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How Long Between Looking And Taking The Plunge

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Hi all,

I've been considering seeing an escort for a couple of month now and have my eye on a couple of specific girls (thanks Nibbs!). The problem is that every time I get close to arranging a meet my bottle goes and I find some excuse to delay, is this normal? I want to be sampling instead of lurking but to be honest I'm bloody nervous. So how long between looking and taking the plunge for you guys?

J

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For me it was years and years. I used to love looking at girl's / Agency's websites and it was always enough that I knew I could phone them up and that they'd come and have sex with me.

Once I'd decided that I would definitely do it, it look me about 3 months to find the girl I wanted and to book her. The most nerve-wracking thing was making the call, once I'd done that it was fine - I was much more excited than nervous knocking on the door!

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it took me one month to find the right girl and do all my research on what to expect and how to behave, but I'd already decided I definitely wanted to see a professional before I started looking. If you're not sure then it's probably a good thing that you're taking your time before taking the plunge.

If you do decide to go for it though, don't spend too long agonising over which girl you want to go for. Have a couple of candidates in mind because when you make the call there's a high chance that you won't be able to get through because she's busy, or on holiday, suddenly retired, in a bad mood or rude on the phone unsure.gif

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Looking for a very long time can be somewhat obsessive. The more I look at the photos the more I start to doubt the idea of paying a visit. My best advice would be take a plunge before you look, then look before you take a plunge and see which one you prefer!

Arnie

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The first time is always nerve wrecking and for obvious reasons can delay you booking a lady...

It's down to confidence and what you want... I remember that my confidence was very high after a job interview when I was 20 and I being the person I am, I just took the bull by it's horns and went and booked a lovely lady and had a fabulous time.

I told her it was my first time seeing a wg and that I was a little nervous... she reasurred me, took the lead and I never looked back since!

I would advice you to not put to much high expectations on your first meeting, think exactly what you want to happen.... i.e kissing and oral or full sex with her on top... etc.. and relay this information to her via an email or a phonecall.

Then go for it.... after a while it becomes very natural and the nerves soon disappears.. and you would have an enjoyable experience.

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MrPunt gives good advice - tell the lady it's your first time and as long as you've chosen a lady with good FR's on this site I am sure she will lead you in the right direction. Anyway - what's the risk ultimately - you make a fool of yourself? - but you do not need to ever see her again, she rips you off? - not if you go by the FR's on this site, you get found out? - not if you play far enough away from home. Go for it jxm.

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The problem is that every time I get close to arranging a meet my bottle goes and I find some excuse to delay, is this normal?

You should find some Independent girls, don't go through agencies or parlours. Try emailing them, tell them you are a nervous newbie and ask if you can have a chat on the phone, without the pressure of having to book, any decent girl will say no problem. You'll be amazed what a couple of minutes chatting can do, to settle nerves, you'll probably find you end up with a booking!

My own experiences as a newbie was, I had nerves but my urges to have sex with hot girls far outweighed them, so I just got straight on with it!

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Like a number of the others, it took me awhile between looking and going for it. For me it was my genuine first time, which added to the pressure of the whole situation. I picked an older woman (Emma I think her name was) and I was soooo nervous when I called her and arranged a visit. To be fair, although she tried her best, it wasn't the best time....it wasn't what I thought it would be like. Although it may sound strange, but it took me a few times to really enjoy it....now I'm totally relaxed about calling up and confident to ask for exactly what I want. By aware though, it's addictive.

Good luck.

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From first noticing the escort ads in the local paper (and thinking "hmmmm I bet it costs a fortune and I wouldn't find the girl attractive, maybe one day") and becoming a bona fide punter took about 15 years lol.

From first noticing escort agency websites on the web and truly being able to clock pictures of girls I would meet along with prices that struck me as remarkably low (and finding this site to guide me) and becoming a bona fide punter took about 6 weeks iirc.

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Hi all,

I've been considering seeing an escort for a couple of month now and have my eye on a couple of specific girls (thanks Nibbs!). The problem is that every time I get close to arranging a meet my bottle goes and I find some excuse to delay, is this normal? I want to be sampling instead of lurking but to be honest I'm bloody nervous. So how long between looking and taking the plunge for you guys?

J

Took me a couple of years,shall i,shant i,.Eventually took the plunge,my biggest worry was my disability,needn't have worried though,all the ladies i see are fine about it ,like falling off a log now.

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I'm pleased to learn that are girls out there who don't treat a disability as an opportunity for exploitation. Who are these girls?

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Hi all,

I've been considering seeing an escort for a couple of month now and have my eye on a couple of specific girls (thanks Nibbs!). The problem is that every time I get close to arranging a meet my bottle goes and I find some excuse to delay, is this normal? I want to be sampling instead of lurking but to be honest I'm bloody nervous. So how long between looking and taking the plunge for you guys?

J

Your behaviour is something I went through. The first time was bloody nerve racking and I was paranoid everyone was watching me as I walked down the street, as I approached her place, as I entered the building and knocked on the door.

One day I just decided to go for it and I haven't looked back since. What its done for me is improved my own sexual technique and allowed me to experience things I couldn't do in civvy world.

Once you start though, its very difficult to stop and this does become addictive. Once your brain equates attainable sex for money you have to be strong to keep it in check and not get carried away if you can't easily afford it.

