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Working Out - Do You Do It And Ladies, Do You Like A Man With Good Body?

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So being a young, strapping lad, I like to lift weights and generally look after myself. Since I started doing it, I've noticed it has helped considerably with my attractiveness ratings with the opposite sex. Even helping me to score with a girl recently.

Punting wise, one lady at HOD seemed to really like it and commented on it a few times which was an ego boost.

So working out. How many of you gentleman do it?

And for the WGs out there, does it give you a bit of a highlight to the day when a guy with a well managed body walks in? Or you generally not care?

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So being a young, strapping lad, I like to lift weights and generally look after myself. Since I started doing it, I've noticed it has helped considerably with my attractiveness ratings with the opposite sex. Even helping me to score with a girl recently.

Punting wise, one lady at HOD seemed to really like it and commented on it a few times which was an ego boost.

So working out. How many of you gentleman do it?

And for the WGs out there, does it give you a bit of a highlight to the day when a guy with a well managed body walks in? Or you generally not care?

I work out and have gotten back into shape after a year away from training last year. I'm afraid it all depends on the person carrying the body. Attractiveness to me is a blend of looks, personality and general demeanor. At any time anyone of those factors can be outstanding however some of the other characteristics are always required.

I can say I've met some very attractive men in my time and unfortunately the personality can often be disappointing, especially if they have a "I'm gorgeous all women should be privilidged to know me" attitude. Sexiness is a lot more than a 'Men's Health' body to me, it's about how a man talks, gestures and generally "is". That might be the a certain look in the eye, or the way his eyes go when he smiles. I've also met a lot of men who simply don't know how physically attractive they are and, as a result do themselves down. In my Escorting life I can say I prefer someone I can get along with, than someone who is classically gorgeous.

If we are to be completely shallow then yes when I've had a 'Men's Health' type client, it's like "Yes! aren't I so clever" and I get a bit of a kick out of it - but that doesn't mean to say I have had a better time sexually, or personally than with any other guy I meet.

It is good to look after yourself in the way you do though, but it isn't always the most important thing a women goes for.

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My body is a temple. Well, more of a Baroque cathedral in my case. :rolleyes:

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It is good to look after yourself in the way you do though, but it isn't always the most important thing a women goes for.

Indeed. I've got enough experience to know that. Plus, not being a particularly tall guy has meant I've worked harder at my personality as well. Working out, personality, dressing well, having looks (if you have them that is) etc - its all part of one big package. You cant just be amazing in one area and expect it to give you success.

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I was going to write my views on attractive clients but only need to echo exactly what Strawberry has already said :P

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Indeed. I've got enough experience to know that. Plus, not being a particularly tall guy has meant I've worked harder at my personality as well. Working out, personality, dressing well, having looks (if you have them that is) etc - its all part of one big package. You cant just be amazing in one area and expect it to give you success.

What do you mean by "not being tall?". Is this part of the myth that women go for those who are 'tall, dark and handsome'?If so this is another myth. I am 5'4" and although once again I've met men, and been involved with men from 5'1" to 6'5" height doesn't have a great deal to do with attractiveness. Indeed my 'ideal' would be around 5'7" but that would be so 'limiting'.

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Strawberry you only have to take a look at the "women wants male" ads in so many papers and magazines, 50% have "tall" and "dark" somewhere in the ad. I have never seen the word "short" used, or even "blonde" for that matter.

Women authors who write these fantasy love stories never have a short hero they are all without exception tall and mostly dark.

Even my current GF said to me one day with surprise while I was giving her a hug, "That's amazing normally I go for tall men but we fit together so nicely", a back handed complement if there ever was one. :unsure:

PS I am 5ft 7"

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Strawberry you only have to take a look at the "women wants male" ads in so many papers and magazines, 50% have "tall" and "dark" somewhere in the ad. I have never seen the word "short" used, or even "blonde" for that matter.

