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Which is the lesser evil - what could you deal with if your man wanted sex elsewhere   1 member has voted

  1. 1. Which is the lesser evil - what could you deal with if your man wanted sex elsewhere

    • Paid for liasions
      13
    • One night stands
      2
    • Affair
      0
    • None of the above - he should not go else where
      4
    • It is ok if it just because I will not/do not do something he wants in the bedroom
      2
    • I do not even like him looking at porn
      0

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Many women not in the sex industry cannot deal with their man paying for sex let alone any man paying for it, is it better than them seeking releif in a fling or an affair or are they all equally bad ............how would you feel if you were in that womans shoes

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I once said to a BF who worked away, "if your hormones get the better of you, keep it professional, keep it safe, and don't let me find out". Sums up my views on extra curricular activity.

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It's only sex. As long as precautions are taken it wouldn't bother me.

However, to find out that a partner had been "all loved up" with someone else would mean the end of the relationship.

I suppose I believe in emotional monogamy, but I'm not particularly bothered about the physical stuff.

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It's only sex. As long as precautions are taken it wouldn't bother me.

However, to find out that a partner had been "all loved up" with someone else would mean the end of the relationship.

I suppose I believe in emotional monogamy, but I'm not particularly bothered about the physical stuff.

I do believe that many Gay couples (male) have such an understanding between them.

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I suppose I believe in emotional monogamy, but I'm not particularly bothered about the physical stuff.

Nicely put. :D

B

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I have told my SO he can fuck around to his hearts content as long as he is getting paid for it :D

S x

I guess that would come under paid for liaisons, him being paid.

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would be interesting to see the response from the general public.

May have biased results here though

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I would be upset if Mr Bunny seeked bedroom fun elsewhere and I don't think I could forgive him....:D

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I would be upset if Mr Bunny seeked bedroom fun elsewhere and I don't think I could forgive him....:D

I know I'm not a gal but come on - a thread with this title and I HAVE to read it!!

Anyway back to my question - if your name is appropriate to your chosen profession then doesnt your response here make you a complete hippocrite ??!!

(pls note this isnt an attack on you - im just shocked that if you are an escort then your stance here smacks of monstrous double standards)

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I know I'm not a gal but come on - a thread with this title and I HAVE to read it!!

Anyway back to my question - if your name is appropriate to your chosen profession then doesnt your response here make you a complete hippocrite ??!!

(pls note this isnt an attack on you - im just shocked that if you are an escort then your stance here smacks of monstrous double standards)

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I once said to a BF who worked away, "if your hormones get the better of you, keep it professional, keep it safe, and don't let me find out". Sums up my views on extra curricular activity.

I know darling but sex was the last thing on my mind x :D

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I know I'm not a gal but come on - a thread with this title and I HAVE to read it!!

Anyway back to my question - if your name is appropriate to your chosen profession then doesnt your response here make you a complete hippocrite ??!!

(pls note this isnt an attack on you - im just shocked that if you are an escort then your stance here smacks of monstrous double standards)

Perhaps a hypocrite, perhaps double standards but I am still a woman and years ago before I entered this profession I hoped my then hushband would have an affair so he would leave me alone (please note at time my sex drive was non existant following giving birth)

And as you will see I have also posed this question to the men this forum and no doubt the double standards will apply and I beleive even more so,

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Many women not in the sex industry cannot deal with their man paying for sex let alone any man paying for it, is it better than them seeking releif in a fling or an affair or are they all equally bad ............how would you feel if you were in that womans shoes

If I were in that womans shoes I wouldn't like him to do any of it but I suppose paying for it would be better that a fling or affair.

Shelly

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I would be upset if Mr Bunny seeked bedroom fun elsewhere and I don't think I could forgive him....:D

If I had a boyfriend or husband I would feel exactly the same as you.

Shelly

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If I had a boyfriend or husband I would feel exactly the same as you.

Shelly

So how do you feel about being complicit in many men's infidelity?

B

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So how do you feel about being complicit in many men's infidelity?

B

To answer your question honestly it really doesn't bother me as its not me doing anything wrong. But I never judge people for it either as we are all different and make our own choices.

Shelly

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So how do you feel about being complicit in many men's infidelity?

B

To answer your question honestly it really doesn't bother me as its not me doing anything wrong. But I never judge people for it either as we are all different and make our own choices.

Shelly

You are absolutely correct Shelly. Its nothing to do with you. We are big boys,its up to us to make our own decisions and we must live with the consequences. It really annoys me when service providers in general are blamed for the excesses of the buyers of the services. Was at a festival recently and the bars shut down at a particular time and I couldnt get a beer. I was incensed at the system which operates on the basis that it must close early to protect the masses from abusing themselves and others , rather than having adequate deterrents in place firstly.

