Helen Jones

Behind His Back

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A recent post almost made me ask on the thread if it is possible to work an an escort , "behind you partners back" (as it was presented.)

I started to answer about it not being possible to work with out your partner knowing, then I realised that I actually meant it would be hard to work without a partner knowing, in the way I work.

and there are many ways to work as an escort.

It must be more difficult to work without a partner knowing, as an independent than say at a parlour or agency,

Just out of idle curiosity are there any girls here who have a partner, and work as escorts without him knowing, and is it fair on the partner to do this? I would some how feel unfaithful. How do others feel?

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i replied to this thread over 4 hours ago!!! my original message not here!!

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i replied to this thread over 4 hours ago!!! my original message not here!!

Nothing waiting in Pre-mod, Only a duplicate of the reply.

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I can tell you only this,I used to see an indie WG a couple of years back who I actually fell for very badly,not stalker wise but I did actually ask her if she would go out with me as a date, proper date no payments, no sex expected at the end of the night just a normal romance?

She told me that she couldn't,she already had a boyfriend,she loved him very much and only escorted for the money so they could save up and marry.

I was naturally sad because I'd actually fallen for her but,I understood and told her that the guy was a lucky man,then Iasked,does he know that you are an escort?

She said no,he works up north and they see each other every weekend,he thinks she sells perfume at some dept store or something and she makes sure she rings hime very day particularly at night so he knows she's not out on the wag.

She told me that she would be happy to perhaps go out with me a couple of times and that she would always welcome me as a client but, she really did love her Boyfriend and that when she had enough money she'd give it all up. It took a while to dawn on me that why would she want me as a boyfriend when I go around with WGs,her Boyfriend probably never did/does so why would she want me,what a fool I was to think she'd want me!

I saw her in her capacity as a WG another couple of times before I stopped seeing her,I found the whole thing very sad and I really hope she made it with her Boyfriend,you see,I really loved her and I really hope she's happy. Sorry it's so long but I really let this one get to me and it's good to eventually let it out!!!

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The sheer logistics of keeping something like that secret baffle me. In a serious relationship ie. living together, going out for a number of months etc. you'd think it'd be impossible to conceal your profession. I'm sure for indies who maybe only see two or three clients a week, depending on their situation, would be able to keep it a secret but it must be close to impossible for a parlour girl to hide the fact she works in a sauna most days. Hiding the amount of extra cash and where it came from is another thing to consider.

Aside from that, it's not particularly fair on your partner to keep something like that a secret for so many reasons.

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What's the difference between a wg keeping it from their partner and a punter keeping what he does from his partner?

It is unfair from both sides, but if they knew the truth, would they be able to handle the truth to quote A few good men

we both have no choice but to keep it a secret, most people would not understand why we do this.

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I'm not a fan of people punting behind their partners back either, I think that's highly unfair too but that's another discussion for another thread I'm sure.

The difference however is that most likely someone working as a WG behind their partners back will be seeing numerous partners a week, maybe even a day. A man punting behind his partner's back will most likely see a couple of WG's a month. Obviously that's just making a rough estimate but I'm sure you get what I mean.

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Lots of girls do this job with their partner having no idea at all. It is not an ideal situation and very stressful but it happens a lot. The jobs they tell partners they have vary from mobile hairdressers/beautician to the best one I have ever heard working in a car wash. Somehow though they seem to get away with it. Some are married with kids and some just met boyfriends but 80% of the time they get found out and it gets pretty ugly but I guess it is pretty difficult to suddenly break it to your partner that you have been working as a ho for years. When one of my maids told my husband he attempted suicide, up until that point he had no idea. Most men could never even imagine their partners would do this for a job. In civvy street men have a certain stereo type they assume would work as a ho and normally their wife/girlfriend does not fit the bill.

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My t'other half did not know when we met, it was a whurlywind romance, he moved up very soon after we met, I was sensible enough to tell him he could not move in with me so he moved in with my bro, he thought I had a job in town accounts and whatnot, he was a suspicious type and followed me as I was 'going to work' snapped me out big time............7 years or so later still together! Silly thing was I was looking for a new job so I could give it up after I met him as I did not want to keep something so big from him.

S x

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the girls that i know of who have partners and dont tell them are incredibly stressed 99 percent of the time

this is just some of what i know they go through

The constant lying, being on edge, remembering what lies they have said and to who and when, how to dipose of the money ie havving more money than you should have if your working in a shop bar care assistant hairdresser ect

hiding the evidence ( i dont mean used condoms :D ) but all the stuff that us escorts need to work condoms toys uniforms stockings lingerie )

having different phones that cant be explained

having a website and hoping that you wont get found out from it

worrying if your have left someting incriminatig on the pc - phone ect

but the one that i could not get my head round was the escort that i knew whos boyfriend did not know what she did but she wsa incredibly jealous of hime even speaking to any women and did not trust him couldnt get my head round this one

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I would never enter into a relationship without telling my intended my profession. I did hide it from my partner when I first came in seriously, that was as part of some extenuating circumstances on both parts however.

