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Double Standards   165 members have voted

  1. 1. Would you marry a working girl?

    • Yes (Only if she stopped working)
    • Yes (Even if she still worked)
    • No

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many of us see nothing wrong with visiting ladies for sexual services, but what would u do if you found out your wife or wife to be was working or had worked previously offered services for cash.

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Never! They're all witches, harridans and brazen hussies! They're not to be trusted!

Just kidding. I haven't voted, don't want to skew the poll, but my answer would be yes (even if she still worked). However, I'd still expect to be working as well.

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Amanda just for you i will let it include if your partnet found out u were working would u be kicked out or keep working

Never! They're all witches, harridans and brazen hussies! They're not to be trusted!

Just kidding. I haven't voted, don't want to skew the poll, but my answer would be yes (even if she still worked). However, I'd still expect to be working as well.

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many of us see nothing wrong with visiting ladies for sexual services, but what would u do if you found out your wife or wife to be was working or had worked previously offered services for cash.

For me there is a big difference between finding out she had worked in the past and that she is still working. What she did in the past is gone and cant be changed, if you love her enough it really shouldnt matter in my view. If however she is still working and not told me i wouldnt be too happy that she hadnt said anything. Secrets right from the start dont bide well for a successful marriage. I would be upset that she didnt feel able to tell me.

On the other hand if she did tell me as she wanted to continue working after getting married i would try to dissuade her but ultimately support what decision she made. Compromise is a very important aspect of a partnership and if i loved her i would go along with her wishes, but certainly be worried about her safety the whole time.

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Assuming I wasn't married now, I would if she was the right person but realistically only after a significant relationship and probably on the basis that I had her all to myself.

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I would hope she would be able to be honest with me, I agree with Smiths, what happens In the past has gone, If you love each other It dosn't matter.

I'm not sure how I'd feel If she wanted to keep working, I guess to her It would just be another (well paid) job to her, and If I was still punting It would be hypocritical for me to tell her to stop hooking.

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The only working girl I'd marry is Billie Piper. :)

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I think I'd understand if she wanted to carry on working. But I'd insist she has to stop charging me for services :angry:

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I think I'd understand if she wanted to carry on working. But I'd insist she has to stop charging me for services :angry:

Perhaps you can negotiate Mate's Rates?

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If you married a working girl who had stopped i think this could be a slippery slope if you as a couple came into financial difficulties. I guess she could go back to her old ways as some would say its easy money, made available very quickly with no tax!

That character from Shameless springs to mind!

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and extra special discount for overnighters!

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and extra special discount for overnighters!

It's quite surprising how many men do fall for escorts. I think it is possible for there to be a geniune *click*, but then if you met them as a punter does that make a difference? I mean how do you know when you are meeting the 'real lady' and not the persona she engages into while working?

I used to find it flattering when people said they had feelings for me, but I don't any more as it usually means I've lost a client that I really enjoyed seeing, due to them not being able to cope with their emotions. It's poo!

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Looking at it from the opposite perspective, could a woman who met her husband initially as a punter trust him to remain faithful?

Does a leopard change it spots?

I suppose it depends on the dynamic of the relationship.

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Looking at it from the opposite perspective, could a woman who met her husband initially as a punter trust him to remain faithful?

Does a leopard change it spots?

I suppose it depends on the dynamic of the relationship.

For me it wouldn't be a case of changing my spots; I only see escorts when I'm single. Personally, I do have daydreams about what it would be like to (mutually) fall in love with a WG, but I've read enough on this forum and others to know that most (if not all) girls have a 'work' face and a 'home' face, as most of us do, and whilst they may be similar you're not really meeting the real person when you're a client.

I look upon it as being similar to winning the lottery - it happens to someone, but it's not likely to be me!

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Just wondering what a young and single working girl thinks, seeing so many married men that are cheating on their wives? Would hardly make them likely to trust someone enough for a walk down the aisle at a later stage in their life, or am I wrong?

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...if you met them as a punter does that make a difference? I mean how do you know when you are meeting the 'real lady' and not the persona she engages into while working?

Kate, I have a theory on this, although it may be a load of cr**.