Women authors who write these fantasy love stories never have a short hero they are all without exception tall and mostly dark.

Even my current GF said to me one day with surprise while I was giving her a hug, "That's amazing normally I go for tall men but we fit together so nicely", a back handed complement if there ever was one. :unsure:

PS I am 5ft 7"

Well that isn't my experience, nor my preference. I would have a suspicion that the "tall, dark and handsome" is something that looks good for the ad. Personal ads I'd take with a massive pinch of salt, as they are not very representative as a whole.

Don't believe everything you read, and I think popular myth/fiction has a lot to answer for. For instance a lot of romantic novels refer to "heaving bosoms" and climaxing via penetration alone. I certainly don't have heaving bosoms but I do have a lot of men attracted to me, and most women have clitoral orgasms.

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Strawberry you only have to take a look at the "women wants male" ads in so many papers and magazines, 50% have "tall" and "dark" somewhere in the ad. I have never seen the word "short" used, or even "blonde" for that matter.

Women authors who write these fantasy love stories never have a short hero they are all without exception tall and mostly dark.

Even my current GF said to me one day with surprise while I was giving her a hug, "That's amazing normally I go for tall men but we fit together so nicely", a back handed complement if there ever was one. :unsure:

PS I am 5ft 7"

get rid of her now mate-- she's trouble !!:D

You're right the stereotypical 'dark ' thing is a pain in the bum.Problem is there must be something to it, as although I am not much of a movie goer,dark haired guys seems to have an advantage in Hollywood. Maybe its more difficult to be 'dashing and suave ' if your a blonde. Steve McQueen -- the man !

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get rid of her now mate-- she's trouble !!:D

You're right the stereotypical 'dark ' thing is a pain in the bum.Problem is there must be something to it, as although I am not much of a movie goer,dark haired guys seems to have an advantage in Hollywood. Maybe its more difficult to be 'dashing and suave ' if your a blonde. Steve McQueen -- the man !

Its like when people ask. Who do you prefer, blondes or brunettes? What about the redheads?

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Of course a well toned body (male or female) is going to turn my head in the street but being well toned does not make you into some sort of sex god.

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Its like when people ask. Who do you prefer, blondes or brunettes? What about the redheads?

nope. I think I can safely say on behalf of all my 'brothers' that being a red head is no disadvantage whatsoever.If, you have the looks,the figure and the personality then hair color will not matter a rats.Indeed, very difficult to beat a quality redhead. Problem in my head is that I associate a redhead with poor quality hair ! Dont know if there is any basis in reality for this tho' !!

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nope. I think I can safely say on behalf of all my 'brothers' that being a red head is no disadvantage whatsoever.If, you have the looks,the figure and the personality then hair color will not matter a rats.Indeed, very difficult to beat a quality redhead. Problem in my head is that I associate a redhead with poor quality hair ! Dont know if there is any basis in reality for this tho' !!

I've got no idea where you get that from. Most redheads I have known have very healthy, thick hair.

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My other hobbies are kick boxing, water skiing and mountian biking, so am pretty fit....but my new years res is to do 300 stomach crunches a day, as I want abs like Ronaldo.......doing it cos I'm vain.

When I'm out in clubs, it's very evident that, in general, guys are taking care of themselves much more than girls. I think that this is because girls don't have to try, they can be fat and still get laid......in fact they can be obese, call themselves BBW's and still have men swooning after them...how very sad!

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My other hobbies are kick boxing, water skiing and mountian biking, so am pretty fit....but my new years res is to do 300 stomach crunches a day, as I want abs like Ronaldo.......doing it cos I'm vain.

When I'm out in clubs, it's very evident that, in general, guys are taking care of themselves much more than girls. I think that this is because girls don't have to try, they can be fat and still get laid......in fact they can be obese, call themselves BBW's and still have men swooning after them...how very sad!

