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Discretional Services....

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Guy's what is your opinion on services to discretion ?

do you find it frustrating girls put this on their profile/website ? ? if a girl ticks everything to discretion do you often look elsewhere or check field reports to see exactly what's what ? do you think it is a girls way of copping out on doing services ? or do you think it's down to the individual girl and she has every right to put "descretional services"- even though there is no garentee or knowing you will get said service until you meet.

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Do you have an opinion that girls should put 'specialist' services to discretion only ?

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Guy's what is your opinion on services to discretion ?

do you find it frustrating girls put this on their profile/website ? ? if a girl ticks everything to discretion do you often look elsewhere or check field reports to see exactly what's what ? do you think it is a girls way of copping out on doing services ? or do you think it's down to the individual girl and she has every right to put "descretional services"- even though there is no garentee or knowing you will get said service until you meet.

All services are really at the WGs discretion but if i am clean, respectful and have the agreed money i expect to receive what was agreed when i booked. Good or better WGs like yourself actually offer whats been agreed, the bad dont. :)

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All services are really at the WGs discretion but if i am clean, respectful and have the agreed money i expect to receive what was agreed when i booked. Good or better WGs like yourself actually offer whats been agreed, the bad dont. :)

It is the girls perogative to say no at any time, though this could be frustrating to the punter and could lead to all manner of things......

I happened to one of my ladies who was raped anally after telling the chap 'no', so she went to the Police who arrested the man, but on the advice of the CPS advised that it wouldn't be pursued.

I would encourage ladies to think about what they list as like and at discretion, because although its not a shopping list, it is a guide to what might be available.

I've had it happen to me twice now, reverse O 'like', paid and then told it wasn't available, owo and cim at descretion, agreed it by telephone, not then available having paid.

Trading Standards? "I agreed with this lady that she would suck me off and let me cum in her mouth, but on the day she declined". A broken verbl and written contract I'd say, though the lady obviously has the right to decline any services, perhaps a refund would be appropriate.

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A lady has a right to refuse services, but not to advertise dishonestly. If a punter is clean and pleasant and not over-endowed, then non-provision of an advertised discretionary service without good reason suggests that the advert is dishonest.

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A lady clearly has the right to say no but if you have agreed beforehand and it becomes a discretional no, then I would be fairly pissed off and certainly not minded to return.

At discretion is too variable and we need a better way of expressing this so what about a star system with one star meaning its very unlikely and ten meaning its very likely - at least you would get/give a better idea of the probabilities.

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It is the girls perogative to say no at any time, though this could be frustrating to the punter and could lead to all manner of things......

I happened to one of my ladies who was raped anally after telling the chap 'no', so she went to the Police who arrested the man, but on the advice of the CPS advised that it wouldn't be pursued.

I would encourage ladies to think about what they list as like and at discretion, because although its not a shopping list, it is a guide to what might be available.

I've had it happen to me twice now, reverse O 'like', paid and then told it wasn't available, owo and cim at descretion, agreed it by telephone, not then available having paid.

Trading Standards? "I agreed with this lady that she would suck me off and let me cum in her mouth, but on the day she declined". A broken verbl and written contract I'd say, though the lady obviously has the right to decline any services, perhaps a refund would be appropriate.

I have found requested refunds not forthcoming in the main so when i hand my money over i never expect to see it again whatever, its a hazard of punting to be lied to sadly and being unregulated means you have no one to complain to in many cases apart from on sites like this but that doesnt help get your money back obviously. :)

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I agree with smiths & polly that all services are always discretionary, but understand that it is necessary for girl to be explicit about some services because some (many?) guys just don't get it.

What peeves me is when it used as bait and turns into a string of no, no, no... fortunately that is quite rare.

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Guy's what is your opinion on services to discretion ?

do you find it frustrating girls put this on their profile/website ? ? if a girl ticks everything to discretion do you often look elsewhere or check field reports to see exactly what's what ? do you think it is a girls way of copping out on doing services ? or do you think it's down to the individual girl and she has every right to put "descretional services"- even though there is no garentee or knowing you will get said service until you meet.

She has every right to add it to her profile, it is her business venture after all. Why do they do it? Simple really, it serves as an effective way of dealing with the less than (above all) physically desirable and unkempt of clients and quite right too, you can never tell who's going to show up. Personally, if I were a woman, I could not stomach this kind of work.

Fortunately I do not have this problem with the ladies. :)

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There's no absolute answer for this, it's somewhat of a circumstantial situation.

You have your reasons for offering a particular service only on discretion and that's understandable and every punter should repect it. And there are plenty of other ladies out there doing the same so it should not be a problem. So out of interest, what does discretion mean to you - "always", "usually", "maybe" or "never"?

If I want a discretionary service, I will ask before I hand over any money. Then you might say "no" and if that discretionary service is important enough to me that I consider "no" to be a dealbreaker then I'll leave - no harm, no foul. The only time it becomes an issue is when it's agreed to, I pay and then it's refused.

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It is the girls perogative to say no at any time, though this could be frustrating to the punter and could lead to all manner of things......

