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Has punting improved your confidence with women in real life?

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Hey all new to the board here, hope you are all well.

I have a question (or something that leads from it). Would you say punting has improved your confidence with women in real life? How has punting made your life different in terms of courtship, flirting, and sex in general? The reason I ask is out of curiosity for what this can do since I have not yet done it but am thinking about dipping my toes into the water to see what its like.

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Hey all new to the board here, hope you are all well.

I have a question (or something that leads from it). Would you say punting has improved your confidence with women in real life? How has punting made your life different in terms of courtship, flirting, and sex in general? The reason I ask is out of curiosity for what this can do since I have not yet done it but am thinking about dipping my toes into the water to see what its like.

Can't say it's made a blind bit of difference for me. Partly because I'm not looking for women in "real life" and partly because punting and "real life" are such poles apart. But I guess that if you wanted to regard punting as a training ground for honing your flirty chat and physical technique then yes, it might help with confidence.

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A year or so ago there were several posts in which punters said that it was punting that first gave them the confidence to chat up a girl. I expect you will find them if you dig around.

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Not a single bit. If I just had an ounce of confidence of most people my age, I would of had, at the very least, 4 long term relationships, had sex age 15 and would be dating someone right now who can only be described as a nymphomaniac.

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I've never been a shy kind of guy but like most men always have a fear of rejection (Maybe an ego thing I dont know) so was kind of reluctant to ask some girls out, but since I've been seeing these hot babes in the escort business I feel like a million dollars. It has certainly made me better at sex technique wise

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You do not book an appointment with an escort to get some confidence, as you know that its a business arangement.

To get confidence with a female I think you would be better of joining a club or joining a gym...this is a paid sex forum.

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Can only speak for myself, but yes, it has given me some help in my private relationships. I wouldn't want to over-emphasise it, but undoubtedly an improvement in technique. I was hopeless before though LOL!

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Since my marriage ended after 20 years, i do not want to do the relationship, dating thing again. I have been seeing working girls for the last 5 years, and have absolutely no intention of changing. Ifeel for me personally this is the perfect solution.

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I'm not sure it would give you the confidence to ask someone out as the fear of rejection may still be there, but if you were lacking experience and that was the reason for worrying about dating then yes of course it can help.

There are many men out there who are still virgins or lack sexual experience who turn to wgs to change that. After gaining confidence and skills they then feel that the barriers they once had are lifted and that there is no reason why they can't give a lady they care about what they want in the bedroom.

However, if you are already confident in that department, then to be honest, I'm not sure it can do anything other than stop you wanting a relationship purely for sexual fulfilment and allow you the time you need to find someone who is more compatible, without the frustration.

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Hey all new to the board here, hope you are all well.

I have a question (or something that leads from it). Would you say punting has improved your confidence with women in real life? How has punting made your life different in terms of courtship, flirting, and sex in general? The reason I ask is out of curiosity for what this can do since I have not yet done it but am thinking about dipping my toes into the water to see what its like.

I can't say it has greatly improved my skills at the relationship bit but certainly it's given me confidence on the sex side.

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I agree with many posters on this thread: punting has given me huge sexual confidence as opposed to confidence with dating.

In fact it's given me so much confidence in terms of my ability as a lover that I suppose it should help when it comes to chatting up and dating, particularly the type of gorgeous women that previously I would have viewed as unattainable!

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Well, I initially started punting to help deal with sexual dysfunction. Firstly, erectile dysfunction through prone masturbation and then, having overcome this, delayed ejaculation through not being used to the sensations of ordinary intercourse. In this respect, punting has really helped in so many ways. Overcoming this in ordinary relationship would be doubly difficult. There is less pressure to perform and less of an embarrassment factor. So I'm now far more sexually confident than I was before.

Confidence generally though, in terms of asking women out etc... It has only improved things to a very limited extent. I'm not quite as intimated as I used to be by women I find attractive. But I agree with others that punting in no pancrea for this. What has improved my confidence more than anything in this respect is simply learning to talk, as much as possible, to girls I fancy.

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Hey all new to the board here, hope you are all well.

I have a question (or something that leads from it). Would you say punting has improved your confidence with women in real life? How has punting made your life different in terms of courtship, flirting, and sex in general? The reason I ask is out of curiosity for what this can do since I have not yet done it but am thinking about dipping my toes into the water to see what its like.

Hasnt made the slightest bit of difference.

Probably a bit more confidence when just natural chatting to girls, a lot more confidence in bedroom department, but as far as pulling and courting goes, no, in fact it can be a bit of a hinderence. Since I know I can easily get sex elsewhere the urge to pull or chat up a girl deteriorates, so I dont bother. Perhaps the confidence with chatting to non-WGs is cos Im not trying to pull them and just chatting like I do with a WG.

