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Ok first of this is my first post here I have been lurking for a while had not registered. But now im at the stage where I want to stop punting I haven't been doing it for long like some only 6 months but I want to stop for certain reasons but I don't know why I just cant it's like a feeling telling me to do it then after the punt I think to myself what the hell am I doing and regret it really I want to stop but don't know how, some will probably read and think it's stupid but oh well. Any advice???

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Spend your punting money on something else, depending on how much that is; buy a bigger house, a new car, new TV etc etc. I would say, if you no longer have the disposable income, that you used to go punting, it will pretty much stop you from going...., no?

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Ok first of this is my first post here I have been lurking for a while had not registered. But now im at the stage where I want to stop punting I haven't been doing it for long like some only 6 months but I want to stop for certain reasons but I don't know why I just cant it's like a feeling telling me to do it then after the punt I think to myself what the hell am I doing and regret it really I want to stop but don't know how, some will probably read and think it's stupid but oh well. Any advice???

I'm in a similar position, I want to stop but I'm not sure how. If you find an answer please let me know!!

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Spend your punting money on something else, depending on how much that is; buy a bigger house, a new car, new TV etc etc. I would say, if you no longer have the disposable income, that you used to go punting, it will pretty much stop you from going...., no?

It's more complicated than that. If it were that simple then any time someone wanted to give up cigarettes they'd just buy a bag of crisps instead.

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Ok first of this is my first post here I have been lurking for a while had not registered. But now im at the stage where I want to stop punting I haven't been doing it for long like some only 6 months but I want to stop for certain reasons but I don't know why I just cant it's like a feeling telling me to do it then after the punt I think to myself what the hell am I doing and regret it really I want to stop but don't know how, some will probably read and think it's stupid but oh well. Any advice???

How old are you ? Why did you start ? What do you get from punting ? Are you in a relationship ? Can you afford it ?

For starters. :)

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It's more complicated than that. If it were that simple then any time someone wanted to give up cigarettes they'd just buy a bag of crisps instead.

Interesting point there Jean! Do you think punting can have the same sort of addiction as a drug? Personally, I've not found it to be like that, I can take it or leave it. I have a budget for two one hour punts a month but I've not been since sept 10th. The reasons being, I've not seen anyone new advertising that is exactly my type and my regular girl has not been available...until tomorrow, that is :).

Now, if I had to take a pay cut of £250 a month, the thing I'd give up first is punting and I'd have to make do with porn DVDs :(.

Is the OP saying he's addicted, in the same way a drug addict needs a fix? :unsure:

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Whenever you feel the urge - masturbate - you should lose all interest in spending your money on a wg.

(and I AM being serious !)

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Interesting point there Jean! Do you think punting can have the same sort of addiction as a drug? Personally, I've not found it to be like that, I can take it or leave it. I have a budget for two one hour punts a month but I've not been since sept 10th. The reasons being, I've not seen anyone new advertising that is exactly my type and my regular girl has not been available...until tomorrow, that is :).

Now, if I had to take a pay cut of £250 a month, the thing I'd give up first is punting and I'd have to make do with porn DVDs :(.

Is the OP saying he's addicted, in the same way a drug addict needs a fix? :unsure:

I was all poised to reply that I don't consider myself an addict when I paused for a moment to look up the definition. And yes, I suppose that if I'm doing something that I'd rather stop yet I can't stop then it's an addiction. And I mean stop permanently, not just take a temporary break from. Fortunately punting is going to be less destructive than most drug addictions, and even some people's abuse of alchohol. My punting is much less frequest than yours, only about 6 times a year. I'd like to do it more often (or better still not at all) but don't have the freedom without forcing something, which I'm not prepared to do. Hope you enjoy your punt tomorrow. :)

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I suppose you could try to cut down first rather than stopping abruptly. That might help. Or you could go and see a therapist to deal with the feelings of regret. Once they are resolved it's game on.

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Can you give us some hints as to the reason you want to stop and we can perhaps advise? Otherwise, without you giving any context, I'd say the simplest thing is to get yourself a girlfriend...

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It's an addiction, there is simply no way to stop this. Kid A's suggestion is something that is worth trying however. I did plan last year to buy a new mobile phone & a new laptop, but that meant to give up one month of punt. Been one year now and never bought them yet..

