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Punting affect on self esteem?

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I have a query for both the gents and ladies of the board.

To the guys, has punting had any affect on your self esteem and for the better or worse and in what ways?

Also the same question to the ladies, has working as an escort do you feel changed you and your perceptions and do you feel for the better or worse and in what ways?

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Very bad at the moment. I could go months without sex but I just need somebody to hug and somebody to be there because I am me and not a handful of notes.

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As I guy, I'd say that punting has had a negative impact on my self esteem.

It's bound to ... you see lots of girls who really don't want to be porked and prodded by another fat and/or ugly guy. They'll try to hide the look of disappointment and contempt for you/your hair/your dress sense/your weight/your age/your cock size/your predictability/your attitude/etc. but the body language always gives it away. Next time you're with a girl, look at the eyes. That's where you'll see it.

Of course, this goes both ways. Girls must see it in guys too. Can't be too good for their self esteem, either.

It's not anybody's fault of course, we're all only human after all.

This reminds me of the song The Gambler, by Kenny Rogers...

You got to know when to hold'em, know when to fold'em,

Know when to walk away and know when to run.

Always know when to walk away. I like to think Kenny Rogers punted.

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This is an interesting question.

Having 'crossed the Rubicon' so to speak some eight years ago I think I'm still very much me in most ways.

I still have a drive to be kind and decent to folk I meet. I continue to demand a degree of intellectual rigour in the choices I make. My respect for myself is modulated only to the degree that I'm aware that much of society regards the paid sex scene as a bad thing whilst I hold a totally contrary view, so the 'degree' is miniscule.

The positives are that I have a broader outlook on relationships and when I see Mrs Jones (a lively young mum) at the supermarket checkout I can appreciate more fully what lies beneath those painted-on jeans.

In some ways being a punter has enhanced my personal self esteem as it's made me more of a 'rounded' person. I feel comfortable with sex, nudity and so forth.

Uncle Pokey

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It improves my self esteem in the short term but then it goes back to normal. Like going for a long blast on the motorcycle or getting outstanding feedback at work, you feel amazing afterwards but that goes away after a while. Your still the same person afterall.

I'd imagine it's the same for the girls. You have good days and bad days.

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I feel so much better.

Punting has geven me a whole new raison d'etre

(now my self esteem has bottomed cos I cant spell......)

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I'm asked this quite alot, it actually really boosts my self esteem. I genuinely LOVE what I do, and the fact there was a time when I did it for free kind of shows I don't do it for 'a handfull of notes'. :D

I adore the whole scenario, I love sex and I love pleasing others..so it's the perfect job for me! Away from escorting, I am really quite shy, self consious and generally quiet. Friends and family often note that I am not happy when I've had a few days away from work, and they are right. Escorting gives me a great deal more than money!

Stoobie, I think it's very sad what you've obviously experienced with some ladies, but I can assure you we're not all doing it out of necessity. :D

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This is an interesting question.

Having 'crossed the Rubicon' so to speak some eight years ago I think I'm still very much me in most ways.

I still have a drive to be kind and decent to folk I meet. I continue to demand a degree of intellectual rigour in the choices I make. My respect for myself is modulated only to the degree that I'm aware that much of society regards the paid sex scene as a bad thing whilst I hold a totally contrary view, so the 'degree' is miniscule.

The positives are that I have a broader outlook on relationships and when I see Mrs Jones (a lively young mum) at the supermarket checkout I can appreciate more fully what lies beneath those painted-on jeans.

In some ways being a punter has enhanced my personal self esteem as it's made me more of a 'rounded' person. I feel comfortable with sex, nudity and so forth.

Uncle Pokey

You will always be you but we all see ourselves differently.

Triumph, despair, pride and shame.

Punting can tangle these emotions together leaving much confusion.

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Punting is just a bit of fun for me. Doesn't affect me at all in terms of self esteem.

If you determine your self esteem by the actions and words of those around you, you're doing it wrong.

Self esteem is generated by you, not by those around you.

@Stoobie; if the girls you meet really disliked you that much, they would refuse to entertain you. They have a choice you know. You and any other guy who can get punts can't be that bad bro.

Always look on the bright side of life.

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Depends on the situation. I tend to see one girl fairly regularly for quite a long time rather than lots of different girls. That gives me part of the feeling of some form of relationship / familiarity but I don't expose any emotional parts of me. Damn that sounds lame! When I look for a new girl though, that feels pretty awful, but then along with a lot of punters, if my life was perfect, I wouldn't be looking :D

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It is a part of my life I have managed to separate from my 'normal' everyday life.

