Eman Resu

Finding It More Than A Little Underwhelming..

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It's only fair to preface this by saying that I'm not an experienced punter, nor could it be claimed I'm experienced in any other ways at all. At the risk of being mocked my naievety and inexperience, they are why I thought to post this question here to try and get a little insight from the more experienced and share an insight into my own experience for any others why might be in a similar position of considering taking the plunge.

I've only had two punts upto now. The first was quite literally my "first" time having reached a point where my inexperience was proving too much of a hinderance/burden and not wanting to wait any longer to experience sex. The second came some time later as a matter of fulfilling a need and finding out if it would be better with someone else.

My concern is.. upto this point, sex seems pretty overrated.

Don't get me wrong, there are aspects that are nice, but the sex itself is altogether quite underwhelming and it's left me wondering what on earths wrong, or whether sex and to a lesser extent visiting a professional escort is just one of those things that's made out to be a better experience than it actually is.

I'm pretty confident in my choice of escorts. I did a lot of research and followed a lot of advice from this board and others like it. My first time was with one of the better known and rated ladies in my area - great feedback, professional, a little pricer than others but said to be worth it, I e-mailed before to explain my situation, and I booked for a few hours. She was a little business-like at times and there were a couple of things which killed the mood from time to time and gave rise to doubts as to whether she was okay with me being there, but on the whole she was patient, considerate, had a nice personality, gorgeous.. but the sex, well, it wasn't great. I quickly found it didn't feel that great, felt forced and in the end couldn't get off. Embarrassing sure, but it was my first time and I've got to lay the blame for that at my own feet. So I put that down to being the first time, nerves, and my own poor performance.

The second time was with an agency escort some time later. I had been a little put off by the first time, but after reading the boards and reports here for a few weeks I decided to give it another go to see if it would be better, this time with an agency girl who I thought looked stunning and had good feedback. Again booked a couple of hours and gave it another go. She was beautiful, friendly, understanding of my nerves and accomodating, but again when it came to sex it wasn't all that great. The feeling/sensation isn't all that great, and (if you'll excuse the bluntness) the eventual payoff wasn't that great an orgasm - barring the beautiful girl present, it was pretty forgettable actually.

So that's twice now, both with well rated ladies, both allowing plenty of time in the booking, and both times I've walked away feeling like sex really isn't all that great. Underwhelmed is probably the best word for it. There are things which stand out:

  • The kissing, which upto my first punt I had no experience of, is often tight lipped or near closed mouth,a little tongue perhaps but that's all.
  • During sex the girls are so quiet.. I know I'm very likely a poor partner performance wise, but dead silence from the lady or near silence is so odd. It's nnot even like you want forced or fake screams and/or moans - just a little bit of feedback or vocal response rather than the dead silence.. but to be fair it seems wholly unreasonable to expect anything else if the girl isn't getting anything from the experience.
  • Pace. Once you start there's no slow build up or working into it. It's straight upto a quick pace and asking to slow down just seems to kill the mood.
  • Positions. Go from one to another, then another and another. Coupled with the pacing it just feels mechanical.

It can't be the ladies. The first indi had a fantastic reputation and plenty of positive feedback. The second was likewise well reputed and in some ways friendlier and more accomodating than the first. But the issue remains that I'm finding that sex itself is just not that great nor satisfying and though I love the idea of it, but the concept of it is proving far better and far removed from the reality. Love the idea, but am doubting whether it is even worth the cost and trouble to keep trying when it's thus far proving to be a big let down from what I hoped it would be.

So I find myself wondering and needing to ask, do you other guys find that in practice sex is a lot less enjoyable and satisfying than you expect or hope it would be? particularily when visiting an escort? basically.. do you think, or have you ever though in hindsight, that sex is overrated?

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It's only fair to preface this by saying that I'm not an experienced punter, nor could it be claimed I'm experienced in any other ways at all. At the risk of being mocked my naievety and inexperience, they are why I thought to post this question here to try and get a little insight from the more experienced and share an insight into my own experience for any others why might be in a similar position of considering taking the plunge.

I've only had two punts upto now. The first was quite literally my "first" time having reached a point where my inexperience was proving too much of a hinderance/burden and not wanting to wait any longer to experience sex. The second came some time later as a matter of fulfilling a need and finding out if it would be better with someone else.

My concern is.. upto this point, sex seems pretty overrated.

