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Would you rather just be single?

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I'm a single bloke. Been single for a couple of years now, except for a few flings lasting weeks or months.

In the past I also jumped from one relationship to the next and when I was single I was always on the look out for the next girlfriend.

I've kind of changed recently though and I'm starting to wonder if I even want a relationship. Maybe it's just a phase.

I went on a couple of dates last week with attractive, nice girls my age. We had a fun, few drinks and then ... I just left it at that. In the past I would have at the very least been trying everything to get them in to bed and perhaps have a relationship with them.

But now... I just think... can't be bothered... and if I do that then I won't be able to shag hookers, or go to Thailand and then I'll have to spend my weekends visiting their family and it will be boring.

Which probably isn't healthy!

Anyone gone through this?

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I'm just the reverse to be honest. I find it quite difficult to form relationships and be comfortable with people, so I think the opposite right now.

I guess it depends what we want in life. To me if you are happy doing what you are doing, then why not?

I guess people who jump relationship to relationship can forget about themselves or not have their own interests.

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I'm a single bloke. Been single for a couple of years now, except for a few flings lasting weeks or months.

In the past I also jumped from one relationship to the next and when I was single I was always on the look out for the next girlfriend.

I've kind of changed recently though and I'm starting to wonder if I even want a relationship. Maybe it's just a phase.

I went on a couple of dates last week with attractive, nice girls my age. We had a fun, few drinks and then ... I just left it at that. In the past I would have at the very least been trying everything to get them in to bed and perhaps have a relationship with them.

But now... I just think... can't be bothered... and if I do that then I won't be able to shag hookers, or go to Thailand and then I'll have to spend my weekends visiting their family and it will be boring.

Which probably isn't healthy!

Anyone gone through this?

I was in similar position a few years back. Having always been in marraiges and relationships I found myself single again. However at the time I found Irealy did not want a permanent relationship specially that through international travel I had a lot of interaction with people and the ladies and could do what pleased me.

In the UK I started seeing escort a lot more frequently. Basically whenever I had free time I would arrange outcall and would make an evening out of it. I avoided any real opportunities in real life and would not persue them and that suited me to the ground at the time.

I then started dating (casually) some the WGs wo came to visit me. I really enjoyed that. Those relationships would last 3 to six months but always ended as demands started rolling in. I did this for 3-4 years and thoroughly enjoyed it. I did eventually got tired of it and am now in a totally different situation.

I enjoyed those few years and I think I really needed it. Looking back at it I have no regrets. Still in touch with some of WGs I dated but don't fuck them anymore. I still punt but nowhere as frequently as before.

Don't know how old you are but perhaps you need the same break for a while and after that things may come to you naturally.

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Cheers Fred. Interesting to hear someone who has gone through it. So sounds like it was a phase for you but an enjoyable one.

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If I don't find a new girlfriend anywhere, then I will start becoming a celibate and remain single until I die when I get old.

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It's so much easier punting if you are single. I would not want to change things at the moment. I'm happy seeing escorts and occasionally shagging a non WG. :P

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I'm a single bloke. Been single for a couple of years now, except for a few flings lasting weeks or months.

In the past I also jumped from one relationship to the next and when I was single I was always on the look out for the next girlfriend.

I've kind of changed recently though and I'm starting to wonder if I even want a relationship. Maybe it's just a phase.

I went on a couple of dates last week with attractive, nice girls my age. We had a fun, few drinks and then ... I just left it at that. In the past I would have at the very least been trying everything to get them in to bed and perhaps have a relationship with them.

But now... I just think... can't be bothered... and if I do that then I won't be able to shag hookers, or go to Thailand and then I'll have to spend my weekends visiting their family and it will be boring.

Which probably isn't healthy!

Anyone gone through this?

I can't think of any reasons why it is not healthy. You are being very honest with yourself by weighing up the pros and the cons.

It would be very difficult now for me to give up my single life and independence. With punting I can cut to the chase without having to tell someone a pack of lies and make stuff up. And, would I get girls anything like as immediate, fit and adventurous? Probably not.

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My nan used to say men were like buses none for ages then 2 or 3 come along at once LOL :P

I'm happy being with Mr Bunny but when you are yung life is much better when you are single and you can please yourself.....:D

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I'm a single bloke. Been single for a couple of years now, except for a few flings lasting weeks or months.

In the past I also jumped from one relationship to the next and when I was single I was always on the look out for the next girlfriend.

I've kind of changed recently though and I'm starting to wonder if I even want a relationship. Maybe it's just a phase.

I went on a couple of dates last week with attractive, nice girls my age. We had a fun, few drinks and then ... I just left it at that. In the past I would have at the very least been trying everything to get them in to bed and perhaps have a relationship with them.

