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Married Guys - Do You Ever Feel Guilty

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To the guys that are married and still having regular sex with the missus. Do you ever feel guilty about playing away from home?

To the girls: do you feel your clients' punting ever be justified if they are guys that have stable relationships and regular sex

(Please note, this post only relates to guys that still have regular sex in their relationships and not guys that have loving relationships but without the sex)

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To the guys that are married and still having regular sex with the missus. Do you ever feel guilty about playing away from home?

To the girls: do you feel your clients' punting ever be justified if they are guys that have stable relationships and regular sex

(Please note, this post only relates to guys that still have regular sex in their relationships and not guys that have loving relationships but without the sex)

And another note, in no way does my question to the girls imply any judgement if you DO see married guys. Just if you feel it is justified

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To the guys that are married and still having regular sex with the missus. Do you ever feel guilty about playing away from home?

To the girls: do you feel your clients' punting ever be justified if they are guys that have stable relationships and regular sex

(Please note, this post only relates to guys that still have regular sex in their relationships and not guys that have loving relationships but without the sex)

I don't believe monogamy is right or healthy, so I am happy to see married guys. However I also think deception is a terrible thing in a committed relationship - mainly I feel deeply sorry for men who have to keep their sexuality as a shameful secret rather than celebrating it. I feel bad for the wives too, because they are only following the path that they have been told is the 'right one' and there is no crime in being a conformist, but I don't think that they are victims here. I think everyone loses when a relationship gets to the point where there are lies and secrets.

But, I also feel very much that it is none of my business. A couple being sexually incompatible (which is what it is, if one person wants an exclusive relationship and the other person does not) is not something I can fix, especially in an hour with one half of the couple, and against his will no doubt :P I don't pursue these men, they search for escorts and find me. It is entirely their decision and they are adults who are capable of weighing up the rights and wrongs of their decisions.

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I expected to feel guilt so terrible it would be difficult to deal with, that's what you are told anywhay. However, I already justified it, it's an evolution of porn, a real 3D wank if you will. Guilt? Naughty schoolboy and nothing more at least at the beginning. Now I'm so comfortable with punting I just enjoy myself with the girl.

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To the guys that are married and still having regular sex with the missus. Do you ever feel guilty about playing away from home?

What do you define as "regular"?

If it was once every three months I guess that is regular, but not really a satisfactory basis for a relationship.

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What do you define as "regular"?

If it was once every three months I guess that is regular, but not really a satisfactory basis for a relationship.

Some of us are built that way, can't help it, no self-discipline. It is after all just a physical encounter so why feel guilty. Its not like your going to run away with another woman ?

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No I dont feel guilty. Life is too short.

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I felt incredibly guitly when i first started punting, and after my first it took a long time to go back for my second. As i carried on punting, more and more regularly the feelings of guilt started to subside. I knew what i was doing was wrong (cheating on the wife), but justified it in my own mind that if she wasn't willing to make love with me, why shouldn't i find it elsewhere.

We're no longer together, nothing to do with the punting, (actually no-one know's about my punting), but we're still in touch, and i'd hate it if she ever found out.

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I'd been with my wife about 4 years before I resumed my pre-marriage punting habit. Although we have sex regularly, the frequency started to tail off post kids and more significantly, it started becoming a little boring for me. My wife's sexual tastes are very vanilla, mine are quite the opposite.

The first time I punted after being married, I took off my wedding ring during the deed but didn't really feel any guilt afterwards. I've kept it on for all punts since.

I have to say that I've had some really brilliant punting sex in the last year which for the first time has made me think about what I'm really missing at home. I don't think I'll stop punting though.

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don't feel any guilt at all,if i did i don't think i could punt

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I think I feel more guilty about spending "family" money than the sex side of it

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Still single, but even if get married I would most definitely not stop punting. Well, may be I'll do it less, probably once a month, but will never stop. :(

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Still single, but even if get married I would most definitely not stop punting. Well, may be I'll do it less, probably once a month, but will never stop. :(

As a married guy, I do tend to feel guilty sometimes just after punting. But the feeling goes in 20-30 mins and you lokk forward to punting again. Guilty because of time I could give to her and familly , Guilty of money I could spend on her and family. So now what? Should I stop punting? Yes, if I could resist. Same thing happens again and again. Cannot stop punting and cannot stop the feeling. Guilty of being unfaithful to her? Well even if I stop punting, I believe I would still be guilty if I had this feeling of having sex with other women. In theory I should stop punting, watching porn, thinking of anyother women from sex point of view etc.etc. Will require and entire software change in mind with a re-boot to achieve it. Does any body have any such ideas?

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Never feel guilty about the punting in itself, but I do feel slightly guilty when I have a bad punt (which is very rare now as I'm far more experienced, do my research beforehand and can and will walk away when the warning signs are there) - and then its only 'guilt' to the extent of ruing money wasted on an undeserving wg when it could have been better spent elsewhere, or on someone else.

