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Because you punt, does this mean you love your wife/partner/girlfriend any less - provided you loved them before?

I believe you can separate the two beautifully :)

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Because you punt, does this mean you love your wife/partner/girlfriend any less - provided you loved them before?

I believe you can separate the two beautifully :)

I agree that the two can indeed be effectively separated, but beautifully, I rather doubt!

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I think men are quite good at having no strings sex, not that it always works out that way but still.

I wonder how escorts here would feel if they found their man punting without their knowledge. Do you insist partners are faithful anyway?

Not judging anyone, but just interested.

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Because you punt, does this mean you love your wife/partner/girlfriend any less - provided you loved them before?

I believe you can separate the two beautifully :)

I certainly can.

I punt for sex, love is a completely different thing entirely. If you cant seperate the two punting is not a good idea in my opinion. :)

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Because you punt, does this mean you love your wife/partner/girlfriend any less - provided you loved them before?

I believe you can separate the two beautifully :)

Of course they can so long as your partner is au fait with your little hobby.

Sadly most of them are not.

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I agree with you in your original post, Sarah. From my last two punts, both with the same WG, I came away feeling that I can give, and receive, pleasure better than ever in my life, which is a good knowledge to bring into my marriage. The secret of diplomacy, said Truman, was "speak softly and carry a big stick." It's good to know I can do that.

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I think it depends on the lie you tell yourelf is the reason you punt. I live in a sexless marriage and justify punting in that it stops me exploding with lust, keeps my anger at Mrs L in check and she benefits from my sunnier disposition.

I'm sure Mrs L. would say that once she found out, ramming a three foot pine log up my jacksie soothed her anger and gave her a sunnier disposition as well.

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We're not sexless, but it's infrequent. My paid punts are busy two-hour sessions, but at home (well, on holiday) it's perhaps twenty minutes. I can think of no way of showing Mrs A what I have learnt, without arousing her suspicions...

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Acteon: "speak softly and carry a big stick" was said by Theodore Roosevelt.

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Because you punt, does this mean you love your wife/partner/girlfriend any less - provided you loved them before?

I believe you can separate the two beautifully :)

For me not having such a relationship it is hard to comment Sarah. I think for many (myself included) it is difficult to separate phsyical acts and trust. Would I be hurt if my partner I loved had sex with other people, yes, so I can imagine others would, be they female or male.

However, as I get older I do realise relationships are much more than about the physical.

I think many escorts and clients have to separate sex and love to continue to work/punt and so perhaps the views here are not of the general population.

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I'm not sure I do separate love and sex actually, or if I do, it is only by degrees.

When I wank it's a purely sexual thing. I look at hardcore porn and imagine having filthy, animal sex with the women on screen, or I fantasise about women I know (who I may or may not have fucked) and imagine them in various sexual scenarios.

When I'm with my girlfriend sex can be very hardcore, with lots of dirty talk and with me giving her a really good, hard seeing to, but there is always a lot of cuddling and caressing, either before, during and after our orgasms.

With escorts (more than masseuses doing handjobs, where the excitement for me comes from corrupting a professional) I often feel a very strong emotional bond, especially with regulars. I like to express affection and for us to be mutually affectionate with lots of kisses and caresses.

That doesn't mean that I don't want to fuck her brains out, or that either of us is going to fall in love in a conventional sense. However, I have no problem in allowing myself some emotional reaction to the woman I am having sex with. I don't think sex with a prostitute or a one night stand has to be cold and purely physical. There can be some expression of emotion, some element of making love within all the hard fucking.

Possibly some men and women do need to rigidly divide the two as a form of self protection. I have no need to do that and just like, or love, different people at different levels.

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I'm not sure I do separate love and sex actually, or if I do, it is only by degrees.

When I wank it's a purely sexual thing. I look at hardcore porn and imagine having filthy, animal sex with the women on screen, or I fantasise about women I know (who I may or may not have fucked) and imagine them in various sexual scenarios.

When I'm with my girlfriend sex can be very hardcore, with lots of dirty talk and with me giving her a really good, hard seeing to, but there is always a lot of cuddling and caressing, either before, during and after our orgasms.

Haven't you just done exactly that in the two scenarios you outline?

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Haven't you just done exactly that in the two scenarios you outline?

Yes, to clarify, I separate love and sex totally when it's just me and my right hand. When it's sex with a woman, paid or otherwise, then things are different.

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To answer one or two points here, and to give my own 'take' on the subject.. I think when you have sex with the person you love, it may take even five minutes only, but you know the bits all fit, and you know that other person's body like it is your own, and no sex you have outside of that loving relationship can match it because there are feelings involved.

Sure - you may be really fond of the person you punt with on a regular basis, but you do not love them, so the sex is purely for physical gratification, whether or not you want to please the other party, it is within that time slot, and afterwards, you shower that person away and go home to the person you love.

I can separate my job from my family life. Yes, I'm single, but I still separate the two, so I do not even think about my other life when I am at home.

Some men do not punt when they have a partner, only choosing to do so if they are out of a relationship. I can understand this because not everyone can separate the two. I believe this is what separates working girls from other women - the ability to cut the job off out of their head when they are not at work.

The anorak punter can do this, because punting is something he does not allow to affect his personal life. Sadly there are some men who get carried away with their service provider, and allow their feelings to get in the way of the situation. It's daft because when the punting carries on afterwards in the mind of the guy and he starts getting attached, this is when they make it impossible for the girl to see them any more.

