Joe Diddley

That Difficult Third Visit

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A few members (including myself) have noticed that the third appointment to a WG can be a little disappointing. The first visit generally involves the mutual discovery of limits and likes (and in many ways is the most erotic). The second is often the most fun involving the exploration of kinks, fetishes or simply likes to the maximum. The third appointment, however, (assuming that the first and second worked out in this way), can involve a failure of the imagination. Sometimes the parties might attempt a possibly stale re-run of the second visit's script. Other times much of the hour (or whatever) is wasted as neither WG nor client really knows where to go from where they left off at the end of the second meeting.

What do you (both SPs and clients) do to keep subsequent (not necessarily third) visits vibrant?

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I am somewhere between 20 and 25 visits to one lady, and it is still a huge amount of fun, and something I look forward to every time.

As well as the physical bits, there is also a great connection with humour and conversation, so for me, the third visit was just a step down a long and winding road. (cue music).

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I'm with Zzzzorro, I've seen my favourite girl 40 times now, and it really does get better each time.

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Very true especially being a rerun of the first or second visit my pet hate is predictable scenarios, dont use it on my phone text lol , like spontaneity

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I think it is a personality thing more than anything else.

Some guys like the variety of new girls whilst others prefer the familiarity.

So it is not that the girl is failing on the third appointment, more that you are ready to move onto a new girl for that new experience/excitement.

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I think it is a personality thing more than anything else.

Some guys like the variety of new girls whilst others prefer the familiarity.

So it is not that the girl is failing on the third appointment, more that you are ready to move onto a new girl for that new experience/excitement.

I agree with Pia, maybe the you need to move on to other girls or the girls you are seeing are not the right ones for you. I have freinds/working girls that prefer to see new clients all the time, because it means each and every booking is for them fresh and fun with new excitment, whereas there are others (like me) that find that the more often you see a guy, the easier it is to get them to let go and really enjoy themselve.

I've found it often can take around five bookings before you can get a guy to really let go of their inhibitions. In fact I've got clients I've seen hundreds of times over the years and it never gets stale. Its totally down to the indivual and imagination on both sides IMHO.

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Something has to be fresh each time. As your trust in each other builds then you can push more boundaries which opens up new things to try. But there are other ways to keep things fresh. If you only do shagging sessions then try a longer dinner date, if she offers them. Take a gift if you don't normally, maybe something you can both share like food or toys. Have a 3some. If you're still bored then just admit that you like seeing lots of different girls and book someone else, she won't mind and you can always go back to your new regular later.

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I agree with Pia, maybe the you need to move on to other girls or the girls you are seeing are not the right ones for you. I have freinds/working girls that prefer to see new clients all the time, because it means each and every booking is for them fresh and fun with new excitment, whereas there are others (like me) that find that the more often you see a guy, the easier it is to get them to let go and really enjoy themselve.

I've found it often can take around five bookings before you can get a guy to really let go of their inhibitions. In fact I've got clients I've seen hundreds of times over the years and it never gets stale. Its totally down to the indivual and imagination on both sides IMHO.

Thanks Holly (and others). I should add that this isn't something I'm currently experiencing by any means, though I have on occasion in the past, as have others on this board (or so I've read on other threads). I raised it more out of academic interest than as a plea for help!

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It's still a good one Joe, I think lots of us have been there! It will be interesting to see what suggestions people have.

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girls i have seen a few times i ask em to dress differently. Like last time i saw one of my regs i asked her to wear her tight jeans. feeling her tight arse through the denim before peeling her out of them was a nice prelude to the fun....

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I think I fall into both camps. While I do like seeing ladies I haven't seen before and the thrill of the unknown, there are ladies I know I have to see again, and again,

With these ladies the sex does change. We both feel more relaxed in each other company, know what does and doesn't work, and I feel more comfortable asking to try thins, that I probably wouldn't on first seeing a lady.

The only problem I have is that I can't see these ladies as regularly as I would like, as they either just work office hours, so I have to take some holiday to see them, or live a long drive away, so I have to wait until work brings me closer. Still the feeling of anticipation of seeing them can go some way to making up for this.

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My recent punting has been in parlours where I really get a buzz out of seeing a different girl each time.

In the past I've had several regulars (one for at least 3 years) and in retrospect it seems like a bit of a "punting marriage".

When I stopped seeing my last regular I had a fantastic 4 hour outcall with a Polish girl. I arranged a follow-up session a month later and it was really disappointing - maybe my expectations were too high ....

Variety certainly does it for me now

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A few members (including myself) have noticed that the third appointment to a WG can be a little disappointing. The first visit generally involves the mutual discovery of limits and likes (and in many ways is the most erotic). The second is often the most fun involving the exploration of kinks, fetishes or simply likes to the maximum. The third appointment, however, (assuming that the first and second worked out in this way), can involve a failure of the imagination. Sometimes the parties might attempt a possibly stale re-run of the second visit's script. Other times much of the hour (or whatever) is wasted as neither WG nor client really knows where to go from where they left off at the end of the second meeting.

What do you (both SPs and clients) do to keep subsequent (not necessarily third) visits vibrant?

I'm with you on this Joe, in fact I wonder how this effects married couples or thos in long term relationships? Not after just three times, obviously, but after 300 maybe!

Also, doesn't his apply to many experiences in life? First time to a place on Holiday, its all a novelty. Second time, one is street wise and knows the ropes, third visit its all a bit the same?

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I wonder how this effects married couples or thos in long term relationships? Not after just three times, obviously, but after 300 maybe!

Wait till you get close to 3000 times pollyp23. It certainly does have an effect !

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What do you (both SPs and clients) do to keep subsequent (not necessarily third) visits vibrant?