I've had it happen to me twice now, reverse O 'like', paid and then told it wasn't available, owo and cim at descretion, agreed it by telephone, not then available having paid.

Trading Standards? "I agreed with this lady that she would suck me off and let me cum in her mouth, but on the day she declined". A broken verbl and written contract I'd say, though the lady obviously has the right to decline any services, perhaps a refund would be appropriate.

This, I'm afraid is the usual one where I say 'no' after using my discretion. Number one reason is a too tight foreskin that I cant pull back and see what's under there. Sorry, if I can't see I'm not doing. I've never had anyone not be reasonable about it when I explain, but I do feel a bit bad. another reason, why I really don't mind a phonecall to check these things out.

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If the girl listed everything was as discretion and I liked the rest of her profile, I would certainly call to clarify what was on offer. As long as it is down to me being clean and pleasant then there should not be a problem. I always state what specialist services that I am looking for when making a booking, and again at the start of the appointment before sorting out the paperwork. This helps to prevent any problems with desired services not being offered mid punt!

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To be honest I don't think the "at discretion" really needs to be stated, it should be assumed by punters. What I prefer is insight into the discretion, some WGs state "as long as your clean on arrival" which is fair enough, but if it is something ridiculous like "You need to pay £40, I need to come first, then you have 3 minutes of OWO" (maybe farfetched!) that’s not really a reasonable request.

To me as long as the reasoning for denying services is sensible, then discretion is fine. If however you meet the predetermined discretional requirements, e.g. Cleanliness, so you shower at the WGs place and then services are declined I don't think I'd see the WG again.

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To be honest I don't think the "at discretion" really needs to be stated, it should be assumed by punters. What I prefer is insight into the discretion, some WGs state "as long as your clean on arrival" which is fair enough, but if it is something ridiculous like "You need to pay £40, I need to come first, then you have 3 minutes of OWO" (maybe farfetched!) that’s not really a reasonable request.

To me as long as the reasoning for denying services is sensible, then discretion is fine. If however you meet the predetermined discretional requirements, e.g. Cleanliness, so you shower at the WGs place and then services are declined I don't think I'd see the WG again.

Not being clear and concise wouldnt help total newbie punters who havent a clue though and some dont know enough to make that assumption.

Where you say and then her services are declined i dont think i would see the WG again, i most certainly wouldnt, she would of lied to me which makes her a never again.

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Everything I do with a client is at my own discretion.

My site does not include services as such but I do list

things I feel potential clients need to know if they are

searching for specific types of appointment and not just

looking for cim/A etc.

I kiss. I love kissing.... but if a man has sloppy salivary yukky

tongue probing and poking around my mouth which bears no resemblence to proper

dfk then kissing will then be off the menu for him ( ladies will know what I mean )

I used to offer rimming. Until I got sick of guys not preparing themselves

for this. They turned up and asked if I might do it. I said yes but although

they had hoped I would do it they had not bothered to give themselves a special

wash in that area. All anal done by me now is with covers.. fingers/toys etc

but my tongue goes nowhere near a hairy backside anymore.

If guys want their plums munched then they don't get it if there is a 3inch

growth of pubic hair covering them. Smoothies are welcome though!

From what we read we might think that anal is being done all the time with most

women... I hardly get asked for that at all by new clients.

I have always found that even though my services are not for all to see in print....

I delight in surprising clients now and then with things they have not even thought of!

I fully support any lady who lists services at discretion but does not always offer them.

But if she states she definitely does them but immediately lists them as off limits despite the

client being acceptable for them... then she is cheating and should be ashamed.

There will always be agents and ladies who state long service lists to attract clients while knowing

they will probably not be on offer once the money is handed over. Not good practice but we are in a

dirty game and men are easily led.

Unfortunately far too many women in this job have no shame whatsoever in cheating clients out of

services/time/respect/money.

Perhaps it could be re-worded though as someone mentioned....

It is also possible that some women used to offer specific services but no longer do and have not

updated their profiles..... which is another good reason to check your websites regularly ladies!

When listing services instead of "at discretion" how about "a strong possibility" :rolleyes:

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Everything I do with a client is at my own discretion.

My site does not include services as such but I do list

things I feel potential clients need to know if they are

searching for specific types of appointment and not just

looking for cim/A etc.

I kiss. I love kissing.... but if a man has sloppy salivary yukky

tongue probing and poking around my mouth which bears no resemblence to proper

dfk then kissing will then be off the menu for him ( ladies will know what I mean )

I used to offer rimming. Until I got sick of guys not preparing themselves

for this. They turned up and asked if I might do it. I said yes but although

they had hoped I would do it they had not bothered to give themselves a special

wash in that area. All anal done by me now is with covers.. fingers/toys etc

but my tongue goes nowhere near a hairy backside anymore.

If guys want their plums munched then they don't get it if there is a 3inch

growth of pubic hair covering them. Smoothies are welcome though!

From what we read we might think that anal is being done all the time with most

women... I hardly get asked for that at all by new clients.

