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Are You Perverted ?

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Do you consider some of the services you seek or provide,perverted ? Now I dislike when people rush off to check the dictionary -- we all have a sense of what we generally understand to be perverted. The problem with this industry is that constant exposure to it results in a certain acceptance of things that non participants in the industry would consider off the wall -- we oursevesl might have thought the same way before we jumped in.

I would never consider myself to be ' perverted ' in the traditional sense but I might be wrong. There is a body of opinion that believes that a middle aged man ( me ) wanting to have sex with a 20 yo is perverted. I thought that was reasonably normal. Then I got to thinking about services that I am interested in --- WS ! Having a woman you have never met before urinating into your mouth or on your face is , lets face it, 'off the wall' but there are many Wgs who are prepared to offer this service as standard, so I think ' grand ' ! Many guys like to cum on the lady's face, her hair, her feet etc,etc -- others want to be tied up and be whipped or to administer spanking to a complete stranger. ! Are these guys all perverted -- would their partners consider them to be perverted if they found out ? A lot of profiles advertise these ' mainstream ' services on the purple site. And I havent even alluded to the services where the guy wants to put on a nappy !! So do I or you need help.?:D

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I'm pretty mainstream in my taste, but I do think about sex a lot and I prefer girls almost half my age......so if that's perverted then yes I am

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Do you consider some of the services you seek or provide,perverted ? Now I dislike when people rush off to check the dictionary -- we all have a sense of what we generally understand to be perverted. The problem with this industry is that constant exposure to it results in a certain acceptance of things that non participants in the industry would consider off the wall -- we oursevesl might have thought the same way before we jumped in.

I would never consider myself to be ' perverted ' in the traditional sense but I might be wrong. There is a body of opinion that believes that a middle aged man ( me ) wanting to have sex with a 20 yo is perverted. I thought that was reasonably normal. Then I got to thinking about services that I am interested in --- WS ! Having a woman you have never met before urinating into your mouth or on your face is , lets face it, 'off the wall' but there are many Wgs who are prepared to offer this service as standard, so I think ' grand ' ! Many guys like to cum on the lady's face, her hair, her feet etc,etc -- others want to be tied up and be whipped or to administer spanking to a complete stranger. ! Are these guys all perverted -- would their partners consider them to be perverted if they found out ? A lot of profiles advertise these ' mainstream ' services on the purple site. And I havent even alluded to the services where the guy wants to put on a nappy !! So do I or you need help.?:D

I think what you need or are seeking is reassurance about your own sexual tendencies.

What you mention above is has always been around, it's just more readily promoted and visible via the information highway - YAY for technology.

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Earlier today I saw a regular client who originally told me he intended with my help

to take things further as time went by. I am not about to divulge specifics but today we

did something he has wanted for a long time and it finally happened.

He then sheepishly said he still regarded himself as a "lightweight"

Not only did I reassure him that he was not necessarily a lightweight because to one person

a certain activity may seem extreme and perverted while to another it is absolutely

ordinary but I also told him of one or two recent requests from clients which I have happily fulfilled.

He was amazed and I then explained that what he and I did was neither perverted nor unusual in my line

of work.

I sometimes have to remind myself that what I do in the course of my job can be stuff which I don't bat

an eyelid at but the client may have been building up his courage for a long time to act out his fantasy

or long desired wish.

As long as it is legal and safe then there is no such thing as perversion from my own point of view but

the client is a different matter altogether. He is left with the guilt/doubt/regret/compulsion to go further

etc which in turn may make him believe he is turning into a pervert.

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In my eyes, its kinky, until its unhealthy or unnatural (animals, necrophilia etc...) then its perverted.... however thats just my view. Theres no hard and fast rule...

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Here's a story - My mother (god rest her soul) called me a pervert when I was 14...... I was down Tottenham court Rd at the time and No. 13 was a shop called Lovecraft (anyone remember it ? ) I went in and bought a catalogue of their 'wares' - somewhat akin to an Anne Summers catalogue of today. I showed it round my mates at school and we all had a laugh about it - well we did until my mother found said catalogue in my school bag !!!

I remember to this day my mother wagging her finger at me saying "there's a word for people that look at this sort of stuff - and do you know what it is ? ....it's PERVERT, Yes PERVERT, You're a PERVERT.

