punternik

Escorts who have 'feelings' for you....

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Hi Folks,

I've been seeing escorts now for around 2 years, and love it (dont we all here lol)...but 2 of my favourite girls have, in the last 6 months, refused to see me ever again because they had too much 'feelings for me,' and that they felt very uncomfortable with that, understandably so as they are women first and foremost. They professed very strong feelings for me, and both ended somewhat abruptly...sadly!!!

Has this kind of thing happened to anyone else? Its such a dam shame because they were my idea of a 'perfect' lover, and I was extremely passionate with them...maybe too much so (but never lost sight that this is escort/client regardless of how 'gfe it felt!!!), but I'm feeling the loss though sadly :eek:

I guess too it was my fault for seeing them so often and not having enough variety, but if just a few wg's hit the spot repeatedly and you have that 'chemistry', the lure of variety is less appealing!

Any thoughts, advice or similar experiences anyone...?

Nik

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Are you sure it's not just the politest way they could find of telling you to "sod off"?? :cool:

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Two separate escorts who you have been paying to have sex with have now refused to see you ever again, because they have feelings for you?

Not to be blunt, but I can pretty much predict what those feelings are mate.

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Escorts don't have feelings for clients :cool: It's a job for them. They only care about your money and nothing else!

Yeah, I agree with the above 2 posters. They were probably telling you to bugger off nicely. If they really liked you they would still at least keep in touch once in a while, or try and maintain some kind of friendship.

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Sounds like you need to practice more.

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Haha Escorts have feelings for every guys they see for the hour or so and then move onto the next guy have feelings for him and so on. The "feelings" are a delusion. They are just very good at what they do. That is their job. No matter how many times you see them it will always be their job to get as much money out of horny guys before they retire and persue something else. Cynical but that's life.

What exactly did they say to you when they told you to not come back again? Exact words?

To find out if the girl is faking it maybe book under a different name and see if she is happy/surprised or damn right pissed off that she is seeing you again. Maybe wait a couple of weeks before you do.

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Methinks Nik is a nice guy who got too attached to the escorts, they twigged what was up and let him down in the most gentlest, kindest way possible without hurting him, yet also giving him an ego boost at the same time <3

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One of the first escorts I met, a woman in her fifties (I was mid 30's), genuinely thought we were fated to spend our lives together. I still have an open invitation to move up north with her whenever I want! Not one I will be taking up...

I have had several WGs say "I can't believe you're single/not snapped up", and have also developed genuinely good friendships with 3 or 4 WGs.

But never have I met a WG whose feelings for me were so strong she couldn't bear to see me again!!!

Sorry to the OP if I have misjudged things, but I have to agree with the other posters and ask whether the escorts were feeling uncomfortable with the intensity of your feelings and have tried to let you down gently?

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Methinks Nik is a nice guy who got too attached to the escorts, they twigged what was up and let him down in the most gentlest, kindest way possible without hurting him, yet also giving him an ego boost at the same time <3

I think this is probably the most reasonable explanation. I'm sure an escort falling for a guy is something that can happen but probably only does really happen once in a million years, so for it to happen twice to the same guy within a couple of years probably says something about the guy, and sadly not that he's an unbelievable lover and irresistable to women. :cool:

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Err, have to say... I think Punternik should take on board the things other guys have said here, not sure why a WG would tell someone to stop coming to visit siting having 'strong feelings' for someone... and how exactly would they arrive at that point I wonder? Maybe Punternik told girl no 2 that girl no 1 had said , I cant possibly see you or take your money because I have strong feelings for you and girl no 2 thought ... now there's a novel way of putting it.

What are the chances of not one but TWO working girls of coming to that very same and unusual conclusion around the same time with the same guy? Life's a mystery.

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Err, have to say... I think Punternik should take on board the things other guys have said here, not sure why a WG would tell someone to stop coming to visit siting having 'strong feelings' for someone... and how exactly would they arrive at that point I wonder? Maybe Punternik told girl no 2 that girl no 1 had said , I cant possibly see you or take your money because I have strong feelings for you and girl no 2 thought ... now there's a novel way of putting it.

What are the chances of not one but TWO working girls of coming to that very same and unusual conclusion around the same time with the same guy? Life's a mystery.

Damn. Toyah Wilcox will be running through my head for the rest of the night now, damn you woman! :)

The 80s were bad enough the first time round. :cool:

B

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Escorts don't have feelings for clients :cool: It's a job for them. They only care about your money and nothing else!

Yeah, I agree with the above 2 posters. They were probably telling you to bugger off nicely. If they really liked you they would still at least keep in touch once in a while, or try and maintain some kind of friendship.

That is a load of crap! Women unlike men naturally like to make a bond with people they are intimate with and any regular is going to at least become a sort of friend. I know if I don't hear from a regular for a while I worry about them and am not just delighted to hear from them in case of a pending booking, but because it confirms to me that they are ok and I can stop worrying. Having said that being an escort, it is not our place to instigate the communication, so I often want to make communication and don't, it's just not my place to do so.

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Haha Escorts have feelings for every guys they see for the hour or so and then move onto the next guy have feelings for him and so on. The "feelings" are a delusion. They are just very good at what they do. That is their job. No matter how many times you see them it will always be their job to get as much money out of horny guys before they retire and persue something else. Cynical but that's life.

What exactly did they say to you when they told you to not come back again? Exact words?

To find out if the girl is faking it maybe book under a different name and see if she is happy/surprised or damn right pissed off that she is seeing you again. Maybe wait a couple of weeks before you do.

I really do wish it was that simple. One of the things that has surprised me while escorting is how many punters and how many wgs I have spoken to that have dated one another. I personally feel that remaining single while I am doing this is the way forward for me, but while I am single, it does not make me immune to caring or looking forward to seeing someone I have grown fond of. I admit that beyond that I will try my best to not get any closer. It's not in my best interst or theirs.

