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When Does A Wg Tell Her Boyfriend/date/prospective Partner What She Does?

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I was just wondering at what point of a relationship a WG explains to a guy she likes what she does for a living?

Do you initally say you have another (fake) job and sit them down after a certain time, say 3 months, and have 'the conversation' to explain how it really is or do you tell them sooner so if they aren't fine with it you can both move on?

I imagine 'Hi, I'm a WG' might scare some guys off, or does it?

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I do tell any potential love interest straight away what I do because I think it's only fair that they should know. However this could well be why I am still single!

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I do tell any potential love interest straight away what I do because I think it's only fair that they should know. However this could well be why I am still single!

Not so secret then :P

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Not so secret then :P

How true - that's a very good point!!

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Would you tell your other half that you punt?

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I was just wondering at what point of a relationship a WG explains to a guy she likes what she does for a living?

Do you initally say you have another (fake) job and sit them down after a certain time, say 3 months, and have 'the conversation' to explain how it really is or do you tell them sooner so if they aren't fine with it you can both move on?

I imagine 'Hi, I'm a WG' might scare some guys off, or does it?

When he turns up at the door for a booking?

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A W/G that I see fairly regularly is in this situation she has a boy friend she has been seeing for about 6 months and as far as she know's he does not have a clue, she is desperate to give up escorting but is worried sick of being outed before she can explain her situation to him, not an easy position to be in, I just hope it all work's out for her as she deserves to be happy, though I will miss her when she eventually does pack up.

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A W/G that I see fairly regularly is in this situation she has a boy friend she has been seeing for about 6 months and as far as she know's he does not have a clue, she is desperate to give up escorting but is worried sick of being outed before she can explain her situation to him, not an easy position to be in, I just hope it all work's out for her as she deserves to be happy, though I will miss her when she eventually does pack up.

In my opinion this is a recipe for disaster, when it comes out he is probably going to wonder what else she has hidden from him. Well apart from a whole part of her life he didn't know about. This isn't something I could do, if I were to have a potential love interest I'd not get involved without making him aware of my situation first.

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Would you tell your other half that you punt?

No, but zipping off for an hour of fun is a lot easier than having to come up with a completely made up back story involving where you work or what you do with your days/nights.

You'd think there would be a point when he starts to wonder why he can't ring your landbased work number, meet you for lunch near your work or the hundred and one other things that must come up in the course of everyday conversation about how you fill your days.

It must be a bit of a nightmare trying to decide when or if to tell the guy. Probably not a problem the general public think about when they consider the life of a WG.

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In my opinion this is a recipe for disaster, when it comes out he is probably going to wonder what else she has hidden from him. Well apart from a whole part of her life he didn't know about. This isn't something I could do, if I were to have a potential love interest I'd not get involved without making him aware of my situation first.

That,s my opinion for what its worth but I am not really in a position to say anything, if I were to give the wrong advise and it all went horribly wrong she would never forgive me and I am very fond of her, this is one she has to work out for herself, all I can do is offer support when the brown stuff hits the whirly windy thing which is inevitable at some point.

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No, but zipping off for an hour of fun is a lot easier than having to come up with a completely made up back story involving where you work or what you do with your days/nights.

You'd think there would be a point when he starts to wonder why he can't ring your landbased work number, meet you for lunch near your work or the hundred and one other things that must come up in the course of everyday conversation about how you fill your days.

It must be a bit of a nightmare trying to decide when or if to tell the guy. Probably not a problem the general public think about when they consider the life of a WG.

This is it, choosing this line of activity generally does affect your relationships present as well as future. You have to accept that it may limit your choice of partners, and possibly relationship options too.

Sorry to put a dampner on things. Good news is that a lot of women don't mind being independent, and there are partners who are able to accept and embrace this line of work whole-heartedly. Yes this is something however you don't always think of, especially when we start comparing WG rates to those of other professionals!

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Just remember guys women are better at lying than us . So if they want to keep there secret they will . It baffles me to but everytime its mentioned on here a wg gets defensive but i can't say i blame them . Sorry girls but we're just curious .

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I've been wondering about this for a while- I wouldn't want to tell a potential boyfriend too early because I wouldn't want someone I didn't know very well knowing that fact about me, in case they went nutso and used it against me! But then on the other hand the thought of getting close to someone and then dropping that bombshell when you have already established a relationship is pretty daunting too.

On a similar thought process.... if a WG has been retired for several years and then meets someone, do they tell their new partner about their past life? Couldn't imagine loving someone and building a life with them if they didn't know about my past, but then is it something they really need to if it is in fact in the past, and all confessing would do is rock the boat?

Going to be single for some time, methinks!

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Maybe if a wg meets a new partner if they said they were an escort it doesn't sound as bad as a prostitue ?some men think of an escort as a paid guest for the night for a dinner function etc ,only sleeping with the client now and then. If the new partner reads alot more into it then maybe he himself has slept with the occasional wg/escort or prostitue .i never knew a wg existed in the north east till about 5years ago its not till you find you need a lady when you discover how many are a available and the services on offer

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Maybe if a wg meets a new partner if they said they were an escort it doesn't sound as bad as a prostitue ?some men think of an escort as a paid guest for the night for a dinner function etc ,only sleeping with the client now and then. If the new partner reads alot more into it then maybe he himself has slept with the occasional wg/escort or prostitue .i never knew a wg existed in the north east till about 5years ago its not till you find you need a lady when you discover how many are a available and the services on offer

An Escort is a prostitute, although some do still think an Escort simply holds her clients hand, indulges in nice conversation and gives him a kiss on the cheek - most do make that connection.

Escort is however a convenient more acceptable term, that is very uself for breaking the ice without having to shout "I'm a prostitute" across a crowded room.

Chosing who to tell is something a good deal of judgment is required for!

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I guess I'm lucky in that I'm also a Swinger so tend to meet Guys who also like to Swing and it would appear that the jump to "I'm also a WG" doesn't freak them out too much.

Having said that - I've been in 2 relationships since starting this (one that I'm still in)...and the first one told me that he had found me on the other site...so that stopped any awkward conversations...and the second one (that I'm still in)...I asked him to come round and take some Pictures since he's into Amateur Photography...I then came clean and told him what I did and asked if he had an issue with it, he said no...so all is good...

I think if I met a Guy that was completely outside the Swinging Scene and not so open-minded about sex then it would be a different matter and very very difficult to have that conversation...

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i see one girl where her guy drops her off at my place, i find it odd that he can sit there waiting for her to come out, shes one of the best fucks i have had so guess its his worry and she defo wears the trousers well not with me hehe

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I was just wondering at what point of a relationship a WG explains to a guy she likes what she does for a living?

Do you initally say you have another (fake) job and sit them down after a certain time, say 3 months, and have 'the conversation' to explain how it really is or do you tell them sooner so if they aren't fine with it you can both move on?

I imagine 'Hi, I'm a WG' might scare some guys off, or does it?

I would be wary of telling a guy straight away as I go to great lengths to keep this discreet and completely seperate from my every day life. I would be worried about the guy being so put of that he would tell others then I would no longer have a seperate discreet life. So for me the best option would be dont get involved while doing the job or if I did get that involved I would probably give the job up.

Shelly

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