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Do You Feel Ashamed For Using Escorts?

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There are a number of threads questioning the normalcy of using escorts, but is it really a matter of shame?

If we're being honest, aren't attitudes to prostitution changing somewhat, since quite a few see it as easy sex and a exchange that hurts nobody else?

I don't know anybody here, but I doubt many meet the common stereotype of a WG user. I'd imagine most men who use WGs regularly have had no problems getting dates, are in reasonable and respectable jobs, etc.

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Absolutely. I don't think that anybody who visits escorts has anything to be ashamed of, married or single - I'm the latter. Sure, it's not something that we talk about with family and friends but, again, there is nothing wrong with it and it no doubt helps guys that otherwise wouldn't get any sex. In certain circumstances it could even help a marriage.

Given the number of guys that must visit escorts, and I'm sure that some of my friends must be included, I must say that I've never suspected anyone so, yes, we are normal.

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There are a number of threads questioning the normalcy of using escorts, but is it really a matter of shame?

If we're being honest, aren't attitudes to prostitution changing somewhat, since quite a few see it as easy sex and a exchange that hurts nobody else?

I don't know anybody here, but I doubt many meet the common stereotype of a WG user. I'd imagine most men who use WGs regularly have had no problems getting dates, are in reasonable and respectable jobs, etc.

Certainly not a matter of shame to me, i enjoy punting in the main as i have been for 28 years. Whether attitudes are changing or not i would punt whatever, i really dont care what others think. Whether it hurts anybody else is a different matter, my selfishness has ensured i put myself first.

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I don't feel any remorse or shame for my hobby. I don't think it hurts anybody else, I get what I want and the ladies get what they want. As for being selfish, it maybe a little selfish but I feel its just the same as my other half buying another handbag or shoes.

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i feel absolutely no shame in seeing a wg, after all if i want a burger i go mcdonalds... When i started seeing prostitues in the 90s it was purley street girls i used and it felt seedy and dangerous.. now i see ladies in expensive apartments and who offer a very professional service.

I agree that the industry should be legalised and made more acceptable as it is in other countries.

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Absolutely not I'm well past that, exercising sexual desire is a perfectly normal and rational human behaviour and prostitution is just an extension of that. It is the suppression of sexuality that is abnormal irrational behaviour. It is a denial of you humanity. Shame and guilt over sex are entirely rooted in historical attempts to control people through religion.

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Every couple of months I go to a house in a quiet side street where I take most of my clothes off and an attractive lady does things to my body which make me feel better afterwards.

That's my Osteopath!

If I don't feel bad about that then I've got nothing to be ashamed of if using as Escort.

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There's no shame, I guess the people that say "You have to pay for it" are the ones that don't punt and are taking the moral high ground. However I'm not going to openly talk about it as I'll just be met with ignorance and judgement.

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To be honest, I was ashamed when I first started thinking I was some kind of perverted miscreant that was sex mad and also being greedy too.

I am glad that my attitude has changed, my take on punting is that I don't want a relationship or a gf, if I did I would have one by now as I have no confidence problems and have managed to secure dates with attractive women in various places, a couple from a friend of a friend and others were in library and the rest in clubs...

I did manage some how to share my bed and it was all great however I noticed I didn't want anything more than that, I remember when I lovely lady I brought home woke up in the morning, made breakfast, made my bed and asked me what we were doing today..

I was polite and took her out and such however I told her straight that I am not looking for a relationship... she was not upset but clearly a bit disappointed, she was glad I was honest with her and we kissed and said goodbye.

I knew then I don't want a relationship and so to not mislead women to thinking something else is going to develop... I started seeing professional ladies and never looked back, these lovely ladies have been part of my lifestyle and is my favourite thing to do... maybe one day I will want a partner to settle down with but even then it would be hard to give up the other women.

So Nothing to be ashamed of at all...the women that enjoy their jobs love sex and love their jobs, more importantly love to meet new gentleman to have some adult fun with a stranger, its a buzz and highly addictive.

If your finances permits you to see professional ladies then go for it...

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Absolutely not I'm well past that, exercising sexual desire is a perfectly normal and rational human behaviour and prostitution is just an extension of that. It is the suppression of sexuality that is abnormal irrational behaviour. It is a denial of you humanity. Shame and guilt over sex are entirely rooted in historical attempts to control people through religion.

Excellent post, i completely agree.

