tumblingdice

To Punt Or Not To Punt, That Is The Question

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Hi all

I've a bit of a dilemma and would welcome some advice.

I have a loving wife who I adore, we've been with for many years and we have a great sex life (when we're not too tired from work and kids that is) and yet I've been lurking on this site for the last couple of weeks getting info and working myself up to to have my first visit with an escort.

Why you ask? Well I suppose I'm what you call a 'nice guy', my life is pretty safe and predictable and I always seem to be the one putting myself out for other people. I guess I just want to do something selfish for myself, something with a bit of danger and excitement whilst fulfilling a fantasy with a beautiful stranger.

Do I throw caution to the wind, go for it and get it all out of my system (or start something I probably shouldn't) or do the potential dangers to my relationship out way the risk and I should leave it as a fantasy?

sorry for the long-winded post : S

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read this thread.

it gets off phones and to your dilemma quite quickly.

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Hi all

I've a bit of a dilemma and would welcome some advice.

I have a loving wife who I adore, we've been with for many years and we have a great sex life (when we're not too tired from work and kids that is) and yet I've been lurking on this site for the last couple of weeks getting info and working myself up to to have my first visit with an escort.

Why you ask? Well I suppose I'm what you call a 'nice guy', my life is pretty safe and predictable and I always seem to be the one putting myself out for other people. I guess I just want to do something selfish for myself, something with a bit of danger and excitement whilst fulfilling a fantasy with a beautiful stranger.

Do I throw caution to the wind, go for it and get it all out of my system (or start something I probably shouldn't) or do the potential dangers to my relationship out way the risk and I should leave it as a fantasy?

sorry for the long-winded post : S

In your situation as outlined above, is punting likely to ehance the wonderful the happy family home life you have and the loving active relationship you have with your wife. IMO, the very clear answer is NO. Stay away from this site and put your imaginitive energies into your own relationship with your wife, Come back later if you have very serious problems.

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Lindilala will soon be on you like a ton of bricks!.............lol

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In your situation as outlined above, is punting likely to ehance the wonderful the happy family home life you have and the loving active relationship you have with your wife. IMO, the very clear answer is NO. Stay away from this site and put your imaginitive energies into your own relationship with your wife, Come back later if you have very serious problems.

Are you prepared to live with the consequences of being found out or the guilt that may stay with you from the momement you leave the wg? If so, go for it, but if it all falls flat in your face, remember it was your choice.

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Be aware of the dangers, will you 'give yourself away' to you wife, even if you take the most considered precautions?

On the other hand, remember this truism: 'generally, you regret the things you didn't get around to doing'

If you do take the plunge make sure everything is covered, going home worrying about an STD isn't something you want to face.

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I can totally relate to you wanting to put a bit of excitement into your life, and doing something for yourself, but if you're happy with your home sex life I'd say try some other kicks first- get a sports car/motorbike/flying lessons, or just go out once a week at least to do something you are interested in.

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Hi all

I've a bit of a dilemma and would welcome some advice.

I have a loving wife who I adore, we've been with for many years and we have a great sex life (when we're not too tired from work and kids that is) and yet I've been lurking on this site for the last couple of weeks getting info and working myself up to to have my first visit with an escort.

Why you ask? Well I suppose I'm what you call a 'nice guy', my life is pretty safe and predictable and I always seem to be the one putting myself out for other people. I guess I just want to do something selfish for myself, something with a bit of danger and excitement whilst fulfilling a fantasy with a beautiful stranger.

Do I throw caution to the wind, go for it and get it all out of my system (or start something I probably shouldn't) or do the potential dangers to my relationship out way the risk and I should leave it as a fantasy?

sorry for the long-winded post : S

The fact that you confess to lurking on this site means you are halfway there already and you are looking for encouragement .

I would say choose your lady carefully, this is most important in your case. Contact a wg on this forum.

Move with speed before Lindilala gets wind of your plan, as another poster said, she will take the wind from your sails and leave you full of guilt . W.P.

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Hi all

I've a bit of a dilemma and would welcome some advice.

Decisions like these tend to "eat away" at me, rather than spend months in termoil and trying to make my mind up, I now tend to act on my impulses! You obviously have a real interest in trying this, else you wouldn't have posted on this forum!