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It was a few years or so from getting a vague idea of maybe being interested in someday visiting an escort when occasionally browsing a few escort sites to actually going for it and making a call.

So after deciding which girl I was really interested in and prepared what I was going to say, I nervously made the call…and was told she’d just stopped working. Ha, Sod's law eh. Couldn’t be bothered with the idea for some months then, but finally got round to having a go with another girl, and it was great.

If you decide to go for it then I’d recommend thinking exactly what you want to say and going through it a few times before making the call, and telling the girl that it’s your first time, which can help make things easier and more relaxing.

Defiantly can be addictive though, so be careful with your bank balance!

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It was about 12-18 months for me. Being female it was getting to understand my preferences first, and then the difficulty of trying to make sure it was the right lady at the right place. It was and I'm so glad I decided to take the plunge.

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I can't answer the question in the thread because when I was starting out i didn't do any looking at. This was a long time back and a long way from the UK. I don't know how I could have looked at anyway, in the society we had there. WGs didn't make themselves visible. That's because they were criminals, just the same as punters were. The police (sometimes in uniform, sometimes deliberately not) took an unhealthy interest in both sides.

I looked for instead. Time between starting to look for and the first punt was 32 days. I can remember the dates because my birthday was near the start of the period. Great punt, by the way.

When I started I had no information at all to go on. Getting it was a real spy mission. Mission very successfully completed on day 32 after being parachuted into enemy territory. The whole story would be worth writing, especially the bit where the secret police actually helped out. They weren't aware they were doing it. It felt a bit like bullfighting in the dark.

With PN and other things like that right at your desk, you 21st century punters don't know how lucky you are. Sure you lose the chance to have adventures like mine from 7 November to 9 December 1955, but I would have been happy to lose it.

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With PN and other things like that right at your desk, you 21st century punters don't know how lucky you are. Sure you lose the chance to have adventures like mine from 7 November to 9 December 1955, but I would have been happy to lose it.

Great post. I sometimes feel like a real miserable old bastard (and a few people have even told me they agree!!), but the adventure you refer to above happened six years before I was born lol. My kids would regard this as prehistoric times :P .

Sounds like a story begging to be told properly.

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I found a girl who i really liked and was good price too, and I thought i would use seeing her as motivation to reach a level with my training, then i would book her, but under 3 months later she's gone.

So if you wait too long the girl you had eye on could be gone.

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In my case about ten minutes on the first occasion. It was pre internet though.

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Hi all,

I've been considering seeing an escort for a couple of month now and have my eye on a couple of specific girls (thanks Nibbs!). The problem is that every time I get close to arranging a meet my bottle goes and I find some excuse to delay, is this normal? I want to be sampling instead of lurking but to be honest I'm bloody nervous. So how long between looking and taking the plunge for you guys?

J

I like this sort of post. They give an insight into what goes on in a mans head. Occasionally, what we would normally call a 'time waster' shows a little sign that it is actually nerves that get the better of them rather than a malicious act.

I'd also guess the build up and plunge as you put it, is rather like re-losing your virginity. All excitement and nerves.....................delicious, but like virginity ..when its gone it's gone!

Choose very carefully and don't over fantasise, that way you wont insult a good girl or disappoint yourself.

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Only about 5 years ago and it seems a lifetime.

From looking at porn on the internet I sort of 'fell' onto 'paying for sex' sites. Within a week or two I'd decided to try.

First attempt was with an Indie who never answered her phone; she had just retired I think. Each time I tried I got more and more nervous.....if that was possible.

After some thought I then tried a well known agency for two reasons.

One; the agency had a good rep and, hopefully, I'd be assured of an answer to my phone call.

Two; I'd have a bit of choice and maybe get some guidance from the agency over the phone.

I chose a girl with a good rep - research is essential - and plenty of experience and told both her and the agency it was my first time.

Not disappointed either.

My advice; think through what you really want; do your research and then go for experience and a good rep for a first time. And go with an open mind without expecting too much as others have said. That way you'll probably be plasantly surprised.

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… The problem is that every time I get close to arranging a meet my bottle goes and I find some excuse to delay, is this normal?...

It’s understandable that you’d be nervous, that does seem pretty normal. When you think about it you’d be doing something new, with a lady you’ve never met before, and (if doing an incall) in a place you’ve not been to before. One word of warning though is once you’ve found a lady you’d like to meet don’t procrastinate. The reason being is that escorts do leave the business and it would be disappointing to find that after months or years of looking at a lady’s website thinking “one day”, when you actually decide to take the plunge you find she’s retired. Nothing is going to cure the nerves other than facing the fear and doing it, so just get on with it.

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I'm in the same position as the OP. I've punted 3 times in the past, but all were walk-ins - in Amsterdam, Hamburg and the Stratford Sauna. I think the fact that it was a walk in made it easier (plus I had had a few drinks to lower the inhibitions), but it all felt a little seedy to me.

I've been looking at escort websites for over two years now, and still haven't taken the plunge. A few weeks ago I even got to the stage of phoning the agency for a list of girls available that night, but ultimately I bottled it.

Yesterday though, I've found two girls on Maxes Angels and would love to book either of them. The nerves are killing me....

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Well I'm very much a newbie to all of this & after months & months of looking i overcame the nerves & made the plunge on Friday, tried ringing my 3 favourites &..... none of them answered!! Serves me rIght for being to cowardly & leaving it till the last minute.

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