Well anyway, I've been one ever since......... :D

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Here's a story - My mother (god rest her soul) called me a pervert when I was 14...... I was down Tottenham court Rd at the time and No. 13 was a shop called Lovecraft (anyone remember it ? ) I went in and bought a catalogue of their 'wares' - somewhat akin to an Anne Summers catalogue of today. I showed it round my mates at school and we all had a laugh about it - well we did until my mother found said catalogue in my school bag !!!

I remember to this day my mother wagging her finger at me saying "there's a word for people that look at this sort of stuff - and do you know what it is ? ....it's PERVERT, Yes PERVERT, You're a PERVERT.

Well anyway, I've been one ever since......... :D

:lol: :lol: !!

Yes........me too..........pervert and proud !!

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My friends think I am a pervert because my idea of a good holiday is going to watch a test match in the sun! Mind you it might be a bit perverted at the moment as I would have to be a masochist to enjoy this one day series.

On the serious side I am very mainstream and vanilla. I just love traditional rumpy-pumpy, kissing, cuddling and stroking. I am very comfortable with a bit of "normal" role play and naughty boys who need a spanking, but there are no wet celery and whisks in my armoury. (Did anyone see the 'Allo, 'Allo programme at the weekend? The actors looked just the same!).

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In my eyes, its kinky, until its unhealthy or unnatural (animals, necrophilia etc...) then its perverted.... however thats just my view. Theres no hard and fast rule...

I'd say I broadly agreed with that view.

The spectrum of human sexual experience is so wide but the likely reality is that the vast majority of people congregate around what are considered 'normal' activities. There are many people in this group who might say that BDSM is perverted for example. However, this is an activity that has come more towards the mainstream and wouldn't be considered so 'perverted' these days.

Many so called perverted activities have been around a long time. There are others which probably haven't been around so long but through the internet, people have realised that such activities are more common than they realised - 'hey, it's not just me and my missus who enjoy dressing up in furry animal costumes and having sex...'

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Most women I know or have met think getting a faceful of spunk is perverted yet this is what porn peddles to men as the norm. Likewise rimming, anal sex, gagging 3 somes etc.

I am sure most of us have all tried all the above on regular occasions with WG's but would get short thrift in most relationships.

Never in my normal life has a girl said to me, fuck my mouth harder, make me gag, fuck my ass now, I want you to piss on me, I want to rim you, I want to feel your come all over my face, I have a beautiful friend I want her to join us next time and when she did join us, do you want her pussy or ass when we DP her etc etc, all heard in this hobby though.

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I've done most things seen in mainstream porn with a WG. There's no way despite me requesting with previous partners they would agree to that. So in that sense I guess I could be considered a pervert. You know paying for it makes us the dirty rain mac brigade according to the masses. The anominity breaks down some barriers and makes me ask or try things I would not do in normal life for worry that she would tell someone.

If you have a partner and she tells you secrets about what her friends have done then you can guarantee she's telling her friends what you do.

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It is all relative. I get quite mad when women at work call guys perverts because they "were looking at me"

Nothing more natural than looking at a beatiful woman.

On a personal level, I'm willing to give almost anything a try - My girlfriend enjoys anal and me cumming in her face and mouth, we see that as natural. She also loves me to cane her, we actually went shopping to a Soho specialist shop for the cane!

I am also bi-sexual and have had many fantastic sessions with guys, guys and girls etc and have a love of watersports both giving and recieving.

I even helped out a lady from this forum with a client who had cerebal palsy and wanted to experience a bi-sexual fantasy. All of my life I've pushed the boundaries and never dismissed anything until I've tried it.

Pervert? no, just someone not hung up on perceived "moral standards"

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Didn't Freud say that a man who declares himself to not be perverted, IS a pervert?

Everyone has their own likes and dislikes, it just saddens me that people here take to ridiculing others when someone mentions something "unusual". So no, I don't consider myself perverted, just that I've explored a lot of things with a lot of wonderful people and found some acts that I really enjoy.

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It is all relative. I get quite mad when women at work call guys perverts because they "were looking at me"

Nothing more natural than looking at a beatiful woman.

On a personal level, I'm willing to give almost anything a try - My girlfriend enjoys anal and me cumming in her face and mouth, we see that as natural. She also loves me to cane her, we actually went shopping to a Soho specialist shop for the cane!

I am also bi-sexual and have had many fantastic sessions with guys, guys and girls etc and have a love of watersports both giving and recieving.

I even helped out a lady from this forum with a client who had cerebal palsy and wanted to experience a bi-sexual fantasy. All of my life I've pushed the boundaries and never dismissed anything until I've tried it.

