Helen Jones

The Male Menopause.

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The male menopause. The Medical establishment seems to think its doesnt exist physically.

I think it does but its a very different animal to the Female menopause. I think we tend to think of it as the "Middle age crisis" You can clearly see its effects occasionally.

While like the female M, it isnt hormone driven, it does seem to be some sort of panic as the guy enters his Autumn years and begins to try to recapture - or attain those things he had or desired in his younger days. At least that 's how it appears to me as an onlooker.

Is there such a thing guys?

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Maybe! But I think the male menopause is not the same as a "OMG, I'm old!" mid-life crisis. I personally don't have the sex drive I had when I was a teenager or when I was in my 20s, I lost it very quickly in my early 30s. Lots of the older boys on here point out that they don't cum, or can't cum so often within an hour or get interested in things other than penetrative sex. Which would sound totally crazy to a 15 year old, I'm sure!

As for the mid-life crisis, I haven't yet felt the urge to book a dinner date with a 21 year old trophy escort just to be seen in public with a hottie, or to buy a convertible sports car. But I'm still in my 30s so there's still time for that!

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Good question Helen. I dont know the answer either. I understand that most women will get definite signs such as very unusual and heavy hot flushes. I dont think men get the same definitive indicators.Mid - life crisis is on the otherhand I think very real indeed. I dont think its a case of re-living youthfull moments or looking backwards trying to be a young man again. I still like the same things now that I did 30 years ago and always have. Mid life crisis is the recognition that your health and ability to experience many things can no longer be taken for granted and that you should make the most of things before you are too old to be able to do those things and to enjoy them. Men are results driven -- its a simple message -- go out and experience as much as you can before you no longer can. This is a huge motivator for me when punting --- no regrets !!

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We just gradually turn into women as our testosterone levels subside. No major change in hormone levels. Mentally that's another ball game.

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The age you are referring to also co-incides when the male no longer has school/university fees to pay, his children have left home, either his mortgage has been paid off, or it is insignificant, maybe he has inherited from his deceased parents, and his diposable income is appreciable.

He therefore looks to improve the quality of his life by buying those things he wished he had when he was 20-30 years younger. That could be the car he always yearned for, a house in the country, a holiday home, or a bit of female company catering to something he does not get at home.

Add to that that his wife is going through the menopause and is no longer interested in sex, and there you have the recipe for middle aged punting.

That is my theory/excuse.

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I have to disagree.I am not out to recapture anything ive missed out on.

That said,there are at least half a dozen girls I wouldnt mind capturing and secreting them to my furnished spare room :rolleyes:

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We just gradually turn into women as our testosterone levels subside. No major change in hormone levels. Mentally that's another ball game.

its a treatable medical condition knows as Hypogonadism

see http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hypogonadism

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I'm 39 and, mentally, no different to when I was 17! I hope I never become an adult. Physically, my sex drive is not quite the same as it was as a teen, but thank God for that.

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The symptoms are, anxiety, disturbed sleep, and poor sexual performance,,,,sounds like just another saturday night for me.

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I think i may be having mine now (i'm 31). I keep looking at old photo's of myself and get really fed up at how good looking i was, and now when i look in the mirror i despair at my receding hair and chubby face.

I have also booked a test drive in a Nissan-GTR, when i was in my teens/early20's, i could not care less what car i drove, i loved my Vauxhall calibra, it's only recently i have suddenely had a yearning for a sports car.

My sex drive is erratic now as well. Whereas when i was young i could maintain an erection for hours with any girl, and could cum 5 or 6 times a day, these days it is only with certain women that i can maintain an erection for over an hour, and i can only now in such case manage to cum a maximum of three times, and the third tends to be a pathetic dribble. But, sadly, there are times now when i don't even get an erection in the bedroom, and i certainly do not get an erection while watching porn, so clearly my sex drive is dying.

So, i am clearly having the equivalent of a menopause and a mid-life crisis.

