Timbo

Nearly Found Out, Better Be Careful

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Having a bit of trouble finding the tax money due at the end of the month, my wife offered to chip in bless her. This led to an in depth forensic scrutiny of my financial goings on. Although she has no idea of my hobby activities I am now going to have to be very much more careful and occasional in my activities for some time to come. My once a week or so habit will have to become once a month or so.

It will be interesting to see whether I can make this step change of whether there is sex addiction involved.

For some time now I have wondered whether a fuckbuddy would be a better alternative for me, although less expensive, it would be short step then to having an affair and that is one of the main reasons why I punt instead. Looking around, there are many sites for this sort of activity and although this might be close to off topic, I was wondering whether other PN users have any experiences about coming to PN after an affair or vice versa.

For the meantime, I will have to sort myself out and punt using thin slices of discretionary spending saved up for a special treat.

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I suspect that a fuck buddy may easily become an affair, Timbo. The beauty of visiting women in the way we do is that we can (or should be able to) walk away without bringing any baggage away with you, including calls, texts and so on asking you for further meetings that might well be intercepted. You pay to walk away, as others on this board have said. Affairs almost inevitably lead to getting found out. Someone else on this board suggested a slush fund where you can siphon off occasional £20 sums or whatever and slowly (or less slowly) build up a war chest for your extra-curricular activities, rather than withdrawing conspicuously large sums. I wouldn't presume to tell you how to run your sex life, but those would be my thoughts.

On a related issue, an acquaintance of mine who occasionally punts was nearly discovered recently when his already naturally suspicious missus discovered his punting chip hidden in the recesses of his wallet. He was able to blag it out because luckily there were no saved calls and texts, by saying that it was a freebie bogof SIM card that had come with a work-related pay as you go mobile he had recently bought. Nevertheless, a close call.

On yet another related issue, do some punters who receive texts from WGs (with addresses, meeting arrangements, etc.) slightly blanche at the 'x' kiss at the end of many of these received texts, which without the incriminating 'x' could (in an emergency) be explained away without too much difficulty? Not applicable to me but I've always considered this a potential, though unintentional of course, compromising of the principle of mutual discretion (shared by most of us) for those men with inquisitive partners!

Your thoughts, people.

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On yet another related issue, do some punters who receive texts from WGs (with addresses, meeting arrangements, etc.) slightly blanche at the 'x' kiss at the end of many of these received texts, which without the incriminating 'x' could (in an emergency) be explained away without too much difficulty? Not applicable to me but I've always considered this a potential, though unintentional of course, compromising of the principle of mutual discretion (shared by most of us) for those men with inquisitive partners!

Your thoughts, people.

Nearly all women I know including colleagues, friends etc.. put x at the end of sms, so it is quite common and easily explained. What is more worrying and obvious is the content of text itself ie address, time of meeting etc.. something I would be more concerened about being discovered.

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Having a bit of trouble finding the tax money due at the end of the month, my wife offered to chip in bless her. This led to an in depth forensic scrutiny of my financial goings on. Although she has no idea of my hobby activities I am now going to have to be very much more careful and occasional in my activities for some time to come. My once a week or so habit will have to become once a month or so.

It will be interesting to see whether I can make this step change of whether there is sex addiction involved.

For some time now I have wondered whether a fuckbuddy would be a better alternative for me, although less expensive, it would be short step then to having an affair and that is one of the main reasons why I punt instead. Looking around, there are many sites for this sort of activity and although this might be close to off topic, I was wondering whether other PN users have any experiences about coming to PN after an affair or vice versa.

For the meantime, I will have to sort myself out and punt using thin slices of discretionary spending saved up for a special treat.

I have tried (or at least considered) giving punting a number of occassions for a number of reasons - my relationship, finances, money being better spent elsewhere, poor experiences, etc and one way I thought I could do it was to have a FB or casual no strings fun but as already suggested it isn't that easy.

This may sound awful but I've met exes, met girls on social networking sites, met girls/couples on swinging sites and there are just so many more additional risks - some you can try to control - like tx's and emails but others you can't like feelings etc.

I would also have to stress that there are not that many legitimate sites around - wheether it be for swinging or bored housewives - a lot of them offer free membership but its restricted, you end up having loads of messages that you dont have access to without paying to 'upgrade' - whilst I havent 'upgraded' I have read on numerous blogs/sites how blokes have upgraded and then found the messages to be from fake profiles or even escorts touting. If you are going to try this avenue then I would suggest you put the site name into google and put the word scam or con after it and see if any reviews come up - most of the time they will.

Whilst I had some success on the swinging site the ratio of men to women or couples is 20:1. Without being rude you find 'ugly' couples having the biggest chip on their should because there spoilt the choice - they act as if you should be so grateful that you are in their company or even responding to your email.

The other thing with swinging meets as opposed to escorting is that you are no longer in control, I have always found that if Im meeting an escort I will do things which I want to, which is obvious, but I once met a couple swinging who had a thing for younger guys with the hubby watching. Got there and there was a strapping six foot lad there also - me and him ended up spitroasting her, or at least he fucked her and I got sucked because I couldnt get hard, i had no control and until I got there didnt no another guy was going to be there! Was all a bit wierd.