When you start a romantic relationship, a lot of people will often be on their best behaviour for a long time. You have to be in a relationship for years to really find out what someone is like. With an escort the only difference is that you also get good behaviour during paid time, even if she wouldn't normally deem you worthy of going on a 1st date. So I don't see why anyone should worry that an escort might still be in work-mode in her real relationships. If you get a "real date" then it's with the "real lady".

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I agree with Smiths on his first paragraph, but I don't think I could deal with her still wanting to work though.

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Amanda just for you i will let it include if your partnet found out u were working would u be kicked out or keep working

I'm not a huge fan of monogamy, but anyway. All the men I've had relationships with have known what I do for a living. If they are the sort of person to have a problem with it (either morally or through jealousy), then we won't last anyway, so they're free to beggar off. :)

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I couldn't have a relationship let alone marry anybody who put a determination to make money before us. Neither could I form a relationship with anybody who needed multiple sex partners. I would be slightly concerned that a WG might think I was damaged goods having punted. I would be drawn to a WG who has perhaps spiritually/emotionally 'found herself' through selling sex because that's what happened to me. Great common ground to build from.

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would be disappointed but would live with it. i do not consider it double standard. paying someone for an hour of sex is not the same as choosing a partner. i choose wgs based on sex appeal. partners i choose on a different basis.

many of us see nothing wrong with visiting ladies for sexual services, but what would u do if you found out your wife or wife to be was working or had worked previously offered services for cash.

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would be disappointed but would live with it. i do not consider it double standard. paying someone for an hour of sex is not the same as choosing a partner. i choose wgs based on sex appeal. partners i choose on a different basis.

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:lol:

Anyway, back on topic.

If you think it's ok to have sex with prostitutes, or anyone else, when you're married or in a long term relationship, then you have absolutely no right to want or expect your partner to be monogamous. I don't believe monogamy is a good or healthy thing at all, to be honest, but if you're going to do it you have to do it right which means both of you follow the rules, not just one.

If you would stop seeing escorts then I suppose it's fair enough to not want to be with a lady who is currently working in the sex industry (but you don't get to 'expect her to quit' - you get to walk away and choose a more compatible partner), but judging her on her history when yours is no 'better' is sexist crap.

If you don't see prostitutes as being exactly the same as any other human being then you shouldn't be seeing them at all, you should be sorting out your attitude towards women and having a wank until you learn some respect.

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i see escorts because it is fun and easy. selling sex for money is an exception rather than the rule. most normal girls would be horrified at the thought.

having seen many escorts i still have no understanding how girls can do this. however from what i have seen the reasons are either lack of choice, love of money or upbringing.

there are also the single mothers who knowingly sacrifice themselves for their child. they are a different category altogether.

those i have been in long term relationship with do not belong to any of these categories and as such would be unlikely to have sold themselves for money. no need.

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If you would stop seeing escorts then I suppose it's fair enough to not want to be with a lady who is currently working in the sex industry (but you don't get to 'expect her to quit' - you get to walk away and choose a more compatible partner), but judging her on her history when yours is no 'better' is sexist crap.

If you don't see prostitutes as being exactly the same as any other human being then you shouldn't be seeing them at all, you should be sorting out your attitude towards women and having a wank until you learn some respect.

I would certainly not judge any WG or Punter. It's all about where you want to be and what makes you happen at various intervals of our lives. There is nothing wrong with selling or buying sex between two consentual adults and we don't have to justify anything to anybody. A relationship is far more complex and demanding an obligation between two human beings than a supplying and paying for sex. I don't make love to a WG I have sex with her and vice versa.

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i see escorts because it is fun and easy. selling sex for money is an exception rather than the rule. most normal girls would be horrified at the thought.

having seen many escorts i still have no understanding how girls can do this. however from what i have seen the reasons are either lack of choice, love of money or upbringing.

there are also the single mothers who knowingly sacrifice themselves for their child. they are a different category altogether.

those i have been in long term relationship with do not belong to any of these categories and as such would be unlikely to have sold themselves for money. no need.

From my experience I am not sure it is as simple as that - the women I have met certainly have choices and have clealry had a good upbringing. I am not even sure that they are particularly avaricious - sure they are seeking a comfortable lifestyle, as are we all, but I have not found many who I would describe as money grabbing. Any escorts care to comment?

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