It's also because there are negative stereotypes associated with 'toned' females. I got less negative comments when I was out of training and out of shape last year, than when I'm training and being very fit. Also had a lot of boyfriends say "You don't need to train any more love, you've got me now" once I got involved with them. I would say the average women without such a strong athletic background could be put off by all of this, whilst it is more than acceptable for men to workout.

By the way crunches don't give you abs and 300 a day you are more likely to overtrain those muscles, as well as waste a lot of time.

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It's also because there are negative stereotypes associated with 'toned' females. I got less negative comments when I was out of training and out of shape last year, than when I'm training and being very fit. Also had a lot of boyfriends say "You don't need to train any more love, you've got me now" once I got involved with them. I would say the average women without such a strong athletic background could be put off by all of this, whilst it is more than acceptable for men to workout.

By the way crunches don't give you abs and 300 a day you are more likely to overtrain those muscles, as well as waste a lot of time.

As I've told you before Ruth, I think your toned body looks great, and I'll bet you feel more at ease with yourself now you're training regularly because you're being true to yourself. Oh, and I adore redheads strawberry blondes too! :)

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By the way crunches don't give you abs and 300 a day you are more likely to overtrain those muscles, as well as waste a lot of time.

Well, you know more than the fitness instructor down my local gym...he's told me to do crunches and curls on an inclined bench....but I'll seek further advice!

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Well, you know more than the fitness instructor down my local gym...he's told me to do crunches and curls on an inclined bench....but I'll seek further advice!

Yes crunches and curls are useful for strengthing abs - but to make them visible you need to reduce the layer of fat covering them using cardio and diet, as well as overall full body resistance training. You can all the crunches you like in the world but if that fat layer is still you are wasting your time

I used to do 100s of crunches when I was a runner and I never had visible abs until I cut back on the volume, sorted my diet out(which I thought wasn't that bad) and trained smarter. I only acheived a six pack by reducing it to 4 sets of 12 reps, 4 times a week after my weight training.

By the way I have 20 years of training in all sorts of activities, including bodybuilding under my belt, reading, talking to top level coaches, other athletes and trying every system under the sun. I also hold a certificate in advanced weight training. So I may know something

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Yes crunches and curls are useful for strengthing abs - but to make them visible you need to reduce the layer of fat covering them using cardio and diet, as well as overall full body resistance training. You can all the crunches you like in the world but if that fat layer is still you are wasting your time

Yes, I understand that. I do two 2hour kickboxing sessions a week and also cycle around 50 miles, this is off road on sandy tracks and up hills, very hard going, probably like doing 200 miles on road. I've also sorted out my diet and am losing around 1kg a month, I was 94kg, currently 87 and am aiming for about 84.

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My other hobbies are kick boxing, water skiing and mountian biking, so am pretty fit....but my new years res is to do 300 stomach crunches a day, as I want abs like Ronaldo.......doing it cos I'm vain.

When I'm out in clubs, it's very evident that, in general, guys are taking care of themselves much more than girls. I think that this is because girls don't have to try, they can be fat and still get laid......in fact they can be obese, call themselves BBW's and still have men swooning after them...how very sad!

Just because a girl doesn't spend her every waking moment in the gym, doesn't mean she doesn't look after herself. Not everybody wants to look like prime beef.

I don't find the gym body attractive, to me it just screams "I'm so vain that you'll never get me away from the mirror".

However, I do like a man to have strong arms. The kind you get from doing an honest day's work, not from preening in front of a mirror in stripy trousers.

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Just because a girl doesn't spend her every waking moment in the gym, doesn't mean she doesn't look after herself. Not everybody wants to look like prime beef.

I don't find the gym body attractive, to me it just screams "I'm so vain that you'll never get me away from the mirror".

However, I do like a man to have strong arms. The kind you get from doing an honest day's work, not from preening in front of a mirror in stripy trousers.

I'm not talking about girls who are a nice average dress size 12-14......I'm refering to the large number who are 18+ and are unhealthly overweight, it seems to be on the increase and they don't seem to care about looking like this!

