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Whenever I am visiting a girl, the whole day before and the travelling up there, I am full of excitement and anticipation, when I am with her, I am really horney and loving it, and get really carried away,but once I cum, I get a really guilty feeling, I feel bad for my partner, I feel bad for the girl I am seeing, I soon get over it, and think I will carry on "punting" for a long time, but a few time I have felt sooooooo bad I really do question myself.

Is this the inner me telling me this is wrong and I should stop, or is it just a chemical reaction in the brain, does it get easier, how do you guys cope, I just seem to be going round in a cycle at the moment, can't stop this addiction, can't stop the guilt.

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I used to be the same, straight after I had cum, The guilt would start setting in. But I don't feel that way anymore. I just started thinking that I wasn't going to stop punting (for now anyway) so their was no point in beating myself up about it. It costs me so much money I might aswell enjoy it. I take comfort in the fact that most of us guys punt so it can't be that wrong. More a necessity :(

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It's just a chemical reaction, similar to masturbation guilt, which is a perfectly natural feeling.

However, if you're cheating on your partner with WG's, the guilt could be more to do with that, in which case you should probably stop or split up with your partner.

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However, if you're cheating on your partner with WG's, the guilt could be more to do with that, in which case you should probably stop or split up with your partner.

+1

U probably feel guilty for cheating on your partner.

IMO if you want to continue seeing WGs, you should split from your partner

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So how many newly single punters will that make?

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I just seem to be going round in a cycle at the moment, can't stop this addiction, can't stop the guilt.

I can understand the addiction and guilt but if you think you are turning into a washing machine you must seek medical help immediately.

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I guess that lots of us feel this way on occasion. Personally I am more likely to feel guilty if I have had a crap punt, or an expensive one. Somehow if I feel that I have wasted the cash then I feel emotionaly guilty as well as feeling finacially "conned". On the other hand, a fantastic punt with a vfm girl is much less likely to engender such feelings; usually I cant wait to repeat the experience !

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Whenever I am visiting a girl, the whole day before and the travelling up there, I am full of excitement and anticipation, when I am with her, I am really horney and loving it, and get really carried away,but once I cum, I get a really guilty feeling, I feel bad for my partner, I feel bad for the girl I am seeing, I soon get over it, and think I will carry on "punting" for a long time, but a few time I have felt sooooooo bad I really do question myself.

Is this the inner me telling me this is wrong and I should stop, or is it just a chemical reaction in the brain, does it get easier, how do you guys cope, I just seem to be going round in a cycle at the moment, can't stop this addiction, can't stop the guilt.

What !!!!

If you feel guilty then its not at all healthy and you shouldnt do it....full stop !

'Masturbation guilt' ??????

What the hell is that ??!!

Am very surprised to find, amongst of all people PN forum members, so much guilt around these practices ?? :D

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I guess that lots of us feel this way on occasion. Personally I am more likely to feel guilty if I have had a crap punt, or an expensive one. Somehow if I feel that I have wasted the cash then I feel emotionaly guilty as well as feeling finacially "conned". On the other hand, a fantastic punt with a vfm girl is much less likely to engender such feelings; usually I cant wait to repeat the experience !

What the man said.

I also tend to feel guilty if I sense the girl is 'not that into it' - as I pull out I can't help thinking to myself, she didn't genuinely enjoy having me inside her, she was just doing it for the money. (OK, Captain Obvious you may say, but some of my punts turn out really good, we both click and have a really hot mutually pleasurable session.)

The worst is with girls that make it fairly obvious they didn't like doing it with you, all those little signs like pulling you out quickly, immediately covering themselves up with robe or towel, or looking at their watch and saying 'do you want to take a shower?' even though it's only 35 minutes into a 1 hour appointment. Definition of a crap punt, perhaps.

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the guilt could be more to do with that, in which case you should probably stop or split up with your partner.

Easier said than done!

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I am married, so splitting up with my partner is not really an option, it would hurt a lot of people, not least me, I do love my wife, and like many people on here, do have a good sex life, but sometimes I need to feel desired by sexy young girls, I never had much luck when I was younger, feels like I am trying to make up for it now, I think beautyseeker has hit the nail on the head, I think when you get the feeling that the girl is not really into it, it feels very cold and Clinical, that's when the guilt kicks in, when you have a really good punt and the girl enjoys it and makes it feel natural, I actually feel ok about it, I am quite new to this scene, maybe the better punt the less guilty you feel?

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Feeling a lack of interest in the girls immediately after ejaculation is normal, whether the sex is a transaction or otherwise. The Romans had an expression for it, post coitum, everyone is sad, or something similiar.

I only feel pissed off, if it was a bad punt, fake moaning, no intimacy etc. But I go quite often, and for cheapish punts, if I was only doing it once a month, I too might feel an excess of anticipation. I am single anyway,

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Once you get horny your cock takes over and supresses "you". As soon as you cum your cock hands your body and brain back to "you" to pick up the pieces, including the feeling of having been usurped and doing something you are perhaps ashamed of. So you are ashamed your cock got the better of you AGAIN and that you have let your partner down (according to what you have been taught) So try and get a better working relationship with your cock and forget about all the rubbish about monogamy. Then instead of feeling guilty you will be free to love your GF the way she deserves and truly appreciate her and truly appreciate what your escorts have to offer.