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To answer your question honestly it really doesn't bother me as its not me doing anything wrong. But I never judge people for it either as we are all different and make our own choices.

Shelly

You are absolutely correct Shelly. Its nothing to do with you. We are big boys,its up to us to make our own decisions and we must live with the consequences. It really annoys me when service providers in general are blamed for the excesses of the buyers of the services. Was at a festival recently and the bars shut down at a particular time and I couldnt get a beer. I was incensed at the system which operates on the basis that it must close early to protect the masses from abusing themselves and others , rather than having adequate deterrents in place firstly.

Sorry, I don't see it like that. No one exists in a moral vacuum, or in isolation from those around them.

Although I do agree with:

We are big boys,its up to us to make our own decisions and we must live with the consequences.

Oh, and I'm not blaming any one just posing the question, BTW. Unsurprisingly I got precisely the answer I was expecting. :D

B

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You are absolutely correct Shelly. Its nothing to do with you. We are big boys,its up to us to make our own decisions and we must live with the consequences. It really annoys me when service providers in general are blamed for the excesses of the buyers of the services. Was at a festival recently and the bars shut down at a particular time and I couldnt get a beer. I was incensed at the system which operates on the basis that it must close early to protect the masses from abusing themselves and others , rather than having adequate deterrents in place firstly.

Wot he said.

It doesn't matter if people don't exist in a moral vacuum, Bacchus, there aren't universal morals for everyone. Universal rights, maybe, but morals no. If you want to start making service providers responsible for what punters do of their own free will, then where do you draw the line? Either the responsibility lies with the punter or you are allowing a case against prostitution. And furthermore: do you make women cover their hair to avoid provoking the lust of males? Maybe a burqua would be preferable, so that no poor male minding his own business gets his lust whetted?

Yes, of course I'm exaggerating, but I think it's important to allocate responsibility properly, and allow different moral systems to different persons. Thin end of the wedge and all that...

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It doesn't matter if people don't exist in a moral vacuum

Yes it does once you start applying your morality to other people and start to judge them according to those standards.

My personal view is that it's deeply hypocritical for anyone involved in this industry to judge other people's actions (with a few notable exceptions such as trafficking, issues of consent, etc... that list for all those pedants waiting to pounce is not exclusive, and similarly the view expressed is simply sketched out and I won't be entering into discussion into it's finer points.)

B

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A parallel for the moralist:

A bloke swears to his wife on a stack of Bibles in front of 200 friends that he will never gamble again.

Some time later he walks into a betting shop and lays down £50 on Governator to win in the third race at Sandown.

Has he broken faith with his wife? Yes. Is the bookmaker complicit? No. The bookmaker was no part of the promise. The bookmaker is in business to take bets, and it's not his business to ask every punter who comes along whether he has taken a vow not to gamble.

WGs sell sex to men wanting to buy it. They should not be worrying about what promises the men have made to third parties.

The reason this keeps endlessly coming up here is that some WGs put themselves in the wife's position. That's just as unprofessional as a bookie putting himself in the wife's position.

You can be a businesswoman selling your services or you can be the vicar passing moral judgments about other people's promises. Not both.

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A parallel for the moralist:

Let me spell it out more clearly for the hard of understanding. :D

I am not a moralist.

I just feel that any kind of judgment about other people's sexual mores is hypocritical once the rubicon of paid sex (on either side of the bed) has been crossed.

B

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I thought Bacchus had a point, and it was hypocrisy rather than morals. To use the bookie analogy, it would be saying don't want my partner to gamble while happily taking punters' money.

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A parallel for the moralist:

A bloke swears to his wife on a stack of Bibles in front of 200 friends that he will never gamble again.

Some time later he walks into a betting shop and lays down £50 on Governator to win in the third race at Sandown.

Has he broken faith with his wife? Yes. Is the bookmaker complicit? No. The bookmaker was no part of the promise. The bookmaker is in business to take bets, and it's not his business to ask every punter who comes along whether he has taken a vow not to gamble.

WGs sell sex to men wanting to buy it. They should not be worrying about what promises the men have made to third parties.

The reason this keeps endlessly coming up here is that some WGs put themselves in the wife's position. That's just as unprofessional as a bookie putting himself in the wife's position.

You can be a businesswoman selling your services or you can be the vicar passing moral judgments about other people's promises. Not both.

So where was I actually making a judgement, I was just interested in peoples views, crikey I am a hooker and I do not pass judgement on peoples relationships at all as it is none of my business and I have posed the question in another thread to the men if the boot were on the other foot.

If I were to pass judgement and do that to a customer that would be stupid, naive and professional suicide given the majortiy of callers are in some sort of relationship and I am not privy to what goes on behind closed doors.

This is just a open dicussion with out judgement on any party

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