Ive seen girls who I may have pulled before punting, now I think, well Ive had WGs who are way more attractive so why bother.

Plus I know the next time Im with a non-WG in the bedroom, reaching for a condom, we are both going to lie back expecting the other to put it on.

I dont think I can remember how to put a johnny on myself anymore!

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Its made a massive difference to me. Its taught me a lot about women and their bodies which has the effect of making me feel comfortable and relaxed with them. Its taught me that I really like women not just for sex but to talk to and be with. Because I'm relaxed they can relax too and I'm sure they pick up that I like their company. It makes me appear confident, because I am relaxed.

Before I really was not sure how to treat this strange creature and they could pick up that I was uncomfortable, which made them feel uncomfortable.

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Has punting improved your confidence with women in real life?

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Well, I initially started punting to help deal with sexual dysfunction. Firstly, erectile dysfunction through prone masturbation and then, having overcome this, delayed ejaculation through not being used to the sensations of ordinary intercourse.

Couple of questions here. First, what's prone masturbation? And second, how did you overcome the erectile dysfunction?

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Not changed my confidence in meeting them- has helped in the bedroom.

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Hasnt made the slightest bit of difference.

Probably a bit more confidence when just natural chatting to girls, a lot more confidence in bedroom department,

Hmmmmm...an interesting contradiction :)

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Its made a massive difference to me. Its taught me a lot about women and their bodies which has the effect of making me feel comfortable and relaxed with them. Its taught me that I really like women not just for sex but to talk to and be with. Because I'm relaxed they can relax too and I'm sure they pick up that I like their company. It makes me appear confident, because I am relaxed.

Before I really was not sure how to treat this strange creature and they could pick up that I was uncomfortable, which made them feel uncomfortable.

Ditto - it's doing me the world of good in all aspects of my life. The girls I have seen to date are all wonderful girls, I treat them with respect and for the first time I am not nervous about meeting one later on today and have a clear plan in my head on what I want to happen which I will convey that to her within the first 5 minutes.

I now believe and at 42 I should know what I want and should be able to tell these young vixens, as I sort of expect a guy of my years to get on with.:)

As the old saying goes - No more pussy footing around now!

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Hmmmmm...an interesting contradiction :)

Sorry, I meant when courting. (Went on to the next sentence without finishing the first)

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Hey all new to the board here, hope you are all well.

I have a question (or something that leads from it). Would you say punting has improved your confidence with women in real life? How has punting made your life different in terms of courtship, flirting, and sex in general? The reason I ask is out of curiosity for what this can do since I have not yet done it but am thinking about dipping my toes into the water to see what its like.

As others have said, it hasn't helped at all with the confidence to flirt with and ask out, girls... after all, I'm still a minger with no social skills :)

You have to remember that punting is completely different from any sort of civilian relationship... you only have to follow a few basic rules for a successful punt (make a call then be clean, respectful, on time and have the correct money)... but you'll need a lot more than that for a civie relationship.

I've not exactly had a chance to try it out yet, but I do think it will have given me a lot more confidence with the sexual side of things. Although, I do think there is a danger that it's really just overconfidence, as the girls aren't known for telling you you're crap... unless, of course, you ask them to :)

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Couple of questions here. First, what's prone masturbation? And second, how did you overcome the erectile dysfunction?

For prone masturbation see: http://www.healthystrokes.com/

Traumatic Masturbatory Syndrome (TMS) is the habit some males have of masturbating in a face-down (prone) position. Some TMS practitioners rub their penises against the mattress, pillow, or other bedding, or the floor. Some TMS practitioners lie on their stomachs and thrust into their hands

I did the latter and I wasn't fully erect when I did. This caused the erectile dysfunction. It also caused partial phimosis (which is when the foreskin can't be fully retracted when erect or at least not without some pain). It was solved relatively easily through following the programme on that website. Which involves abstaining from masturbation for 7 days before switching to the conventional approach with the hand. Essentially I was retraining my body to get used to the lighter touch. I had tried the conventional approach before (with no abstaining) but couldn't finish because my penis was so desensitised by the probe masturbation that the softer approach of using my hand was never going to get me there. Abstaining for 7 days (or longer in more extreme cases) resensitises the penis and you start to get used to the new sensations. Then you reduce this 6 days and so on, until you are able to do it every day.

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How about touching girls in general terms when you are flirting? Do you still get that nervousness? What is it about normal girls that causes nervousness? (For those who also want to deal with women in real life too)

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I'd say it probably has, i completely understand that the girls are only with you for the money, but talking to them certainly has helped me strike up conversation in the 'real' world.

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Yes. I was very lucky in my first (and most later) punting experiences. I met ladies who really made me good about myself. That spilled over into real life

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