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If your partner has different needs in the bedroom could you cope with   20 members have voted

  1. 1. If your partner has different needs in the bedroom could you cope with

    • Her having paid sex with someone
      18
    • one night stands
      6
    • affair
      1
    • or selling pussy to satisfy her needs
      2
    • no way she is a one many woman in my book
      14
    • don't know
      13

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In the same vane as my question for the gals on their feelings of their men seeking sexual satisfaction for what ever reason else where I ask the same of you guys in respect of the woman in your life

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Hah this will be interesting, see just how many men that convince themselves that punting saves their marriage feel the same way if it is the Mrs punting to save their marriage :D

S x

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I spy a Freudian slip in option 5:

no way she is a one many woman in my book

B

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I'd rather she have paid sex with someone than one night stands and affairs with other men. If she were to meet people for one night stands it'd probably mean there was some kind of connection and attraction there and that would probably be on more than just a sexual level whereas there's another level of detachment if it were paid sex.

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I voted for "Her having paid sex with someone", with a proviso that the "someone" is female and I watch.:D

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I voted for "having paid sex with someone". To have chosen anything else would make me a hypocrite of the 1st order :D.

Of course (as so well pointed out by Mrs Divine recently), women don't really have to pay for sex. Any half decent looking woman who wants extramarital sex can simply join one one of the many websites that hook up married types with others for sexual liaisons and she would get a fair few offers I am sure. So I guess I'd also have to be comfortable with "one night stand" as well.

Personally, I'd rather I never found out though :D.

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In the same vane as my question for the gals on their feelings of their men seeking sexual satisfaction for what ever reason else where I ask the same of you guys in respect of the woman in your life

I have always told my wife she can get on with any other men if she wants too, as long as safety and health are covered. I would not want to catch any disease. I find that the more possesive you are, the more she will try to escape away. By holding this position, I have reached a point where I dont feel jealousy. :D

I think my viewpoint is not common though.

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I voted for "Her having paid sex with someone", with a proviso that the "someone" is female and I watch.:D

why am I not supprised

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No options for

"NO - I could not cope with any of the above"

or

"My wife has me as a lover - with my 10 inch cock and my stunning oral skills, my ability to think up endless new variations and to stay hard for twelve hours at a time, how could she possibly want more"

An interesting question but slightly silly in that most, or all, married men keep their punting strictly private and the wife doesn't get the chance to approve or not and, I think, the situation would be the same if the roles were reversed, with the wife keeping it all under wraps.

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Very interesting question that not many men have answered :D:D

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If its fo purely physical reasons then id rather she paid for it with a professional

Affairs/one night stands can imply or lead to emotional infidelity which for me would be the real killer

If there were deeper/mental/emotional reasons for her seeking physical and other gratification elsewhere then it would signal the end of the relationship, or if we both felt the relationship was worth saving, then therapy/counsellling.

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Sell - she's sitting on a goldmine . . .

potentially, eh, Jimbo ?

:D

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I'm male but single.

I will however have a "hypothetical" attempt at answering.

If I was married, I'd much rather she met and paid a pro guy for it than had affairs behind my back where she may run off with someone else.

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Hah this will be interesting, see just how many men that convince themselves that punting saves their marriage feel the same way if it is the Mrs punting to save their marriage :D

S x

Spot on :D

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Can't register a meaningful vote as I wouldn't have a problem with any of the 1st 4 options. What's sauce for the gander .....

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No options for

"NO - I could not cope with any of the above"

or

"My wife has me as a lover - with my 10 inch cock and my stunning oral skills, my ability to think up endless new variations and to stay hard for twelve hours at a time, how could she possibly want more"

An interesting question but slightly silly in that most, or all, married men keep their punting strictly private and the wife doesn't get the chance to approve or not and, I think, the situation would be the same if the roles were reversed, with the wife keeping it all under wraps.

