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Correlation b/w state of relationship with SO and your punting

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Just wonder to what extent ( if any) your frequency of punting is affected by just how well or how badly you are getting on with your wife or partner ?

I am going through a particularly good patch with my SO and I am finding that my hunger to punt is not as strong as it has been in the past 18 months or so. I have not punted for approx 2 months now,only have some massage and HR. I had a full ( and somewhat painfull but clear) sex health check-up recently in anticipation of getting things together with my better half and this is also diluting my enthusiam to punt as the chance of passing on of an sti to her is unthinkable.

Do you feel you punt more when things are going particularly well or does it have any effect at all ?

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Just wonder to what extent ( if any) your frequency of punting is affected by just how well or how badly you are getting on with your wife or partner ?

I am going through a particularly good patch with my SO and I am finding that my hunger to punt is not as strong as it has been in the past 18 months or so. I have not punted for approx 2 months now,only have some massage and HR. I had a full ( and somewhat painfull but clear) sex health check-up recently in anticipation of getting things together with my better half and this is also diluting my enthusiam to punt as the chance of passing on of an sti to her is unthinkable.

Do you feel you punt more when things are going particularly well or does it have any effect at all ?

If I had sex with my wife I wouldn't punt at all.............end of.

Since I don't have sex and probably never will with my wife I'll continue and whether or not I'm getting on well or not so well will make no difference to the frequency.

That is determined by finance and time.

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If I had sex with my wife I wouldn't punt at all.............end of.

Since I don't have sex and probably never will with my wife I'll continue and whether or not I'm getting on well or not so well will make no difference to the frequency.

That is determined by finance and time.

It's exactly the same in my case.

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If I had sex with my wife I wouldn't punt at all.............end of.

Since I don't have sex and probably never will with my wife I'll continue and whether or not I'm getting on well or not so well will make no difference to the frequency.

That is determined by finance and time.

It's exactly the same in my case.

I am very sorry to hear this guys. I dont know what the reasons for this might be but I can understand why the escort scene must be a critically important factor in your lives.

Is this the experience of most married punters here --- that if you had any sexual relations at all with your SO ( even say once every 3 or 6 months ) that you would not punt at all ?

To the girls, as far as you may know of the married or long term relationship clients that you see, is it really only guys who are totally deprived of sex that tend to book you ??

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Is this the experience of most married punters here --- that if you had any sexual relations at all with your SO ( even say once every 3 or 6 months ) that you would not punt at all ?

Not my experience, no. I punted before I was married, punted when I had a girlfriend, punted when I didn't, punted when I was married and the sex was plentiful and punted when it wasn't. Only a complete loss of interest in women would stop me punting.

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Me too. If I had any sex with my SO I would not punt. Taking it a step further I don't understand why men in their 20s, 30s and 40s with a sex life ( possibly not perfect but with sex none the less ) feel the need to pay for sex. It could be that wifey will not do things which the hookers will or that they feel that they don't get enough. I am older and get no sex at all unless I pay for it. Other than this small detail we get on fine.

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I don't think it makes a difference, it is the excitment of being with a girl you would never get in the "real" world, my wife is beautiful, we still have a reasonable sex life, yet I still punt, Variety is the spice of life, didn't experiance much when I was younger, got married at an early age, now just don't want to get old and regret never having done this, wish it as the other way round, had this life when I was younger, then got married and stopped, but that's life, it doesn't always work out as you planned.

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I don't think it makes a difference, it is the excitment of being with a girl you would never get in the "real" world, my wife is beautiful, we still have a reasonable sex life, yet I still punt, Variety is the spice of life, didn't experiance much when I was younger, got married at an early age, now just don't want to get old and regret never having done this, wish it as the other way round, had this life when I was younger, then got married and stopped, but that's life, it doesn't always work out as you planned.

It NEVER works out as planned:rolleyes:

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My wife isnt a stunning young woman thats good at sex and I can change her for another woman as I please. That's punting.

But when my wife kicks off with one of her moods and just wants to argue an belittle me I stay as calm as I can knowing "I'll be fucking a stunner tomorrow and your rant is just going to make me enjoy it more" :D

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It's exactly the same in my case.

Mine too I'm afraid

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My wife isnt a stunning young woman thats good at sex and I can change her for another woman as I please. That's punting.

But when my wife kicks off with one of her moods and just wants to argue an belittle me I stay as calm as I can knowing "I'll be fucking a stunner tomorrow and your rant is just going to make me enjoy it more" :D

Well now, that is amazing. It often happens to me and there is me thinking I'm the only personwho re-acts that way:)

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If I had sex with my wife I wouldn't punt at all.............end of.

Since I don't have sex and probably never will with my wife I'll continue and whether or not I'm getting on well or not so well will make no difference to the frequency.

That is determined by finance and time.

Very much my case. In our house we get along pretty well, just the sex died.

The constraints are a pre set annual punting budget and opportunity.

The lady is on holiday now so I will binge, but tonight is first for over a month.

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My wife isnt a stunning young woman thats good at sex and I can change her for another woman as I please. That's punting.

But when my wife kicks off with one of her moods and just wants to argue an belittle me I stay as calm as I can knowing "I'll be fucking a stunner tomorrow and your rant is just going to make me enjoy it more" :D

Lol...... If only she knew what you were thinking!

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Me too. If I had any sex with my SO I would not punt. Taking it a step further I don't understand why men in their 20s, 30s and 40s with a sex life ( possibly not perfect but with sex none the less ) feel the need to pay for sex. It could be that wifey will not do things which the hookers will or that they feel that they don't get enough. I am older and get no sex at all unless I pay for it. Other than this small detail we get on fine.