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I don't feel ashamed, but I would be if my friends or family found out

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No I do not feel ashamed at visiting escorts, altho' because of society's attitude I do not advertise the fact. I am a widower with a very limited social network. If I did not visit escorts I would have no sexual contact at all.

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No way in any form what so ever do i feel ashamed.

Just cant tell the majority of people i know of especially family. Its seen as either a sad losers thing to do, or a utter waste of money - which is exactly how i used to see it as, till i tried it... my only regret is that i didnt start when i was 18 instead of 27.

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I used to feel ashamed of myself for chatting up women in social situations or on the internet and telling them little white lies and things they wanted to hear for the sole purpose of getting in their knickers.

I then discovered punting and all of my ashamedness went.

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Every couple of months I go to a house in a quiet side street where I take most of my clothes off and an attractive lady does things to my body which make me feel better afterwards.

That's my Osteopath!

If I don't feel bad about that then I've got nothing to be ashamed of if using as Escort.

Is Osteopath from Greece she sounds like it with that name ? Please PM everyone her details.

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No I don't feel ashamed, but I do feel regret for all the money I've squandered, which I've nothing to show for now except (albeit tremendous) memories. I also regret the fact that my marriage is a train wreck, but then that's not as a direct result of punting, more like a side effect.

I often think that I'd like to give up punting, but if I won the lottery, basically if money wasn't an object, then I probably wouldn't ever consider giving up.

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To some extent yes I feel shame, and surely the signs point to most people feeling ashamed as parlours often have discrete entrances and I'm sure most people here clear their web history regularly and tell few about their punting.

OK as many people pointed out that only points to the social shame in punting which might be artificial and perhaps in more tolerant, open societies there wouldnt be that source of shame, but I think even in a society that accepted punting 100% there may still be circumstances where to feel ashamed for "using" escorts as the question was phrased. Shouldnt there be shame in "using" anyone?

I dont think escorting is wrong (I'd be on the wrong forum and suffering from split personality if I did) but IMO I dont think the argument I pay and get pleasure, she chooses to provide the service and gets money necessarily means there is no shame.

So do I feel shame? Yes and largely because of society's views on escorting.

Do I think I should I feel shame? I think it depends on the circumstances.

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Yes, I feel guilty, ashamed, and dirty.

I'll never, ever do it again.

Promise ;)

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It has made me feel alive again

handing over a lot of cash for a punt feels a bit bad, but others dribble money away on booze, fags, fizzy drinks and sweeties (Bloke next to me at work goes through £5-6 quid a day on pop and choccy which is a lot over a month)

Edited by Coventrypunter

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No Why should i? its my choice & my money so i choose what where & when i spend it on & above all WHO i choose to spend it on.

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Nope not at all. I only punt when I'm single, and I worked out that I pay less to see WGs in a month when I'm single than on my GF when I'm dating someone! :lol:

Also I used to go out and pull when I wanted to get laid. I used to say any old crap to get a girl into bed, as well as plying her with booze. I used to hate the awkward conversations in the morning trying not to say "No I have no interest in you now that I've shagged you", or the sneaking out in the middle of the night. :blink:

I'm sure my friends would judge me for doing it, and I'm not sure my family would really be bothered. I earn my money, I spend it how I like.

Oh, and I have some wonderful memories...

Edited by Tibbs

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Raylonder said that punters were normal. I disagree - the majority of people don’t punt.

As long as the majority of the population view punting as seedy, we will be judged harshly. We all hide behind nicknames and stage names for a reason. Punters avoid other punters for a reason. Girls don’t work in their hometowns for a reason.

In recent times, I have sensed a softening of society’s view towards pr0st1tutes. This may, paradoxically, be because of the way they have been mistreated by the likes of Steve Wright; but I don’t think things have moved on that much. The industry remains tainted by exaggerated reports of trafficking by politicians and the press. Even if trafficking was reported honestly, I don’t think the idea of selling sex and buying sex sits comfortably with many people.

I enjoy punting. I love to revel in its wanton lusciousness, and I have no intention of stopping, but I’m not proud to be a punter.

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Oh God, I broke the promise within a few hrs.

Sorry about that.

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None whatsoever - only time I ever feel regret is when I have a bad punt with a girl I've never seen before and then it's regretting wasting my money on her rather than on a stellar wg or on something/someone else more worthy or more gratifying

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