TaintedLove

Too much porn?

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After loads of excuses over the last couple of years I finally went for my first punt yesterday - 2 hours with a lovely girl who I'm not sure I should name in this post (she wasn't the issue at all). The problem I had was maintaining an erection every time we stopped kissing. She had me perfectly relaxed from the first minute so nerves were not an issue but in various penetrative positions (and oral) my erection went back to a "semi" state. I had a happy ending when she was giving me a HJ whilst kissing and it was fantastic.

My issue might be watching too much porn. I only masturbate a few times a week but it has been quite a while since my last sexual encounter and this may have resulted in only managing to cum with a hand:confused:

Has anything similar ever happened to anyone else? Would viagra be a solution? or maybe more encounters to change my "cumming conditional response"?

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I would suggest many more encounters!

As the saying goes, "practice makes perfect"! :rolleyes:

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Would viagra be a solution? or maybe more encounters to change my "cumming conditional response"?

No and probably yes. :rolleyes:

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I only masturbate a few times a week ....

Abstaining for 2 or 3 days before punting might help you.

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I think watching too much porn can desensitise you and give you erection issues. I'd cut down watching it and see what happens.

I think also maybe as it was your first time although you felt relaxed, maybe you did have some tension which can affect erections.

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Do any of the ladies carry one of these devices in their kit?

As longs as she does not look as bored using it as the girl in the demo vid on the fleshlight plan.

S x

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Have you been able to stay hard and finish easily in the past?

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With a two hour appointment even the most nervous of punters should be able to relax enough to stay erect for a suitable period to have intercourse. Too much porn certainly doesn't help, especially if you take it too seriously. Personally I am bored with most porn as it is based on formula (suck - lick - front - back - cum in face/mouth - etc).

Stay with it ......

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Too much wanking can cause some desensitization too, especially if you are circumcised - hard skin and all that.

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After loads of excuses over the last couple of years I finally went for my first punt yesterday - 2 hours with a lovely girl who I'm not sure I should name in this post (she wasn't the issue at all). The problem I had was maintaining an erection every time we stopped kissing. She had me perfectly relaxed from the first minute so nerves were not an issue but in various penetrative positions (and oral) my erection went back to a "semi" state. I had a happy ending when she was giving me a HJ whilst kissing and it was fantastic.

My issue might be watching too much porn. I only masturbate a few times a week but it has been quite a while since my last sexual encounter and this may have resulted in only managing to cum with a hand:confused:

Has anything similar ever happened to anyone else? Would viagra be a solution? or maybe more encounters to change my "cumming conditional response"?

I would say keep trying it's like everything in life you, practice makes perfect and no-one is perfect :rolleyes:

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Thanks for all the responses people.

I had abstained for 3 days prior to the encounter. I did think in depth whether or not I should relieve myself beforehand to make myself last longer - thank goodness I didn't do that or maybe I may not have gotten it up at all????:rolleyes:

This was the longest time I had possibly had an erection (on and off for 90 minutes) and I think 'nntt' might have got it bang on. Although I may have felt relaxed I still felt a certain bit of anxiety to be able to perform and please the girl. I thought that even though I made her cum through rubbing/licking (copying certain porn scenes) this would make me at ease but the penetration seemed to bring an end to my pleasure. But I still felt I was enjoying myself and got more frustrated that I couldn't keep hard - she actually asked me if it was her that was the problem but I told her that was not the case and I may be a bit tired (possibly from pleasuring her). After a break the same thing happened...

With regards to my past the last time something similar happened was when I was kissing a slightly older woman (who was involved with someone else temporarily) but when she wanted to go down on me my little fella shrivelled up and my legs were literally shaking... I have beta blockers to take for work situations but I know that these affect libido/sex life etc. and I had not taken any pills prior to my latest encounter.

Will Viagra/kamagra not be able to save me? I did intend to see Kim in Kent but she is off at the moment so would she be able to assist when she's back? I am very confused...

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It was your first time- see what happens the next few and only then if it remains a problem should you think why.

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Tainted Love - stick at it.

I've been in this hobby 4 months and first few punts were not the best for me though the WG's were understanding. I was nervous which impacted on my performance. My 5th punt changed all that when a WG looked at me in the eyes and said "You're nervous arn't you" (in a polish acsent). I said to myself yes you are and snap out of it I only have another 55 minutes to do whatever I want with this fit tanned young lady.

I'm not totally nerve free but I feel a lot better in what I am doing, and now communicating to the WG what I like and don't like at the start of our meet. I'm becoming more adventerous, I def want a 3some by the year out!