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As a married guy, I do tend to feel guilty sometimes just after punting. But the feeling goes in 20-30 mins and you lokk forward to punting again. Guilty because of time I could give to her and familly , Guilty of money I could spend on her and family. So now what? Should I stop punting? Yes, if I could resist. Same thing happens again and again. Cannot stop punting and cannot stop the feeling. Guilty of being unfaithful to her? Well even if I stop punting, I believe I would still be guilty if I had this feeling of having sex with other women. In theory I should stop punting, watching porn, thinking of anyother women from sex point of view etc.etc. Will require and entire software change in mind with a re-boot to achieve it. Does any body have any such ideas?

Think nice clean thoughts for two hours. If that doesn't resolve your guilt dilemma, surrender and go out and 'get laid'. There is nothing like a good piece of arse to put 'guilt' into proper perspective. If one punt doesn't do it for you, don't despair - punt and punt again until you slay that absurd demon. ;)

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I think I feel more guilty about spending "family" money than the sex side of it

I agree

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I never feel guilty cos im not married. As a married guy i can't say why they go punting but i can see two main reasons.

1 punting can often be a sign of serious marriage problems and should actually be taken more seriously than most married punters do.

2 they are just bastards and should feel guilty after punting.

My point is that if you are not single then you should not be punting unless your partner is happy with it which is rare.

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To the guys that are married and still having regular sex with the missus. Do you ever feel guilty about playing away from home?

To the girls: do you feel your clients' punting ever be justified if they are guys that have stable relationships and regular sex

(Please note, this post only relates to guys that still have regular sex in their relationships and not guys that have loving relationships but without the sex)

I am single but would just like to question why any married guy who is having a full sexual relations with his partner in a loving relationship would need to visit WGs ??

Surely you will feel guilty as you are cheating and abusing someones trust, and its natural to fear that you will eventually get caught out, and that fear of this is why you will feel the guilt !

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I am single but would just like to question why any married guy who is having a full sexual relations with his partner in a loving relationship would need to visit WGs ??

Surely you will feel guilty as you are cheating and abusing someones trust, and its natural to fear that you will eventually get caught out, and that fear of this is why you will feel the guilt !

They are very likely to get caught. Its not worth the danger really. They should instead look at their relationship with wives as something is prob wrong. I said it before and i said it again because its pretty obvious but overlooked all the time. Sometimes the solution can be simple like basic self control or asking to do something with your wife instead of a call girl.

I don't really like to judge people over what they do but actions speak louder than words most of the times.

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They are very likely to get caught. Its not worth the danger really.

Hmm, in over 3 years on this board I can't recall many tales of punters getting caught; some near misses, maybe. If you take reasonable precautions I would say you are unlikely to be caught.

They should instead look at their relationship with wives as something is prob wrong. I said it before and i said it again because its pretty obvious but overlooked all the time. Sometimes the solution can be simple like basic self control or asking to do something with your wife instead of a call girl.

Wow, no shit, Sherlock! So, are you advocating abstinence here?

Edited by Vin DaLoo

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When I used to see guys purely for my own enjoyment while not in a relationship, I always made a point of not playing with married men. I didn't like the idea of being responsible of breaking up someones relationship or worse still the idea of falling for someone I can't have.

As an escort I don't have a problem at all. I am only offering a small portion of my time. I never instigate the union and it only lasts for however long is paid for. The most that can evolve from it is friendship and I have no hang up with that.

I prefer not to spend too much time talking about relationships or commitments with clients. There are far better things to be doing with our time.

I am single, so have no one to upset on my side. I would not embark on a relationship while doing this unless the person in question new exactly what I was doing and was happy with it and to be honest, I'm not sure I want to date someone who would be happy for me to do this, so a bit of a catch 22.

Edited by kissxkate

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No I dont feel guilty. Life is too short.

I love the irony that Longlife thinks life is too short :)

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i feel more guilty about the money than the sex.

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i make it a point to not mention a wife, ask or inquire further. however, his choice to see me is his choice. i may not approve of my SO doing the same, but in the case of a client, it is none of my business to care or pass judgement.

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Im so used to open relationships yet im also highly disciplined in terms of trust/loyalty/faithful etc. If im in a relationship i easily keeps myself for the one i love. If she doesnt want sex theres always the old porn and wank routine.

When ive been in relationships (other than when i was in my teens) i didnt mind her shagging other men, as ive got older its just a total turn on these days. If she doesnt want me screwing other girls, and she wants to screw around then go ahead just make sure he gives you a good boning :D

Id never tell any friends/family that though, she'd have to be discrete about it all.

Trying to find a woman who wants a lover, and can completely separate emotional feelings from sex... theres more chance of winning the lottery jackpot.

So i cant get guilty as ive never been unfaithful with any of my ex's, and never will.

Edited by sparkstar

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