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just got back from my punt it didnt work out. i was limp all the time so in the end i just said fuck it can we just talk then we just talked and that was it.

any one else ever have that problem?

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just got back from my punt it didnt work out. i was limp all the time so in the end i just said fuck it can we just talk then we just talked and that was it.

any one else ever have that problem?

Sorry to hear that it didn't work out for you but let me reassure you that you are not the only one. I've had several clients who couldn't get it up for several reasons - performance anxiety, punter guilt, embaressment etc etc.

Easier said that done but next time just try and relax a little, the more you get worked up and determined to get hard, the more difficult it will become.

Good Luck!

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I've never come close to having this problem, even when I've accepted a punt I should have walked away from for various reasons! It seems a naked girl I've never seen before does it for me, pretty much regardless of any other factors! ;)

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has happened to me several times and with different ladies,thankfully i enjoy dfk & ro,so not being able to come isn't everything for me.

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Sorry to hear that it didn't work out for you but let me reassure you that you are not the only one. I've had several clients who couldn't get it up for several reasons - performance anxiety, punter guilt, embarrassment etc etc.

Easier said that done but next time just try and relax a little, the more you get worked up and determined to get hard, the more difficult it will become.

Good Luck!

I can echo what Rosie has said. Nerves play a big part as does stress, as very few people are immune to stress you can take some comfort in knowing your not alone and it happens to the best of us.

I do believe the more you worry about it the more pressure your putting on yourself.

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just got back from my punt it didnt work out. i was limp all the time so in the end i just said fuck it can we just talk then we just talked and that was it.

any one else ever have that problem?

I have had clients before who have had this problem. A couple of them we just had a great time anyway sitting, chatting, drinking, he did oral on me or whatever and everything went fine... I think they were just nervous or guilty about what they were doing.

From my side I didn't think less of him or think there was something wrong with him I just realized the time wasn't right for whatever reason.

A few other guys I have gone to see have a problem getting hard from what I can only assume is long term coke use. This is a drug that in the short term will improve your performance and confidence but in the long term will completely disabilitate you in the erectile function!

Obviously I don't assume you are a coke head but it is really best avoided just in case.

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I've not got hard enough for penetration for several years - yes, i've tried the little blue pills, the really big blue pills the... - but I've been complimented on my hands and mouth, and it doesn't stop the lady going down on me (with an entirely satisfactory conclusion! :confused: ) I do enjoy a nice bit of conversation too though.

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Hello thanks for the replys. and first off Im NOT a coke head thats one drug I have never used. Second I wasnt nervous I put it down to one useing porn before hand and two being old am 30 she said she was 19 and it just didnt do it for me I think she seemed too young for a guy like me. But we had a nice chat and that was it. She must of imagined I was wired or something. nice girl just didnt work out

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Stress and things on your mind can play a part as much as nerves. I haven't 'gone limp' with a WG to date but have on odd occasions during 'civvy' sex. Generally if I'm feeling stressed (which happily isn't too often these days) I simply don't make a booking. I know some say it can be the antidote to stress but I don't feel it works that way with me. I suspect I'd bring that anxiety into my appointment and that would affect my performance. I'll therefore wait until I feel more relaxed before making a booking. I know this isn't much good if you're under constant stress, but I can only offer a diagnosis not a cure. I can only suggest that during the days and hours prior to your appointment you forget the subsidence on your house and try to think instead of naked women's tennis.

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It happens a lot and on the other hand it doesnt happen a lot.

From your escorts P.O.V. ....It really doesnt matter. We don't think anything about it. We dont think about it during the meeting, after the meeting, or to anyone else.

We dont need explanations or excuses. It simply doesnt matter at all.

Its not all about having a raging erection.

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I've not got hard enough for penetration for several years - yes, i've tried the little blue pills, the really big blue pills the... - but I've been complimented on my hands and mouth, and it doesn't stop the lady going down on me (with an entirely satisfactory conclusion! :confused: ) I do enjoy a nice bit of conversation too though.

Good honest post Tony. I have a little experience in these matters :D

I heard a similar experience from someone I met and suggested they speak to their Dr, who from his examination discovered Mr X was diabetic. He was prescribed cialis for this particular symptom and this apparently worked wonders where viagra all but failed.

I'm not suggesting you are DB but you might want to ask your Dr about prescribing cialis, rather than buying over the evil webnet where you cant guarentee the quailty or content.

Dont be shy either, they see a lot worse you can show them- :D

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It happens a lot and on the other hand it doesnt happen a lot.

From your escorts P.O.V. ....It really doesnt matter. We don't think anything about it. We dont think about it during the meeting, after the meeting, or to anyone else.

We dont need explanations or excuses. It simply doesnt matter at all.

Its not all about having a raging erection.

Thank you, Ma'am! Nicely put. One of the big plus points, to me, with buying sex is that you, the purchaser, are not obliged to "satisfy" her! I happen to be convinced that the male's pleasure is redoubled if the female is enjoying the contact, but if I don't / can't "get it up", she can give me a lot of pleasure with her hands and mouth, or just by kissing & cuddling.

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its happened to me a bit in the past.then all of a sudden it started again this year.for me its anxiety,even really unconscious anxiety does it.so right now I'm back on the kamagra but i know i won't need it forever.I have a butt load of stress in my life including my divorce and cares about the next lawyer bill.your not alone mate;wgs have sen it before and i haven't found one yet that went all moody like a gf would.

any anxiety cause the body to go into fight or flight,even if u dont really notice that feeling;stress and anxiety cause the body to reduce bloodflow to areas like ur stomach or ur knob.the body does not percieve shagging or eating as normal respoonses to any anxiety u may feel ;hence the problem.My worst times are when i am not consciously anxious bout anything but or hav somthing on my mind or ongoing life stressors.