Therefore, I'd suggest you give it a go! If it's not your thing, then the dilema is over...., if it is, then you'll have another issue, but deal with that if it rises! I'd try and find a situation that means getting found out is near impossible, like when you're away on business or the misses is away visiting her mother for a week, or such like, there are many small signs that a women can/will pick up on, I think it's best if she's well away! As one of the previous posters said, the biggest regrets in life are things you didn't do!

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Don't do it. If you have a great family life and still have a good sex life, consider yourself very lucky. Why risk it by cheating?

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Hi all

I've a bit of a dilemma and would welcome some advice.

I have a loving wife who I adore, we've been with for many years and we have a great sex life (when we're not too tired from work and kids that is) and yet I've been lurking on this site for the last couple of weeks getting info and working myself up to to have my first visit with an escort.

Why you ask? Well I suppose I'm what you call a 'nice guy', my life is pretty safe and predictable and I always seem to be the one putting myself out for other people. I guess I just want to do something selfish for myself, something with a bit of danger and excitement whilst fulfilling a fantasy with a beautiful stranger.

Do I throw caution to the wind, go for it and get it all out of my system (or start something I probably shouldn't) or do the potential dangers to my relationship out way the risk and I should leave it as a fantasy?

sorry for the long-winded post : S

A lot of guys here still love their wives, but not many also have the great sex! I really can't see what your problem is. If sex is 'great' then it sounds like you have a great life - why risk it?

I can sympathise with you - people often perceive me as being a 'nice guy' but I've always had a hidden (and perhaps darker) side to me that can surprise people.

As a previous poster suggested, if it's excitement you want and you already have great sex then look at something else - I tried flying a while ago and it was a real buzz.

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The fact that you have come on here for advice, indicates that you do not have the coolness to punt and be in a relationship. I am single, so dont have that worry. Moreover, most punters find punting addictive, at least for a while, can you afford it? Can you hide where the money is leaking away.?

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If I could go back, then I wouldn't start. I've had many enjoyable punts but I do think it ate away at my marriage. So if you love your wife, don't do it would be my advice.

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Given your overall set-up (loving wife, great sex, etc).... I'd look at different ways of introducing some variety in your life. Maybe take up ballroom dancing; walking holiday with a couple of like minded mates... whatever. I really wouldn't risk it all for fleeting pleasure.

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come on Lindilala, don't keep us in suspense!

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Hi all

I've a bit of a dilemma and would welcome some advice.

I have a loving wife who I adore, we've been with for many years and we have a great sex life (when we're not too tired from work and kids that is) and yet I've been lurking on this site for the last couple of weeks getting info and working myself up to to have my first visit with an escort.

Why you ask? Well I suppose I'm what you call a 'nice guy', my life is pretty safe and predictable and I always seem to be the one putting myself out for other people. I guess I just want to do something selfish for myself, something with a bit of danger and excitement whilst fulfilling a fantasy with a beautiful stranger.

Do I throw caution to the wind, go for it and get it all out of my system (or start something I probably shouldn't) or do the potential dangers to my relationship out way the risk and I should leave it as a fantasy?

sorry for the long-winded post : S

(Ace Ventura holds Tumblingdice's skull)

"Alas, poor Tumblingdice! I knew him, Horatio, a fellow of infinite

jest, of most excellent fancy of escorts".

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Vindaloo, do you seriously think I'd be stupid enough to comment on this!I'm sick of coming across all Mary Whitehouse! Its something I'm most definitely not!

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If you want to do something selfish with a bit of danger, go down to your local bookmakers and have a bet, that can be good fun and its only money, but think of the embarrassment if your wife or kids ever found out, would it be worth it? You say you have a good marriage and great kids don’t disrespect them like this..So many men would like to be in your place

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Vindaloo, do you seriously think I'd be stupid enough to comment on this!I'm sick of coming across all Mary Whitehouse! Its something I'm most definitely not!

You're coming around nicely, Linda. Just keep hanging out with this crowd here and the gates of paradise will soon open for you! :P

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Hi all

I've a bit of a dilemma and would welcome some advice.

