Lara Brooks

Bloody Assumptions!

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There is one thing guaranteed to rub me up the wrong way and that is to make assumptions about my business. Sorry, I just have to let off some steam as I’ve just this minute received the following email from someone who was keen to meet until I said I was busy on the day he suggested:

Hello Lara

I have just been looking at your calender to try to arrange a date and time then you are free and, no offence but it appears that you are not quite as exclusive and part time as your website suggests with how busy you appear to be. One thing that attracted me to you was being part time and appearing to see a small number of clients during a week/month. Sorry if I have wasted your time but I don't think I'll be booking and there's truly no offence meant.

Thanks

*****

Hello *****

Things aren’t always as they appear though! I am a part time escort who sees maximum of two clients a day on those day when I actually do see clients, but most of the time it’s only one visitor. I am busy doing lots of other things in my life; for example, these past few days I’m on a course, Monday I will have no electricity here due to tree cutting near power lines so I’m having the day off, then I’m on a couple of one day (non-work related) outings, then from the 20th to the 31st Oct I’m on holiday, after which I have numerous other courses and events I’m attending. It’s always best not to assume things as it’s so easy to get it wrong isn’t it. If you don’t consider me too much of a slapper you are most welcome to visit; the days marked “busy” on my calendar do not necessarily mean I’m busy having sex, LOL.

Best wishes

Lara.

GRRRRR! I do have a life and I do not spend all of it shagging for money! I was just off to bed but now I have to try and unwind; I'm so cross I'm tingling :angry:

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Lara, it's his loss, you are who are... and do what you do, without the need for any justification.

Sleep well :)

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^^^

wot Louisa said. So, he made assumptions, and you handled it gracefully. Now go to bed and sleep the sleep of the innocent. :)

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Thanks you two :) I shall go to bed and dream of eggs and faces :D

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And the radfems say we have no power or control.... :D

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And the radfems say we have no power or control.... :D

Funny how when someone starts a sentence with the words 'no offence, but...' you just know it's going to be bloody offensive.

I've had similar with a regular guy who almost always over-runs his time. On the one occasion when I said 'I really must chuck you out (with a smile) as I've got plans for this afternoon' he said in a most put-out tone 'Oh, sorry, I hope I haven't worn you out too much now you've got to shag some other bloke'.

My plans were completely non-work related. He left with his balls - just.

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Maybe if Lara had different colours on her website calendar, for different activities; red for "I am fucking someone else", blue for "I am doing a course", green for "I am mucking out the stables" and lurid purple for "Take me now, Big Boy"?

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Maybe if Lara had different colours on her website calendar, for different activities; red for "I am fucking someone else", blue for "I am doing a course", green for "I am mucking out the stables" and lurid purple for "Take me now, Big Boy"?

Lol... and yellow for "I'm doing a lot of shagging today, so please don't outstay your welcome!!"

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Lol... and yellow for "I'm doing a lot of shagging today, so please don't outstay your welcome!!"

Recently I had an email asking me "why" I advertise as I surely must be so popular, and in the past when I've said "I'm busy", "Fully Booked" or on a couple of occasions "on my way back/just out in the car" that I'm with/have been with clients.

Like a few other indies I see a certain amount of clients each day, around which I flex a personal life, relaxation, shopping(we need to eat you know), fitness regime(well you do like me fit, and so do I), and a million other things. Funny how chaps presume "being busy" is always about shagging. It's not and my intention is not to cram as many men as I can into my day.

Just as you might not always be working 24/7.

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the days marked “busy” on my calendar do not necessarily mean I’m busy having sex

Tell me about it.

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Tell me about it.

What is it with you girls?

We all know you sit aroung all day in your frillies waiting for the 'phone to ring, and when it does -oh joy, a good rogerig imminent.

I know you say it aint so but us lads dont really believe you. :lol:

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What is it with you girls?

We all know you sit aroung all day in your frillies waiting for the 'phone to ring, and when it does -oh joy, a good rogerig imminent.

I know you say it aint so but us lads dont really believe you. :lol:

Dearie me.

Come closer CP, I'd like a little chat with you, round the back. :angry:

;)

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the days marked “busy” on my calendar do not necessarily mean I’m busy having sex,

This is an aspiration of mine , busy having sex :)

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Well, Lara: that will teach you not to put the calendar of your availability. ;-)

Seriously though: I can't see the point of this calendars, especially if you are escorting part time. You might be only be available 2-5 hours a week, and the rest of the calendar you need to fill up as busy/unavailable.

Surely if the clients mail you, you always can tell them, if you be able to take the booking or not on requested date/time, or suggest to them alternative dates. Of course if you away, or engaged with your other matters for more then a day you can put notice on the website.

Unfortunately there are quite a high number of slightly dim clients in existence.:-(

Similar to Claire, I've heard one client said to me: " I wanted to book *inserted WG name*, but her availability on AWK is almost full. She most be very good and popular to be so busy, and I don't want to be another penis between so many others". I did told him, that she might working full time on civvy job, had a family and few kids to take care of, engaged in her hobbies/studies, etc, and only have an hour or two in a week to see clents, hence her calendar is full. I don't think he believed me.