Don't get me wrong, there are aspects that are nice, but the sex itself is altogether quite underwhelming and it's left me wondering what on earths wrong, or whether sex and to a lesser extent visiting a professional escort is just one of those things that's made out to be a better experience than it actually is.

I'm pretty confident in my choice of escorts. I did a lot of research and followed a lot of advice from this board and others like it. My first time was with one of the better known and rated ladies in my area - great feedback, professional, a little pricer than others but said to be worth it, I e-mailed before to explain my situation, and I booked for a few hours. She was a little business-like at times and there were a couple of things which killed the mood from time to time and gave rise to doubts as to whether she was okay with me being there, but on the whole she was patient, considerate, had a nice personality, gorgeous.. but the sex, well, it wasn't great. I quickly found it didn't feel that great, felt forced and in the end couldn't get off. Embarrassing sure, but it was my first time and I've got to lay the blame for that at my own feet. So I put that down to being the first time, nerves, and my own poor performance.

The second time was with an agency escort some time later. I had been a little put off by the first time, but after reading the boards and reports here for a few weeks I decided to give it another go to see if it would be better, this time with an agency girl who I thought looked stunning and had good feedback. Again booked a couple of hours and gave it another go. She was beautiful, friendly, understanding of my nerves and accomodating, but again when it came to sex it wasn't all that great. The feeling/sensation isn't all that great, and (if you'll excuse the bluntness) the eventual payoff wasn't that great an orgasm - barring the beautiful girl present, it was pretty forgettable actually.

So that's twice now, both with well rated ladies, both allowing plenty of time in the booking, and both times I've walked away feeling like sex really isn't all that great. Underwhelmed is probably the best word for it. There are things which stand out:

  • The kissing, which upto my first punt I had no experience of, is often tight lipped or near closed mouth,a little tongue perhaps but that's all.
  • During sex the girls are so quiet.. I know I'm very likely a poor partner performance wise, but dead silence from the lady or near silence is so odd. It's nnot even like you want forced or fake screams and/or moans - just a little bit of feedback or vocal response rather than the dead silence.. but to be fair it seems wholly unreasonable to expect anything else if the girl isn't getting anything from the experience.
  • Pace. Once you start there's no slow build up or working into it. It's straight upto a quick pace and asking to slow down just seems to kill the mood.
  • Positions. Go from one to another, then another and another. Coupled with the pacing it just feels mechanical.

It can't be the ladies. The first indi had a fantastic reputation and plenty of positive feedback. The second was likewise well reputed and in some ways friendlier and more accomodating than the first. But the issue remains that I'm finding that sex itself is just not that great nor satisfying and though I love the idea of it, but the concept of it is proving far better and far removed from the reality. Love the idea, but am doubting whether it is even worth the cost and trouble to keep trying when it's thus far proving to be a big let down from what I hoped it would be.

So I find myself wondering and needing to ask, do you other guys find that in practice sex is a lot less enjoyable and satisfying than you expect or hope it would be? particularily when visiting an escort? basically.. do you think, or have you ever though in hindsight, that sex is overrated?

No sex is not overrated in my experience. Within punting with the right WG it can be great.

All i can suggest is trying someone else and if she is very good or better you will hopefully have a great time, but the truth is there are no guarantees. I sometimes dont want any penetrative sex and prefer DFK, OWO and RO for the whole punt so consider mixing it up a bit, and remember its your punt, your paying so clearly communicate with the WG exactly what you want, position wise and pace wise. Choose someone with a reputation for being outgoing and friendly, unless you dont speak to her this should ensure some talking but you have to make an effort as well so bear that in mind. Good luck. :)

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Why dont you try booking shorter appointments rather than the longer ones of a few hours - it always amazes me when guys want to book 2++++ with someone they dont know at the cost of generally 250 ++++ its a lot of money to feel dissatisfied from

why not book maybe 3o mins or 45 mins or 1hours and try those types of appointments instead you might find you are more suited to those types of appointments rather than the longer two hours

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I have to say though I too was a little underwhelmed (and nervous) at first but was interested enough to keep going back again, which turned out to be the best decision yet. My first few punts were 1/2 hour to 1 hour and I found that to be just about right. I think I would have been bored with longer punts, especially if it was all over with 30mins to spare.

Also I had a habit of over-thinking and over analysing it, now days I put it out my mind during my regular life for the most part. That makes the punt, when it comes to it, feel much fresher and enjoyable on the day. On the other hand if you're not really enjoying it then there's no point throwing money away.

