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Knowing Lady's Real Name Etc

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A question for the ladies mainly but also for the gents.. There is a lady (part-time working girl) who I have met before and will do again. I have come to know her real name (longish story), know her regular daytime job etc.

Now say her real name is Stacy and the name she uses while escorting is Emma..

I think I would feel a little awkward referring to her as Emma and would prefer to use Stacy.. but I dont know how she would feel if she knew that I know?

Questions are:

Should I

1) Confess to her what I know? If so should I do it in person, email , phone??

2) Pretend I know nothing?

3) Do something else?

Any advice/opinions appreciated!

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A question for the ladies mainly but also for the gents.. There is a lady (part-time working girl) who I have met before and will do again. I have come to know her real name (longish story), know her regular daytime job etc.

Now say her real name is Stacy and the name she uses while escorting is Emma..

I think I would feel a little awkward referring to her as Emma and would prefer to use Stacy.. but I dont know how she would feel if she knew that I know?

Questions are:

Should I

1) Confess to her what I know? If so should I do it in person, email , phone??

2) Pretend I know nothing?

3) Do something else?

Any advice/opinions appreciated!

A working name is for work and all those that know me through work. If I wanted someone to call me by my real name at work I would not have a working name.

I doubt I am alone in this.

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To be honest you will have to use your own judgement on this. In my experience girls who wish, will tell me their names, its a bit like being invited to tutoyer someone in French. So far only 2 girls have bothered.

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A lapdancer I used to know well told me her real name. When we spoke together in private (giving her a lift to work etc) I used her real name. In public, her working name. There was never a problem with that. Of course, if I'd found out her real name by accident, I wouldn't have let on, it being against her wishes to do so.

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To be honest you will have to use your own judgement on this. In my experience girls who wish, will tell me their names, its a bit like being invited to tutoyer someone in French. So far only 2 girls have bothered.

True that.

I'd stick with saying nothing until they mention their real name, and if they don't say nothing.

Only happened with one girl I know and she just blurted it into conversation one day, I said, 'shit, you've given the game away now and said your real name', to which she replied something along the lines of 'oh well, seen you a few times now, think I can trust you' and on that note, we've been on first name terms since.

Say nowt until something is said to you....

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A lapdancer I used to know well told me her real name. When we spoke together in private (giving her a lift to work etc) I used her real name. In public, her working name. There was never a problem with that. Of course, if I'd found out her real name by accident, I wouldn't have let on, it being against her wishes to do so.

If a lady wishes to tell you her real name, she will. The next problem is whether you call her by it. You have, IMHO, the right answer. If you find her out, outside your "relationship", under no circumstances let on. If you do, she will take it (probably rightly) that you have been straying over the boundaries, or, worse, stalking!

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If you've found out this info off of your own back, without any help from her..., then there's know way you should tell her! She will think you are a creep and I'd have thought she might even find you very scary! Please note: I'm not saying you are, but several girls have told me that they've had trouble with obsessives, do you want her to think you might be one!

On a related matter, a girl I see regularly, emailed me her real name (facebook account) and her modeling website, again this uses her real name. This has totally stumped me, as I don't know whether to use her WG name when I go and see her, or her real name. So far I've gotten around it by using hunni and the likes!

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I have come to know a surprisingly large number of my regulars' names. Like you I tend to call them "hunni" or "sweetheart" but with some I have asked them how they would like me to address them. Some prefer their working name as it is in that guise that we are meeting, others their real name as it can be a relief and less complicated.

But if you're meeting her in her guise as Emma and she hasn't volunteered her name, that's how you should address her :)

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Use her working name, I would not mention you know her name. If she wanted you to ever use her real name, she would tell you herself.

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I find addressing them as, "me ol' China" drives them wild.

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I find addressing them as, "me ol' China" drives them wild.

"Keep going kinky bitch" also brings a reaction ;)

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When working, I always prefer to be called by my working name, Felicity.

This is because, when I am "Felicity" I am in my own secret, chosen world, happy and having fun!

When I am not working, I am my "real name" and usually doing tedious, boring chores and not having much fun at all!

It is therefore in my clients best interest to call me Felicity!

My advice would be to use her working name and not mention her real name at all!