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Like Zeus's famous line to Bruce Willis's character in Die Hard, " I ain't your partner, I ain't your neighbour, your sister or your friend. I am your total stranger. Punting in it's essence simply involves buying a fantasy for a limited period of time. When it's over, you, Mr Punter pay Mrs Escort and go on your merry way. Please don't get delusional about "feelings" developing for you. It's always business, never personal.:cool:

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Like Zeus's famous line to Bruce Willis's character in Die Hard, " I ain't your partner, I ain't your neighbour, your sister or your friend. I am your total stranger. Punting in it's essence simply involves buying a fantasy for a limited period of time. When it's over, you, Mr Punter pay Mrs Escort and go on your merry way. Please don't get delusional about "feelings" developing for you. It's always business, never personal.:cool:

Perhaps this is true when you see different ladies each time, but when you take on a regular, surely you at least have a fondness for her? Is that not an emotion? Can this not be a two way street?

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Has this kind of thing happened to anyone else?

Not to me.

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Perhaps this is true when you see different ladies each time, but when you take on a regular, surely you at least have a fondness for her? Is that not an emotion? Can this not be a two way street?

I have a few regular girls I see, in fact some I have even been out with but for me like the guy before said it is purely buying a fantasy for a limited period of time and those girls are only regulars because they provide the kind of fantasy that makes me want to go back and experience again.

I'm sure there are guys out there who absolutely adore a WG and would read reviews of their favorite girl and their heart will sink because its like being cheated on but out on the open you get to know what some random joe did with her. But in an ideal world the girl who I had feelings for would not be screwing other guys. I have been cheated on before by a normal girl and it burned like hell when I found out, so to have feelings for a girl who does that for a day job it is really inexplicable. You just have to block it out and try not to get too attached no matter how difficult it is.

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That is a load of crap! Women unlike men naturally like to make a bond with people they are intimate with and any regular is going to at least become a sort of friend. I know if I don't hear from a regular for a while I worry about them and am not just delighted to hear from them in case of a pending booking, but because it confirms to me that they are ok and I can stop worrying. Having said that being an escort, it is not our place to instigate the communication, so I often want to make communication and don't, it's just not my place to do so.

Load of crap?

Okay, then let's just say that my post can apply to 99.9% of escorts and you're in the absolute tiny minority of 0.1% who cares about her clients.

Because the vast majority don't. Really. They don't. And it's incredibly naive to think otherwise.

I think you have a tendency to project your own feelings on a topic and think that it has a general application to all working girls. While you may care and worry about the people you meet, it's NOT 'crap' to say most escorts only care about the money. Because it's generally true.

Escorts aren't looking for a hero, they're nt looking for a knight in shining armour to make their life better. They're looking to pay the bills and have a decent quality of life. What they probably don't want or need are clingy and emotional clients complicating the way they live their life.

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Escorts aren't looking for a hero, they're not looking for a knight in shining armour to make their life better. They're looking to pay the bills and have a decent quality of life..

Cue manic applause!!!

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Cue manic applause!!!

*Clap, clap, clap, clap, clap, clap, clap, clap!!!!!*

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Cue manic applause!!!

And here all these years I have been waiting for my Richard Gere!

I thought all WG's had PWF (Pretty Woman Fantasies)

S x

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Load of crap?

Okay, then let's just say that my post can apply to 99.9% of escorts and you're in the absolute tiny minority of 0.1% who cares about her clients.

Because the vast majority don't. Really. They don't. And it's incredibly naive to think otherwise.

I think you have a tendency to project your own feelings on a topic and think that it has a general application to all working girls. While you may care and worry about the people you meet, it's NOT 'crap' to say most escorts only care about the money. Because it's generally true.

Escorts aren't looking for a hero, they're nt looking for a knight in shining armour to make their life better. They're looking to pay the bills and have a decent quality of life. What they probably don't want or need are clingy and emotional clients complicating the way they live their life.

Hmmm... I've been chatting to a few of my escort friends and the general consensus so far is that they do have a soft spot/adore or are fond of their regulars. This is the point that I was making. I was not talking about knights in shining armour, although I know some punters like to think of themselves as this, we're not all wanting to be swept off our feet.

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Escorts aren't looking for a hero, they're nt looking for a knight in shining armour to make their life better.

Au contraire, with apologies to Bonnie Tyler.

We need a Punter

We're holding out for a Punter to be with us tonight

He's gotta be long and he's gotta rich

And he's gotta be posting some shite

We need a Punter

We're holding out for a Punter while the whoring's right

He's gotta endure and he's gotta commune

And he's gotta be hung like a stud

Hung like a stud

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Hmmm... I've been chatting to a few of my escort friends and the general consensus so far is that they do have a soft spot/adore or are fond of their regulars. This is the point that I was making. I was not talking about knights in shining armour, although I know some punters like to think of themselves as this, we're not all wanting to be swept off our feet.

Well, maybe it's a geographical thing perhaps. People are different depending on where you go in the country.

Maybe people are much friendlier around Worcester. I can tell you for sure that London is much more impersonal. Maybe it's because there more foreign escorts here or what-not but generally, it's all no-strings attached. Actually, make that no-threads attached. You're as good as forgotten about 2 minutes after you're out the door and the next guy is waiting to come in.

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Au contraire, with apologies to Bonnie Tyler.

We need a Punter

We're holding out for a Punter to be with us tonight

He's gotta be long and he's gotta rich

And he's gotta be posting some shite

We need a Punter

We're holding out for a Punter while the whoring's right

He's gotta endure and he's gotta commune

And he's gotta be hung like a stud

Hung like a stud

Such poetry in this post! <3

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