RagPuss

:o Terrified first timer (almost!!)

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So i'm on the verge of booking my first appointment... and I'm terrified, fortunately the girl I've tried to call hasn't been able to answer the phone yet (but has emailed to ask me to call again and leave details so she can call back)

But hell i'm nervous.

What's really odd is that I'm not really new to this... I've visited escorts before with two of my previous girlfriends, one of whom was a stripper and had a number of friends who also worked the escort scene.

But despite the fact I've kinda done all of this before i'm still shaking. It seems to be a much bigger deal doing this alone!

Any advice on the nerves, I really don't want to make this awkward. One thing i trying to do is not "plan", not have any preconceived ideas about what will happen etc

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Only advice on nerves that worked for me is a bit of dutch courage. Not too much though, as some escorts don't like it. Best general advice as has been suggested before is choose someone well recommended for first time. Could make all the difference.

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Any advice on the nerves, I really don't want to make this awkward. One thing i trying to do is not "plan", not have any preconceived ideas about what will happen etc

What you mean "not plan"?

The punt itself or the getting there, finding her place, talking to her, and the first few lines of intro....

I plan the later, to the minute....I dont bother planning the former.....

If your nervous, try scripting the beginning (not the actual punting) (directions to her house if its incall, etc, the first things you'll say to her) and write them down. Make sure everything you want is available, i.e. the money, gifts, etc. and all laid out. Then watch a good film or do something you enjoy. Then make sure its all ready prepared for the punt and you no what to do.

Then prepare for something to do after the punt that you'll look forward to. Like having a nice slap up sirloin steak dinner with all the trimmings. Or a big chinese takeaway.

If your nervous then promise to reward yourself something if you do it. Will take the edge off.

Even thou at the end of the day all your doing is meeting someone.....

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So i'm on the verge of booking my first appointment... and I'm terrified ...

... But hell i'm nervous...

...Any advice on the nerves...

Nerves are, in fact, coded messages from your Guardian Angel warning you of impending doom. I know this is a controversial point of view, but it is my true belief that a wise man will heed the warning and retreat to a place of safety and solitude. Stay at home and cook a sirloin steak (or even better, a ribeye with some Jersey Royals & lightly salted butter). You can always play another day.

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Ragpuss the beauty about escorts is that they know what they are doing. You don't have to. You can just relax and go with the flow. So there is no point in being nervous. Put yourself in her safe hands and just enjoy the ride.

You are allowed to feel excited but not nervous.

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So i'm on the verge of booking my first appointment... and I'm terrified, fortunately the girl I've tried to call hasn't been able to answer the phone yet (but has emailed to ask me to call again and leave details so she can call back)

But hell i'm nervous.

What's really odd is that I'm not really new to this... I've visited escorts before with two of my previous girlfriends, one of whom was a stripper and had a number of friends who also worked the escort scene.

But despite the fact I've kinda done all of this before i'm still shaking. It seems to be a much bigger deal doing this alone!

Any advice on the nerves, I really don't want to make this awkward. One thing i trying to do is not "plan", not have any preconceived ideas about what will happen etc

What is required is that you stop using your brain and allow your penis to take over, most men seem to be able to do this without so much angst.

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Yep, listen to Inna, either the penis or the escort will know exactly what to do. You are not required to think (and become nervous)

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So i'm on the verge of booking my first appointment... and I'm terrified, fortunately the girl I've tried to call hasn't been able to answer the phone yet (but has emailed to ask me to call again and leave details so she can call back)

But hell i'm nervous.

What's really odd is that I'm not really new to this... I've visited escorts before with two of my previous girlfriends, one of whom was a stripper and had a number of friends who also worked the escort scene.

But despite the fact I've kinda done all of this before i'm still shaking. It seems to be a much bigger deal doing this alone!

Any advice on the nerves, I really don't want to make this awkward. One thing i trying to do is not "plan", not have any preconceived ideas about what will happen etc

Given that you are so innocent perhaps you should give it a miss. After all, you don't want to give yourself a heart attack.

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If your nervous, try scripting the beginning (not the actual punting) (directions to her house if its incall, etc, the first things you'll say to her) and write them down.

This is what I do the day before. I'm a very shy person and find talking to people I don't know difficult. However, by having a plan, the day of the punt I'm so focussed on following the plan and remembering the details, that I'm not nearly as nervous. By the time I'm on her doorstep, I'm now celebrating my well executed plan.

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The 1st time you will be nervous. That's just a fact of life. I am quite an anxious person. It took me a while to get comfortable with one girl I was seeing. I explained to her (after a few visits) that I didn't want to be nervious the first few times it just happened. She said, "you were born like that, there is nothing you could have done about it." Such kind insightful words that helped me feel alright about myself.

It does get easier over time but what you are feeling is normal so just take your time and work through it.

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Hi,

As has been suggested, a little dutch courage can help sometimes, but Id say that as you'll be paying your good hard earned cash, only go through with it if you feel happy to do so.

A few times in the past I've taken a punt beacuse I 'felt like it' (ie not necessarily that horny!), and have walked out kicking myself because I should have waited until I felt more in the mood...and spent my money more wisely.

Its meant to be fun...so unless you can relax enough for it to be so, maybe leave it to another day...?

All the best,

Nik

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Ah yes, good idea. And then she opens the door and stands there looking like the most beautiful, sexy women in the world and your brain ceases to function and you can't even remember you had a plan :( Thank goodness your penis knows what to do ;)

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... which she provides to men who come in without any specific requests. It will probably start with a face-down massage, flip to face-up, then oral, then cowgirl -- a natural progression. Let her take the lead and Bob's your uncle.

My head was full of fantasies before my first, but when I got there I put them all out of my mind and just let her run things. It went well. :P After that I had more confidence.

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sounds like you're the kinda bloke that's gonna jizz ya pants half way up the stairs - take up knitting mate! :P

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There's nothing you can do about the fear, its something every punter has to go through. The best thing is try not to think and just ring the number... once you've done that you'll find your dragged through the rest of the process until you find yourself standing in the girls room. You'll be shaking like a leaf, but that's just natural. Lie back and let the girl do the rest.

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Any advice on the nerves, I really don't want to make this awkward. One thing i trying to do is not "plan", not have any preconceived ideas about what will happen etc

Only advice on nerves that worked for me is a bit of dutch courage. Not too much though, as some escorts don't like it. Best general advice as has been suggested before is choose someone well recommended for first time. Could make all the difference.

Actually, my advice is to stay off the booze. You don't want to sound even more incomprehensible than a normal nervous 1st timer when you eventually speak on the phone and (even as a fairly regular social drinker) when you get around to the booking, there are few greater turn-offs than boozy breath which might well scupper your chances of any DFK.

Gird those loins and get on with it. It's only natural to be nervous, but it's not as if you haven't booked an escort before, is it :P?

Don't be afraid to come back and tell us how it went.

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Might not help but I am in the same boat.

A first timer to escorts in this country and booked for tomorrow, normally nervous at the worst of times so tomorrow evening will be no different.

I am most nervous about finding the place as I do have a slight tendency to get lost in London (lived here all my life!) but fingers crossed it isn't too hard to find.

All going well I shall post a report on Wednesday unless I have left my brain at the flat!

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