Indeed you would never understand.....

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Just thought i'd throw in my 2 cents, even tho trying to sort out my first punt has turned out to be disaster.

From what i gather, most punters seem to be middle aged and above so their sitution is slighty different to mine, for reasons already explained in this thread. For me i'm in my 20's, and what I do for a living means I work between 14 and 16 hours a day. When I was at uni I had more than my fair share, but now days, because of my job, any relationship I have tends to turn into a complete disaster because i'm never there. To me thats fair enough, I'm just sleeping in the bed I knowingly made for myself. For me right now, my business is the most important thing to me, and it's pointless and unfair to get involved with a girl when I know i'm probably just gonna end up hurting her. If i do that, well that just makes me a dickhead really doesn't it...

So for me, seeing an escort fits my life quite well at the moment. I understand that if my friends or colleagues knew about what I was doing then they would probably look down at me, but what can I say... I like women, but i'm a good guy at the same time.

That's how it is for me...

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I had punted on and off for a few years before I met my partner. It was almost 5 years after we got together that I started punting again. For me it was a mixture of the frequency had fallen since our first few years (pre-kids) and a desire for more variety. Since then I would say there hasn't been any particular correlation with the state of the relationship or frequency which is still not what it was. It's really my desire for variety that tends to drive me to more punting.

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Just wonder to what extent ( if any) your frequency of punting is affected by just how well or how badly you are getting on with your wife or partner ?

I am going through a particularly good patch with my SO and I am finding that my hunger to punt is not as strong as it has been in the past 18 months or so. I have not punted for approx 2 months now,only have some massage and HR. I had a full ( and somewhat painfull but clear) sex health check-up recently in anticipation of getting things together with my better half and this is also diluting my enthusiam to punt as the chance of passing on of an sti to her is unthinkable.

Do you feel you punt more when things are going particularly well or does it have any effect at all ?

B/w SO................... WTF

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Not my experience, no. I punted before I was married, punted when I had a girlfriend, punted when I didn't, punted when I was married and the sex was plentiful and punted when it wasn't. Only a complete loss of interest in women would stop me punting.

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Just wonder to what extent ( if any) your frequency of punting is affected by just how well or how badly you are getting on with your wife or partner ?

I am going through a particularly good patch with my SO and I am finding that my hunger to punt is not as strong as it has been in the past 18 months or so. I have not punted for approx 2 months now,only have some massage and HR. I had a full ( and somewhat painfull but clear) sex health check-up recently in anticipation of getting things together with my better half and this is also diluting my enthusiam to punt as the chance of passing on of an sti to her is unthinkable.

Do you feel you punt more when things are going particularly well or does it have any effect at all ?

Sorry, just noticed the question in the OP should have read;

"Do you feel you punt less when things are going particularly well or does it have any affect at all ?"

Duh !! However,thankfully I note you all understood the jist of it anyway. I see that a number of the married guys have said that if they were having any sex at all with their wives, they would refuse to punt.

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B/w SO................... WTF

I think SO its Significant Other...might be wrong. No idea why people abbreviate it though. Probably they might feel a lesser guilt to use two letters innocuous abv, instead of wife, girlfriend, partner, etc.

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I think SO its Significant Other...might be wrong. No idea why people abbreviate it though. Probably they might feel a lesser guilt to use two letters innocuous abv, instead of wife, girlfriend, partner, etc.

Significant other (or SO) is colloquially used as a gender-blind term for a person's lover in an intimate relationship without disclosing or presuming anything about marital status, relationship status, or sexual orientation, as it is vague enough to avoid offense by using a term that an individual might consider inappropriate.

Think your right about the guilt thing though.

Not a clue what b/w is though. Some secret punters code.

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Significant other (or SO) is colloquially used as a gender-blind term for a person's lover in an intimate relationship without disclosing or presuming anything about marital status, relationship status, or sexual orientation, as it is vague enough to avoid offense by using a term that an individual might consider inappropriate.

Think your right about the guilt thing though.

Not a clue what b/w is though. Some secret punters code.

maybe between

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I don't think it makes a difference, it is the excitment of being with a girl you would never get in the "real" world, my wife is beautiful, we still have a reasonable sex life, yet I still punt, Variety is the spice of life, didn't experiance much when I was younger, got married at an early age, now just don't want to get old and regret never having done this, wish it as the other way round, had this life when I was younger, then got married and stopped, but that's life, it doesn't always work out as you planned.

Interesting thread here (just found this finally)...

I had punted before I met my current SO and stopped...this was about 3 years ago... I recently just started punting again...I still have a regular sex life with my SO but I think the urge to punt has come back...

In my mind I split between being selfish (and the thrill/excitement of seeing escort) and that of feeling guilt and fear of the risks...

Is it such case for you guys (punters and escort alike) here?

PS. apologies if this touches several topics/threads in this forum

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Me too. If I had any sex with my SO I would not punt. Taking it a step further I don't understand why men in their 20s, 30s and 40s with a sex life ( possibly not perfect but with sex none the less ) feel the need to pay for sex. It could be that wifey will not do things which the hookers will or that they feel that they don't get enough. I am older and get no sex at all unless I pay for it. Other than this small detail we get on fine.

Because as they say "sex for money is cheaper than sex for free"

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Not my experience, no. I punted before I was married, punted when I had a girlfriend, punted when I didn't, punted when I was married and the sex was plentiful and punted when it wasn't. Only a complete loss of interest in women would stop me punting.

I'm more or less married in everything but the paperwork and I completely echo Mr Bloom's sentiments

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