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:huh: Now this is gonna sound strange and maybe a tad stupid on my part.So here goes.

Yesterday i had an email through concerning an overnight booking.Came across as very charming and polite.Asking about incall/outcall overnight.recommend hotel,recommend resturant(pitures of going out when going for a meal).well i emailed back saying recommendations etc.got one back saying will book hotel 1 mile radius from mysef,would like a seafood resturant,doesnt matter if i didnt do CIM but would like OWO.never had such a detailed email before in my whole time on other site.totally word perfect,also had the questions i had asked and then underneath his reply etc,all very perfectly set our.He then sent a booking request through and i excepted it.

now after i had excepted it and i had a weird feeling about something,so had a look at his profile,all seemed lovely and perfect.got down to almost end of page and read"im adverse to escort wasting my time and cancelling or not turning up",very detailed but then read "i have a simple answer to this i will always leave negative feedback"

To be honest i dont wanna see this man but worried about getting neg feedback and how it will affect my future bookings.

So for the long story but i feel very uneasy now..HELP..

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:huh: Now this is gonna sound strange and maybe a tad stupid on my part.So here goes.

Yesterday i had an email through concerning an overnight booking.Came across as very charming and polite.Asking about incall/outcall overnight.recommend hotel,recommend resturant(pitures of going out when going for a meal).well i emailed back saying recommendations etc.got one back saying will book hotel 1 mile radius from mysef,would like a seafood resturant,doesnt matter if i didnt do CIM but would like OWO.never had such a detailed email before in my whole time on other site.totally word perfect,also had the questions i had asked and then underneath his reply etc,all very perfectly set our.He then sent a booking request through and i excepted it.

now after i had excepted it and i had a weird feeling about something,so had a look at his profile,all seemed lovely and perfect.got down to almost end of page and read"im adverse to escort wasting my time and cancelling or not turning up",very detailed but then read "i have a simple answer to this i will always leave negative feedback"

To be honest i dont wanna see this man but worried about getting neg feedback and how it will affect my future bookings.

So for the long story but i feel very uneasy now..HELP..

I don't see your problem. You were happy to see him before you read that if you don't turn up, he'll leave you neg feedback. Well, if you don't turn up, you'd deserve it! If you had no plans to 'jilt' him, why would this bother you?

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to my previous question,what i did forget to mention was i then got an email asking for pictures,to see if he would find me sexually attractive and if he could flirt with me over the table.i dont want this booking now.help..

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Agree with Claire. Why don't you want to see him? I really don't understand.

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to my previous question,what i did forget to mention was i then got an email asking for pictures,to see if he would find me sexually attractive and if he could flirt with me over the table.i dont want this booking now.help..

If you're thinking that he sounds like a timewaster (which, now I have read the above, would be my take on it) then cancel. If he negs you, you can leave a reply. Most guys when looking at your feedback will ready your replies and take a balanced view, I'm sure. But make sure you cancel with plenty of notice, don;t just stand him up. After all, he could be 100% genuine.

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to my previous question,what i did forget to mention was i then got an email asking for pictures,to see if he would find me sexually attractive and if he could flirt with me over the table.i dont want this booking now.help..

I can't believe that anyone would make a genuine overnight booking with someone before being certain that they found them sexually attractive. Sounds like he's a timewaster.

I would simply tell him that am sorry, I don't send out pictures to clients I haven't met and that I didn't feel comfortable accepting the booking.

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to my previous question,what i did forget to mention was i then got an email asking for pictures,to see if he would find me sexually attractive and if he could flirt with me over the table.i dont want this booking now.help..

If he has already paid you before the meal which I would consider normal, why not flirt with him at the table, that's perfectly normal behaviour on a dinner date?

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If you're thinking that he sounds like a timewaster (which, now I have read the above, would be my take on it) then cancel. If he negs you, you can leave a reply. Most guys when looking at your feedback will ready your replies and take a balanced view, I'm sure. But make sure you cancel with plenty of notice, don;t just stand him up. After all, he could be 100% genuine.

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You've quoted me but not added anything?

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The reason i want to cancel,is that it doesnt feel right.you know when you say trust your gut feeling.Thats how i feel.

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Go with your gut feelings, if you have niggling doubts then cancel, give plenty of notice so if he does neg you then you can leave a rebuttle.

S x

Whuups what Bristols said

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Lady B

From a neutral point of view I think you are 100% right to CANCEL if you have ANY doubts about a booking. Negative feed back is not as bad as the possible consequences of sepnding time alone with a wierdo.

THINK YOUR PERSONAL SAFETY should be the UPPERMOST consideration of any booking either for the WG or for the client.

SIMPLE RULE - If in any doubt DON'T DO IT !!

I am surprised any WG accepts an overnight from a client they are not familiar with to be honest.

TAKE CARE

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You could be honest with him and tell him the same story-just not turning up deserves negative feedback, I would have thought?

What is he is reading this!

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If you give the gentleman enough notice, I can't see how he would justify leaving you negative feedback.

Go with your instincts. Peace of mind is far more important.