I have always found that even though my services are not for all to see in print....

I delight in surprising clients now and then with things they have not even thought of!

I fully support any lady who lists services at discretion but does not always offer them.

But if she states she definitely does them but immediately lists them as off limits despite the

client being acceptable for them... then she is cheating and should be ashamed.

There will always be agents and ladies who state long service lists to attract clients while knowing

they will probably not be on offer once the money is handed over. Not good practice but we are in a

dirty game and men are easily led.

Unfortunately far too many women in this job have no shame whatsoever in cheating clients out of

services/time/respect/money.

Perhaps it could be re-worded though as someone mentioned....

It is also possible that some women used to offer specific services but no longer do and have not

updated their profiles..... which is another good reason to check your websites regularly ladies!

When listing services instead of "at discretion" how about "a strong possibility" :rolleyes:

Good post.

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Guy's what is your opinion on services to discretion ?

do you find it frustrating girls put this on their profile/website ? ? if a girl ticks everything to discretion do you often look elsewhere or check field reports to see exactly what's what ? do you think it is a girls way of copping out on doing services ? or do you think it's down to the individual girl and she has every right to put "descretional services"- even though there is no garentee or knowing you will get said service until you meet.

Hi Natasha,

I think that a lot of things have to be at the discretion of the lady as she has to be comfortable with the guy and with what he does, especially as regards things like anal. As other posters have said if a guy is clean, courteous, not too rough and not thinking he is a porn star then he should be able to enjoy most things without being refused.

However if a lady does want to do specific things then she should be honest and make that clear on her site, or at the point of inital enquiry.

Regards,

davidgood

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One thing I've always wanted to know -

I don't offer CIM, ( simply because I physically can't :blink: ) but for the ladies who do offer it at discretion, what criteria do you use to decide who will and who won't be allowed ? How the flying feck will you know what it's going to taste like ? Genuine question by the way, because it's not something I've done in my personal life either.

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One thing I've always wanted to know -

I don't offer CIM, ( simply because I physically can't :blink: ) but for the ladies who do offer it at discretion, what criteria do you use to decide who will and who won't be allowed ? How the flying feck will you know what it's going to taste like ? Genuine question by the way, because it's not something I've done in my personal life either.

Simple answer to that one Laura as far as I am concerned.

I used to like the taste, smell and texture ... but now I don't!

( I used to love gin and bacardi but can't let them pass my lips now either :) )

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I have always taken the same view as Adele - everything the girl does is at her discretion. After all, not every WG who offers FK states that it is discretionary, but turn up with dead hamster breath and Shane McGowan teeth and see how far you get! :D

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One thing I've always wanted to know -

I don't offer CIM, ( simply because I physically can't :blink: ) but for the ladies who do offer it at discretion, what criteria do you use to decide who will and who won't be allowed ? How the flying feck will you know what it's going to taste like ? Genuine question by the way, because it's not something I've done in my personal life either.

I always know when someone's had coffee by the taste - freaks them out sometimes when I go, ooo you had coffee not that long ago and they say how the feck do you know that? hehe :D

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I think the WG should just put the services she does and is clear about what she doesn't. Simples. :) it would annoy me if a girl has CIM for example ticked as an enjoy and then also as discretionary and then doesn't wanna do CIM.. :(

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Thanks for contribution guy's :) only reason that I asked as sometimes some discrepancies regarding discretional services with ladies- yes of course up to the individual girl what services they individually offer and have every right to put sevices to discretion-

but often see guys on here posting - "said she did everything over/on phone/ website/profile then when I got there she said she didn't do these services/was to discretion" ....... agree with Adele in above post- ladies that state they offer service but never provide them- guys!!!! never hand over £££ until you 100 percent happy with everything. You might feel obliged or embarressed at first- but angry later!

Personally I put all services to discretion just to cover myself if I ever bump into Mr Dirty who does not know what a toothbrush is or never seen soap in his life lol :-))) I have not seen anyone like this in a while and quite impressed how fresh and squeeky clean the guys are that I see!! I like that alot :):D xxx

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All services are really at the WGs discretion but if i am clean, respectful and have the agreed money i expect to receive what was agreed when i booked. Good or better WGs like yourself actually offer whats been agreed, the bad dont. :)

Thanks Smiths :)

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It is the girls perogative to say no at any time, though this could be frustrating to the punter and could lead to all manner of things......

I happened to one of my ladies who was raped anally after telling the chap 'no', so she went to the Police who arrested the man, but on the advice of the CPS advised that it wouldn't be pursued.

I would encourage ladies to think about what they list as like and at discretion, because although its not a shopping list, it is a guide to what might be available.

I've had it happen to me twice now, reverse O 'like', paid and then told it wasn't available, owo and cim at descretion, agreed it by telephone, not then available having paid.

Trading Standards? "I agreed with this lady that she would suck me off and let me cum in her mouth, but on the day she declined". A broken verbl and written contract I'd say, though the lady obviously has the right to decline any services, perhaps a refund would be appropriate.

That soundfs awful Polly- hope that lady is ok now.

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