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Lots of people find sex fairly underwhelming the first time, myself included. Practice makes perfect. I didn't even cum at all from intercourse the first few times.

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I agree with the above post, have a shorter meeting, perhaps ask around on the boards for some recommendations of decent girls - to be honest, I know you said they were beautiful and friendly but you also said they were tight lipped, quiet and mechanical and that's certaintly not going to push anyones buttons.

The next time you want to see someone, perhaps get some feedback on here. People are (sometimes brutally) honest and you;ll be able to work out quickly if the girl is likely to be suitable or not. DFK is a must and the best girls will just let you go with the flow that suits you, whether that be in one position, slow and gentle or banging away like rabbits. Everybody is stimulated by different things, the trick is taking your time with a girl, working out what really does it for you and voila!

You should walk away from it with shaky knees and a smile on your face :-)

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Don't worry, it's perfectly normal to be a bit underwhelmed the first few times, whether with WG or civvie. This is because, as other posters are rightly saying, everyone needs a process of trial and error to find out what really gets them going.

In your case, I would do what Annabel recommends and pick a girl known for good DFK. Then tell her you would like a nice slow build-up with varied foreplay (and if you haven't tried OWO yet you haven't lived), and a bit of dirty-talk from her. That should all help.

And remember to keep your sense of humour about you. Good sex should be a laugh, not some sort of solemn ritual. It's not underrated, just one of things you need time to learn.

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Firstly, it is possible that sex itself really isn't that important to you - you just feel you are inexperienced and missing something. What you may be missing, however is a relationship and togetherness with another person. I am tormented by an incredibly strong sex drive and it matters to me more than almost anything in my life. I have had huge success in finding physically enjoyable sex with agreeable working girls but I still envy guys going back to an average sex life (and spending whole nights and portions of their lives) with a warm girl next door type in a marriage or relationship which includes mutually enjoyable sex.

It is also clear to me that the well reported girls you have chosen did not appear to offer even the short lived simulation of a GFE. In view of comments elsewhere about appalling punters you do need to be sure that your breath is fresh, your attitude respectful (but maybe not too wimpy). I would suggest you look for girls who have specifically been commended for passionate DFK and a warm attitude. You might also consider someone who isn't overly polished and 'professional' but more genuine.

Talk to them and see how they can help you. Tell them of your inexperience and concerns.

There are some ladies who correspond on here that you can sense are warm, amusing and take pride in their job. Consider one of them.

If you do have a session with a warm, attractive and sympathetic lady and it still doesn't do a lot for you, well, think of the money and stress you will save in your life - and think of me destined to fritter my pension on young women.

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Good advice so far, just have to add that if you want to slow down, then ask to slow down. Ultimately I personally would rather you ask to slow down and make sure you are enjoying yourself...

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Eman

Unless I missed it I don't think you mention your age.

So you were a virgin until your first appointment?

I have met several virgins and some of them surprised me

by being in their 30's or 40's and had never had full sex

with a woman.

If you have been an avid porn viewer then you may have a somewhat

distorted picture of how the sex should be. If you have read a

great many reviews on this or other sites then again you may have had

unreasonable expectations regarding the bedroom antics.

As others have said a long appointment will not necessarily be the best

idea as these sessions will include much conversation and perhaps you are

not comfortable having long chats while lying naked with a woman you have

only just met?

Who knows why it is not working for you..... we know little about you. Only the

ladies you mention will have a better idea of why the earth may not have moved

for you.

You have two choices here I think. Either stop paying and hope you meet a girl who

is right for you in every way... or continue booking girls in the hope you strike

lucky!

Not everyone and this includes men... finds the sex act mind blowing. Some never do,

regardless if it is a paid encounter or a girlfriend they adore.

Do let us know though if things change.

Eleda

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Reading his message, I suspect the OP is of above average intelligence and a quite sensitive person. It could be that his expectations are too high and he thinks too deeply about life. After all that time not having had sex, it would be normal to build it up in his mind to something utterly mind-blowing and extraordinary. It is also not helpful to think in terms of 'performance' as if a load of judges are going to be sitting at the end of the bed giving marks (5.9, 5.7, 6.0, 5.9!) Better that a WG thinks you are a lousy shag than a girlfriend or wife!

Or, as someone else has pointed out, sex may not actually be that important to him - lucky guy if that is the case! A life spent 'unchained from the idiot'.