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I'm not talking about girls who are a nice average dress size 12-14......I'm refering to the large number who are 18+ and are unhealthly overweight, it seems to be on the increase and they don't seem to care about looking like this!

But surely it's a personal choice? Anyway, you can't quote dress size without quoting height and build to go with it.

I'm a size 16. A couple of months ago I was a size 18. I don't care, I'm happy in my skin.

The thing that gets me in this thread (which is why I posted) is that there is a theme of "I'm slim and toned, why isn't everyone else?"

Because not everyone wants to be and we don't have to. You gym bunnies make your choices and we don't feel a need to comment on you, so why comment on everyone else? Are you insecure?

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Just because a girl doesn't spend her every waking moment in the gym, doesn't mean she doesn't look after herself. Not everybody wants to look like prime beef.

I don't find the gym body attractive, to me it just screams "I'm so vain that you'll never get me away from the mirror".

However, I do like a man to have strong arms. The kind you get from doing an honest day's work, not from preening in front of a mirror in stripy trousers.

Unless they work on a building site and have to log heavy metal beams everywhere with their bare arms, its very unlikely you'll find men with naturally big arms. There has to have been some sort of gym work put in to get the muscles.

I think there's too many assumptions about guys with muscles from some people to be honest though. ie. If they have muscles, it must mean they have a crap personality and spend all day in front of the mirror. A lot of guys work on muscles work on their muscles as part of the wider package that they believe makes them attractive which includes personality, being financial secure, succesful, being intelligent etc

I mean I don't rely on my muscles at all. I just see it as one aspect which forms my overall attractiveness rating to the opposite sex.

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But surely it's a personal choice? Anyway, you can't quote dress size without quoting height and build to go with it.

I'm a size 16. A couple of months ago I was a size 18. I don't care, I'm happy in my skin.

The thing that gets me in this thread (which is why I posted) is that there is a theme of "I'm slim and toned, why isn't everyone else?"

Because not everyone wants to be and we don't have to. You gym bunnies make your choices and we don't feel a need to comment on you, so why comment on everyone else? Are you insecure?

I could quote BMI's but most people would be lost.

It's also about being healthy, not just how you look.

If I'm honest, I'm pissed off that I have to put so much effort into how I look, am still stuggling to find a partner, despite being an educated professional, high earner with lots to offer........hell I don't know, maybe I'm a jerk that women just don't want. It grates when I see women in clubs who I don't think make much of an effort to look after themselves, being able to pick and choose what men they date...guess it's a womens world?

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Unless they work on a building site and have to log heavy metal beams everywhere with their bare arms, its very unlikely you'll find men with naturally big arms. There has to have been some sort of gym work put in to get the muscles.

I think there's too many assumptions about guys with muscles from some people to be honest though. ie. If they have muscles, it must mean they have a crap personality and spend all day in front of the mirror. A lot of guys work on muscles work on their muscles as part of the wider package that they believe makes them attractive which includes personality, being financial secure, succesful, being intelligent etc

I mean I don't rely on my muscles at all. I just see it as one aspect which forms my overall attractiveness rating to the opposite sex.

Yes, I agree. Sorry, I was responding very specifically before. The thing is, there's a huge difference between a guy who keeps himself in shape by going to the gym and a guy who lives in the gym and obsesses about his shape. The latter is a vain twonk, the former is probably just a healthy and driven guy.

I wasn't talking about "big arms" as such, just the arms of any bloke who does enough to stay strong. The muscle tends to be hidden in a toned arm until they do something and the muscle flexes. I find that much more attractive than the "muscle Mary" type.

The irony is that the very folk who go to the gym regularly and harp on about how everyone else should go as well are the very folk who put a lot of people off going. They are the ones who are sit in judgement on everyone and they are also the ones who snigger at the unfit lumps on their first visits to the gym and put people off returning.

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