Sometimes I can't believe I have been with such lovely ladies and it does make me feel good with myself

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Self esteem? Mine is neutral on this as I see nothing wrong with me punting to get what I need.

Self Confidence??? Has immeasurably improved and I am much happier to have been a punter and to continue as such as long as health allows

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I have a query for both the gents and ladies of the board.

To the guys, has punting had any affect on your self esteem and for the better or worse and in what ways?

Also the same question to the ladies, has working as an escort do you feel changed you and your perceptions and do you feel for the better or worse and in what ways?

So, money where your mouth is time: what impact has punting had on your self esteem, or is that an empty page I see before me? :D

B

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To the guys, has punting had any affect on your self esteem and for the better or worse and in what ways?

It makes no difference to me either way, I say that because I have to admit that I really don't understand this "self esteem" thing. What is it? why would one want/need it?

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It makes no difference to me either way, I say that because I have to admit that I really don't understand this "self esteem" thing. What is it? why would one want/need it?

Everyone has it, what I lack in self esteem in real life I make up for on here, I am in good company though;)

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Everyone has it

Do they really? What is it then?

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What is it then?

sense of personal worth or worthiness

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I have to admit that I really don't understand this "self esteem" thing. What is it?
Everyone has it

Some a lot more than others though Lou :D!

I don't believe that punting has affected my self esteem either way. I've always had "just enough" confidence to get by. Not overconfident by any means, but certainly never wracked with self-doubt. When I look in the mirror these days, I pretty much see the same guy staring back.

I am however more confident now in asking WGs for what I want in the bedroom. When I hear myself these days, it makes me smile to think of what myself of 2 years ago would think if "he" could only hear me :D.

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sense of personal worth or worthiness

Oh I see, thank you.

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To the guys, has punting had any affect on your self esteem and for the better or worse and in what ways?

None at all, not least because you can't have 'an affect'. Unlike effect, which can be a noun (as in 'the effect'), the word 'affect' and its forms exist only as a verb or forms thereof, rarely, as an adjective (as, e.g. in 'an affected manner').

As for self esteem, best always to remember lines of Byron:

But, since life at most a jest is,

As philosophers allow,

Still to laugh by far the best is,

Then laugh on--as I do now.

Laugh at all things,

Great and small things,

See the comedy of events and you won't go too far wrong.

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Oh I see, thank you.

They are just not the sort of things that enter my mind. Things like “Am I worthy?”, “What am I worth to myself” etc. are concepts that I just do not understand, I really don’t see why I should care, or what I could possibly gain from it/them even if I did care.

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If by self esteem you mean how good i feel about myself, it goes up after a good punt, and down after a poor one.

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They are just not the sort of things that enter my mind. Things like “Am I worthy?”, “What am I worth to myself” etc. are concepts that I just do not understand, I really don’t see why I should care, or what I could possibly gain from it/them even if I did care.

You may not think you care but it wont stop you analyzing yourself in everything you do. Some of it is subconscious some is hard long questioning of your own self.

if I may offer you an example,

Your going for a job interview, You read what is required and you either believe its within your grasp or not.

You turn up at interview believing you can get the job no problem.

During the interview some questions were put to you that you not necessarily struggled with but on hindsight felt you could of answered differently.

At the end of the interview the guy shakes you hand but your looking at his body language and its not screaming "I want this man in my firm"

You meet with friends latter who ask about the interview and how it went.

A lame example I know but one that would put your confidence on a bit of a rollacoaster and self assessment doing a bit of overtime. It is how we deal with these highs and lows that boost or dent our self asteem. Its your ability to take a hit and get up and brush yourself down.

You may kid yourself you dont have any knowledge of this self esteem fella, but he tags along with you whether you want him or not.

Unless your a machine :D

I know you will say you could not give a dam if you got the job or not

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They are just not the sort of things that enter my mind. Things like "Am I worthy?", "What am I worth to myself" etc. are concepts that I just do not understand, I really don't see why I should care, or what I could possibly gain from it/them even if I did care.

Then you're very strange (you needn't agree with me!) and, perhaps, very lucky because esteem is part of the normal human desire to be accepted and valued by others, not to mention the need for self-respect.

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Don't confuse self-confidence with self-esteem - they're not the same thing.

I have never (consciously) suffered from either high or low self-esteem (although I'm sure a psychologist would disagree!) and punting hasn't changed that, especially as I have no moral qualms about what I do. "I'm still very much me" as Uncle Pokey said. (And no tangled emotions, Lou!)

Now, self-confidence is a different matter. Even in my advancing years, taking up punting has increased my self-confidence, not only in the presence of women, but in public in general.

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