I meet WG's because they are younger than me, they are beautiful and I love the female form from head to toe and I treat them with the upmost respect.

(It all goes pear shaped when you but a ring on a females finger!)

My next WG looks stunning and that helps the build up, so no porn, no HR and normally within 10 days I'm going for it.

Like I say - stick with it!

LLP

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Sadly porn and wanking are a way of life around southend on sea :D

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Well I kept with it and had my latest punt yesterday which was fantastic. A lovely girl from the bunnies who showed me that life is worth living!

She gave me fantastic head which made me cum hard (7 days abstaining) but with a 2 hour appointment I still found it difficult to stay hard afterwards. I found this girl to be perfect but the little fella seemed to give up after penetration:confused:

I still see that this is a step forward for me from my very first punt but can only hope that my anxiety will subside and allow me to fully enjoy sex the way it was meant be. I'm still considering kamagra... Any further advice would be greatly appreciated

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I've had the same problem lately, but not too bad, I think it's because I wank way to much, 3 times today, normally once or twice everyday.

I read somewhere that you need to eat healthy food, vegetables, fruits, do lots of exercises to stimulate the blood flow inside your body. smoking and drinking is also bad.

best thing you could do is see a doctor really, I must go for a wank now, or not lol, i think im going to take a break from wanking.

I do also have a fleshlight, I used it about 5 times and thats it, it's a good feeling but a pain to keep clean.

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I've watched an immense amount of porn/masturbated over many years and I don't think it's had much of an effect on getting an erection.

However the first few times I had sex with my wife to be, I just couldn't maintain an erection. I couldn't understand why and although she was very understanding, I felt quite down.

I summoned the courage to visit my GP and he did some tests for conditions which can impact oneself in this way (i think diabetes was one.)

Anyway, he said there was nothing wrong with me and it was more like anxiety with a new partner. I think anxiety can play a big part.

The next time we had sex, everything worked fine :P

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Well I kept with it and had my latest punt yesterday which was fantastic. A lovely girl from the bunnies who showed me that life is worth living!

She gave me fantastic head which made me cum hard (7 days abstaining) but with a 2 hour appointment I still found it difficult to stay hard afterwards. I found this girl to be perfect but the little fella seemed to give up after penetration:confused:

I still see that this is a step forward for me from my very first punt but can only hope that my anxiety will subside and allow me to fully enjoy sex the way it was meant be. I'm still considering kamagra... Any further advice would be greatly appreciated

It could well be just anxiety. I've had that in the past with girlfriends (especially the first time) and as soon as the thought pops in to your head that you're not going to succeed, it's an uphill battle.

Oddly enough I never get it with working girls, perhaps as I know it may well be a one off encounter and if they don't love every second of it, it's not going to be the end of the world (not that I don't want them to enjoy the meeting of course).

Perhaps it's worth mentioning it to the next woman you see, then you can take things slowly and at your pace, and if during sex you need to stop for a while and do something else, she'll understand.

Just an idea, anyhow.

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Thanks for all the advice. With regards to my diet I seem to be one of the lucky ones who manages to stay slim no matter what I eat. Even though I smoke 20 fags a day and drink copious amounts of alcohol I feel physically OK. So it must be mental. I have done some research on this on tinterweb and seen that green olives are good for a decent sex drive. I can confirm that they are definitely an acquired taste and I slowly feel myself not being able to go a day without at least one...

I shall be going for my next punt tomorrow and am hoping that since I managed to stay hard for a hand job on the first punt, BJ on the second, the third should allow my brain to relax and let me enjoy things. Wishful thinking perhaps but I'll keep you informed nonetheless

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Could also be that your bodies just didnt 'fit' or a case of mismatched sexual chemistry ?

I'm a longtime frequent user of porn and NEVER had erection or anxiety problems with sex.

An ex of mine was physically, on paper, everything I could want : a VERY youthful appearance yet in her 30s, had huge gorgeous and very firm natural breasts, a slim waist, lovely shapely legs and a beautiful face.

Yet sex was always fairly hard work due to, like i said before, our bodies just not 'fitting'' and a lack of natural sexual chemistry between us and we broke up after around a year.

This hadnt been a problem before and hasnt been a problem since, with other partners.

Maybe you were just unlucky with your first experience, in this regard.

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Hi My friend I have done a course on this very subject and have my Olevels to prove it, So take it from me stop the wanking if you intend shagging, wanking will only weaken a perfectly hard cock

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