I don't find this so much of a problem. Most girls I see, I happy to see once and leave it at that. When I do go and see a girl for a 2nd time, it's invariably because the first time was so good and a repeat is a must. For me, if the second visit is as successful (and that always involves finding that elusive "click" factor), then there is no question that 3rd, 4th, 5th etc visits are on the cards (subject to time and funds). Of the girls who I have got into higher than 5 visits with (actually not that many, believe me), only one has gone stale on me. It's usually retirement or a location change that brings a successful run to an end.

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I agree with "Way Too Tall"i'm always itching to see a new lady for the excitment of the unknown,but love seeing regulars,and being more open and trying new things.

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I am somewhere between 20 and 25 visits to one lady, and it is still a huge amount of fun, and something I look forward to every time.

As well as the physical bits, there is also a great connection with humour and conversation, so for me, the third visit was just a step down a long and winding road. (cue music).

That sounds about right for me too.

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I don't find this so much of a problem. Most girls I see, I happy to see once and leave it at that. When I do go and see a girl for a 2nd time, it's invariably because the first time was so good and a repeat is a must. For me, if the second visit is as successful (and that always involves finding that elusive "click" factor), then there is no question that 3rd, 4th, 5th etc visits are on the cards (subject to time and funds). Of the girls who I have got into higher than 5 visits with (actually not that many, believe me), only one has gone stale on me. It's usually retirement or a location change that brings a successful run to an end.

That's exactly how I see it too! If I get to a third visit, it's because I feel an element of warmth and friendship from the girl and it follows the sex will be great because of this. The session can be pretty much the same, maybe some subtle variations such as her outfit or different sex positions but that is all that is required. Whilst I have enjoyed seeing almost all the girls that I have, the main reason for not repeat booking is the lack of "click" factor!

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Your first visit is exciting and new, your 2nd visit is even more exciting cos you know brill it's gonna be and the 3rd is even better......

It can only get better.. :P

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Yeah, the third punt is usually the clincher, but not always.

The second punt is usually there just to make sure that the first one wasn't a fluke (was it my imagonation or did she really...), but its by the time you reach the third punt that you get to realise the limitations, or lack of, of the girl's services.

If the girl passes the third punt then I'll usually carry on until I get tired of her, or she gets tired of me and tells me to go elsewhere.

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I've had three 'third visits', all are stars that I would see again if they were available. One girl put less effort into 'getting ready' I did notice, perhaps because of the familiarity.

For me it's the second visit that may not live up to expectations. Only once has this been a reality to me.

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I personally have found with some 'return visitors' that the excitement has often been born of being able to talk freely for the first time with a woman about their fantasies and then being able to act them out. The problem then occurs when the fantasies they have start to dry up and they start to look to me to come up with new fantasies. These types of punts can be fun, but they do seem to have a 'sell by date' and naturally come to an end when I can't make the 'difference' any more.

Another situation where things come to an end is when the punter starts to let his feelings come in to play and realises that he 'thinks' he is falling in love. This of course is not true, as it is an artificial situation and they are only meeting the part of me that they have paid to meet with a smattering of my thoughts on topical interest/genre which may have come into conversation.

The ones that work well for regular meets beyond the 'third' are the ones that are not looking for something 'different' or 'escapism' but geniunely enjoy the company of a female as well as the intimacy and are not necessarily looking for 'fireworks' as much as a meeting of minds and body. I think if I am honest, these are my favourite clients, as although the others can be rather explosive and passionate they tend to remain moments in time and something to reflect upon rather than something to nurture and evolve with.

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Another situation where things come to an end is when the punter starts to let his feelings come in to play and realises that he 'thinks' he is falling in love. This of course is not true, as it is an artificial situation and they are only meeting the part of me that they have paid to meet with a smattering of my thoughts on topical interest/genre which may have come into conversation.

The ones that work well for regular meets beyond the 'third' are the ones that are not looking for something 'different' or 'escapism' but geniunely enjoy the company of a female as well as the intimacy and are not necessarily looking for 'fireworks' as much as a meeting of minds and body. I think if I am honest, these are my favourite clients, as although the others can be rather explosive and passionate they tend to remain moments in time and something to reflect upon rather than something to nurture and evolve with.

Without doubt, the most informed and intelligent comments I have read for a long, long time.

Although I will probably never meet you Kate, you certainly have had an impact :-)

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Luckily for me I have more than a few "special friends" that I have been seeing once a week/bi-weekly or monthly for nearly three years.

I am not a swing from the chandeliers type escort, (although more than up for some role playing fun etc), and find that a lot come to me because they want a proper intimate experience with conversation and cosiness.

At least one gentleman has introduced me to his friends as his girl friend, and I have attended weddings, cricket matches, works do's etc easily without blowing cover, precisely because I do know him well.

A couple of regulars have tried to cross the line but have been put gently back again, and I still see them. It is a fine balance but one that I am happy with.

There will always be the thrill seekers out there that like trying different ladies every time, and nothing wrong with that either. But I do enjoy seeing my regulars, hurrah!

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Pandora and Kate make some very good points, but I'm not if the distinction between the 'thrill seekers' and 'regulars', implied in their posts, is always so clear cut. I guess my original post was aimed perhaps at those 'in between' who like the mutual intimacy and, perhaps, developing friendship that might come with establishing a relationship with a regular (and are therefore prepared to make that third visit), while at the same time hoping that 'fireworks' and mutual ingenuity in the bedroom also develop, specifically in ways that offer new kinds of physical or visceral 'thrill'. There are, I suspect, very many men reading these posts who are seeking neither pump-and-dump head-rush kicks nor pipe-and-slippers cosiness, but a balance between welcome familiarity and the thrillingly erotic. A tough call, perhaps, for those on both sides of the duvet.

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