames' women that seek casual sex  (Although it is certainly easier now for one night stands but ONS often suck because of alcohol) 

 

5) Personally I think many men have low standards so any woman can get sex if she really wanted to look for it no matter what she looked like. 

 

6) Maybe men have a greater sense of entitlement? debatable but just putting it out there. 


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Posted 25 November 2013 - 01:59

I'm a quite good looking guy, certain types of girls like me very much if I'm their type.

 

In a bar, maybe sometimes one or two girls will notice me briefly.  Often girls want to play it ultra cool anyway even if they're single, or they don't want to meet guys in bars!  They'll never approach me or initiate anything and don't smile, it's all up to me.  I don't get out much though around drunk people partying but still it's not much different.  Last time I pulled (even got a number) in a bar or club was at University over 10 years ago.

 

On dating sites I can get a date with a nice looking girl every two or three months if I'm lucky and put in an enormous amount of time and effort.  It's normal to spend 20 hours or more online time (over weeks, months) with no dates at all.

 

If I was as good a looking girl, I would be fighting men off and would have unlimited supply of dates or sex.  It wouldn't matter if I was shy or socially inept or had no confidence or whatever.  Life's not fair.  Well at least I can pay for it and it's good to avoid fallout, drama and mindgames.  I just wish I could afford it more!


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Posted 25 November 2013 - 12:57

When a man pays for sex he has an excellent chance of at least a cum, and hopefully a lot more.

 

When a woman picks up a stranger in a bar, she has no idea as to whether he will be good enough to give her a cum - more likely he will be a selfish bastard only out for his own pleasure.

 

Fighting off men and trying to pick the good one is not easy.  Logically, making a commercial, unpressurised decision is likely to be better.  But women don't do this (as a generalisation).

 

So the woman's ability to pick up a man is not really a substitute for paid for sex.  The reason why women don't pay is likely to be found in hormonal and other differences between men and women.


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Posted 25 November 2013 - 21:22

Maybe it just wives that dont like sex.


Or maybe that is just not with their husbands :P.

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Posted 25 November 2013 - 21:34

This thread reminds me of an old joke.

A young schoogirl comes running home to her house in tears one day. Her mother greets her at the door and asks what's the matter. The young girl tells her mother that a boy took her behind the bike sheds and showed her his penis. The young girl was amazed at such a fine piece of equipment and utterly jealous that the boy could stand up and piss as well as wave it about in pride. Hence the reason for her tears. Her mother listened to the story without emotion and then put her arm round her daughter and asked her what she had between her legs. The young girl replied that she had a vagina. Then the mother offered up the best piece of advice the girl would ever hear, "never worry about being born without a penis, because when you've got what you have between your legs, you can get one of those whenever you want when you've grown up".
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Posted 27 November 2013 - 14:03

A woman wouldn't pay to have sex with a man she doesn't know. Maybe if he offered a free date to let her evaluate how she feels in his company... but then he would get tons of free riders. He ought to have more than good looks, though. Also, women have this need to be desired, and you can't pay someone to desire you.


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Posted 27 November 2013 - 17:36

A woman wouldn't pay to have sex with a man she doesn't know. Maybe if he offered a free date to let her evaluate how she feels in his company... but then he would get tons of free riders. He ought to have more than good looks, though. Also, women have this need to be desired, and you can't pay someone to desire you.

I just read a review elsewhere from a WG who posted she did book a WB she didnt know and the punt was excellent, so if thats true there are some women who will pay. This WG is by all accounts i have read attractive herself.



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Posted 27 November 2013 - 18:01

I just read a review elsewhere from a WG who posted she did book a WB she didnt know and the punt was excellent, so if thats true there are some women who will pay. This WG is by all accounts i have read attractive herself.

Interesting. I suppose WGs are a different breed, or have become used to exchanging personal services for money. Or maybe she was just curious about how it feels on the other side.

