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Femanine Opinions On Dirty Names Please

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Am seeing a lady and we have discovered that 'dirty talk' is a mutual turn on. She enjoys extremely crude language being used to describe sexual acts and parts of the body but is not as comfortable when this language is used to describe ourselves.

As an example she enjoys being called a "dirty minx" but not a "dirty bitch" which is the most offensive term I've used. Of course I can talk this through with her and develop a safe but arousing vocabulary, but I would like to appear more spontaneous than that.

The pc's thesaurus comes up with flirt, tease and vamp. I think vamp may have potential but don't think the others work. So ladies can you add any others words that might work for you?

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I personally like dirty talk as well. Is more usually me doing it though. Something I like a lot on the gentler side of things is to be called a bad, bad girl. To me it conjures up many of the words and images you used there....vamp, temptress, devil woman. Someone proud of their ability to BE a bad girl.

'Dirty minx' is very much along the lines of playful naughtiness, I think you should concentrate on that aspect. For me if someone calls me a dirty bitch, I usually interrupt and say 'dirty KINKY bitch, if you don't mind!'. :D

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Try calling her "my little fuck-bunny" ?

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I personally like dirty talk as well. Is more usually me doing it though. Something I like a lot on the gentler side of things is to be called a bad, bad girl. To me it conjures up many of the words and images you used there....vamp, temptress, devil woman. Someone proud of their ability to BE a bad girl.

'Dirty minx' is very much along the lines of playful naughtiness, I think you should concentrate on that aspect. For me if someone calls me a dirty bitch, I usually interrupt and say 'dirty KINKY bitch, if you don't mind!'. :D

I much prefer the WG doing the talking too. To do it without embarrassment and well is a skill that i much appreciate and find a big turn-on. :)

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Centuries of social conditioning, by patriarchal powers, by the first people with money, ie, religion, will never be overthrown, not in my lifetime or ever, really. So we will always have derogatory words, like whore, prostitute, slag, etc. They are words invented by inadequate men who fear womens free intellect and freedom. They fucking invented it. Can't you see? It has seeds in animal kingdom, but I doubt that 'lions and tigers, oh my!' are/were judging if that horny looking female has been at it, before him. Their brains are not as formed as ours, no church, no money, no real powers. Just equal shagging and reproduction of your kind. No names for the younger, but probably avoiding the less fertile. As humans, we don't for go the latter. Well, just for fun, haha.

If you bend to the insecure rule, you fit. If not, you are named. This is from religions/'traditions'(what a joke) that have hidden paedophiles, cut off womens genitals, sold their children, thrown acid in faces, batter her just because the police will say she deserves it... because they have been told by social conditioning. And only 'some' creep towards us with apology when discovered. When discovered.

These 'words' mean something to us NOW, but they were invented by inferior inadequate men who only had one thing in common. Their faults, as aforementioned. In the animal kingdom and before civillisation, it must have been difficult to stake your claim...

Whore, prostitute, cunt, they have no bearing on me, I use them like a reclaimed word, because I have earned it. Many haven't. Slag, slapper, bike, they are new-ish, the words of the people that live, because I pay for their fucking taxes and lifestyles.

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And after that wee rant...it really depends on your relationship, if she uses it, you prob could.

Anglo-Saxon is best. Fuck and cunt are my faves.

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And after that wee rant...it really depends on your relationship, if she uses it, you prob could.

Anglo-Saxon is best. Fuck and cunt are my faves.

You still make me laugh... if you ever change your name, you could become Dollytopps :D

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Williams, you Dirty Dawg... I like 'Dirty Little Tart' ;)

Could be a new game, fitting in the 'Dirty Word' :huh:

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Centuries of social conditioning, by patriarchal powers, by the first people with money, ie, religion, will never be overthrown, not in my lifetime or ever, really. So we will always have derogatory words, like whore, prostitute, slag, etc. They are words invented by inadequate men who fear womens free intellect and freedom. They fucking invented it. Can't you see? It has seeds in animal kingdom, but I doubt that 'lions and tigers, oh my!' are/were judging if that horny looking female has been at it, before him. Their brains are not as formed as ours, no church, no money, no real powers. Just equal shagging and reproduction of your kind. No names for the younger, but probably avoiding the less fertile. As humans, we don't for go the latter. Well, just for fun, haha.

If you bend to the insecure rule, you fit. If not, you are named. This is from religions/'traditions'(what a joke) that have hidden paedophiles, cut off womens genitals, sold their children, thrown acid in faces, batter her just because the police will say she deserves it... because they have been told by social conditioning. And only 'some' creep towards us with apology when discovered. When discovered.

These 'words' mean something to us NOW, but they were invented by inferior inadequate men who only had one thing in common. Their faults, as aforementioned. In the animal kingdom and before civillisation, it must have been difficult to stake your claim...