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It's just a chemical reaction, similar to masturbation guilt, which is a perfectly natural feeling.

Excuse me but WTF are you talking about. If you feel guilty after wanking, its in your head and no amount of chemical reaction is causing that. Nor should you feel guilty after wanking, its perfectly natural.

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Whenever I am visiting a girl, the whole day before and the travelling up there, I am full of excitement and anticipation, when I am with her, I am really horney and loving it, and get really carried away,but once I cum, I get a really guilty feeling, I feel bad for my partner, I feel bad for the girl I am seeing, I soon get over it, and think I will carry on "punting" for a long time, but a few time I have felt sooooooo bad I really do question myself.

Is this the inner me telling me this is wrong and I should stop, or is it just a chemical reaction in the brain, does it get easier, how do you guys cope, I just seem to be going round in a cycle at the moment, can't stop this addiction, can't stop the guilt.

If I felt guilty I'd give it up.

I thought long and hard about seeing working girls before I started doing it and came to terms, in my own mind, about the rights and wrongs of it.

I generally feel uplifted after a meeting.

I've never felt that post-coital guilt or down feeling...........I wonder if it's entirely to do with seeing working girls or maybe some more deepseated guilt over sex in general.

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I 'should' feel guilty (esp given my conservative upbringing) and being married - but never do. The fact of it being a paid encounter, fundamentally (for me) shifts where the whole thing sits in terms of morals. It isn't an affair, it isn't something that could reasonably lead to one (I'm essentially happily married - apart from that one thing missing) - and in many ways it belongs somewhere between 'fantasy'/dreams and the real world. But it isn't the real world, because it's an experience one pays for. In the 22nd century - it will be replaced by machines that 'dream-generate' sex fantasies directly into the brain - like in Total Recall or Vanilla Sky. No different, to my mind.

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In fairness, if the punting encounters are causing you upset, then you may need to step back for a period of reflection. Take some time to think about whether you want to choose this path whilst in a relationship with a partner. You may choose to take a break from the punting while with a significant other, and then jump back in when you are single again. Why engage in an endeavour that causes you unhappiness? Life is too short.

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Could be you're mistaking post coital depression for guilt.

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I used to feel a little guilty for my early punts, but only in a Naughty schoolboy way during the punt. I'd feel guilty going back home to the mrs a bit only becuase I was expecting to feel guilty rather then becuase I really did. Put that down to social conditioning. And worry that she'd find out somehow.

Now the weird thing was I'd only feel guilty about the last girl I'd been with. So when I was with another girl later then I'd feel guilty about that and forget about the previous ones.

Now many punts later, I have no guilt as it's just a normal thing for me to do.

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Excuse me but WTF are you talking about. If you feel guilty after wanking, its in your head and no amount of chemical reaction is causing that. Nor should you feel guilty after wanking, its perfectly natural.

Exactly, it's a chemical reaction IN PEOPLE'S HEADS. It's not something that can be helped, many people feel guilt after masturbating. Google 'masturbation guilt', look around, it's a perfectly natural feeling. I never once said people should feel guilty after masturbating, of course they shouldn't.

Perhaps research some facts and properly read posts before snapping. :confused:

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I 'should' feel guilty (esp given my conservative upbringing) and being married - but never do. The fact of it being a paid encounter, fundamentally (for me) shifts where the whole thing sits in terms of morals. It isn't an affair, it isn't something that could reasonably lead to one (I'm essentially happily married - apart from that one thing missing)

If you're having sex with another person, and your wife/gf doesn't knowingly accept it, then its cheating, it doesn't matter if its a love affair or not.

IMHO if you want to punt, stay single.

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IMHO if you want to punt, stay single.

Guilt is a feeling felt by both, married or single. Some can deal with that guilt and some can not.

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Exactly, it's a chemical reaction IN PEOPLE'S HEADS. It's not something that can be helped, many people feel guilt after masturbating. Google 'masturbation guilt', look around, it's a perfectly natural feeling. I never once said people should feel guilty after masturbating, of course they shouldn't.

Perhaps research some facts and properly read posts before snapping. :confused:

OK, Googled masturbation guilt and it comes up with the pile of crap I imagined it would. Anyway, I stand by my comments, which were not, in fact, my snapping, but utter bewilderment that anyone could write that and believe it.

Feeling guilt after having sex or masturbating is not natural. It may be very common but thats quite different. Simply because the same thing happens to many people does not make that thing natural. Rather, many people will have been socially conditioned in a common way. It is something that can be helped but not by perpetuating the idea that its natural and that you willhave to live with it for the rest of your life.

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Punting is a very expensive hobby. If the net result is guilt, then consider giving it up. You'll feel better about yourself and be richer as well.

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Punting is a very expensive hobby. If the net result is guilt, then consider giving it up. You'll feel better about yourself and be richer as well.

Words of wisdom for the day, if not for the year. Well said.:confused:

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