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please, get a good medical

lack of sex drive at 31 could be a symptom of other problems.

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I think some of you are talking about very different things.

In physical terms testosterone does decrease with age. This will have a knock on effect on sex drive, male muscle mass etc, etc.

I have said before I felt I had a low testosterone count when I was younger. My sex drive was just not there, the oppositie sex really didn't interest me. After I started to live a healthier lifestyle and workout out it was like a light was switched on. OK, some of this could be emotional effects, but suddenly I had massive sexual urges like never before. Literally the erections wouldn't stop and it was sex, sex, sex on my brain, I take it this was the feelings I should have had when younger! But now if I overtrain or keep the wrong diet I lose that feeling. All the point I'm trying to make is I could have possibly seen both sides of the coin in terms of testosterone and can tell you they are physical things.

I think seperate to this (although testosterone does have an emotional effect) is the emotional issues we all go through as we get older, good and bad, which makes people reassess their lives and what they are doing.

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I think i may be having mine now (i'm 31). I keep looking at old photo's of myself and get really fed up at how good looking i was, and now when i look in the mirror i despair at my receding hair and chubby face.

I have also booked a test drive in a Nissan-GTR, when i was in my teens/early20's, i could not care less what car i drove, i loved my Vauxhall calibra, it's only recently i have suddenely had a yearning for a sports car.

My sex drive is erratic now as well. Whereas when i was young i could maintain an erection for hours with any girl, and could cum 5 or 6 times a day, these days it is only with certain women that i can maintain an erection for over an hour, and i can only now in such case manage to cum a maximum of three times, and the third tends to be a pathetic dribble. But, sadly, there are times now when i don't even get an erection in the bedroom, and i certainly do not get an erection while watching porn, so clearly my sex drive is dying.

So, i am clearly having the equivalent of a menopause and a mid-life crisis.

Dean - at 31, you still ARE young :)

As someone else suggested, might be worth checking out with your GP that everything is ok.

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A has been said above, I think the emotional toll life takes on all of us has a big effect. I'm late fifties, running my own business in the face of the government (and the one before) trying to turn my client base (solicitors) into branches of Tescos and its bloody depressing. My workload has been cut by about aa third and I see no sign of the market ever coming back and I just worry permanently. I'm supposed to be providing for my family,my staff and my future retirement and I feel like I'm failing. In this I don't think I'm different to many other men of my age or thereabouts and, frankly, sex is just another thing to worry about.

Left to my own devices, there is very little wrong with the way my body functions sexually but the desire to have sex is definitely decreased. On my last punt, with a lady I have seen before and who ticks all the right boxes, she had me on the bed with my jeans around my ankles and her hand in my pants and where there should hae been an erection, there wasn't. It followed shortly but, usually, the thought of what was going to happen would have been enough. I guess that it just takes more to get me in the right frame of mind which I see as being sufficiently distracted from all the other stuff that gets in the way.

I reckon the male menopause is as much in the head as the genitals - after all, we're going to die so what is the point?

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The male menopause. The Medical establishment seems to think its doesnt exist physically.

I think it does but its a very different animal to the Female menopause. I think we tend to think of it as the "Middle age crisis" You can clearly see its effects occasionally.

While like the female M, it isnt hormone driven, it does seem to be some sort of panic as the guy enters his Autumn years and begins to try to recapture - or attain those things he had or desired in his younger days. At least that 's how it appears to me as an onlooker.

Is there such a thing guys?

Yes it does, or at least testosterone levels decline with age: a friend of mine is on testosterone replacement therapy which apart from in certain medical circumstances you have to pay for privately.

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please, get a good medical

lack of sex drive at 31 could be a symptom of other problems.

I thought the primary cause of that was marriage ! :lol:

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Yes it does, or at least testosterone levels decline with age: a friend of mine is on testosterone replacement therapy which apart from in certain medical circumstances you have to pay for privately.

B

no, your gp can prescribe it.

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