I do know that I could not hide this job from anyone, and don't wish to. No point as when it came to light it would destroy whatever we had. Any man I'm involved with must accept me, full stop.

I also choose very carefully, if at all.

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Call me a hopeless romantic, but I consider relationships to be an all-or-nothing situation. I have a tendancy to suddenly leave the industry whenever I start a relationship, simply because I find it impossible to enjoy my work when there is somebody else on my mind. I dont think anybody can expect to find happiness in something that is built on a bed of lies, and so IMO honesty will always be the best policy.

There is nothing worse than seeing hurt on the faces of people you care about. I can't understand how you can love somebody, while lying about something so important?

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Call me a hopeless romantic, but I consider relationships to be an all-or-nothing situation. I have a tendancy to suddenly leave the industry whenever I start a relationship, simply because I find it impossible to enjoy my work when there is somebody else on my mind. I dont think anybody can expect to find happiness in something that is built on a bed of lies, and so IMO honesty will always be the best policy.

There is nothing worse than seeing hurt on the faces of people you care about. I can't understand how you can love somebody, while lying about something so important?

Hello you, yes you are a hopeless romantic and that is what makes you so wonderful but the thing is Carmen you have youth on your side. Some of us entered the Industry because we had children and mortgages and rising debts that the 9-5 job wasn't helping. I didn't go out of my way to lie to my husband but I knew it wasn't a conversation we would be having anytime in the future. Of course he found and it was awful keeping the lies from him but when school fees have to be paid a lie to your husband or moving your children from their friends and the stability of schooling the lie is always going to win.

Good to see you on here, Is your Pm box full of men begging for you yet x x

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I've been a regular with one lady for over 2 years and we know a lot about each other. Just as we met she got a boyfriend. She was quite desperate for a boyfriend as she found the WG life very difficult as a single woman. She is absolutely stunning to look at and you would think that boyfriends would be no problem. The problem is finding one who can emotionally handle her job. The current boyfriend did a deal- he would accept her job as long as she would support him financially-so he gave up work and sits around all day, doing whatever he does, while she works her ass off. I cannot tell her what I think of the arrangement as it really is none of my business but personally I think he is a lazy bastard except I wouldn't use the word bastard.The word I would use is insulting to women and I like women a lot more than I like men like him.

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I've been a regular with one lady for over 2 years and we know a lot about each other. Just as we met she got a boyfriend. She was quite desperate for a boyfriend as she found the WG life very difficult as a single woman. She is absolutely stunning to look at and you would think that boyfriends would be no problem. The problem is finding one who can emotionally handle her job. The current boyfriend did a deal- he would accept her job as long as she would support him financially-so he gave up work and sits around all day, doing whatever he does, while she works her ass off. I cannot tell her what I think of the arrangement as it really is none of my business but personally I think he is a lazy bastard except I wouldn't use the word bastard.The word I would use is insulting to women and I like women a lot more than I like men like him.

What an ass-hole and you are totally right you can say nothing, but I bet you it would be nothing she does not already know!

My other half finds it hard, when he sees that I can earn as much in a single booking as his weekly wage it does piss him off from time to time that is natural! Especially when he has to start at 7am and it is dark and the weather is shitty and all he wants to do is pull the dooner back over his head, of course he gets a little resentful when he comes home at 10pm from a busy day at work and then I tell him I been just lazing around doing a bit of reading, watching telly etc (gotta have those mental days off) then of course he has to appreciate the extra income into the household!

She needs to tell him that it is fine him giving up his normal job on the condition he sucks cock to pay his share, see how quickly he goes back to work.

S x

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I've been a regular with one lady for over 2 years and we know a lot about each other. Just as we met she got a boyfriend. She was quite desperate for a boyfriend as she found the WG life very difficult as a single woman. She is absolutely stunning to look at and you would think that boyfriends would be no problem. The problem is finding one who can emotionally handle her job. The current boyfriend did a deal- he would accept her job as long as she would support him financially-so he gave up work and sits around all day, doing whatever he does, while she works her ass off. I cannot tell her what I think of the arrangement as it really is none of my business but personally I think he is a lazy bastard except I wouldn't use the word bastard.The word I would use is insulting to women and I like women a lot more than I like men like him.

