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New Hobbyist 'concerns'

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Hello. You WILL have read this post before, or ones very much like it, but bear with me.

Having just come out of a long-term relationship I've been looking into punting as a way of getting relief. If I'm honest, right now I can't be bothered with the bar/clubbing/dating scene and think I'd rather just pay for what I want with no stings attached. Porn and Rosy Palmer, whilst giving the bag a good emptying, aren't going to cut it for much longer (I think). The fact that there a several very good looking girls close by, apparently offering the services I want, and that may otherwise be unobtainable is of course a bonus.

So here I am with my concerns.

Firstly I suppose I'm here seeking advice on a girl to see. I'm in East Anglia and can travel. I'm 26 and would prefer someone around my own age (although willing to see older if its the right person). Must be slim, big tits (one of the first things I want is some proper BR as I've never been with a woman big enough to give me a titfuck), pretty and preferably offer OWO, CIM/COF/COB - bit of a PSE would be great. Any suggestions?

Now of course I have been doing my research here and at the other site. I had selected a girl from a short list at the other site, read her FRs here (looks gorgeous, slim, big tits, sounds like just what I'm after) but I'm getting cold feet. I'm nervous about making the booking and then the encounter itself. I'm nervous about STI's. And as soft as it sounds, my greatest concern is about how I will feel about myself if I go through with it!

So I suppose what I'm really after are any tips, advice, encouragement for an utter newb from the board.

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Now of course I have been doing my research here and at the other site. I had selected a girl from a short list at the other site, read her FRs here (looks gorgeous, slim, big tits, sounds like just what I'm after) but I'm getting cold feet. I'm nervous about making the booking and then the encounter itself. I'm nervous about STI's. And as soft as it sounds, my greatest concern is about how I will feel about myself if I go through with it!

STD's are a risk and yes it's a very exciting but nervous pursuit initially - part of the fun. I recommend you find a reputable independant and explain in a short email. If you are looking for some no-strings fun then I throughly recommend but if you have any emotional issues then I would proceed with caution. Best advice I can give you is don't think you are the big cheese, as your money is the same colour as anybody elses and don't misinterpret a WG's ability to listen and make you feel really good about yourself as a reality, more somebody being excellent at her job. As soon as the door shuts it's a case of, Next ......... you'll also fall for a WG sooner or later.

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Hi, im in east anglia too, could recomend some ladies around the area within the age you request.

Can also advise who to avoid so not rippped off.

PM me for more info.

BVK

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Do not have any form of sex without a condom. OWO included. It is risky and some STDs are incurable. Also a cancer risk.

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How will you feel about yourself after? There's only one way to find out! If you're worried about guilt from doing something a bit un-gentlemanly, just make sure your first time is with someone that has good field reports. Good field reports = confident woman enjoying her job, not some trafficked or desperate girl with no other income. If it's something else that's worrying you, either tell us what it is. You'll just have to decide if paying for a good seeing to is really what you want.

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How will you feel about yourself after? There's only one way to find out! If you're worried about guilt from doing something a bit un-gentlemanly, just make sure your first time is with someone that has good field reports. Good field reports = confident woman enjoying her job, not some trafficked or desperate girl with no other income. If it's something else that's worrying you, either tell us what it is. You'll just have to decide if paying for a good seeing to is really what you want.

Good point but you wont know till after will you?

to the OP. go on, try it. thousands of blokes punt so it cant be all bad can it.

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Yes,the first time is nerve wrecking, you get the nervous sweats, the shaky hands, mumblimg speech, and a blushing red face. With all the requirements you have listed for the type of escort your looking for add that she is comfortable with first timers. You may want to mention this to her before your booking. Relax and enjoy your time with escort.

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I appreciate your comments and advice given has been taking inboard.

Falling for a WG is of concern, but I feel pretty sure I'd be able to view everything for what it is: an economic transaction, cash for service.

I'd never intentionally pay for a trafficked or desperate girl, and if I suspected they were id make my excuses and leave.

Of course I understand that the only way to know how id feel about myself after is to go through with it but I do worry that id be consumed with guilt having done something socially unacceptable. It is something that in the past I have always said I would never do but circumstances and attitudes change. I am in know way judgemental of punters or the girls but worry that if I pay for sex, what will that say about me? I just don't want to go into it naive of the possible repercussions (other than thoroughly enjoying it of course!).

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I just don't want to go into it naive of the possible repercussions (other than thoroughly enjoying it of course!).

You sound like an intelligent man. You'll know what's best for you.

I'll give you some more advice. Book a longer appointment like 90 minutes or 2 hours with a decent independent girl with good reviews (not just the girl with the biggest tits in your area). You'll spend quite a bit of time just chatting which will remind you just how normal you, the girl and great sex are, in case you start to have any doubts about it being weird.

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If you paid for sex, what would it say about you?

That you paid for sex. No more no less.

Believe me lots and lots of successful, good-looking, and charming (as well as decent and moral) men pay for sex. Many pay for sex even though they are also having sex for free with their partners. Or even though they could easily have sex for free if they so chose.

Men do it for all sorts of reasons, and the only thing it says about them is that they pay (or have paid) for sex.

