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I am a 19 year old virgin, I have never done anything sexual with a girl not even kissing. I am considering losing my virginity to an escort and having them teach me how to please women. I would like some advice about how to make this a good experience and any of the risks involved.

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Hi James. If you are for real, I would suggest you use the resources of PNet and look for an independent escort around 25 years old. If you look for someone your own age, you will not get an experienced enough lady. Much older and you are in MILF territory, which is a completely different (although wonderful) experience.

And remember, attitude is as important as good looks, probably more so in your case. Be upfront with the lady you visit and tell her you are new to everything. Don't try and pretend you are a stud, as she will see through the deception in about 10 seconds. Ask her to lead you and you will discover a whole new world you never even dreamed of. Good luck!

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I am for real, thank you for the advice. Can anyone recommend some escorts in the London area that are experienced with dealing with virgins?

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I am a 19 year old virgin, I have never done anything sexual with a girl not even kissing. I am considering losing my virginity to an escort and having them teach me how to please women. I would like some advice about how to make this a good experience and any of the risks involved.

If its your first time just go for a massage with a lady known to do happy endings, make sure it's a long massage (90 minutes), so you get to be fully relaxed before the big event. This way there is no pressure to perform from the outset.

Juts relax, chill out and let the lady take her time and things in her own hands.

JDM

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Oh, an be prepared for a swathe of "you're so young, you can pick up girls at the pub" bullshit in this thread.

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Pick a girl you really fancy...so even of the sex is a let down, you will look back positively on fucking a girl you wanted to :mad:

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Oh, an be prepared for a swathe of "you're so young, you can pick up girls at the pub" bullshit in this thread.

I am quite shy and nervous about doing this because I have never kissed a girl and have no idea what to do. I think seeing a WG who would teach me and help me build my confidence.

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Hi James. If you are for real, I would suggest you use the resources of PNet and look for an independent escort around 25 years old. If you look for someone your own age, you will not get an experienced enough lady. Much older and you are in MILF territory, which is a completely different (although wonderful) experience.

And remember, attitude is as important as good looks, probably more so in your case. Be upfront with the lady you visit and tell her you are new to everything. Don't try and pretend you are a stud, as she will see through the deception in about 10 seconds. Ask her to lead you and you will discover a whole new world you never even dreamed of. Good luck!

I'd advise to go older ----30s, & to be completely up-front in the pre-punt contact. Sure Dollymopp has commented wisely in former threads on this--- they come up fairly regularly and the OP should have a dig through them.

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Make sure that the girl you choose does girl friend experience and be open and honest with her that it is your first time and let her know what you want her to teach you or what you want to gain from the experience.

And book at least a 2 hour appointment so you have plenty of time to relax and settle into it. Also a small gift ( box of chocs or something ) would be most welcomed.

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I am for real, thank you for the advice. Can anyone recommend some escorts in the London area that are experienced with dealing with virgins?

Hi James, I don't think you need to be looking for a lady who is "experienced with dealng with virgins". I've met a few men who have told me that they were virgins and a few who were but didn't tell me until afterwards. It made no difference to me except I did have a little word with them beforehand just to make sure it was really what they wanted.

Any good WG will treat you well. Just do your research, have a look through the field reports and pm members here - I'm sure they will be willing to help you out.

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James many of the ladies here, myself included, will have taken bookings from virgins, but I must warn you that some women are not comfortable with it, so to ensure that you get the best out of the experience I would suggest you are honest when booking and tell the girl that its your first time.

As long as your honest, do your research and with the help of the guys (well most of them), it can be a fun experience.

Good luck.

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Make sure that the girl you choose does girl friend experience and be open and honest with her that it is your first time and let her know what you want her to teach you or what you want to gain from the experience.

And book at least a 2 hour appointment so you have plenty of time to relax and settle into it. Also a small gift ( box of chocs or something ) would be most welcomed.

It's very sweet if someone brings chocolates with them but in no way is it necessary at all. I'd rather someone did not bring chocolates because the chances are I wont like them anyway and the foxes would get them.

So don't waste your money kid.

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Make sure that the girl you choose does girl friend experience and be open and honest with her that it is your first time and let her know what you want her to teach you or what you want to gain from the experience.

And book at least a 2 hour appointment so you have plenty of time to relax and settle into it. Also a small gift ( box of chocs or something ) would be most welcomed.

Why does he have to make sure he gets a girlfriend experience?

There is no reason for him to book at least a 2 hour appointment either. Are you experienced at being a virgin? NO?!!!! Or maybe that's the game you play?

To the OP there is no need to bring chocs

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pity he mentioned chocolates

some girls on here will kill for choccy!!!!!!!