The great thing with escorting is that, as mentioned above, you can walk away. you also do what you want and pick any girl you want. Whilst you may wish to try other options if it was that easy I dont think so many of us would be punting.

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I suspect that a fuck buddy may easily become an affair, Timbo. The beauty of visiting women in the way we do is that we can (or should be able to) walk away without bringing any baggage away with you, including calls, texts and so on asking you for further meetings that might well be intercepted. You pay to walk away, as others on this board have said. Affairs almost inevitably lead to getting found out. Someone else on this board suggested a slush fund where you can siphon off occasional £20 sums or whatever and slowly (or less slowly) build up a war chest for your extra-curricular activities, rather than withdrawing conspicuously large sums. I wouldn't presume to tell you how to run your sex life, but those would be my thoughts.

On a related issue, an acquaintance of mine who occasionally punts was nearly discovered recently when his already naturally suspicious missus discovered his punting chip hidden in the recesses of his wallet. He was able to blag it out because luckily there were no saved calls and texts, by saying that it was a freebie bogof SIM card that had come with a work-related pay as you go mobile he had recently bought. Nevertheless, a close call.

On yet another related issue, do some punters who receive texts from WGs (with addresses, meeting arrangements, etc.) slightly blanche at the 'x' kiss at the end of many of these received texts, which without the incriminating 'x' could (in an emergency) be explained away without too much difficulty? Not applicable to me but I've always considered this a potential, though unintentional of course, compromising of the principle of mutual discretion (shared by most of us) for those men with inquisitive partners!

Your thoughts, people.

I always, like always delete any wg related texts the nano second after they have been read.

and i have always turned phone off at home since i started having the bloody things pre punting. 'if anyone wants me they can get me on my landline'. there again i am not one of these who get a nose bleed if not connected to the world 24/7

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One good tip I read here was to take out money as a supermarket cashback. That way it will show up on a statement as an innocent Tesco for example. Saving up money slowly in a slush fund is also a great way to hide the expenditure. I'm quite lucky as I get my business expenses paid out to me in cash separate to my wages and although the wife does look at what I spend she does not know how I'm paid expenses and so that becomes my money to spend.

Don't go down the fuck buddy route, you're more likely to be caught and wont be as good as an escort of your choosing anyway. The logistics of an affair are a pain in the ass anyway.

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If you have sufficient standing orders or direct debits from your account, you could set up another to a web-based (no statement) account opened just for your jollies. You can call it something harmless, so that the entry on your main account statement doesn't look odd, plus make it an unusual amount. Cashback is easier, but make sure that the item isn't split shopping bill/cashback, I've seen this happen.

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I trust all who post here and engage in this hobby take this as awake up call to examine their security and bring it up to date.

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I trust all who post here and engage in this hobby take this as awake up call to examine their security and bring it up to date.

Yup, all feedback goes into updating my standard operating procedure. So far so good.

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I would be surpised if an affair was cheaper that a WG. If you have to fund dinner for two and a hotel room it will be about the same as a punt.

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I use poker money as a slush fund. So I punt when I win.

And win when I punt of course.

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Nearly all women I know including colleagues, friends etc.. put x at the end of sms, so it is quite common and easily explained. What is more worrying and obvious is the content of text itself ie address, time of meeting etc.. something I would be more concerened about being discovered.

I once received an "x" on the end of a work Sametime chat from someone in the engineering department - he was very embarrassed and apologised profusely explaining that he'd just sent an e-mail to his wife! And I though he was attracted to me :(

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I once received an "x" on the end of a work Sametime chat from someone in the engineering department - he was very embarrassed and apologised profusely explaining that he'd just sent an e-mail to his wife! And I though he was attracted to me :(

I'm on the younger side so am not probably tied in as much, but my ex was a nightmare for wanting to know about my finances there was some real close shaves. The lads above are quiet right, make sure you delete numbers, or just have a PAYG sim for punting...

If I were you I would try and invent a "hobby" because this will give you the time and the money to go punting, just don't think of something daft that might backfire.

Cashback is always a winner too...good luck and if I were you keep yer head down for a little bit if you can

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I'm on the younger side so am not probably tied in as much, but my ex was a nightmare for wanting to know about my finances there was some real close shaves. The lads above are quiet right, make sure you delete numbers, or just have a PAYG sim for punting...

If I were you I would try and invent a "hobby" because this will give you the time and the money to go punting, just don't think of something daft that might backfire.

Cashback is always a winner too...good luck and if I were you keep yer head down for a little bit if you can

And remember to delete recent destinations from your satnav too...

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And remember to delete recent destinations from your satnav too...

Probably safer if punters navigated using a sextant.

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Probably safer if punters navigated using a sextant.

I actually one one!!!!!!

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Probably safer if punters navigated using a sextant.

Good for seaman!

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