And, of course, sex does not have to mean penetration. Most of my punts are tit fucks, simply because it is something I love to do. There are so many ways in which to express your sexuality.

In any case, only he knows the truth about how he feels and the best thing he can do is simply find a lifestyle he feels comfortable and happy with. Just like the rest of us.

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Sorry to the OP if this feels a bit terse, but I need to dash, so the short version of what I want to say is

1) Find a WG who kisses passionately. It makes such a massive difference to the punt. The FRs should help you find someone.

2) Knock the long bookings on the head until you find someone you are comfortable with. I find an hour's booking is an ideal length for a first meeting.

3) If you like oral, ask the girl to spend longer on this before moving onto the sex. Many girls seem to want to rush to the full sex part and then it's all over before you know it.

4) When you get to the full sex part, choose a position you are comfortable with and feel in control with. Again, many girls seem to like to start off in Cowgirl, which is fun but puts them in control of how fast and or slow things go. If the girl goes to quickly for you, it's often a case of wham, bam, thank you maam and it's all over before you've really begun to enjoy it.

Hope this helps. Best of luck.

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At the risk of being mocked my naievety and inexperience, they are why I thought to post this question here to try and get a little insight from the more experienced and share an insight into my own experience for any others why might be in a similar position of considering taking the plunge.

This 'experienced punter' belief is a load of bollocks in terms of having a good experience. A punter is a punter. You will learn zilch from a supposed ' experienced ' punter.

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This 'experienced punter' belief is a load of bollocks in terms of having a good experience. A punter is a punter. You will learn zilch from a supposed ' experienced ' punter.

Ha! Not so very long ago a "very experienced" punter declared he thought he knew a wg's job better than she did.

:rolleyes:

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So you had no experience of even a kiss before you jumped in at the deep end ? That says a lot about your background . It takes two to tango as they say and you need to work a bit to get the best out of a meet with a wg.

I also think go for shorter punts and be sure the girl excites you ,that she is your type of girl. with only 2 punts under yor belt its a bit early for you to start anylising your efforts . There is nothing in life as good as pure sex IMO

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Thanks for the replies everyone. I would have replied sooner but I caught up in a bit of work.

Truth be told I've been booking longer appointments on the basis some of the advice I picked up from reading discussions about being an inexperienced punter. Many posters and WG's suggested to those asking that it would be better to book longer to take the pressure of and allow more time to relax if you're nervous. Seemed like a fair bit of advice and I must admit that during my first punt in particular it took me a fair while to shake the nerves off before anything even started. Otherwise it's just down the fear of being rushed and wanting to go at a comfortable pace rather than trying to rush though in a short time.

Regarding my age - I'm 30. A very late stater and after the past couple of bookings it has even crossed my mind that part of the issue could even be that I started a little too late. I would have found that notion ridiculous back before I started, but then I would have found the notion that I'd not be gettng much out of sex to be unimaginable too, so who knows?

As for personal hygiene - I hope I've been fine. I spent a small fortune on products and the like in the lead up to each booking. Showered right before leaving. Good aftershave, but not too much. Nails trimmed and filed. As for breath, I brushed in the morning, mouthwash several times before and usually a few mints on the way. I did what I can, but I don't know, maybe I was still no good. The girls had excellent reputations, especially the indi so if there was a problem the fault must lie with me.

And seeing as the point of porn was raised. I've never had such expectations of the real thing. For the most part I've always found porn a bit over the top and fake, and it's certainly not what I meant whe I mentioned the ladies being quiet. I just went in looking for (and I guess expecting) something that I'd enjoy and want to do again, but thus far it's actually been underwhelming to the point of leaving me wondering if it's something I want to try again. Even writing that sounds bizarre and wrong, but it is nevertheless the way I've come out of the bookings feeling.

What makes it even more confusing is reading/hearing so many others talk about how good it is - that it's so good they get hooked. Annabel mentioned that you should "walk away from it with shaky knees and a smile on your face", yet from my experience up to now I just can't imagine it. There's a serious disconnect between what I've read/heard and what I've experienced and it's proving such a mindfuck that I found myself compelled to ask if it was indeed just a case of overhype and exaggeration.

I don't know. It's baffling and a touch unsettling to find myself thinking this way and coming away from bookings non-plussed and so unsure of something everyone else seems to enjoy so much and which I assumed I would enjoy just as much too.