Whore, prostitute, cunt, they have no bearing on me, I use them like a reclaimed word, because I have earned it. Many haven't. Slag, slapper, bike, they are new-ish, the words of the people that live, because I pay for their fucking taxes and lifestyles.

I'm interested exactly why you think you have earned the right to use them. Is it because you sell sex? Forgive me if I am a little slow here, I don't dispute your right to use them, I would just like to know exactly what you mean.

I have always enjoyed dirty talk with girlfriends and with working girls, but I'm always cautious to use them until I know she will not think I am actually insulting her. What I love is the intensity of feeling that calling a girl a filthy whore or similar expresses. Nothing else captures the sheer excitement as my cock slides in and out of her pussy and I approach an orgasm than using extreme, sexually 'violent' language.

Great sex tends to involve breaking taboos, either mentally and physically, and what you call your lover/sexual partner as you enjoy their bodies is just one of them. My current girlfriend is quite submissive and loves to be 'humiliated' in this way. She says the words excite her and helps get her off easily. She says that although she does enjoy watching porn, the written or spoken word is what makes her really wet and makes her cum hardest.

I am generally the one 'dishing the dirt' as it were during sex, but I'm not immune to the effect of those words on myself. Some working girls have picked up on this when we have been talking about our sex lives during a punt. Some have started to talk about me going home and fucking my girlfriend later and what I will do to her in graphic language, calling her a dirty slut etc.

Other times they have 'abused' me directly as we fuck, which I find really exciting. Once I was finishing myself off by hand with a gorgeous working girl, pointing my cock at her for a pre-arranged facial. The girl talked dirty all the time and was positively screaming abuse at me by the end, calling me a dirty, filthy wanker etc. I came so hard because of that and filled her mouth with spunk to take the place of the dirty words so lately on her lips.

In reference to your later post, I think 'fuck' is actually Dutch in origin, not Anglo-Saxon. It is certainly not as old as 'cunt'. There was 'Grope Cunt Lane' in London during the middle ages, a red light district of course. Mmmmm, I love a good grope cunt!

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And after that wee rant...it really depends on your relationship, if she uses it, you prob could.

Anglo-Saxon is best. Fuck and cunt are my faves.

I think I may have been Dollymopped and there was me expecting a quiet Easter!

Our use of language is shared and mutually enjoyed, we use “fuck” as a verbal exclamation or when talking about fucking, “cunt” is used (by both) when talking about her cunt. However calling her a cunt is not on the menu.

My misspelling of feminine might show you that intellectually we are not equal, she has gained her Masters in her mid 50's, whilst I have little more than the few CSE's I left school with 35 years ago. I realise the language could (in my case) reflect my insecurity about an unequal relationship, but I actually think it stems from us both being very reserved people. I suspect those who know us at work would be amazed and amused at the steady stream of foul language we are capable of when both in the zone.

So a genuine and I'd like to think a respectful request for all those little terms that might hit the spot for her, I like lovelyslut's description of playful naughtiness which sums it up very well.

Shit, I've even tried reading 'women’s erotica' to see what descriptions feature within it. I found it's not very different from the mens stuff just the main character is female and horses seem to feature a lot more (no, not in that way!)

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Gropecunt Lanes' are all over UK, the London one that I know of, is now Milton St, near Barbican. Grape Lane in York was where you would also find ladies. Cock Lane beside St Barts hospital, Love Lane in Camberwell, no one was being so coy, then..haha.

My 'earning spurs' isn't a big deal R, but if you want to nitpick, it was more a little nod to the stigma of being a prostitute and all that that entails. You don't have words or stigma as a male, so I don't think that men really know what it's like to be walking in our shoes. You never will. I put on those shoes, as other women have, with my eyes wide open, and I knew that I would have trouble in doing so. From the very people who wanted my product.

I have certainly been spat at, and called 'Fucking diseased slag' in public places, shouted at in the street 'Give uz a blowjob whore!' and this was before I even became a prostitute. Small town. Lots of gossip. Only a few casual flings got me that treatment. Of course, I left town, not because of them, I smiled at them, and that threw them! (I came to London for uni)

Not many would like that treatment, would you? How would you feel if I was your sister/daughter/mother? The people were not/are not intellectually equipped and had no rights to judge me. I feel that I have earned something, maybe others do too.

I will never know what it feels like to be a man. You will never know what it feels like to be a woman. Some stuff will never be explained fully, by me or anyone else.

Edited by Dollymopp

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Not many would like that treatment, would you? How would you feel if I was your sister/daughter/mother? The people were not/are not intellectually equipped and had no rights to judge me. I feel that I have earned something, maybe others do too.