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It's an addiction, there is simply no way to stop this. Kid A's suggestion is something that is worth trying however. I did plan last year to buy a new mobile phone & a new laptop, but that meant to give up one month of punt. Been one year now and never bought them yet..

That's a bit bleak, addiction's can be conquered you know, and aren't always as severe as you might think. I mean, smoking's an addiction (and one I've personally failed to give up) but I know plenty of people who have done.

I've definitely been through addictive stages when it comes to punting, especially when I had a lot more disposable cash - it's funny, I can look back now and see how I was taken over by my sexual urges - I'd be on the tube on the way home from work, and suddenly find myself getting off at a stop near a good parlour, or Soho, and wouldn't feel back to normal until after the punt.

But I just cut back and cut back, and now only punt three or four times a year on average (unless I'm in a relationship when I'm pleased to say I'm happy to stop completely). As is suggested above, when you're really gasping for it, try masturbating, and afterwards think of the money you've just saved. And then if you can afford it, spend it on something else that you really would like.

If you find it too much of a problem, then I would suggest visiting your GP - and don't worry about their reaction, trust me, they'll have heard far far worse. Or there are Sexual Addicition Anonymous type meetings all over the country, and it might be worth visiting one of them.

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That seems very sound advice from mr.orange regarding cutting back bit by bit, and relieving yourself manually when the urge come on! I totally empathize also with the bit about one moment "sitting on the tube" minding your own business the next thing you know getting off a stop early and walking into a parlour. Haven given this a bit if thought think personally it comes down to the sheer buzz of punting that injects excitement into the seeming daily grind as well Of course as base lust! I find to prevent these moments sabotaging yourself so to speak by cutting up credit cards, having less disposable cash and regular wanking all helps!

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Just jack off before you're about to set off for a punt. It immediately kills all desire to spend $$. I've tried it and it works.

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For a start stop coming on forums like this that promote paying for sex or at the least condone it. Everyone here will have a story to tell and/or a vested interested.

Get professional help firstly. Then re-evaluate your life and what is important to you, if you have a wife, gf or kids then they're your priority. The money you spend on prostitutes could be better spent on them and the rewards for you personally will be tenfold to that you'll receive from any WG ! If you have none of the above then spend that surplus cash on yourself, a motorbike, sports, holidays whatever. If it's not surplus cash then your answer is there in front of you, stop as you can't afford not to.

Failing that for £1000 I will offer you a 'fly on the wall' experience. After that you'll either give up for life or move in.

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The reasons you want to stop for are not as powerful as the reasons to continue. This applies to all "addictions" You are fighting a losing battle. Get stronger reasons for stopping.

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Ok first of this is my first post here I have been lurking for a while had not registered. But now im at the stage where I want to stop punting I haven't been doing it for long like some only 6 months but I want to stop for certain reasons but I don't know why I just cant it's like a feeling telling me to do it then after the punt I think to myself what the hell am I doing and regret it really I want to stop but don't know how, some will probably read and think it's stupid but oh well. Any advice???

Punting is an adventure trying something new

It is not easy to stop as to do so might imply you are gettting old

You could try buying a boat they cost a fortune to keep up

Thats what I did

I am not saying it works

There is nothing in the World better than making out with a bonnie lass

I have gone from a couple of times a mounth to almost never

The boats upkeep restricts my cash flow

Then I am no Saint

Adam was tempted by Eve in the begining

The beauty of Women & there temptation

Is the strongest force Men can face

Best of luck quiting I have only been punting 10 year or so

Nearly a none punter

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Ok first of this is my first post here I have been lurking for a while had not registered. But now im at the stage where I want to stop punting I haven't been doing it for long like some only 6 months but I want to stop for certain reasons but I don't know why I just cant it's like a feeling telling me to do it then after the punt I think to myself what the hell am I doing and regret it really I want to stop but don't know how, some will probably read and think it's stupid but oh well. Any advice???

Why should you feel to stop punting?

1) If You are not married or in relation: So you are not cheating on anyone by the punting.

2) If you are married and in relation: you must believe want kamasutra says, it is not a crime to enjoy any women who is previously enjoyed by many and works as a courtesan. Morally you should ensure that you don't start to spend so much on punting that you begin to cause financial problem to your family and are not able to take care of your family. You must see that you are still taking same care you will take whether punting or not. Your wife/girlfriend should not feel any difference in you or your attitute due to your punting.