I am not so naive to believe that we all know exactly what our SO's are actually doing and punting for the most is a secret at home but this is not the real world and I am asking if we actually think about it what we feel having read yet another agony aunt stand in judgement over such

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Any of the choices except affairs. I have experienced my wife having affairs and its not fun at all especially having to pick up the pieces when she gets dumped or finds out what an arsehole her lover is.

But she would prefer me to have an affair rather than see escorts.

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Its a no brainer for me--- no way jose !!!!.

Countless female contributors here here have pointed out that women's attitude ( in general ) to sex is very different to men.There is little or no market for hetero male escorts and women can get sex on tap if they want it from a range of different sources -- but we are told those women in relationships really just aren't interested.We are told that unlike men,women require much more to excite them into wanting sex with a man .Therefore, the two connected threads here are not comparing like for like !

Given the above, in my view if your wife /partner/ serious girlfriend is interested in having sex with other men, chances are you have a problem on your hands. If 'something ' happened completely out of the blue as a once off, yes I would deal with it but if my wife was generally open to one night stands of paid sex encounters , then absolutely no way because I know it would mean serious trouble in our relationship.

On a lighter note, I think most women would not like it if their partners told them they didnt mind if they had flings or paid sex encounters with guys. I think women like a little ' possessivness ' in their men.

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The danger I imagine for many men is 'affairs' or even just one-off sex with exes. I only discovered many years after divorce that ex had slept with her ex in early years. I was gutted as no clues, and like to think pretty observant (had to be for work). So can and does happen.

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Hah this will be interesting, see just how many men that convince themselves that punting saves their marriage feel the same way if it is the Mrs punting to save their marriage :D

S x

But those men who say punting saves their marriage will probably not be telling their wives what they're up to.

So if the Mrs is up to something and manages to keep it to herself then not going to be a problem at all is it?

The question can only relate to if you found out about your partners activities. In that scenario I don't think many men would claim that punting saves their marriage!

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If she did any of the above she wouldn't be my partner anymore

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If she's punting on the same terms that I do -- paying for it, no strings, keeping it to herself, and above all engaging in safe sex only -- then no, I wouldn't have a problem.

Given that she can't have sex at all now I'd be bloody delighted. :D

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Interesting hypothetical BoK

FWIW I voted for Mrs L to be one man woman. It would take a dramatic hormonal shift for her to be looking elsewhere.

But say this has actually happened, and I cannot adequately service her new and insatiable demands. It would doubtless feel weird but I would have to give one of the options a go.

I would rather not have her have an affair as it would jeopardize our relationship, just as I would not countenance an affair myself.

One night stands seem potentially dangerous. Working has it's risks too but these can perhaps be better controlled and at there's always the money so.....

It's not just about quantity though. Mrs L's tastes are conservative/vanilla. I'm much more broad-minded and would be very surprised if a hypothetical and dramatic shift in tastes left her wanting stuff that I wouldn't do.

Timing is an issue. She is a night person and wants it last thing before sleep. By then I am knackered. I wake up next day, batteries recharged and saluting the sun, but that's when she feels least sexy.

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I'm a bit surprised by the responses. It seems like those that go punting and those that go swinging are two entirely separate groups. Personally, we have tried out swinging and enjoy it, together and alone, but gender relations being what they are I don't find single women battering down my door and have to do a bit of punting whereas for the missus she can pick and choose. Feminists moaning about the lot of women can stick it LOL

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I like women who look like ladies and act like sluts, so her having sex with other men would turn me on.

One of the reasons I punt is the attraction I have for whores, women who have sold their bodies to lots of men. I'm not entirely sure, why but it is a real turn on knowing that the woman you are having sex with has been fucked by lots of guys, probably even that day. This is particularly so at parties where I can watch the various men enjoying the girls I have enjoyed myself, or watch, wait and wank till they finish so I can climb aboard myself.

I also love the idea of greedy, sexually voracious women taking what they want and anything slutty in a woman's behaviour excites me. Watching women get really turned on and experiencing intense sexual pleasure is something I crave.

I am well aware that emotions can create all sorts of problems and not many women view sex in quite the same way a man does, or certainly as this one does, but I should still like to turn the fantasy into reality.

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