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Who else's heart skips a beat when your partner asks to use your computer real quick to check their email or something?

I just remembered a few years back when I was sleeping with my girlfriend at the time in my apartment, woke up in the morning to have a shower, she awakens and I hear her say; "Morning babe I'm just gonna use your laptop to check my email", I was like "Yeah sure whatever" not realising at that precise moment of the implications of that. Then all of a sudden it dawned on me after a few minutes of wrapping my head around it that I had left my laptop to hibernate leaving an internet explorer window riddled with a bunch of escort sites, not least an email inbox with confirmation of previous escort bookings which I had made.  :( 

I heard the laptop smash to the floor and the door slamming shut and just like that she was gone without saying a word. Never really had anything that I could say to her to repair the damage but still for the next couple of days I tried getting in touch with her anyway I could. I tried but she never replied to any texts, calls, emails nothing. She didn't even send me a cheque to fix the flippin' laptop! :huh:

After a few days I had given up the ghost. I was like... fuck, I really liked this chick and it wasn't just the sexual aspect to it but the feeling of real intimacy more then anything else which couldn't be matched from an escort visit here and there. I know it may sound crazy but for me at the time I saw escorts as a professional sex doctor/therapist, who will enable me to improve my performance with my girlfriend, whilst trying some things that I may not otherwise be able to try with her. And besides screwing the same girl is kind of like jerking off to the same porn. Why waste your semen on that one porn when there are hundreds and thousands of material out there.

I know it can work for other guys to keep their dark little secret under wrap but it's a risk I am unwilling to take again. It wouldn't be fair on the other half so it's got to be one or the other. Better to see a WG with a clear conscious not having to worry about your wife cutting off your balls if she ever found out.

How would/did you react if say your partner out about your little hobby?

I've only told a select few buddies who I know I can trust not to spread shit, which could probably result in me looking for a new job. But for the most I have no reason to sweat.

Guess, it could be worse. Your parents finding out...That would be awkward around a Christmas dinner table.

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Who else's heart skips a beat when your partner asks to use your computer real quick to check their email or something?

Yes, I hate it, even though I am usually scrupulous about leaving no obvious trail. If you're looking at stuff you shouldn't be every day though you are almost bound to slip up now and again (I found I had left a Browser logged in to PN just the other week).

I had a very very close call in the summer which resulted in my swearing off this site (and others) for a few weeks. I'm back though, clearly. Immediately after the incident I could see just how catastrophic it would be if my activities were unmasked - it doesn't even bear thinking about tbh

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I make it a policy of mine to not let anyone touch my computers be it at home or at work. Besides keeping my privacy private, I run less risks of being contaminated by crapware (virus, etc...)

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Always use an incognito browser, I use Chrome in incognito mode and once the window is closed down, nothing is remembered or saved.

I know the merits of punting phones have been discussed many times and I can see the advantage, but I just keep my favourite ladies' numbers in my Blackberry. Each one is disguised by being listed as a business contact, along with the name of a fictitious business, amongst my dozens of real business contacts.

If my wife ever found out about my hobby the recrimination would be dreadful. I have justified my reasons to myself, but thats another topic.

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Always use an incognito browser, I use Chrome in incognito mode and once the window is closed down, nothing is remembered or saved.

I know the merits of punting phones have been discussed many times and I can see the advantage, but I just keep my favourite ladies' numbers in my Blackberry. Each one is disguised by being listed as a business contact, along with the name of a fictitious business, amongst my dozens of real business contacts.

If my wife ever found out about my hobby the recrimination would be dreadful. I have justified my reasons to myself, but thats another topic.

My wife and my sons know I punt so there is far less damage potential now.

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For me my wife always use my laptop. She uses Internet explored and I use Mozilla, but I have deleted all shortcuts from the desktop, startup menu and everywhere she is likely to look. I saved only one Mozilla shortcut in a folder and I encrypted the browser shortcut with a software called Axcrypt, so even if she sees it, it would appear as one of the hundreds of system files and also I changed the name of the shortcut. Anyone who wants to open it needs a password, Boone but me can access it. She is not IT savvy as me and lastly I never leave pages open when not on the pc.