Similarly, women who have sex for money, well all that tells you is that they have sex for money. It doesn't tell you anything about who they are or why they do it. Only we can tell you that :P

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If you paid for sex, what would it say about you?

That you paid for sex. No more no less.

Believe me lots and lots of successful, good-looking, and charming (as well as decent and moral) men pay for sex. Many pay for sex even though they are also having sex for free with their partners. Or even though they could easily have sex for free if they so chose.

Men do it for all sorts of reasons, and the only thing it says about them is that they pay (or have paid) for sex.

Similarly, women who have sex for money, well all that tells you is that they have sex for money. It doesn't tell you anything about who they are or why they do it. Only we can tell you that :P

Well said!

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but I do worry that id be consumed with guilt having done something socially unacceptable.

You are now part of the global society and there are plenty of societies within that who find prostitution totally acceptable and have done through the ages. The deep in-built terror of being found to be socially un-acceptable and thrown out of the tribe can now be discarded. And you can now be part of a cyberspace society or tribe who finds prostitution totally acceptable, even preferable. Go to it with a clear conscious.

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The deep in-built terror of being found to be socially un-acceptable and thrown out of the tribe can now be discarded.

Definitely. But just to be safe, I always punt in disguise. I find glasses, a fake mustache and a dirty old rain coat will ensure that if anyone I know sees me they won't recognise me :D

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If the idea of leaping in with both feet worries you, then you could consider trying a massage with HR as an alternative (see the massage board on here for info). I do both, and my preferences ebb and flow between the two. Massage is imo a quite different experience to a "full service" punt, but for a newbie might be less intimidating, and the STI risk side of things is kept to a minimum.

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If you paid for sex, what would it say about you?

That you paid for sex. No more no less.

Believe me lots and lots of successful, good-looking, and charming (as well as decent and moral) men pay for sex. Many pay for sex even though they are also having sex for free with their partners. Or even though they could easily have sex for free if they so chose.

Men do it for all sorts of reasons, and the only thing it says about them is that they pay (or have paid) for sex.

Similarly, women who have sex for money, well all that tells you is that they have sex for money. It doesn't tell you anything about who they are or why they do it. Only we can tell you that :P

Indeed. And thank you.

As I said before my personal concerns are not a judgement on punters or WGs, I don't care what anyone gets up to in their private life as long as it doesn't hurt anyone else.

I appreciate the advice given by tomdavies, Lighttouch and TheVicar (lol). tom davies, your advice to book a longer appointment in order to spend some time chatting etc, whilst sound in theory, I don't think would work for me, yet. At the moment, all I want is a rebound fuck, nothing more. Your advice is still appreciated though.

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what is a rebound fuck?

shag on a spacehopper????

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Definitely. But just to be safe, I always punt in disguise. I find glasses, a fake mustache and a dirty old rain coat will ensure that if anyone I know sees me they won't recognise me :D

That's what I wear, hope they don't I'm you! :lol:

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At the moment, all I want is a rebound fuck, nothing more.

Why you did not said so in your original post?

If that the case, why you are on this forum? You are sound like another confused numpty, who only going to end up as timewaster for any WG, if you going to contact some. Hope you did not had any suggestions through PM. (if you did, please don't waste theirs time!)

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Why you did not said so in your original post?

If that the case, why you are on this forum? You are sound like another confused numpty, who only going to end up as timewaster for any WG, if you going to contact some. Hope you did not had any suggestions through PM. (if you did, please don't waste theirs time!)

Sounds like another disrespectful punter is possibly about to join the fold !:angry:

It’s very easy to understand why WGs get pissed off when new or virgin punters speak in such a condescending and derogatory manner about punting,

WGs on the hole [no pun intended] provide such a brilliant service to many satisfied, respectful and appreciative gents!!

Well said Xenia! :)

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what is a rebound fuck?

shag on a spacehopper????

Sex with a Kangaroo ? :D

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Really?

Why should this make me disrespectful, a time waster or a 'clueless numpty'?

Do the inhabitants of a board such as this not understand the concept of no strings fun, without having to go through the rigmarole of drinks, dinner blah blah blah, as a means of getting over a long term relationship too difficult to understand ?

Incredulous. Perhaps some confusion has been caused by the use of the term 'rebound'?

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Really?

Why should this make me disrespectful, a time waster or a 'clueless numpty'?

Do the inhabitants of a board such as this not understand the concept of no strings fun, without having to go through the rigmarole of drinks, dinner blah blah blah, as a means of getting over a long term relationship too difficult to understand ?

Incredulous. Perhaps some confusion has been caused by the use of the term 'rebound'?

Not all of the inhabitants.

I understand that a lot of clients come to me for the sheer simplicity of the transaction.

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I a WG isn't the right person for no strings attached sex I don't know who is. Give the guy a break! :P

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I a WG isn't the right person for no strings attached sex I don't know who is. Give the guy a break! :P

I agree - I'm sure his money is the same colour as everybody else's and he'd be more than welcome round at mine. If he fancies doggy better still, I wouldn't even have to put my Kindle down :D.

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Perhaps some confusion has been caused by the use of the term 'rebound'?

Please explain more. I am all the ears, and I am sure I am not the only one.

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