But now... I just think... can't be bothered... and if I do that then I won't be able to shag hookers, or go to Thailand and then I'll have to spend my weekends visiting their family and it will be boring.

Which probably isn't healthy!

Anyone gone through this?

Can empathise with you entirely. I have a nice routine where I can see WG's at my convenience as and when I want without having to get involved and get questions asked like "what were you doing last night" etc. There's then the scenario where a non WG wants to "reel you in" and as a prelude to this want you to meet their mother / father /sister / brother /kids / extended family etc etc and then they all start rubbing their hands saying ooo ! our Rita / Paula / Susan has found a nice man and she's going to settle down etc etc... God I just can't be bothered with it. I was married for 18 years and initially bought into all that bullshit. Sorry but never again, I enjoy life far too much the way it is at the moment and I'm not going to let anyone spoil it.

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I was pretty depressed for a few months when I split from my ex. We planned to get married as well; didn't work out.

Now I'm happy at being single, I still get lonely sometimes, in a cold bed and all that and no one to go to a restaurant with etc.

I can do what I want, when I want and no one ever gives me grief or makes do stuff I dont want to do. Might sound childish, but I like it.

I see WGs when I need it, then get back to my bachelor way of life. Pretty sweet right now :P

Also, for us men, we can settle down much later than most women, because we age better :D

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I went on a couple of dates last week with attractive, nice girls my age. We had a fun, few drinks and then ... I just left it at that. In the past I would have at the very least been trying everything to get them in to bed ...

A very good female friend of mine had this experience ; she said that most guys try to get her into bed. One didn't, and it made her all the more interested in him. Most of her female friends seemed to feel the same ... I suppose it is the male equivalent of playing hard to get. Good luck with that !

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I'm a single bloke. Been single for a couple of years now, except for a few flings lasting weeks or months.

In the past I also jumped from one relationship to the next and when I was single I was always on the look out for the next girlfriend.

I've kind of changed recently though and I'm starting to wonder if I even want a relationship. Maybe it's just a phase.

I went on a couple of dates last week with attractive, nice girls my age. We had a fun, few drinks and then ... I just left it at that. In the past I would have at the very least been trying everything to get them in to bed and perhaps have a relationship with them.

But now... I just think... can't be bothered... and if I do that then I won't be able to shag hookers, or go to Thailand and then I'll have to spend my weekends visiting their family and it will be boring.

Which probably isn't healthy!

Anyone gone through this?

Totally understand your position 100%

The other benefit I have is that when I go out on an evening I am more interested in what my friends are saying rather than being semi interested while really being interested in what girls were in the room.

I follow a lot of sport, which I would not be able to do if I was in a relationship as well.

I like to think that if someone came along and was so special that it would be obvious to give up punting and lessen the amount of sport I watch ... but until that time ...

In terms of being healthy, is jumping from one relationship to the next healthy? My friend is like this. If he is single he stops breathing, so he always finds a girl but is always looking to jump on to someone else who he likes more.

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I like reading these comments, its an insight into single man-ness.

lots of the comments are all the things that women who want to nail down a man think, but the men due to be nailed, would deny.

It seems like a lot of men avoid being in a relationship, having read this, I can understand why.

I am sure one of my ex's felt exactly the same... hence he's the ex.

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I'm single currently and whilst I'd prefer not to be on the whole, would rather be single that in a bad relationship. Knowing that I can have sex without the need for a relationship means that I can wait to be in one where there are more things in common between us.

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... I'm starting to wonder if I even want a relationship. Maybe it's just a phase.

The World's Shortest Fairy Tale

Once upon a time a bloke asked a girl, "Will you marry me?"

The girl said, "No."

And the bloke lived happily ever after ... and fucked loads of beautiful WGs and rode powerful motorcycles and went fishing and watched football and drank beer and ate curry and left the toilet seat up and played on the Xbox and farted and had a wank whenever he wanted .

The End

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LMAO once twice and more! So true!

The World's Shortest Fairy Tale

Once upon a time a bloke asked a girl, "Will you marry me?"

The girl said, "No."

And the bloke lived happily ever after ... and fucked loads of beautiful WGs and rode powerful motorcycles and went fishing and watched football and drank beer and ate curry and left the toilet seat up and played on the Xbox and farted and had a wank whenever he wanted .

The End

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I'm a single bloke. Been single for a couple of years now, except for a few flings lasting weeks or months.

In the past I also jumped from one relationship to the next and when I was single I was always on the look out for the next girlfriend.

I've kind of changed recently though and I'm starting to wonder if I even want a relationship. Maybe it's just a phase.