(Actally fancy a plain chocolate kitkat myself)

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jamessmith1990, are you in London? If so I can suggest some amazing WGs for your first experience. I was in the same situation as you and went to a WG to get my first sexual experience so know what you're probably after. Age doesn't really matter, she just needs to be sweet and if you tell her your situation she'll cater her service even better.

In my experience though visisting WGs doesn't ease you with women. It hasn't me, I'm still very shy and akward. I recently had my first non paid for kiss in 5 years and because it was real that gave me confidence. But you may be different. Good luck!

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I am a 19 year old virgin, I have never done anything sexual with a girl not even kissing. I am considering losing my virginity to an escort and having them teach me how to please women. I would like some advice about how to make this a good experience and any of the risks involved.

The question come up quite regularly, firstly use the the search feature to find and read previous threads on the subject.

The big gotcha that many first timers make is choosing their first encounter on looks alone, rather than on attitude & experience. Dollymop has been mentioned and I would agree, I think May would also be a good choice. Look through their field reports section and at others, don't rush your choice. A sensual massage would also be a good start with no pressure to perform as a precursor to a full appointment.

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Hi, James

Let me risk sticking my head above the parapet and offer a view from someone who has been where you are, and done what you're thinking of doing.

Up until this year I was in a similar position to yours. No experience, never had a girlfriend and never even kissed anyone before. The only difference is that I'm a few years older than you are. I'd contemplated the idea for a couple of years off and on, and finally decided to take the risk and make a booking with an escort.

Taking a step back from that for a moment, I will say I think it may be best to give it another year. It may not seem like it, but 19 really isn't that old to be so inexperienced - in my many bouts of looking for info/reassurance during my planning it became pretty obvious that there's a hell of a lot more people than you might think who don't lose "it" until their late teens or early twenties. Whether this matters to you or not I don't know, but IF you still have thoughts of wanting your first time to be a bit more typical, then you should understand that you do still have plenty of time.

I'm not saying you should, I'm just trying to put forward a very important point that gets lost amongst the bragging, stories and societies image of sex - not everyone has lost it by your age, and there are still quite a few who haven't even been kissed.

Your choice, ad only you know and can decide what you want, but take it from me - when you think you know, step back, think on it a few days, and then decide again. Give yourself that surety.

Anyway, getting back to the issue.

I did it. I had no experience, never even kissed, and, heading into my late twenties, was getting on and finding it eating away at my self-esteem and confidence as time slipped by. It was a nerve wracking thing to do, embarrassing to admit to, and I'll be honest, ultimately a bit of a mixed experience. I don't regret it, it was the right choice for me, but it won't alleviate all your doubts and it may well leave you with a few new ones.

My main piece of advice - You have to get the planning right. Really take the time to scout out and find a lady who has a good reputation. Don't go for someone without review or feedback, even if they look like a stunner and you think it can't possible be a bad experience with such a good looker. You want someone who knows what they are doing, will be considerate and comfortable with your situation, and has the reputation / reviews to back that up. Looks are great, but attitude and professionalism are far moreso for this kind of booking. I'm not saying go for someone you aren't attracted to, I'm just saying don't let that be the key factor in your final decision.

Next most important - tell her. When you contact your chosen lady, make her aware of your inexperience and why you are hoping to make a booking with her. She doesn't need an elaborate explaination, just keep it simple. Say you'd like to book her but are inexperienced to the point of having never kissed and ask if she would be comfortable taking a booking with you. It's far etter she understands, than trying to keep it secret and bluff your way through the booking. If she knows and understands then it should make it a more relaxed and beter experience for the both of you.

Third up - time. Make a longer booking. Give yourself time to have a chat and relax. Others may scoff and it may seem rich to spend extra for potential chatter time, but it really does help. A longer session allows time to chat, get comfortable, let your nerves settle and move at a more relaxed pace. Believe me, that chat and lack of pressure are important, nerves will kick in and the extra time may well be the best money you've ever spent. I went for 3 hours, I'd suggest no less than 90 minutes.

There's more.. loads more. I could write 3x this and still go on, but I'll keep it down to this. These were the big ones, and the ones you should be most mindful of.

It's also worth noting that you will be paying for sex and it is very much a business transaction. I like to think I chose quite well, but even with my chosen lady, as nice and understanding as she was, there were a few jarring moments where it all seemed quite impersonal and even a little cold. Nothing wrong with that, and perhaps to be expected, but it does make for a thought to keep in mind and something you should think before going ahead.

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I am a 19 year old virgin, I have never done anything sexual with a girl not even kissing. I am considering losing my virginity to an escort and having them teach me how to please women. I would like some advice about how to make this a good experience and any of the risks involved.

Hi james. I'd forget about this bit if I were you. Concentrate on having a good time yourself.

If you're interested I can PM you with a very good place to go, that should alleviate most, if not all the other concerns you may have.