 

I know there are women who travel as sex tourists, but then there is a whole experience involved. Or maybe it's that whatever you do on vacation dies there. Anyway, I don't think a woman could ever take a male hooker from the street, relieve herself, drop him and then go on with her business. Women are not built for that.

 

I've heard about those cougar parties, where rich mature women meet young men for relationships. I suppose it is a way to pay for sex while rationalizing you are not doing so. Some rich men do the same, for the report.

 

Still, having seen how wild women go with male strippers, I'd bet they would pay for some fun if their inclination wouldn't direct them otherwise.


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Posted 27 November 2013 - 18:10

A woman wouldn't pay to have sex with a man she doesn't know. Maybe if he offered a free date to let her evaluate how she feels in his company... but then he would get tons of free riders. He ought to have more than good looks, though. Also, women have this need to be desired, and you can't pay someone to desire you.

You can not assume that no women would do this.  I did it and had not met the guy beforehand.

 

and Simths............. just as gorgeous guys book wgs............. it is not only unattractive females who would see a male escort.

 

It is though............ as far as I know............ very very rare for a woman to book a guy.... and for guys to make a living from ecorting.  

 

Just look at the bother Patrick Mower has got himself into!   ;)


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Posted 27 November 2013 - 18:22

You can not assume that no women would do this.  I did it and had not met the guy beforehand.

 

and Simths............. just as gorgeous guys book wgs............. it is not only unattractive females who would see a male escort.

 

It is though............ as far as I know............ very very rare for a woman to book a guy.... and for guys to make a living from ecorting.  

 

Just look at the bother Patrick Mower has got himself into!   ;)

I know i was just setting the scene for the poster by confirming this WG was known as being attractive. My understanding is there is more money to be paid from punting with Bi or Gay punters than women punters.



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Posted 27 November 2013 - 19:51

Bibi, some women like sex, but a lot, possiblity the majority dont seem to.

 


 

Sorry no thats utter tommy rot. What an earth makes you think women don't like sex?

 

 

 

have you checked mumsnet lately ? 

Interesting debate whenever it turns up, but the two sides in it generally keep talking past each other.

The top quote here is probably on to something which could improve the chances of agreement. That is, a difference between liking and seeming to like. Thanks to all the pressures out there to conform to the social fashion of the day, there sure is a difference.

I know I don't know enough to have a single fixed opinion in the debate. I doubt if anyone does.

I'm probably neutral on the subject. To show you something of where that comes from, I can quote three examples where I believe the evidence 100%. You can probably work out my position by averaging the three.

Two of them are the two best WGs I've met. Very unusual people too, though that isn't the same thing.

One of them is a genuine friend. She's 80 now. Out of the WG business for 55 years or so. Her general opinion about sex, not WG opinion, is that it's quite OK but she could always take it or leave it. Usually leave it, but that was down to the defects of the typical macho male in the society where she was, and not to sex in itself. She said it might have been more fun if that society had been different.

The other one hasn't retired. It may help that her main job keeps her well occupied and that being a WG is a useful sideline when there's time for it. She has a clear point of view on sex. She doesn't dislike it. No messing about, you could say. A punt with her is a real examination - not that I'm complaining.

The third is a civilian. Quiet and very competent at what she does. The head of her business once persuaded her to give me a hand with something similar when I was short of hands, and we've always got on well together when I've visited them since. That's why he asked me to take her out for a few beers and a meal when I arrived there at a time when she hadn't been working very competently and was obviously not in good mental shape, to see if I could learn what was wrong and cheer her up.

She was reluctant to talk, but eventually she did it. It must have been the beer. Her problem started with the boyfriend. He'd been giving her a hard time because she wasn't enthusiastic about sex and wasn't behaving with him the way everyone, all the media etc knows a modern woman ought to behave. Her view was "I know they all say I ought, but I just can't. I wish I didn't have to try." On the other hand, she obliges because she'd rather have companionship than not have it, and that's the price. I suggested changing the boyfriend. Answer: "That's no good. It'd just be the same thing over again."