I went on a couple of dates last week with attractive, nice girls my age. We had a fun, few drinks and then ... I just left it at that. In the past I would have at the very least been trying everything to get them in to bed and perhaps have a relationship with them.

But now... I just think... can't be bothered... and if I do that then I won't be able to shag hookers, or go to Thailand and then I'll have to spend my weekends visiting their family and it will be boring.

Which probably isn't healthy!

Anyone gone through this?

I can relate to this (apart from going to Thailand).

I'm sometimes lonely but the secret is to have other interests to keep you busy.

Everyone is different but I am single now and don't want to change it. Life is the way it should be for me at the moment - its not perfect but it is enjoyable. Punting keeps me happy as I now have access to sex whenever I want it so don't feel frustrated by not having a girlfriend to cater for that. As we all know though, it all comes at a price.

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The World's Shortest Fairy Tale

Once upon a time a bloke asked a girl, "Will you marry me?"

The girl said, "No."

And the bloke lived happily ever after ... and fucked loads of beautiful WGs and rode powerful motorcycles and went fishing and watched football and drank beer and ate curry and left the toilet seat up and played on the Xbox and farted and had a wank whenever he wanted .

The End

HAHA! :eek:

I feel like I'm living the dream!

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I'm a single bloke. Been single for a couple of years now, except for a few flings lasting weeks or months.

In the past I also jumped from one relationship to the next and when I was single I was always on the look out for the next girlfriend.

I've kind of changed recently though and I'm starting to wonder if I even want a relationship. Maybe it's just a phase.

But now... I just think... can't be bothered... and if I do that then I won't be able to shag hookers, or go to Thailand and then I'll have to spend my weekends visiting their family and it will be boring.

I couldnt bear to deliberately single for any length of time. To really enjoy something, I have to share it. When you see something beautiful or experience soomething special, it is so much better when you can share that with your parther,IMO.

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I couldnt bear to deliberately single for any length of time. To really enjoy something, I have to share it. When you see something beautiful or experience soomething special, it is so much better when you can share that with your parther,IMO.

Yeah... when I travel on business without my wife, the thing I think most often is how much she would enjoy this or that place, restaurant, etc. I don't enjoy it as much as I would if she were with me. Can't afford to bring her all the time, though.

I've been in a relationship with somebody continuously since I was 15, except for about a year when I was 18. Not a lot of different ones, though. I play for keeps.

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I would rather be single.

I dipped my little toe into the promise of a possible relationship very recently and yanked it out as fast as i could.

I spent an evening with a guy who had already promised that he needed plently of personal space just like me and all i got from him was, but i wanna spend more time with you, i understand you have kids but.....

Even texted me twice on my sons birthday asking me to go round to see him...SONS BIRTHDAY !!!

I also very quickly found myself agonising over wether i should tell him about my job or not, i just cannot be doing with that kind of headf**k.

No, im not made for relationships.

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I have been single for 15 years since my partner died. The shock of her early death kept me single for a few years then I found I liked it. There is a women I love who lives on the other side of the world but that will never become a permanent relationship.

I have a great life.I am lucky that I earn my money doing something I would do for free, have very good friends and a wonderful sex life.I usually see someone every day ( either paid or more of the fuck buddy type ). I can be selfish when I want to be,work when I want,go where I want. Why would I want anything to change ?

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The World's Shortest Fairy Tale

Once upon a time a bloke asked a girl, "Will you marry me?"

The girl said, "No."

And the bloke lived happily ever after ... and fucked loads of beautiful WGs and rode powerful motorcycles and went fishing and watched football and drank beer and ate curry and left the toilet seat up and played on the Xbox and farted and had a wank whenever he wanted .

The End

It doesn't get better than that.

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Nice to hear some of these stories.

Personally I think men generally want the thing that they haven't got. When i was single all I wanted was to be in a relationship (I hadn't discovered punting then though!). Once in a relationship we all envy our single friends.

Some of the stories above show men that have managed to overcome this cycle. And well done to you all. Not wishing to burst your bubble, but do you not worry about growing old alone?

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I have been single for 15 years since my partner died. The shock of her early death kept me single for a few years then I found I liked it. There is a women I love who lives on the other side of the world but that will never become a permanent relationship.

I have a great life.I am lucky that I earn my money doing something I would do for free, have very good friends and a wonderful sex life.I usually see someone every day ( either paid or more of the fuck buddy type ). I can be selfish when I want to be,work when I want,go where I want. Why would I want anything to change ?

That sounds great Rascal.

The one thing that concerns me reading that is that there is a woman you love on the other side of the world, but she isn't worth pursuing.

I have a great life myself but would like to think I would give up some of that if I met someone I loved, as is your position. Am I just wishful thinking?

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