I have a loving wife who I adore, we've been with for many years and we have a great sex life (when we're not too tired from work and kids that is) and yet I've been lurking on this site for the last couple of weeks getting info and working myself up to to have my first visit with an escort.

Why you ask? Well I suppose I'm what you call a 'nice guy', my life is pretty safe and predictable and I always seem to be the one putting myself out for other people. I guess I just want to do something selfish for myself, something with a bit of danger and excitement whilst fulfilling a fantasy with a beautiful stranger.

Do I throw caution to the wind, go for it and get it all out of my system (or start something I probably shouldn't) or do the potential dangers to my relationship out way the risk and I should leave it as a fantasy?

sorry for the long-winded post : S

Having perused the first 18 replies here, I would be willing to bet that the vast majority of posters urging caution or advising 'don't do it' are single (and probably have never been married) and, similarly, that the vast majority of those urging 'go for it' are married (many of them/us, happily). My own advice would be to choose carefully (based on FRs or advice from punters you know and trust) and test the water carefully. A single discreet tryst might be enough to help you decide whether to wade in deeper or to dry yourself off and remain a landlubber forever. You only live once and you will never know unless you try it. It is quite possible to have a 'double life' if you are careful and never lose sight of the risks - and minimise them. Keeping your upper brain focused is essential, even when your lower brain seeks to heed the Lorelei. :) Edited by Tiggy 7

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If you want to do something selfish with a bit of danger, go down to your local bookmakers and have a bet, that can be good fun and its only money, but think of the embarrassment if your wife or kids ever found out, would it be worth it? You say you have a good marriage and great kids don’t disrespect them like this..So many men would like to be in your place

Exactly. Why risk hurting your wife and destroying your family, for a bit of a thrill. It would just be selfish

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Having perused the first 18 replies here, I would be willing to bet that the vast majority of posters urging caution or advising 'don't do it' are single (and probably have never been married) and, similarly, that the vast majority of those urging 'go for it' are married (many of them/us, happily). My own advice would be to choose carefully (based on FRs or advice from punters you know and trust) and test the water carefully. A single discreet tryst might be enough to help you decide whether to wade in deeper or to dry yourself off and remain a landlubber forever. You only live once and you will never know unless you try it. It is quite possible to have a 'double life' if you are careful and never lose sight of the risks - and minimise them. Keeping your upper brain focused is essential, even when your lower brain seeks to heed the Lorelei. :)

I'm in the married / long term partner camp, but my advice would be not to start punting, as you are putting a lot at risk, especially as there are children in the relationship. You have to be in a positon where you accept the consequences of being caught. I have my reasons as to why I started punting, but I have found that the addicitve nature of it means that the reasons I carry on punting are different to why I started. It is now more about fantasy fulfillment. Problem is, I fullfill one fantasy, and I either want to repeat it, or fullfill a new one.

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So far you have had three suggestions for alternative hobbies that could bring excitement into your dull routine life: flying lessons, ballroom dancing, and having a flutter on the horses. I'm surprised no-one has yet recommended knitting or crosswords to satisfy the daredevil in you.

On the other hand, there's the prospect of having wild sex with a lady whose professional skill is in providing you with erotic ecstasy.

It's a tough one, isn't it?

Whatever you decide, don't go throwing caution to the winds. Caution is exactly what you will most need. Especially with the horses.

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Chris why is a prostitute better at sex than a non wg? Do they have some sort of skill than a regualr woman hasn't got ?If you pay then does it mean that you get somEthing a gf can't provide.I'm not convinced that someone who has good sex with a partner will get 'better' sex with a wgm Unless there is something the partner won't do of course.

Being an escort doesn't give your any professional skills!You don't go to uni to get a professional qualification!

Yes you might get sex with a better looking person!Being attractive doesn't make someone good in bed!I doubt very much that a 20yr old male model would necessarily be better to me than a partner providing I was already getting good sex?!

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Take care plan well and do it, better to regret what you did than what you didn't. You might think you have great sex but when you find that WG you click with you'll really know if that's true or not.

Make sure you can rationalise it before you do it. Be aware that it can be really addictive too.

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