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ok maybe i will get flamed here but sex for the first time is normlly crap, dont matter if your 14 or 40 if its your first time it will be crap or maybe not crap but it wont be what you think it will be well for 30 seconds it will be then after that its like wtf :lol:

you will either be worrying about your performance or her performance if you can last or last to long are you well endowed or not no matter how many times you have had sex with yourself :P you dont know what your doing suppossed to be doing or when your supposed to be doing it kind of like being told to fly a jumbo jet and you will be ok cos your an expert on xbox 360 and can fly the stimulator in flight school and no all the moves it aint the same at 35000 feet :D

shorter appointments i think are better cos there is less time to think or anylyse the crap out of it

its sex its not rocket science we all do it, some of us more than others, but at the end of the day its still good old fashioned sex dont anylse it the more you do that the more faults you will find, even if there arent any.

eventually you will find what you like but you wont know till you try it - you might be the sort of guy that like quick hot dirty sex behind the bike shed ( think soho walkups here) but you wont know till you try it

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Personally I often find paid sex a bit underwhelming, it is the few really good experiences that keep me going.

Sex with dates/girlfriends is much better, stick to that for a while if you can.

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Personally I often find paid sex a bit underwhelming, it is the few really good experiences that keep me going.

Sex with dates/girlfriends is much better, stick to that for a while if you can.

According to his OP he hasnt that option at present. Sex which involves love and deep emotion is beyond anything punting can offer but if like the OP you dont have that option or like me your a selfish bastard who wants to shag as many women as possible but realizes that is unlikely unless paying WGs, punting can be a great pastime in my experience. :)

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I have often thought that i was the only one who could take or leave sex. Dont get my wrong its nice, but it isnt the be all and end all for me. I much prefer a kiss and cuddle, owo, reverse oral etc than sex

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For me, Sex is good but I prefer as above a nice gfe with kissing and cuddling and some owo and reverse oral. Those sensations feel better for me as opposed to putting a condom on, which is essential but nonetheless a sensation killer. I also don't feel like 'wasting' my cum in a condom and prefer to COB and i'd like to CIM but haven't done so yet, something i still have to look forward to. Although changing positions may seem 'mechanical' do you not agree that cowgirl is a fun position? How about doggy, when i'm assisted in LOL i find i get great penetration, much easier then mish i find.

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I have often thought that i was the only one who could take or leave sex. Dont get my wrong its nice, but it isnt the be all and end all for me. I much prefer a kiss and cuddle, owo, reverse oral etc than sex

Penetrative sex isnt important at some of my punts either. I am sometimes very happy with DFK, OWO and RO.

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Hi Eman Resu

Let me just say I was in the same boat as you 5 years ago. However I was 25 years old at the time and never had sex.

Although I was a Virgin I had some mild flirtations with girls from late High School (before a gap) and then I managed to kiss and fondle a few drunk cock-teaser girls in Nightclubs.

But ultimately I was a Virgin with women until 25.

Long story short; I lost it to a Window Girl in Amsterdam. An attractive woman- but she scammed me and charged me double for a "suck/fuck". The Blow Job was nice (abeit protected with a Condom) and the intercourse was limited, (the WG used very little lube which caused chauffing and me losing my erection.)

I did cum; but it wasn't spectacular.

Luckily for me though I did lose it "officially" 3 months later at a party. I kept it to a one night stand only but it was worth it.

Not only was there passionate kissing, cuddling, natural fingering, she was wet as anything (I put my well read theory of watching amatuer real couple porn videos and general knowledge of female anatomy to test).

But best of all I experienced "o natural" sex- sex without a Condom and the feeling of a natural wet pussy stroking me was just undescribable. Anyone who says there is no difference is lying through their teeth. If she's wet, you're erect and there is good rythm in fucking its spine-tingling good and enriching for mind, body and soul.

My next civvy girl gave me a blow job without the condom for the first time and offered me to cum in her mouth (because I had wanked in the morning it never happened) but again it was delicous.

I had sex without the condom with a tight, younger girl (19 years old) from a Nightclub in my Car. She hiked up her mini-skirt, took off her underwear and we had intercourse at 3.00am- with the passenger seat down. That was hot.

I went on haitus for a while before having a dry spell. It was suggested by someone on a non Escort/Punting Forum that I try "Escorts" when I had a Dating question (obviously I still had the inexperienced vibe about me).

