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How Important Are First Impressions Or Can They Be Misleading?

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This one really is for everyone to answer, but I'm thinking back to when I first started Escorting and boy was I making some howling mistakes. I remember making some rather profound statements and judgements, which I'm glad I have ironed out now, but I am aware that some gents (on here as it happens) would not meet me because of some of the statements that I made, despite the fact that it clearly isn't who I am now and have the FRs to show it.

So... Do you tend to make a judgement on someone based on your first impression and stick to it regardless or if given the opportunity to see the change, would you give them the benefit of doubt and change your views?

Ladies, if you get a call off a gent wanting to book you and they bungle it up completely so you refuse the first time, have you ever changed your mind at a later date or go with your gut instinct and stick to it?

Has anyone ever changed their mind and regretted it or found they had a great time because they did?

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It is said that the first impressions are the most important.

However i have found in all walks of life that i can sometimes forget the first impressions & see the person beyond that & find the persons real personality after a week of working or meeting them.

BVK

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If the problem was i thought the lady had a bad attitude i probably wouldnt try again. In my experience if someone cant make the effort to appear friendly and entusiastic initially then its unlikely although not definate that they will be not be my cup of tea.

So first impressions are very important but they can be misleading but it depends on if you are prepared to give a second chance.

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It is an interesting question Kate.

I guess for the guys in the nature of the industry, physical attraction, which has to be the first impression, is the key to them making a booking. However, If I see a ladies picture, I often wonder, what is she really like as a person? Perhaps this is something that won't ever or cannot ever be answered, or a naive thought on my part, but it is what I think and perhaps my downfall. I over think situations and it is hard to remove yourself from that, probably a self protection thing. So really I try not to go on first impressions as best as possible.

As for a ladies first impression of a guy, again this worries me as I feel first impressions can be misleading. I tend to be a very shy sort of person, yet I do like to exercise and workout, so I am quite different from this in terms of my physicality, I don't think people would put the two aspects, the emotional and physical, together.

I guess both the gents and ladies in this industry can hide aspects of themselves very well, the nature of the transaction perhaps dictates it is so.

However, I long ago thought people are people and it isn't wise to judge on what you first see or read, people make mistakes and develop. They have good days and bad. From my own point of view I can only be honest, perhaps a dangerous thing, and if people cannot accept that you just have to move on, regrets or otherwise.

I do also think if you take a certain approach you can be branded in this way or that. But my view is if I see something positive I will tell someone, hopefully this is taken in the spirit it is mean't, but I'm sure sometimes people are more cynical to that.

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Well they do say you only get one chance to make a first impression.

I must say that I find it very very hard to undo a first impression I get of someone. Forums can be a bit odd because your first impression is less physical and more to do with their attitude and phrasing etc and we all know that forum posts can be taken very much the wrong way from what was intended.

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If the problem was i thought the lady had a bad attitude i probably wouldnt try again. In my experience if someone cant make the effort to appear friendly and entusiastic initially then its unlikely although not definate that they will be not be my cup of tea.

So first impressions are very important but they can be misleading but it depends on if you are prepared to give a second chance.

Yes I agree. Actually, I find it very attractive when I read a negative FR but where the lady responds apologising for the punter's bad experience, explaining what happened to her on the day and inviting the punter back with the promise of a better time. If I physically fancied a WG but had a bad time due to poor attitude and the WG acknowledged this and asked to see me again to put things right , I think I would be happy to do so.

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Yes I agree. Actually, I find it very attractive when I read a negative FR but where the lady responds apologising for the punter's bad experience, explaining what happened to her on the day and inviting the punter back with the promise of a better time. If I physically fancied a WG but had a bad time due to poor attitude and the WG acknowledged this and asked to see me again to put things right , I think I would be happy to do so.

With a small number of party ladies i have gone to the party and found they may have a bad attitude on that day yet the next time i see them they are good. As its not them i am specifically going to see there is no risk involved as i would just give them a wide berth if they still had a bad attitude knowing their were other ladies to choose from. Its not often i have seen such a change though.

121 wise i remember phoning a lady and she was very offhand so i didnt take it any further. A punter mate then recommended her to me not knowing i had rang her so i spoke to her again and she ended up as a regular for a while, so my initial view has changed on the odd occassion.

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On a number of occasions, I have revised my first impression of people both on the way the post on forums or their initial phone contact. It can be very easy to misread something and come to wrong conclusions. A lot of people are really racked with terrible nerves when first picking up the phone, especially to a floozy. Sometimes the funniest, sweetest and loveliest person can come across a bit of a stumbling idiot and then turn out to be an intelligent witty gent in real life.

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IMHO people are rarely like how they sound on the telephone - don't know why that is but over the years I have spoken to people on the phone, formed an impression regarding both looks and character and nearly always been totally wrong when I have got to meet them. It could just be my lack of intuition but maybe not.

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First impressions are very important. But what about this then, I went to visit a lady and my first impression was that she was not interested, bad mannered , and I walked.

Thinking about it after and knowing she had such great FR I went back again, and then back again and I now know I could have missed out on a class punt if I stuck to my first impression.

She is now in my "gallery" and I will be back again shortly .

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They can be misleading - as has often been mentioned on here, good looks do not necessarily equate to good service.

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