What an arse, I really couldnt get my head around this, is she that desperate for a man so much so that she is prepared to tolerate this twat?

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Hello you, yes you are a hopeless romantic and that is what makes you so wonderful but the thing is Carmen you have youth on your side. Some of us entered the Industry because we had children and mortgages and rising debts that the 9-5 job wasn't helping. I didn't go out of my way to lie to my husband but I knew it wasn't a conversation we would be having anytime in the future. Of course he found and it was awful keeping the lies from him but when school fees have to be paid a lie to your husband or moving your children from their friends and the stability of schooling the lie is always going to win.

Good to see you on here, Is your Pm box full of men begging for you yet x x

Thankyou :-)

However, I do understand where you are coming from. I'm in a rather unfortunate, selfish situation whereby I can afford to put my own feelings before anybody elses.

I'm quite certain that if I could include children in the equation, than they would obviously come first. Although, I still live in hope that I won't be having children until I meet the kind of person that can accept me exactly as I am. My original point still stands, that I would never expect a relationship built on lies to work out, but that doesn't stop us living in hope. Maybe one day, a wonderful guy will understand exactly why we have made these choices. But I will still always think that is is unfair to allow somebody to develop feelings without knowing of the profession we are involved in.

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She needs to tell him that it is fine him giving up his normal job on the condition he sucks cock to pay his share, see how quickly he goes back to work.

S x

Why do you equate a woman sucking cock with a man sucking cock? You need to compare like with like. I am sure he would be happy to suck pussy, if this was a viable job.

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The boy friend of the lady I regularly see does not work but he does drive her to work and pick her up from the 4 different parlours she works at- one day per week at each. So in a way he is her pimp, he doesn't work and he lives off her. However, she was working already when she met him and when she told him what she did he nearly walked away from the relationship. I really can't understand why an intelligent beautiful lady who makes a load of money needs a guy like this- but then again we all need someone don't we?

Why do you equate a woman sucking cock with a man sucking cock? You need to compare like with like. I am sure he would be happy to suck pussy, if this was a viable job.

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Thankyou :-)

However, I do understand where you are coming from. I'm in a rather unfortunate, selfish situation whereby I can afford to put my own feelings before anybody elses.

I'm quite certain that if I could include children in the equation, than they would obviously come first. Although, I still live in hope that I won't be having children until I meet the kind of person that can accept me exactly as I am. My original point still stands, that I would never expect a relationship built on lies to work out, but that doesn't stop us living in hope. Maybe one day, a wonderful guy will understand exactly why we have made these choices. But I will still always think that is is unfair to allow somebody to develop feelings without knowing of the profession we are involved in.

Very eloquently put :D I like your philosophy

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Why do you equate a woman sucking cock with a man sucking cock? You need to compare like with like. I am sure he would be happy to suck pussy, if this was a viable job.

Getting paid to suck pussy - eh?

That sounds like my kinda job - to tell you the truth I'd even pay to do that - oh hang on......!!!

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Why do you equate a woman sucking cock with a man sucking cock? You need to compare like with like. I am sure he would be happy to suck pussy, if this was a viable job.

Why not, I am sure his girlfriend does not want to suck some of the cocks she has to suck and as you say no pay in sucking pussy so he wont be contributing will he?

S x

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I have no problem with the woman being the breadwinner and the man not having a job -- provided that he does what SHE would normally do if the roles were reversed, which is keep house. If she's earning their joint living on her back, then he should do the shopping, plan and cook the meals, wash the dishes, mop the floors, dust the furniture, do the laundry, make the beds, scrub the loo... you get the idea. :) But I doubt if most men living off the earnings of WGs do all that in return. :)

As for what you tell your partner you do -- tell them you're in security for a multinational. This explains the extra mobile phone and the odd hours. I was going to say, tell them you're in MI5, but a number of working girls I know don't spell well enough for that to be credible. Also, anybody who tells you they're in MI5 is by definition NOT in MI5. :)

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Why not, I am sure his girlfriend does not want to suck some of the cocks she has to suck and as you say no pay in sucking pussy so he wont be contributing will he?

S x

Unless he is bi, sexual contact with a man would be more unpleasant for him than for her. Pretty obvious point, really. As for her, if the cock is unpleasant then she should not feel obliged to suck it.

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IMO most ladies do not like sucking cock no matter how clean it is ( I know I am going off subject a bit here but someone might find it interesting )it's just what they have told me when I have got to know them well.I have given up asking for owo because out of 30+ who have tried only one lady has done it in such a way as for me to really enjoy it and she has retired. On the other hand I love giving oral and that is probably why they "open up " to me.

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