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Why so many ugly ones end up calling themselves Dominatrix? Skill or desperation?

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Why so many ugly ones end up calling themselves Dominatrix? Skill or desperation?

Subtle :rolleyes:

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Why so many ugly ones end up calling themselves Dominatrix? Skill or desperation?

Dominatrix don't offer sex, so sexual attraction is not necessary. When you're trussed up in a rubber suit with an electric dildo up your butt, and nettles on your balls, you'll hardly notice.

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Dominatrix don't offer sex, so sexual attraction is not necessary. When you're trussed up in a rubber suit with an electric dildo up your butt, and nettles on your balls, you'll hardly notice.

Cheers for the mental image. I have dabbled in this in the past, definately not my bag, either giving or receiving, but as ever to each their own.:rolleyes:

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Dominatrix don't offer sex, so sexual attraction is not necessary. When you're trussed up in a rubber suit with an electric dildo up your butt, and nettles on your balls, you'll hardly notice.

I agree that generally speaking a Dominatrix will not offer sex but there are exceptions such as The London Retreat where you are guaranteed a "happy ending".

http://www.londonretreat.co.uk/main.htm

I can personally recommend Lisa, very pretty and very skilled at her job.:rolleyes:

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Some are definitely 'lifestyle', I have met one. She had body scars from the corsets as she wears them to sleep in, I saw them. Pure sadist too, I was quite frightened of her. Her eyes lit up at odd moments, and I really don't think it was an act, as no one else was looking, I just saw fleeting moments. I spent time with her through my other job, (she didn't know of Dollymopp). Summat there, was not of my world! Kinda liked her though, she was intriguing.

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Dominatrix don't offer sex, so sexual attraction is not necessary. When you're trussed up in a rubber suit with an electric dildo up your butt, and nettles on your balls, you'll hardly notice.
Surely this is a direct quote from a John Housman lyrical poem.:rolleyes:

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I agree that generally speaking a Dominatrix will not offer sex but there are exceptions such as The London Retreat where you are guaranteed a "happy ending".

http://www.londonretreat.co.uk/main.htm

I can personally recommend Lisa, very pretty and very skilled at her job.:rolleyes:

Isn't she gorgeous!!!!

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Subtle :rolleyes:

You know me. Never mince my words.

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Dominatrix don't offer sex, so sexual attraction is not necessary. When you're trussed up in a rubber suit with an electric dildo up your butt, and nettles on your balls, you'll hardly notice.

I do indulge in it from time to time. I have no psychological need to be dominated nor do I enjoy being treated like a slave for the sake of it. I am by nature quite dominant.

However I find it interesting as it is a break from mundane. The ideal partner for me is a sexy looking lady with great body in fetish gear. Someone who I find sexually exciting and able to arouse me into BDSM games. A session with no sexual activity is of no interest to me.

I started this thread as I find it very hard to find the type of person I like. I know a couple whom I visit from time to time. However looking at websites the majority are battle ax looking ladies who think domination is about pain and ordering people about or are normal WGs that have passed their prime and think this maybe a niche and often do not have a clue.

In summary, I think this is a scene that is widely abused by many service providers.

London retreat is one establishment that provides consistently great looking girls offering a great service. I don't like the fact that much traffic goes through it but to enjoy such ladies in a less commercial surroundings no doubt will set you back over £200. As it is, 100 gets you 30 minutes in their current premises. I have tried a few of their ladies. All been great but never gone back for seconds.

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Isn't she gorgeous!!!!

I would rate her as a 10++

Someone pointed out the other day that she also works at Soho Cottage under the name Anne Marie ------- slightly lower rates than London Retreat.

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I would rate her as a 10++

Someone pointed out the other day that she also works at Soho Cottage under the name Anne Marie ------- slightly lower rates than London Retreat.

I had the pleasure of seeing her once and she made an impression. Hot hot hot...

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Speaking as someone who uses Mistresses/Dominatrixes more than working girls, I cant say I've seen many unattractive ones, both online or in the flesh.

Is this something the other site is doing?

I regularly browse:

http://www.london-mistresses.com/main_pages/news.php

I'd be happy to let most of them walk all over me! :rolleyes:

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Speaking as someone who uses Mistresses/Dominatrixes more than working girls, I cant say I've seen many unattractive ones, both online or in the flesh.

You can't be serious.

The vast majority of Mistresses are old and unattractive.

I could provide lots of examples but doubt the moderators would approve.

This is one of the few attractive ones, only for connoisseurs of this hobby---

http://www.ladyrochester.com/index.php

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I would rate her as a 10++

Someone pointed out the other day that she also works at Soho Cottage under the name Anne Marie ------- slightly lower rates than London Retreat.