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Good honest post Tony. I have a little experience in these matters :D

I heard a similar experience from someone I met and suggested they speak to their Dr, who from his examination discovered Mr X was diabetic. He was prescribed cialis for this particular symptom and this apparently worked wonders where viagra all but failed.

I'm not suggesting you are DB but you might want to ask your Dr about prescribing cialis, rather than buying over the evil webnet where you cant guarentee the quailty or content.

Dont be shy either, they see a lot worse you can show them- :confused:

Thanks Helen, I am diabetic so maybe I'll whisper the word cialis in my doctor's shell-like. :D

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has happened to me several times and with different ladies,thankfully i enjoy dfk & ro,so not being able to come isn't everything for me.

Good advice, though it may be we older chaps that can still have a good time even if Mr Stiffy buggers off halfway through. But worth trying for anyone: if you're not hard, then enjoy the things you can do when you're floppy. Most girls will accept reverse oral, and if you have an enthusiastic kisser as well, then the punt won't exactly be wasted.

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Has happened to me, but not often.

Maybe next time avoid the pre-punt wank and see if that makes a difference.

If it happens occasionally perhaps some viagra-equivalent gel can get things going as it apparently works pretty fast.

If regular, your GP should be able to prescribe.

Happens to us all eventually.

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I have also experienced this on more than one occasion and with some really sexy women some of whom are regulars and have on all other occasions had no trouble arousing my passions :confused: Difficult to explain but probably psychological rather than physiological in my case.

All in order now though - for now.:D

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I have also experienced this on more than one occasion and with some really sexy women some of whom are regulars and have on all other occasions had no trouble arousing my passions :confused: Difficult to explain but probably psychological rather than physiological in my case.

All in order now though - for now.:D

I would like to add that this has never dampened my ardor in returning to the same girl and never would unless I felt she was the deliberate cause or we just did not click.

It seems like quite a common occurrence from what I've read.

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Thanks Helen, I am diabetic so maybe I'll whisper the word cialis in my doctor's shell-like. :confused:

He will oblige I'm sure. The profered amout depending on your PCT will be 4 tablets per month. Tell him you need more and refer him to your favorite escorts gallery if he asks why;)

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just got back from my punt it didnt work out. i was limp all the time so in the end i just said fuck it can we just talk then we just talked and that was it.

any one else ever have that problem?

only time I've had a problem has been when the girl's tried to get the condom on before I'm even half mast - still managed just about, and doesn't happen these days as I don't go to Soho anymore which is where it always happened. The escorts I see all do OWO so there's no issue since they always start with that.

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has happened to me several times and with different ladies,thankfully i enjoy dfk & ro,so not being able to come isn't everything for me.

Happened a couple of times - mainly down to a combination of the pace the girl tried to push/personality/physicality of the girl in question - i.e girl who thinks everything physical is disgusting, and who's notion of a blowjob is keeping her mouth near my dick whilst wanking me furiously and painfully.

In this sort of case I just ask for a massage and/or make my excuses and leave.

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Every so often it happens to me but, as I'm an old guy, I suppose it is only to be expected. It happened to me a few weeks ago with one of the loveliest w.g.'s you could every wish to meet (lovely as a person as well as lovely in looks). I felt most embarrassed but she was fine about it. She couldn't have done more to make me cum but it just wasn't happening that day. She gave me a wonderful service for which I posted a deserved glowing report. Unfortunately my Doctor won't prerscribe viagra because I have a visual problem. I have to rely on herbal tablets which I don't find very satisfactory. However I still enjoy my punting which has enabled me to meet some really lovely ladies.

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Happens to me occasionally. Change of pace, position, stopping to put the condom on have all caused me to wilt on occasions. I tend to book either sensual massage or an all oral session these days so can start slow and build up to a nice conclusion without running the risk of the aforementioned changes causing a problem.

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Hello thanks for the replys. and first off Im NOT a coke head thats one drug I have never used. Second I wasnt nervous I put it down to one useing porn before hand and two being old am 30 she said she was 19 and it just didnt do it for me I think she seemed too young for a guy like me. But we had a nice chat and that was it. She must of imagined I was wired or something. nice girl just didnt work out

30 is old? :confused: And yeah, I would abstain from masturbation for around 3 days before the event.

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There have been two occasions where the girl has not managed to make me cum - the first time was after a few beers, so while I wasn't exactly pished, I think it was definitely an alcohol-induced problem.

The second time was when I was with a really attractive girl (although the smell from her fanny wasn't great - I've been in fresher-smelling fishmongers), and we kept trying to do doggy style, but it just wasn't happening. She was taller than me, and she just didn't seem to understand that I couldn't reach her properly from where she was kneeling, even though I was asking her to come nearer the edge of the bed or even to come onto the floor, so I kept slipping out as I had to keep thrusting up as well as forward, and about half of each thrust was being wasted. By the end it was obvious it just wasn't going to happen, as I got more and more anxious about the time running out, and really she should have just gotten me back to prime stiffness and then given it one more shot, rather than repeatedly getting me to try again.

I'm a bit younger than you, so don't worry - it's just one of these things that happens. As others have said, make sure you lay off the pre-punt wanking for a few days if you want to be sure.

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