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I can see both pros ans cons in doing this.

I would think if you went to most escorts, you may very well have a great time, however when you eventually find yourself a girlfriend they won't be so eager to do many of the things an escort does. CIM for example, and for that reason sex in a future relationship may be disappointing because of your first time point of reference.

The plus side is you may well have a hair trigger the first time. This may cause you embarrassment with a girlfriend or a WG, however, to an escort that is probably a bonus.

One warning I would give you is an escort is like a biscuit. It is very hard to stop at one. If you do go, you will return.

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I am a 19 year old virgin, I have never done anything sexual with a girl not even kissing. I am considering losing my virginity to an escort and having them teach me how to please women. I would like some advice about how to make this a good experience and any of the risks involved.

My advice would be to relax -- but easier said than done, with your lack of previous experience. However, there are a few things that would help you to relax. Do not put pressure on yourself to "perform", whatever that might mean. It will only cause you to stress out on your first experience. Avoid for the time being any of the more over-the-top experiences (such as anal sex, watersports, etc) that are reported on Punternet. Instead, go for a quiet and intimate encounter for your first time. Try to find a girl who according to the reports is friendly, gentle, and gives a good girlfriend experience (GFE) with plenty of cuddling and kissing. If you are friendly towards her, and if she is as good as the reports suggest, she will be friendly in return. That will help you to eventually relax. Enjoy the kissing and cuddling, and the feel of her breasts against your chest, and do not try to have sex with her until you are fully relaxed and ready for it. A good massage also helps to get you into that frame of mind.

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I am a 19 year old virgin, I have never done anything sexual with a girl not even kissing. I am considering losing my virginity to an escort and having them teach me how to please women. I would like some advice about how to make this a good experience and any of the risks involved.

James

As you can see everyone is going to give you different advice, so it's up to you whose you take.

I have seen lots of virgins in my time as a wg. Some as young as you, some much older. But what I think it always comes down to is getting that little bit experience so you can be more confident with women in the future.

I would suggest you book just an hour. I think for your first visit this is plenty of time and you can always come back for another session later on, if you feel you need it.

You are not going to come away with the knowledge to pleasure all women, because all women are different and what one may like, another may not. You will discover this as you can on to have relationships with women in the future. But hopefully what you will come away with is how to kiss a women and a better understanding of the female body.

As others have suggested, I would let the lady know that you are a virgin and what it is you would like to achieve during you time with her. I would also suggest someone a bit older, late 20's, early 30's. And don't bother bringing a gift, just come along with a smile and a clean willy. That's all we expect.

Good luck, with whatever you decide to do.

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I am a 19 year old virgin, I have never done anything sexual with a girl not even kissing. I am considering losing my virginity to an escort and having them teach me how to please women. I would like some advice about how to make this a good experience and any of the risks involved.

All women are individuals and are pleasured in differing ways. The same can be said for you, in that different women will also pleasure you in different ways. That's half the fun of exploring sexuality. It'll all come naturally i suspect but a good confidence booster i would imagine so all the very best with that one. Reduce the risks by using protection and perhaps seeing an escort who doesn't see many punters or advertises OWO CIM etc.

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OK OK JamesSmith1990,

First of all let me tell you that you've been given wonderful advice so far, but as a young bloke myself I should let you know a few things,

- It's not all about independent WGs, although in your case it maybe preferable but also bear in mind agency girls as long as you read fieldreports about them beforehand.

- 1hr long should be enough so don't be spending all your money on your first punt.

- Arrange an early booking (pref afternoon or evening, b4 8pm) just in case the girl you pick is knackered, *like I said, just in case*

- Lastly let us know how u got on

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I suggested a girlfriend experience because like jamessmith1990 I also lost my virginity to an escort. It was just a 1/2 hour booking and not very memorable or pleasureable for either myself or the wg. Just a quick massage followed by sex which was all over with very quickly.

It wasn't until a few years later that I had my first girlfriend experience booking which I must say really blew my mind and left me wishing that I had seen this wg much sooner.

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Jamessmith1990,

The best thing you did James was join the PN forum and ask for advice.

I would just like to throw my twopenneth in.

If you are serious about seeing a WG to lose your virginity, you must be careful to make sure that you know what your getting into.

Lets say, you find a cracking WG who is not only attractive but is also very attentive to your needs, and you have a wonderful punt.

What then?

Do you walk away, ticking it off your list, or do think "She was lovely, I must see her again soon."

Because thats the thing, punting can be addictive.

I have found that myself, I went to a WG to lose my virginity and a year and a half later I'm still seeing her (and others) on a regular basis.

I'm not putting you off, if that's what you want, you go for it and I'm sure you'll have a great time. But if you do enjoy it you have to understand that when you get bitten by the punting bug it's difficult to walk away.......

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