brummyboy2008

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Why is it that when you treat them well they shit on you?

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Why is it that when you treat them well they shit on you?

Pigeons or seagulls :P

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Why is it that when you treat them well they shit on you?

Give in. Why?

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Why is it that when you treat them well they shit on you?

Gnomic utterances R Us

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If the OP returns and adds something to his cryptic post that indicates it is punting-related, I will move this thread back to General Discussion!

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Why is it that when you treat them well they shit on you?

Been seeing a girl for over a year now. Always had a good time, and (I thought) she enjoyed it too.

Always book well ahead as I'm usually in her part of the country for just one night. This time, no response.

Previously I saw another girl regularly for three years. She posted on her website that she was offering "Extra free time for regulars during December". What I got was a text after the punt saying "Sorry I couldn't give you extra time, a bit diff at the moment", the "diff" being that she'd taken a back to back booking.

As an older guy I try to treat ladies with respect and courtesy. Seems to me this approach gets me worse service than if I was an arsehole.

Sorry just feeling a bit down at the moment.

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Do you not think she may just have something going on in her life that has stopped her getting back to you this time or maybe she is just away on holiday. WGs have lives outside worjk you know.

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How much notice did you give?Did you check her availability if she displays it on her site?Was it text, email, phone call? A simple non-response could mean anything and is hardly 'shitting' on you.

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How much notice did you give?Did you check her availability if she displays it on her site?Was it text, email, phone call? A simple non-response could mean anything and is hardly 'shitting' on you.

I emailed (as always) over two weeks in advance requesting a date and time when her website said she was available.

The two examples I quoted are just that; there are others. My point is that as a nice guy sooner or later you get taken advantage of or you get dumped on.

Unfortuntely this seems to apply to punting just as it does to many other aspects of life.

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I emailed (as always) over two weeks in advance requesting a date and time when her website said she was available.

The two examples I quoted are just that; there are others. My point is that as a nice guy sooner or later you get taken advantage of or you get dumped on.

Unfortuntely this seems to apply to punting just as it does to many other aspects of life.

It's likely that in reality neither girl has dumped on you, it's a question of perspective. One shouldn't confuse the simulacrum of intimacy with the reality.

This is why I don't think it wise to see girls too regularly. Well, regularly full stop. It's better for one's own mental well being and indeed in some cases for the girl's too.

B

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So - if you don't get extra free time, you've been badly treated?

What do you say to your butcher if he doesn't throw in four free pork chops when you buy your Sunday joint?

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So - if you don't get extra free time, you've been badly treated?

What do you say to your butcher if he doesn't throw in four free pork chops when you buy your Sunday joint?

if he has said he will i tend to expect them

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So - if you don't get extra free time, you've been badly treated?

What do you say to your butcher if he doesn't throw in four free pork chops when you buy your Sunday joint?

You obviously don't know Birmingham, as in some parts of it you'd expect a free joint with your pork chops. :P:D

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I know I am nit-picking, but he says she said it on her website.

If I had been making a booking with her, I would have established before hand with the lady whether or not I would be getting the extra free time that day. If she said that she wouldn't be able to offer me free time due to another booking, and if the free time was important to me, I would then have been able to book my appointment at a time more suitable.

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It is also the ladies decision if she wants to reply to an email or not. Some decide not to correspond at all with chaps they don't wish to see - which is their perogative, simply because it can lead to more hassle.

Without knowing the other side of the story it's difficult to judge.

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So - if you don't get extra free time, you've been badly treated?

What do you say to your butcher if he doesn't throw in four free pork chops when you buy your Sunday joint?

As it clearly said on her website that she was giving extra free time to her regulars and as I'd been seeing her for three years and didn't get any extra free time yes I consider I was badly treated.

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Perhaps you might also read my follow-up post.

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Maybe regular meant those who have seen her for 5 years or more?!

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I very much doubt its worse service than if you were an arsehole. Girlfriends will sometimes put up with arseholes but escorts won't. In fact I know an escort who has an arsehole husband that's treats her like sh*t but she won't put up with clients like that. As far as escorts go I think you are much better off being a nice guy. Now if you want a girlfriend that's another matter :P

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It is also the ladies decision if she wants to reply to an email or not. Some decide not to correspond at all with chaps they don't wish to see - which is their perogative, simply because it can lead to more hassle.

Without knowing the other side of the story it's difficult to judge.

I'd been seeing the lady for over a year and we had an established routine for agreeing appointments. We had a good relationship with occasional exchange of emails and texts in between punts. If she no longer wants to see me as you suggest she should say so.

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I'd been seeing the lady for over a year and we had an established routine for agreeing appointments. We had a good relationship with occasional exchange of emails and texts in between punts. If she no longer wants to see me as you suggest she should say so.

The relationship you have with her is a professional one, not a personal one.

She is an escort, not your girlfriend and is under no obligation to do anything for you or justify her actions outside of the paid arena. IF you are unhappy with her level of service, because thats what your are PAYING for, then move on.

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The relationship you have with her is a professional one, not a personal one.

She is an escort, not your girlfriend and is under no obligation to do anything for you or justify her actions outside of the paid arena. IF you are unhappy with her level of service, because thats what your are PAYING for, then move on.

You are right of course, but is life always that black & white?

The OP has been having sex with the woman for 12 months. Almost inevitably that means the OP feels some sort of relationship or loyalty.

For some people dumping a woman you have been regularly having sex with isn't quite as easy as dumping your mobile phone supplier.

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Previously I saw another girl regularly for three years. She posted on her website that she was offering "Extra free time for regulars during December". What I got was a text after the punt saying "Sorry I couldn't give you extra time, a bit diff at the moment", the "diff" being that she'd taken a back to back booking.

If you had been seeing her as a reg for 3 years, and the escort said on her web-site, extra free time for regs, then you were right to expect some free time, and though it was diff at the moment, she should have offered you some free time later on if not able to do so on the booking.

Did you find out what "extra free time " was available, as we could be talking ten minutes here.

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You are right of course, but is life always that black & white?

The OP has been having sex with the woman for 12 months. Almost inevitably that means the OP feels some sort of relationship or loyalty.

For some people dumping a woman you have been regularly having sex with isn't quite as easy as dumping your mobile phone supplier.

I'm not trying to be harsh and you are right in saying life isn't always black and white. The OP has been having PAID sex with the woman for 12 months which is different to "real" sex in the real world. I believe he has blurred the boundaries.

I would compare his situation as similar to getting my car serviced at the same garage. I have a good relationship with them because I pay them for a service. Despite my regular payments I might receive poor service and if that was enough to piss me off then I'd try another garage.

Obviously its different when dealing with people and emotions but this kind of thing is where punters get confused, in my opinion, and lose sight of what it is they are actually doing; ie. executing a business transaction, PAYING for sex.

You pay for the favourable and preferable aspects of the "GFE" within your alloted time. You don't get it outside of that.

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You are right of course, but is life always that black & white?

The OP has been having sex with the woman for 12 months. Almost inevitably that means the OP feels some sort of relationship or loyalty.

For some people dumping a woman you have been regularly having sex with isn't quite as easy as dumping your mobile phone supplier.

In this case, I think it IS black and white. Why would the OP, as purchaser, feel any more loyalty to the working girl in question, than she might show to him?

And you don't 'dump' a regular WG you've been seeing. You just don't see her any more.

The point is that it's a transaction. It's business. Brummy's fallen into the trap all fluffies fall into sooner or later, in thinking that lots of repeat business somehow means more. It doesn't.

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