Anyway Lara: Why do you want everybody to see when you available for booking or not? Its your private matter.

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...Seriously though: I can't see the point of this calendars, especially if you are escorting part time. You might be only be available 2-5 hours a week, and the rest of the calendar you need to fill up as busy/unavailable...

Weighing up the pros and cons I decided that, as I don’t have a set routine, I preferred to have an online calendar than have to reply to emails listing my availability over the following weeks. It was OK when I used to have every Wednesday off as I could easily put that on my site but it’s more complicated now. At least having the calendar for potential clients to see saves them the time and effort of contacting me to ask my availability only for me to say I’m busy. What I shall probably do though is explain more obviously, perhaps right next to the calendar, that just because it says “busy” does not necessarily mean busy shagging!

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I've tried all sorts of things with my availability regards calendars. Even taking it down caused chaps to think there was something wrong, that I was giving up etc. I find the best way is to simply state the hours during which you are willing to accept bookings. I also don't take time out for bookings as they arise, as this just became too complicated and sometimes misleading. I no-longer exclaim "fully booked" for the same reasons and this way seems to work best for this line of work.

I escort so I can have time to myself to follow my fitness, as well as academic and my own interests whilst having a decent income. I don't do it so I can be jam-packed every day, 8 hours a day. Before anyone then asks I do 'work' answering correspondance sometimes at 7am in the morning, taking enquiries from 9am/being with the phone, keeping the house and myself nicely presented and co-ordinating appointments etc. So two bookings a day are enough to keep work-life balance fairly steady, although I do still get gents being disappointed when I take a weekend or two off each month.

Seems you just can't please everyone, and I've never seen so much of this in any other line of work!

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I had a client turn up today at 1:45. I was waiting for a client that was running late (he had text to say he was 5-10 mins late) and was in my diary booked for 1:30. This other man, someone who has been to me before and is lovely and very fancible turns up at 1:45, I opened the door thinking it was the client who was in my diary and there was the one I wasn't expecting. He said he had phoned the week before and booked, however I always put people in my diary as we are speaking, I check the time and then book, so how could I make the mistake? He then told me he would come back at 3:10, as my next person had cancelled I could book him in. He never showed, never called to say he wouldn't be back which has left me very confused.....

Assumptions, did he assume that he could just turn up because I really can't see how I failed to write his name in. As I speak I put their names down and straight away after the conversation has finished I add their numbers in my diary.

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I had a client turn up today at 1:45. I was waiting for a client that was running late (he had text to say he was 5-10 mins late) and was in my diary booked for 1:30. This other man, someone who has been to me before and is lovely and very fancible turns up at 1:45, I opened the door thinking it was the client who was in my diary and there was the one I wasn't expecting. He said he had phoned the week before and booked, however I always put people in my diary as we are speaking, I check the time and then book, so how could I make the mistake? He then told me he would come back at 3:10, as my next person had cancelled I could book him in. He never showed, never called to say he wouldn't be back which has left me very confused.....

Assumptions, did he assume that he could just turn up because I really can't see how I failed to write his name in. As I speak I put their names down and straight away after the conversation has finished I add their numbers in my diary.

Are you sure this isn't the 1 in 1000 you forgot to write down?This is why I also like to have a confirmation system - it's a point of contact for everyone in case of problems arising, and many regulars if not confirming will text/call on their way to the door anyway.

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Are you sure this isn't the 1 in 1000 you forgot to write down?This is why I also like to have a confirmation system - it's a point of contact for everyone in case of problems arising, and many regulars if not confirming will text/call on their way to the door anyway.

I don't see how I could have done so, I never book unless I am in front of my diary. I write their names whilst I am on the phone to them. He says he booked last week. As soon as put the phone down I write their number as a saftey measure. The thing is if someone does book a week in advance, I will usually say to them, please confirm the day before or sometimes I say by 10 that morning, but not all the time. I then write to be confirmed next to their number. I spent the rest of the appointment time, half feeling confused and half guilty incase I had done as you say. My client who was booked is a regular, and was great about it all, as he turned up when the other man was just leaving. The thing is he turned up at 1:45 and did not text to say he would be late either, which is a wee bit strange :blink:

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This sort of thing makes me think of Dorothy Parkers quote ...

'Tell him I've been too fucking busy ... or vice versa.'

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I've got a bloody good one that has been bothering me for a while;

Why is it that when I say I don't work EVERY evening or EVERY weekend is it then assumed I have family(i.e. children) commitments?I just happen to not work 24/7, and need/like to have some time off.

I also often don't take appointments between 4 and 7.30pm, because this is a time I set aside for weight training. Running, swimming, cycling I usually do first thing so avoid late nights.

I just happen to do things at times others would be collecting/looking after their little ones. I suppose I am at "that age" though!!!!

Edited by Strawberry

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What is it they say

"Don't ASSUME as it makes an ASS out of U & ME

:D

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It never fails to amaze me when people send you emails to tell you that they do not wish to see you for any such made-up reason, when you have never hear of them before.

Ohhhhh I am so upset. I think not. What do they get out of it?

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Now now Ladies... We all know that if you aren't actively posting in PN, you obviously are busy with clients. Coz there's really nothing else to do besides clients or PN, right???

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