3) You have problem funding your punting: Stop till you can afford or punt what you can afford and where you can afford.

4) Save money you spend on porn.

5) Be ready to accept that if you find your partner cheating on you, you will morally not be able to say anything to her, as you too have been cheating on her. You will have to forgive her unfaithfulness to you.

Above is only for those who wish to follow.

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For a start stop coming on forums like this that promote paying for sex or at the least condone it. Everyone here will have a story to tell and/or a vested interested.

Get professional help firstly. Then re-evaluate your life and what is important to you, if you have a wife, gf or kids then they're your priority. The money you spend on prostitutes could be better spent on them and the rewards for you personally will be tenfold to that you'll receive from any WG ! If you have none of the above then spend that surplus cash on yourself, a motorbike, sports, holidays whatever. If it's not surplus cash then your answer is there in front of you, stop as you can't afford not to.

Failing that for £1000 I will offer you a 'fly on the wall' experience. After that you'll either give up for life or move in.

Know that is something which I have always wanted to experience !

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For a start stop coming on forums like this that promote paying for sex or at the least condone it. Everyone here will have a story to tell and/or a vested interested.

Get professional help firstly. Then re-evaluate your life and what is important to you, if you have a wife, gf or kids then they're your priority. The money you spend on prostitutes could be better spent on them and the rewards for you personally will be tenfold to that you'll receive from any WG ! If you have none of the above then spend that surplus cash on yourself, a motorbike, sports, holidays whatever. If it's not surplus cash then your answer is there in front of you, stop as you can't afford not to.

Failing that for £1000 I will offer you a 'fly on the wall' experience. After that you'll either give up for life or move in.

Agree wholeheartedly. I must have seen literally hundreds of wg's over the years, and I can remember barely a handful. It has been cash down the drain although I'm lucky enough not to miss it. But it has been a waste of energy and an unedifying way to behave. Last punt was 3 months ago , so I'm trying hard to retire! not really an addiction imho, more like an itch that you scratch and that makes the itch worse. When you don't scrarch, it itches less I find.

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Whenever you feel the urge - masturbate - you should lose all interest in spending your money on a wg.

(and I AM being serious !)

I agree with the above post, but after the DIY, put the money you would have spent to good use by either putting it in a savings account, or saving up to buy something you always wanted.

As a help to DIY, a very modest investment in rude DVD's might help.

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May try going for alternative services?

I have been punting since the age of 16 (I'm now 44) and used it mainly as an outlet in 2 horrible marriages. Mainly as an outlet for relief and secondly as a kind of secret revenge on being treated like dirt at home.

The past year I've been with a wonderful, sexy and exciting girl who is truly my soulmate. I seriously considered stopping but I guess it is an addction.

My immediate compromise has been to switch from FS parlours and move onto Chinese massage shops where HR is usually the only thing on offer.

For me, this gives me a little of the old thrill but I haven't had full sex or oral with any other girl for a year and most of the ladies I visit (maybe once every 6 weeks) keep their clothes on!

This may not work for you but it has for me - I don't even consider going for FS anymorem nsoite of having more disposable income than I've had in years.

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I agree with the above post, but after the DIY, put the money you would have spent to good use by either putting it in a savings account, or saving up to buy something you always wanted.

As a help to DIY, a very modest investment in rude DVD's might help.

Like a 'swear box' but call it the 'wank bank'. Should have done that as a teen, i'd be loaded now I am just partially blind with hairy palms.

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If you want to stop punting, but aren't able to, you have succumbed to sexual addiction. You now have two choices:

1. Give up trying to stop. Hope the consequences don't sting too badly.

2. Admit to yourself you have an addiction. That's the first step. Then work out what help you need to stop. Can you do it with willpower? (Some people can. I quit cigarettes that way pretty easily). If not, get help. Counselling, a 12 steps group or something similar.

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Are you visiting a certain parlour/indie/agency? could ask them to not take any more bookings from you? this has happened with clients at the agency i work for, although unfortunately some continued to use and make bookings using different sim cards and new names.

If your not happy try to force yourself to take some time out, hopefully you will naturally find some headspace, wanting to do more of other things, then return to it, as it should be, a fun hobby.

Good luck.

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