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I was always very careful with my pc; but had been in Glasgow for a couple of nights at a conference in the days before smartphones. I'd had the number of the New Blythswood (sigh, those were the days) texted to me by directory enquiries. On returning home went out for a meal with my partner and some friends. She asked to use my phone and the text was still on the screen! We were about to go home, anyway & when we were outside, she asked me about it. It briefly crossed my mind to try to lie about it; but that would have been worse for all concerned and i confessed. Our relationship didn't survive. On the plus side, there were no kids involved. I remember the feeling of freedom post relationship when i didn't have to cover my tracks. Punting in the open in Thailand was even better!!

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...I heard the laptop smash to the floor and the door slamming shut and just like that she was gone without saying a word. Never really had anything that I could say to her to repair the damage but still for the next couple of days I tried getting in touch with her anyway I could. I tried but she never replied to any texts, calls, emails nothing. ... fuck, I really liked this chick and it wasn't just the sexual aspect to it but the feeling of real intimacy more then anything else which couldn't be matched from an escort visit here and there...

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Shhhhiiittt! Has it ever been brought up? Through her, or her friends or anything?

Btw, my condolences :( That sucks.

My wife and my sons know I punt so there is far less damage potential now.

Because it's already been done or are they apathetic to it? Or... ? Feel free to say it's none of my business and to feck off.

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I make a point of trying to stick to some basic rules.

• Always use incognito mode on the browser

• Never leave any windows open on the PC when away from the machine, even if no one but me is in the house

• Any links I want to keep I store on Hotmail rather than on my machine

The trouble is that however careful one is, there can always be slip-ups, I always fret when the machine is used unexpectedly just after I have been on it.

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I was always very careful with my pc; but had been in Glasgow for a couple of nights at a conference in the days before smartphones. I'd had the number of the New Blythswood (sigh, those were the days) texted to me by directory enquiries. On returning home went out for a meal with my partner and some friends. She asked to use my phone and the text was still on the screen! We were about to go home, anyway & when we were outside, she asked me about it. It briefly crossed my mind to try to lie about it; but that would have been worse for all concerned and i confessed. Our relationship didn't survive. On the plus side, there were no kids involved. I remember the feeling of freedom post relationship when i didn't have to cover my tracks. Punting in the open in Thailand was even better!!

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I make a point of trying to stick to some basic rules.

Always use incognito mode on the browser• Never leave any windows open on the PC when away from the machine, even if no one but me is in the house

• Any links I want to keep I store on Hotmail rather than on my machine

The trouble is that however careful one is, there can always be slip-ups, I always fret when the machine is used unexpectedly just after I have been on it.

You're the second person to mention this and I don't know what you're talking about.

Is it easy to do? And how?

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You're the second person to mention this and I don't know what you're talking about.

Is it easy to do? And how?

If you are using Google Chrome as your browser click on the Wrench icon and then select "New Incognito window". The browser then operates in a stealth mode, it doesn't store any information about sites you have been to so once you shut down that browser there is no record. Very handy. I believe you can do the same thing in IE8 using "InPrivate" browsing.

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I just did a quick search, here is the relevant info about InPrivate browsing from Microsoft:

InPrivate Browsing

When checking e-mail at an Internet café or shopping for a gift on a family PC, you don't want to leave any trace of specific web browsing activity. InPrivate Browsing in Internet Explorer 8 helps prevent your browsing history, temporary Internet files, form data, cookies, and usernames and passwords from being retained by the browser, leaving no evidence of your browsing or search history.

You can start InPrivate Browsing by opening a new tab and selecting Browse with InPrivate or selecting it from the Safety button on the top right corner of the browser window. Once you complete this action, Internet Explorer 8 will launch a new browser session that won't record any information, including searches or webpage visits. To end your InPrivate Browsing session, simply close the browser window.

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If you are using Google Chrome as your browser click on the Wrench icon and then select "New Incognito window". The browser then operates in a stealth mode, it doesn't store any information about sites you have been to so once you shut down that browser there is no record. Very handy. I believe you can do the same thing in IE8 using "InPrivate" browsing.

Thanks a lot, Norm. I'll look into this.