I know we are all different:)

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To answer one or two points here, and to give my own 'take' on the subject.. I think when you have sex with the person you love, it may take even five minutes only, but you know the bits all fit, and you know that other person's body like it is your own, and no sex you have outside of that loving relationship can match it because there are feelings involved.

Sure - you may be really fond of the person you punt with on a regular basis, but you do not love them, so the sex is purely for physical gratification, whether or not you want to please the other party, it is within that time slot, and afterwards, you shower that person away and go home to the person you love.

I can separate my job from my family life. Yes, I'm single, but I still separate the two, so I do not even think about my other life when I am at home.

Some men do not punt when they have a partner, only choosing to do so if they are out of a relationship. I can understand this because not everyone can separate the two. I believe this is what separates working girls from other women - the ability to cut the job off out of their head when they are not at work.

The anorak punter can do this, because punting is something he does not allow to affect his personal life. Sadly there are some men who get carried away with their service provider, and allow their feelings to get in the way of the situation. It's daft because when the punting carries on afterwards in the mind of the guy and he starts getting attached, this is when they make it impossible for the girl to see them any more.

I know we are all different:)

I like it, the anorak punter. :D

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I like it, the anorak punter. :D

A dirty anorak!

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Acteon: "speak softly and carry a big stick" was said by Theodore Roosevelt.

Of course. Thanks.

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I think it depends on the lie you tell yourelf is the reason you punt. I live in a sexless marriage and justify punting in that it stops me exploding with lust, keeps my anger at Mrs L in check and she benefits from my sunnier disposition.

I'm sure Mrs L. would say that once she found out, ramming a three foot pine log up my jacksie soothed her anger and gave her a sunnier disposition as well.

Anger? You don't have to explain this if you don't want to, forgive me for prying, but I don't see how you can have anger because of this? ot having a go at all, just really curious x

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I'm not in a relationship but i'm someone who wouldn't punt if i was. I do fancy a wg i just met and am thinking about bringing her roses as a gift the next time i see her. I see what you mean though about if a guy gets too emotionally involved it can ruin everything so i'll keep that in mind and keep in check. To me, love is an abstract concept, it's supposed to last forever, but nothing lasts forever. I can love my mum and dad, love tv, food, sports, you can say you love anything but what does that really mean? I love my wife, i love you too husband. Divorced. What happened to 'love' the eternal everlasting? love is intangible, you can't go out in the world and come back to mummy and say look mum here's 'love' in my bag here it is have a look, have a feel, have a smell. You can hug your mum, kiss her, show her and tell her you love her, the love for your parents is a much different emotion to one for a man/woman imo. God is love apparently.. One love. There's a lot of love in this evil world. Love is a very powerful emotion in all the contexts you can ever think of and all the resulting emotions that follow from good and bad outcomes.

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I love the women I do separately and differently because they are all physically and mentally different from each other and they react to me differently so I don't see a conflict and when I am alone with each one I fully appreciate them for what they are and mean to me. It's a strange feeling though when two are with me at the same time.

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To answer one or two points here, and to give my own 'take' on the subject.. I think when you have sex with the person you love, it may take even five minutes only, but you know the bits all fit, and you know that other person's body like it is your own, and no sex you have outside of that loving relationship can match it because there are feelings involved.

Sure - you may be really fond of the person you punt with on a regular basis, but you do not love them, so the sex is purely for physical gratification, whether or not you want to please the other party, it is within that time slot, and afterwards, you shower that person away and go home to the person you love.

I can separate my job from my family life. Yes, I'm single, but I still separate the two, so I do not even think about my other life when I am at home.

Some men do not punt when they have a partner, only choosing to do so if they are out of a relationship. I can understand this because not everyone can separate the two. I believe this is what separates working girls from other women - the ability to cut the job off out of their head when they are not at work.

The anorak punter can do this, because punting is something he does not allow to affect his personal life. Sadly there are some men who get carried away with their service provider, and allow their feelings to get in the way of the situation. It's daft because when the punting carries on afterwards in the mind of the guy and he starts getting attached, this is when they make it impossible for the girl to see them any more.

I know we are all different:)

There is surely also the middle ground Sarah. Those of us who are as much attracted by the intimacy as the sex. The sex involves injecting some semen appropriately. The intimacy will always require leaving a little more behind, and if you have done your homework on selecting the right lady, you hope that this is appreciated by the WG. This is different to falling in love with a WG. Like all things in life, the more you put in the more you get from it.

As for WGs having sex with the person they love, yes that must be really good. I was recently talking (post coitus) with a WG who was looking for a long-term partner. She said how great in would be to have great sex with someone you really had feelings for. I could see by how she said it just how much it would mean to her and got me thinking whether WGs get more from permanent relationships than other women because of rather than despite their profession.

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There is surely also the middle ground Sarah. Those of us who are as much attracted by the intimacy as the sex. The sex involves injecting some semen appropriately. The intimacy will always require leaving a little more behind, and if you have done your homework on selecting the right lady, you hope that this is appreciated by the WG. This is different to falling in love with a WG. Like all things in life, the more you put in the more you get from it.

As for WGs having sex with the person they love, yes that must be really good. I was recently talking (post coitus) with a WG who was looking for a long-term partner. She said how great in would be to have great sex with someone you really had feelings for. I could see by how she said it just how much it would mean to her and got me thinking whether WGs get more from permanent relationships than other women because of rather than despite their profession.

Absolutely. The intimacy for some is more important than the sex because they crave it. I agree with you that finding the right lady is paramount, which is why I have carefully worded my own blurb on my website so I don't meet with the wrong guy for roughly the same reasons. It's a minefield out there !

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