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Hi lady b

I would go with my gut feeling, possibly the massively ovey detailed query got you worried, they are unusual, sometimes genuine but sometimes not, but the request for photos after booking is what would make me most uncomfortable. It's not really worth the risk. I personally will never commit to an overnighter before having met the client, if a date goes really well and turns into an overnighter then fine, but each to their own. Good luck in making the right decision for you. Xx

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To me (and I suspect large majority of people), there's a major difference between canceling with plenty of notice, and simply not turning up. To neg for a cancel... in my view is daft... but is not turning up probably deserves adverse report. (Like any "rule" there's always exceptions... e.g. in this case if person has a darn good reason, and contacts you as soon as possible to give it.)

Only time I faced similar situation (began to have doubts about some aspects of lady's feedback)... I canceled (6 days before meeting). Still got negged... which vexed me... but still felt better than going ahead with a meeting I know I wouldn't have enjoyed.

( Ultimately if guy negs you just reply "Canceled for good reason X days before meet". Leave it at that... don't bother with a "slanging match"... and people will draw their own conclusions as to which party is the pleasant and polite one.)

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Lady B

From a neutral point of view I think you are 100% right to CANCEL if you have ANY doubts about a booking. Negative feed back is not as bad as the possible consequences of sepnding time alone with a wierdo.

THINK YOUR PERSONAL SAFETY should be the UPPERMOST consideration of any booking either for the WG or for the client.

SIMPLE RULE - If in any doubt DON'T DO IT !!

I am surprised any WG accepts an overnight from a client they are not familiar with to be honest.

TAKE CARE

I totally agree!!! Its probably best to give him a 'nice' sob story that somethings come up unexpectedly but its a shame as u wanted to meet him. If he books again just ignore it...

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Better off out of it if you dont feel completely at ease beforehand !!

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It would worry me that he would book a overnight and then ask for a picture very strange I always go with my instinct maybe ask him to call you and be honest Annaxxxx

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to my previous question,what i did forget to mention was i then got an email asking for pictures,to see if he would find me sexually attractive and if he could flirt with me over the table.i dont want this booking now.help..

Not really understanding what or why you are having second thoughts. Seems to me that he has done nothing wrong,indeed he probably thought that asking for pics before making a booking may have be seen as time wasting, so waited until he had actually booked.

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I can't believe that anyone would make a genuine overnight booking with someone before being certain that they found them sexually attractive. Sounds like he's a timewaster.

I would simply tell him that am sorry, I don't send out pictures to clients I haven't met and that I didn't feel comfortable accepting the booking.

I do, mostly with success.

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I can't believe that anyone would make a genuine overnight booking with someone before being certain that they found them sexually attractive.

I do, mostly with success.

Well admittedly, unless you have already met the girl you can never be 'certain' that you will find her sexually attractive but I would defo want to try and satisfy myself as much as possible and this would include seeing decent pics before I would book an overnight. What steps if any would you take before committing ?

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to my previous question,what i did forget to mention was i then got an email asking for pictures,to see if he would find me sexually attractive and if he could flirt with me over the table.i dont want this booking now.help..

' flirt with you over the table '-- what in gods name would he mean. My guess is that he is talking about 'touchy feely ' in full view of others in the restaurant.perhaps a sort of showing off of you as a girlfriend etc. Kissing,running his fingers thru hair, holding hands across the table in front of the admiring looks of the lads at the other tables ! Sounds a sap,go with your instinct,dump him.

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Well admittedly, unless you have already met the girl you can never be 'certain' that you will find her sexually attractive but I would defo want to try and satisfy myself as much as possible and this would include seeing decent pics before I would book an overnight. What steps if any would you take before committing ?

Firstly I should have said "I do when I punt", as, without boring everyone and hopefuly not putting the mockers on it, I have more than I can handle with Miss Bangladesh. To answer your question I mostly use agencies and first go by looks and generally prefer a newish girl with a minimum of site FR's, then have a look on here for any too. I don't tend to be influenced by glowing FR's, paying more attention to the negatives. After making a decision of around 3 hopefuls I normally ring the Agency and sound them out and as I said MOSTLY have a sucessful overnight.

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:huh: Now this is gonna sound strange and maybe a tad stupid on my part.So here goes.

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So for the long story but i feel very uneasy now..HELP..

A lady has only one life! If she feels uneasy (let alone "very" uneasy) she cancels! She MUSTcancel. Just so. She can dress it up as "unforseen and unavoidable family matter" if she wants, but she owes it to herself to take the simple step of cancelling if she has a feeling in her water, however illogical it may seem.

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To me (and I suspect large majority of people), there's a major difference between canceling with plenty of notice, and simply not turning up. To neg for a cancel... in my view is daft... but is not turning up probably deserves adverse report. (Like any "rule" there's always exceptions... e.g. in this case if person has a darn good reason, and contacts you as soon as possible to give it.)

Only time I faced similar situation (began to have doubts about some aspects of lady's feedback)... I canceled (6 days before meeting). Still got negged... which vexed me... but still felt better than going ahead with a meeting I know I wouldn't have enjoyed.

( Ultimately if guy negs you just reply "Canceled for good reason X days before meet". Leave it at that... don't bother with a "slanging match"... and people will draw their own conclusions as to which party is the pleasant and polite one.)

This sounds like great advice to me.

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