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I know the real names of the three girls that I visit. Two have told me as during general conversation when it became evident thatwe have friends in common. The third invited me to her home (rather than her work place)and there were birthday cards of her's on display. I do consider it an honour to be trusted with their real names and think of all three as genuine friends. This does however leave me with some conflict of emotion. I am not stupid enough to think that these girls would bed me outside of work, but by knowing their actual name leads me to think that I do know the real person. As a rseult I am careful to always refer to them by their working name during a booking, but by their real name at all other times. (I do cross paths with two of them frequently)

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"Keep going kinky bitch" also brings a reaction ;)

'Dirty Hoe' does it for me lol :D

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If the lady wants you to call her by her real name, she will tell you it herself and ask you to do so. Until that time, you should continue to use her working name.

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If the lady wants you to call her by her real name, she will tell you it herself and ask you to do so. Until that time, you should continue to use her working name.

Agreed. And if her real name becomes known in any other way, cast it from your mind. Using it could give rise to problems, particularly for her.

And do please remember, folks, that it's easy to make a mistake on a Board - or in company - and to type/say the 'wrong' name for the situation. So I try to think of each lady by her working name in all public areas. So follow the advice (quoted above) from Ermintrude.

Ooops.

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Agreed. And if her real name becomes known in any other way, cast it from your mind. Using it could give rise to problems, particularly for her.

And do please remember, folks, that it's easy to make a mistake on a Board - or in company - and to type/say the 'wrong' name for the situation. So I try to think of each lady by her working name in all public areas. So follow the advice (quoted above) from Ermintrude.

Ooops.

Wat he said!

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If the lady wants you to call her by her real name, she will tell you it herself and ask you to do so. Until that time, you should continue to use her working name.

Wat she said!

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Over the years there have been several occasions where real names have become known. Which gets used seems to have been a function of how early in the (professional) relationship the real name was revealed.

One lady, on our 2nd meet, announced her name and stated that the pseudonym was for advertising and idiots. On one occasion after that I used the work name when phoning and "got wrong" as we'd say up here.

With another reg of many years it is still the work name, despite knowing all about each other, families work etc.

The usual way "real" names are revealed is by the lady e-mailing from an account set up to send name - maintain absolute silence on that.

I always punt in my own 1st name and I guess for visits to my place, if they can be bothered, the full name ain't that hard to get.

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When I was quite new to this hobby, I was surprised to get an e-mail from a lady I had seen, signed with her real first name. Next time I saw her I asked her if it was a mistake, and she said it was not a mistake and it was ok to use it - I'm sure that's the right way to handle it.

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I had a funny experience in the opposite direction. I'm one of these people who is known by their middle name. However my credit cards are issued using my first name (because that's the system!). So when I book a hotel the reservation is in my "formal" name. After an overnight in a hotel with a lovely member of this board, she left my room, but reappeared at the door seconds later, having remembered that she needed my name as well as the room number to get her car out of the car park. We had met several times at that stage but she only knew my everyday first name. She actually just wanted to know my surname but if course I told her the first name that the hotel had at check in. The look on her face when she thought that I'd been spinning her a line about my name was priceless!

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A question for the ladies mainly but also for the gents.. There is a lady (part-time working girl) who I have met before and will do again. I have come to know her real name (longish story), know her regular daytime job etc.

Now say her real name is Stacy and the name she uses while escorting is Emma..

I think I would feel a little awkward referring to her as Emma and would prefer to use Stacy.. but I dont know how she would feel if she knew that I know?

Questions are:

Should I

1) Confess to her what I know? If so should I do it in person, email , phone??

2) Pretend I know nothing?

3) Do something else?

Any advice/opinions appreciated!

I think you should respect the girls choice and not embarrass her by mentioning it.

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Several guys know my real first name (and personal phone number for that matter), but it is not used during a booking. I do however have one client to whom knowing and using my real name is more important to him than not using it is to me (IYSWIM), so he uses it. It's quite weird though.

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I've been in this situation to a strange extent. A few years ago I got into a relationship with an escort and we ended living together most of the time. She had a working name but obviously I knew her real name, I'll say Suzanne as an example, (it wasn't that). When she got friendly with a regular or was talking to other WGs she would tell them her real name was Sue, this was where it got complex for me. The main problem came at social do's I had to remember which name to use with which person, (when she had a few drinks she had the same problem too). One weekend we went went away with another lady and her fella, we all got a bit out of it and I found out later that the other couple had picked up on her real name over the weekend). One funny thing was that everyone else that she knew in the 'real world', friends, family etc called her Suzanne, but her cousin who was also her best friend used to call her Susie. I stress again her name wasn't Suzanne, but it was one of those names that has several variables. The reason she would tell people she got to know that her name was Sue was that she never liked the working name sh'd picked and felt uncomfortable with it, a good reason for picking a working name you're happy with!

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