Even without the boyfriend pressure, she said, the constant media pressure in the same direction would get to her. Advertising pressure too. Krutovláda, she called it. Not a nice word.

It's some sort of irony that she's exactly the same age as the second WG and comes from the same place. They're in different countries now. I wouldn't ask about it, but they may have known each other once. Maybe first in boxes next to each other in a maternity hospital. Ironies can be savage at times, I guess.

And now I think about it, here's a fourth example as a bonus. I've never seen the woman in it, but what her husband says says a lot. Where I meet him also says a lot. That's the bar and customer-WG mixing area in one of my favourite Houses of ill repute.

He's a fan of Groucho Marx. On my latest visit he quoted me something he'd just read in a book about Groucho and which appealed to him and explained why he was where he was. Spoke to him from the heart, he said. Something related to the home, and to the bedroom in it.

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Posted 29 November 2013 - 22:23

Sorry no thats utter tommy rot. What an earth makes you think women don't like sex?

 

Such an impression can easily exist, because women are generally pickier about men than men about women.



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Posted 29 November 2013 - 22:28

There isn't any need and I think it's this;

 

Sex drive for many women isn't as strong, or at least is different to that experienced by most men - different hormones, different influences and expectations from themselves and society as a whole.

 

Most women can find a willing male to have sex with them if they so desire.

 

 

Indeed. Why would they pay for sex, if they can also get it for free. If a man happens to refuse, she will find another man immediately, who will say "yes".



#38 hans66

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Posted 29 November 2013 - 22:29

Sounds about right to me. Male sex organs do seem to rule a man's brain far more than a woman's tender bits.

 

I tend to think that men's brain is wired differently than a woman's brains is.



#39 hans66

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Posted 29 November 2013 - 22:34



 

I'm a quite good looking guy, certain types of girls like me very much if I'm their type.

 

In a bar, maybe sometimes one or two girls will notice me briefly.  Often girls want to play it ultra cool anyway even if they're single, or they don't want to meet guys in bars!  They'll never approach me or initiate anything and don't smile, it's all up to me.

 

If a man is interested in a woman, he will approach her.

If a woman is interested in a man, she will not approach him.



#40 Dr Faustus

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Posted 29 November 2013 - 23:51

She may approach him or get a friend to let him know she's keen. Surely I'm stating the obvious here.

I'm pretty sure most girls have approached or got their friend to approach a guy in a bar at least once in their life.

#41 smiths

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Posted 30 November 2013 - 01:44

 

If a man is interested in a woman, he will approach her.

If a woman is interested in a man, she will not approach him.

This depends on the woman of course, and now so more than ever in my experiences. I was out with a mate of mine, a tall very good looking guy who makes me look like the hunchback of notre dame in comparison a while back and he had a woman hit on him in a pub. He didnt fancy her so it didnt lead to anything but it certainly happens.



#42 hans66

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Posted 30 November 2013 - 10:06

In my younger years there were a fair amount of girls approaching me, or let me think they hit on me. But their true intentions were different from what I tought. So it was more of a play, than genuine interest: they were female players.

 

Now, there a few women that try to hit on me... at least, let me think they do. Not real interest.



#43 Pennine Rover

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Posted 30 November 2013 - 11:28

One thing I have noticed recently is the number of girls/women who are bisexual and reasonably open about it. I've come across a number of career girls who have no time for relationships, or who are fed up with men messing them around, who enjoy sex and are getting their fun from other girls. One told me that she and her pals often went out for the night had a few drinks and then home and slept together. In the morning they had a coffee and went to work, no issues, no mess, no commitment.

Girls often find that other girls can satisfy them better than a man of course. That is not to say that these girls do not want a relationship and kids at some point but don't want it at the moment but do want sex.



#44 Strawberry

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Posted 30 November 2013 - 15:36

 

If a man is interested in a woman, he will approach her.

If a woman is interested in a man, she will not approach him.

I learned my lesson the hard way, approaching the men I liked drove them away, or invited ridicule.

 

I now wait, with a glint in my eye.


It's common sense.