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I just did a quick search, here is the relevant info about InPrivate browsing from Microsoft:

InPrivate Browsing

When checking e-mail at an Internet café or shopping for a gift on a family PC, you don't want to leave any trace of specific web browsing activity. InPrivate Browsing in Internet Explorer 8 helps prevent your browsing history, temporary Internet files, form data, cookies, and usernames and passwords from being retained by the browser, leaving no evidence of your browsing or search history.

You can start InPrivate Browsing by opening a new tab and selecting Browse with InPrivate or selecting it from the Safety button on the top right corner of the browser window. Once you complete this action, Internet Explorer 8 will launch a new browser session that won't record any information, including searches or webpage visits. To end your InPrivate Browsing session, simply close the browser window.

What a charmingly innocent world is conjured up here as to why one might not wish to leave any traces...!

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Who else's heart skips a beat when your partner asks to use your computer real quick to check their email or something?

I just remembered a few years back when I was sleeping with my girlfriend at the time in my apartment, woke up in the morning to have a shower, she awakens and I hear her say; "Morning babe I'm just gonna use your laptop to check my email", I was like "Yeah sure whatever" not realising at that precise moment of the implications of that. Then all of a sudden it dawned on me after a few minutes of wrapping my head around it that I had left my laptop to hibernate leaving an internet explorer window riddled with a bunch of escort sites, not least an email inbox with confirmation of previous escort bookings which I had made.  :( 

I heard the laptop smash to the floor and the door slamming shut and just like that she was gone without saying a word. Never really had anything that I could say to her to repair the damage but still for the next couple of days I tried getting in touch with her anyway I could. I tried but she never replied to any texts, calls, emails nothing. She didn't even send me a cheque to fix the flippin' laptop! :huh:

After a few days I had given up the ghost. I was like... fuck, I really liked this chick and it wasn't just the sexual aspect to it but the feeling of real intimacy more then anything else which couldn't be matched from an escort visit here and there. I know it may sound crazy but for me at the time I saw escorts as a professional sex doctor/therapist, who will enable me to improve my performance with my girlfriend, whilst trying some things that I may not otherwise be able to try with her. And besides screwing the same girl is kind of like jerking off to the same porn. Why waste your semen on that one porn when there are hundreds and thousands of material out there.

I know it can work for other guys to keep their dark little secret under wrap but it's a risk I am unwilling to take again. It wouldn't be fair on the other half so it's got to be one or the other. Better to see a WG with a clear conscious not having to worry about your wife cutting off your balls if she ever found out.

How would/did you react if say your partner out about your little hobby?

I've only told a select few buddies who I know I can trust not to spread shit, which could probably result in me looking for a new job. But for the most I have no reason to sweat.

Guess, it could be worse. Your parents finding out...That would be awkward around a Christmas dinner table.

Oh dear well at least laptops are quite cheap to buy :D she could have hit you really were it hurts and put superglue in your PS3/Wii, or favourite boy toy LOL :D:P

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Because it's already been done or are they apathetic to it? Or... ? Feel free to say it's none of my business and to feck off.

OK, short version as full version is already on here.

When my wife gave up shagging me a decade ago I told her "OK, I will sort myself out for sex and don't ask me questions about it and I will not ask you for sex any more". I also told her that if and when she asked me, I would tell her the truth.

Two years ago she asked me and so I told her.

We are still living together.

I told my sons who are 31 and 29 because I did not want any possible fallout to involve them. One was pretty unimpressed with me, the other wished me well.

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Who else's heart skips a beat when your partner asks to use your computer real quick to check their email or something?

Guess, it could be worse. Your parents finding out...That would be awkward around a Christmas dinner table.

Allways, allways use a password. It won't keep a knowledgeable nerd out but it will keep a wife/gf out.

Then create a guest account with internet included but otherwise limited access and no password.

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To be fair, I'm more surprised by you staying than anything else. Good on you for the honesty. Do you find punting easier (for want of a better word) now that it's out in the open so to speak?

Side rant - I don't get women who don't want to have sex. I literally cannot get my head around it. Not having sex for 10 years!? What the fuck?
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I run an encrypted virtual pc image. Allows me to have a seperate pc, without needing the actual hardware.

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I am not sure how the other half would react. Basically, for various reasons I was told I should go and have some fun. Two rules : no commitment and don't tell her what I get up to.