Someone also pointed out that she is quite open about the fact that she has only returned to the vanilla stuff at Soho Cottage because she needs the money. And, of course she won't have all her equipment at Soho Cottage, so you're probably better off paying slightly more at the Retreat.

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Speaking as someone who uses Mistresses/Dominatrixes more than working girls, I cant say I've seen many unattractive ones, both online or in the flesh.

Is this something the other site is doing?

I regularly browse:

http://www.london-mistresses.com/main_pages/news.php

I'd be happy to let most of them walk all over me! :rolleyes:

Exactly my point. Many pretty one's don't really have a clue or think domination is about pain and giving a good caning. Have you visited Ms. Eve on that site? She does not know the first thing about domination by any stretch of imagination. "Seductress" again lacks any real skill and is much happier with a tumble in the bed. Tammy, enthusiastic but chaotic. She is feeling her way through.

I admit that the site you refer to is one of the better ones. There are plenty others listing a number of undesirables.

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Someone also pointed out that she is quite open about the fact that she has only returned to the vanilla stuff at Soho Cottage because she needs the money. And, of course she won't have all her equipment at Soho Cottage, so you're probably better off paying slightly more at the Retreat.

I agree -------- unless of course you are only seeking a Vanilla service. :rolleyes:

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You can't be serious.

The vast majority of Mistresses are old and unattractive.

I could provide lots of examples but doubt the moderators would approve.

This is one of the few attractive ones, only for connoisseurs of this hobby---

http://www.ladyrochester.com/index.php

Have you seen Rochester? I spoke to her once but never managed to sum up the energy to travel that far. She sounded nice and genuine.

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Have you seen Rochester? I spoke to her once but never managed to sum up the energy to travel that far. She sounded nice and genuine.

Yes, excellent premises in a new house 5 minutes from the Dartford crossing, easy to park.

I will PM you with more details. :rolleyes:

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I have no admit no fascination for or experience of this field. My ignorance is so deep that I assumed that domination sessions always had a "happy ending". The news that they don't suggests that an attractive dominatrix might be unconducive to the fantasy. Although a pretty sweet face might make the pain all the more surprising and therefore delightful, in general it would probably not be a benefit.

Plus, it's a specialist area which means experience and therefore age is helpful. A bitter and twisted attitude to the world may also be a useful attribute for a dominatrix to have, and this is obviously easier to acquire the longer you've been in it, and the more of it you have the more it will be reflected in your face.

In other words I suspect it's not a con or desperation, it just kinda tends to go with the job.

"Every man over 40 is responsible for his face" - Abraham Lincoln

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I have no admit no fascination for or experience of this field. My ignorance is so deep that I assumed that domination sessions always had a "happy ending". The news that they don't suggests that an attractive dominatrix might be unconducive to the fantasy. Although a pretty sweet face might make the pain all the more surprising and therefore delightful, in general it would probably not be a benefit.

Plus, it's a specialist area which means experience and therefore age is helpful. A bitter and twisted attitude to the world may also be a useful attribute for a dominatrix to have, and this is obviously easier to acquire the longer you've been in it, and the more of it you have the more it will be reflected in your face.

In other words I suspect it's not a con or desperation, it just kinda tends to go with the job.

"Every man over 40 is responsible for his face" - Abraham Lincoln

I assure you there is a lot of con going on. There are genuine one's around but they are far and few in between.

I am not a dedicated enthusiast but I have fun with it doing it with ladies I find attractive and some really get into it and have fun even though not very experienced. On rare occasions you come across one who looks great, is skilled and enjoys what she is doing.

There are however guys who are into this in a heavy way and cherish the pain and all that goes with it. Extreme I would say. What is the pleasure in munching on someone's fesis? Yukkkkkkkkkk

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I assure you there is a lot of con going on. There are genuine one's around but they are far and few in between.

I am not a dedicated enthusiast but I have fun with it doing it with ladies I find attractive and some really get into it and have fun even though not very experienced. On rare occasions you come across one who looks great, is skilled and enjoys what she is doing.

There are however guys who are into this in a heavy way and cherish the pain and all that goes with it. Extreme I would say. What is the pleasure in munching on someone's fesis? Yukkkkkkkkkk

God, that's even worse than munching on their faeces. :rolleyes:

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You can't be serious.

The vast majority of Mistresses are old and unattractive.

I could provide lots of examples but doubt the moderators would approve.

This is one of the few attractive ones, only for connoisseurs of this hobby---

http://www.ladyrochester.com/index.php

I agree re Lady Rochester but there are plenty of mistresses just as attractive as her and a good few even more so. Experience can be important in the BDSM scene so older mistresses can have more to offer than the young v attractive beginner. I would love some of the mistresses I regularly see to also have a vanilla side but of course that is not the way the game is played

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