Pervert? no, just someone not hung up on perceived "moral standards"

I am the same as this, although I don't consider myself to be gay or bi, I have enjoyed some fantastic experiences with couples and other guys when the situation has arisen.

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I am the same as this, although I don't consider myself to be gay or bi, I have enjoyed some fantastic experiences with couples and other guys when the situation has arisen.

greensd . I am genuinely interested here. How can a man enjoy sexual experiences with other guys if they are not gay or bi ?

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I am the same as this, although I don't consider myself to be gay or bi, I have enjoyed some fantastic experiences with couples and other guys when the situation has arisen.

Er, you may not consider yourself as bi, but you clearly must be from what you've said! Or at the very least 'Metrosexual'!

Anyway, back on topic, one mans perversion is another mans normality - I guess it's all down to a matter of perspective.

Edit: ah, Cumandgo beat me to it! Our posts crossed!

Edited by DancinDannyD

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I have found to my surprise that I am much straighter than I thought. When I started to consider punting I thought I would get into all sorts of things but I find that when I am with a real woman I mostly just want to have sex with her. Maybe as my punting career develops that will change.

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It's a difficult area no? It depends on your morals as the meaning of perverse is roughly to turn the wrong way (sorry I looked it up). The word's origin itself and a definition I saw imply that it (a 'perversion') is purely chosen out of free will.. which I disagree with. As an athiest I've chosen a system of morals but it's probably not exactly the same as other athiests so.. I would only consider something wrong if it causes distress to someone. The word perverted I would say is meaningless outside of religion.

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perversion is in the eye of the beholder only.....it's not wrong unless it's not by consent

one mans jizz is another mans custard

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greensd . I am genuinely interested here. How can a man enjoy sexual experiences with other guys if they are not gay or bi ?

This is a good and very valid question and one I ask myself from time to time. I guess the answer is that I don't fancy men, I don't look at men in the same way I would look at a woman, but in a sexual situation and if I was turned on enough, I would not be impartial to a bit of man fun.

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What's perverted ?

For me I'm pretty vanilla but occasionally like a bit of tie and tease - other than that the only perverted thing I do is watch a crappy football team far too often.

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I think Perverted and Kinky have the same underlying semantics, sexual behaviour that deviates from the vanilla/norm. However, the word perverted has an underlying negative connotation; while the word kinky doesn't, it's conveys a lighter, jockular, fun activity.

I tend to think of the things I like as Kinky, but the things I don't as perverted.

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I think Perverted and Kinky have the same underlying semantics, sexual behaviour that deviates from the vanilla/norm. However, the word perverted has an underlying negative connotation; while the word kinky doesn't, it's conveys a lighter, jockular, fun activity.

I tend to think of the things I like as Kinky, but the things I don't as perverted.

Agreed - that's a good definition.

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perversion is in the eye of the beholder only.....it's not wrong unless it's not by consent

one mans jizz is another mans custard

How about this HungDong, and I'm not having a go as I pretty much agree with you, but just to play Devils Advocate :

Imagine you have 1 person who obtains great sexual pleasure from inflicting extreme and brutal physical pain on another person

You have another person who obtains great sexual pleasure from having extreme and physically damaging pain inflicted upon them

These two meet and by mutual consent............you know the rest.......

(and not such a ridiculous 'out there' scenario as people such as this do exist)

Does your 'its not wrong unless its not by consent' assertion hold true in such a case ??

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How about this HungDong, and I'm not having a go as I pretty much agree with you, but just to play Devils Advocate :

Imagine you have 1 person who obtains great sexual pleasure from inflicting extreme and brutal physical pain on another person

You have another person who obtains great sexual pleasure from having extreme and physically damaging pain inflicted upon them

These two meet and by mutual consent............you know the rest.......

(and not such a ridiculous 'out there' scenario as people such as this do exist)

Does your 'its not wrong unless its not by consent' assertion hold true in such a case ??

May I asnwer this one? In my opinion it does yes, because the consenting couple wouldn't consider it to be perverted.

Members of my family have told me on more than one occasion that they find my lifestyle to be very perverse, yet my lovely clients, who in the main are only looking for what we would consider vanilla services, would I think be upset by my families views.

Actually I enjoy being deliciously perverse at times and get off on the shock value, especially when it comes to my straight laced peers. I think perversion means different things to different people depending on their mind set.

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