I have always been faithful and would never have got into this otherwise, but punting means I stick to her rules. And, have I had some fun with a clear conscience or what :D ?

I'd probably not get as bad a reaction as many here would get, but I think there is a big difference between telling me I can do it, and knowing I actually do.

Like WayTooTall I run a VM and that is the only machine that ever hits punting related sites. That and the usual punting unregistered payg phone that stays hidden means almost no chance of accidentally giving the game away.

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I run an encrypted virtual pc image. Allows me to have a seperate pc, without needing the actual hardware.

All fine, until you leave it up and running by accident; just be scrupulously careful.

Edited by Vin DaLoo

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Oh dear well at least laptops are quite cheap to buy :D she could have hit you really were it hurts and put superglue in your PS3/Wii, or favourite boy toy LOL :D:P

Actually I was just grateful my XBOX was in one piece to tell you the truth. Not sure how I would handled losing my girlfriend, laptop AND my games console while I took a shower. That day was a real bitch.

I did manage to see her a couple of months after in a petrol station. I was kind of got caught between a rock and a hard place not sure what to do, so instinctively I waved to say "Hi" half heartedly, she returned the favour by giving me the middle finger salute. Must say she looked pretty sexy doing that ;) . Obviously no love lost there!

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I had a very close call earlier this year was in the living room on a sunday heard my phone go off a text had arrived i ignored it.

My GF was coming out of the bathroom she asked if she should bring the phone to me now my phone scrolls the text message above the top of the screen and i was expecting a message from our mutual friend so she obviously opened the messsage, she entered the living room and said to me "Er what's this?"

She started to read out the text, it was a previous lady i had seen who obviously having a slow period had started texting previous punters her summer deals.

"Hi i'm doing some deals while the weather is nice, £100 for an hour and £160 for two, i look forward to hopefully seeing you again baby" "

Are you seeing escorts" she asks. "What?" i say, "what is that?" i grabbed the phone to look at it feeling my stomach shrinking. "No way" i said,she looked at me but i have learned to hide my emotions "well,then what's that?" she says.

I stared at it for a minute then laughed "i think i know who did this" i said, i named one of my mates from uni,who i said i had sent texts pretending to be an gay escort and the game was to make it as realistic as possible so the recipient gets embarrassed she seemed to buy it as it is the sort of thing that me and my uni friends get up to.

So she goes back to the bathroom while i think on my feet,then eureka i would send a text to myself from a website saying something like "haha i bet you were shitting yourself"So i go on the internet and find one of the sites some of them make you pay before you can read the messages, but i find one that allows you to send free texts.

So i send a message to myself and leave the phone on the table 5 mins later my phone goes off and the message arrives she was back in the living room as we were sat down watching TV. I reached for the phone and laughed "yeah" i said "it was my mate bob" i showed her the message and she buys it.

Lucky,lucky escape, since that day i keep my phone on me and if i have to leave it charging i set it to silent.

Same thing with my laptop i have two browsers i use Chrome for everyday use and firefox as my porn/ secret escort browser, my GF knows about it being used for porn, so if she asks to use my laptop i tell her i'm just closing my porn browser as she doesn't want to really see that.

I thinking of getting her a netbook this Christmas so if she quickly needs to jump on the net she can.

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Side rant - I don't get women who don't want to have sex. I literally cannot get my head around it. Not having sex for 10 years!? What the fuck?
:blink:

Really? Do you mean you’ve never had a client who said his wife doesn’t enjoy sex and stopped having it years ago to then have an experience where you thought, “I’m not surprised!”? I have. On occasion I meet men who don’t get any at home and they have absolutely no idea how to touch, kiss, or fuck a woman and it’s not the most pleasant experience in the world. Now, imagine his wife was on the receiving end of that on a regular basis for years. Also, bear in mind that although we may be experienced enough to know what to ask for sexually, many older women aren’t and just think that whatever they’re given is what sex is supposed to be like. Most of the wives of my clients are post menopausal and consequently have had a natural dip in their libido too. Then there must be those who may still want sex, just not with their husbands for whatever reason, but won’t be unfaithful...or maybe they are! I can completely understand why relationships don’t work and why, as a consequence, the woman just doesn’t want it, but what I can’t understand is why couples don’t go and get help to improve things.

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