To cut a long story short. I think Escort are a waste of time and Money. Nothing more than a glorified wank.

1) You're right- there is a definately lack of sensation all sex is protected with Condoms which eliminates any sensation. BTW Condoms are a sign that either

a) You're gay or

B) You fuck Prostitutes

Also with O.W.O there's no gaurentee you'll CIM. In fact I have only ever CIM'ed twice with the Escorts I have been with. Every other girl lacked integrity, experience or enthusiasm to suck me to completion (even when they charged extra for it).

2) Kissing with an Escort IS passionateless. There is no chemistry, no spine-tingling excitement, or sexual tension. Kissing an Escort is like kissing a dead fish on a chopping block.

Anyone who says otherwise doesn't know what a real kiss feels like. Its only magical if genuine.

3)Having to pay for 2 hours. To be honest I think the "minimum" standard time Escorts should set would be 2 hours if they genuinely wanted their clients to be happy, comfortable. In fact I think £100 for 2 hours should be the most Escorts charge to allow for a Drink, Shower, Introduction, two way Massage, maybe Dance (lapdance), strip, foreplay and then of course- intercourse.

But no its more about get you in the Door, take your Money and throw you out a.s.a.p whilst maybe ripping you off extras.

Can you image being told to leave when you hadn't even completed foreplay with a civvy girl? The other day I booked an Escort. We had a quickie, I did a full body massage with her and as I was making her cum with my fingers- a loud knock on the dorr to say "times up".

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Long story short.

Until you experience genuine passion, relationships, and a commited girlfriend- then (Escort) sex will always be sensationless, stuffy, rushed and Condom only.

An Escort is just a prostitute by any other name.

You will get fleeched for extras (I was overcharged an estimated £400 unnecessarily being charged extras the Escort didn't provide, or due to her being late or finishing sessions early etc). I also spent £1000 total this year on Escorts alone (couldn've got a better second hand car fot that).

Escorts are only after your Money- nothing else and at a deeper level hate their jobs and their clients.

Edited by RedAlertTourist

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My concern is.. upto this point, sex seems pretty overrated.

Don't get me wrong, there are aspects that are nice, but the sex itself is altogether quite underwhelming and it's left me wondering what on earths wrong, or whether sex and to a lesser extent visiting a professional escort is just one of those things that's made out to be a better experience than it actually is.

I'm pretty confident in my choice of escorts. I did a lot of research and followed a lot of advice from this board and others like it. My first time was with one of the better known and rated ladies in my area - great feedback, professional, a little pricer than others but said to be worth it, I e-mailed before to explain my situation, and I booked for a few hours. She was a little business-like at times and there were a couple of things which killed the mood from time to time and gave rise to doubts as to whether she was okay with me being there, but on the whole she was patient, considerate, had a nice personality, gorgeous.. but the sex, well, it wasn't great. I quickly found it didn't feel that great, felt forced and in the end couldn't get off. Embarrassing sure, but it was my first time and I've got to lay the blame for that at my own feet. So I put that down to being the first time, nerves, and my own poor performance.

The second time was with an agency escort some time later. I had been a little put off by the first time, but after reading the boards and reports here for a few weeks I decided to give it another go to see if it would be better, this time with an agency girl who I thought looked stunning and had good feedback. Again booked a couple of hours and gave it another go. She was beautiful, friendly, understanding of my nerves and accomodating, but again when it came to sex it wasn't all that great. The feeling/sensation isn't all that great, and (if you'll excuse the bluntness) the eventual payoff wasn't that great an orgasm - barring the beautiful girl present, it was pretty forgettable actually.

So that's twice now, both with well rated ladies, both allowing plenty of time in the booking, and both times I've walked away feeling like sex really isn't all that great. Underwhelmed is probably the best word for it. There are things which stand out:

So I find myself wondering and needing to ask, do you other guys find that in practice sex is a lot less enjoyable and satisfying than you expect or hope it would be? particularily when visiting an escort? basically.. do you think, or have you ever though in hindsight, that sex is overrated?

My first attempts at sex were pretty rubbish. From a very early age I had a crazily high sex drive and I couldn't wait to fuck. However my first experience was so bad that I didn't do it again until six months later. A much older neighbour seduced me and that was it for me, the pleasure was addictive and I haven't looked back since. It might be that you simply haven't found the person with whom you have the right chemistry with or maybe you're just not that sexual, not everyone is and it is nothing to worry about if you are not x

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