I will never know what it feels like to be a man. You will never know what it feels like to be a woman. Some stuff will never be explained fully, by me or anyone else.

No, I should certainly not like that treatment and I am careful when talking dirty to a woman to talk OF her cunt, not to call HER a cunt. A vital difference. As to the rest of the names, as long as both understand that it is a game with rules and done by mutual consent, and isn't intended to harm or hurt the other, then it is fine I think.

I would certainly agree that you have earned the right to use any derogatory name you choose, just as black people can use the word/s 'nigger/nigga' should they choose. The desire to denigrate women (or men come to that) for their sexual preferences or practices has always puzzled me. Although neither sex can actually fill the other's shoes we can certainly imagine what it is like to be the other. And for men the 'stigma' of being (or being thought) gay must be fairly close I should imagine. I should also imagine it is the same people hurling the abuse as well.

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I do like to talk filth when with a WG, however I usually keep it in check as having that "I don't really mean it, is it OK?" conversation takes the edge off it. With girls where English is their 2nd language, I'm no holds barred. I still don't mean it, it's just the fantasy in the room for an hour.

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I know that I completely understand you, UT Matt ;)

R, I am not using a derogatory name in my mind, it is just a word in the dictionary, assigned to what I do. Most use it as a negative, and their lack of education irks me. So anyone shouting negatives was annoying, because others recognised the words as negative, and judged me to be lots of things that I am not. A thief, a liar, a drug addict, etc, as they are thought of in the same area. I don't care about being disliked, as long as I'm disliked for the truth.

The most venomous vocalists, well, anyone with a brain could clearly see that they wanted to have sex with me. There was my little consolation. They would never get to. And how they must still think about that...hehe :P

Fuck - I'll go with Dutch origins, no dispute, just saw it mentioned as Anglo-Saxon a lot.

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and here's my perfect girl to talk filth to. :P

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and here's my perfect girl to talk filth to. :P

where?

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This is interesting because only yesterday a client arrived and we hadn't met for almost a year.

He reminded me of the "3 grades of dirty talk" I had demonstrated to him last time. ;)

If a client asks for naughty or dirty language to come from me I usually explain my 3 options.

The choice is then up to them.

There is mild.... medium and of course absolutely shockingly filthy.

Yesterday's man chose ... once again... option 3

:blink:

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There is mild.... medium and of course absolutely shockingly filthy.

Gives us your best line...as I don't think any "dirty talk" could shock me....not unless you have animals and/or poo involved :D:o

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Used to call my ex "Satans slut bitch". Don't know if she liked it but think she thought it was funny.

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Gives us your best line...as I don't think any "dirty talk" could shock me....not unless you have animals and/or poo involved :D:o

I'd imagine you'd need to book to find out - that stuff doesn't happen for free! ;)

Personally I don't mind a bit of dirty talk, but I had one GF who took it to extremes. She loved it when I called her cunt and whore and slut - she only seemed to be able to get off when I was calling her names, but I wasn't really comfortable with it.

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I'd imagine you'd need to book to find out - that stuff doesn't happen for free! ;)

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You are correct to imagine that Tibbs

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Personally I don't mind a bit of dirty talk, but I had one GF who took it to extremes. She loved it when I called her cunt and whore and slut - she only seemed to be able to get off when I was calling her names, but I wasn't really comfortable with it.

I grew up watching Evil Empire extreme porn; Rocco Siffredi, Jake Malone's Bitch Craft that sort of stuff, containing loads of dirty talk, but when I actually started having sex with women, I found that none of that turned me on at all...what does, is the physical expression of affection....hence, I'm only really interested in a sensual and soppy gfe! So, Adele, your talents would be wasted on me :D

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I grew up watching Evil Empire extreme porn; Rocco Siffredi, Jake Malone's Bitch Craft that sort of stuff, containing loads of dirty talk, but when I actually started having sex with women, I found that none of that turned me on at all...what does, is the physical expression of affection....hence, I'm only really interested in a sensual and soppy gfe! So, Adele, your talents would be wasted on me :D

Oh Kid

You see it is not something I do willy nilly.

It has to be requested or yes indeed it would not work on some guys.

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Oh Kid

You see it is not something I do willy nilly.

It has to be requested or yes indeed it would not work on some guys.

xx :P

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This is interesting because only yesterday a client arrived and we hadn't met for almost a year.

He reminded me of the "3 grades of dirty talk" I had demonstrated to him last time. ;)

If a client asks for naughty or dirty language to come from me I usually explain my 3 options.

The choice is then up to them.

There is mild.... medium and of course absolutely shockingly filthy.

Yesterday's man chose ... once again... option 3

:blink:

It will always be option 3 for me, preferably whispering in my ear when possible, this can enhance my punts no end.

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