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The Decision To Start Seeing Working Girls

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I don't suppose any of us have a long term goal of seeing a working girl in the way we might want to go to Australia, or to become a dentist or whatever, but we all have done and so the question is why did you make the decision.

I'll start with mine. Its a bit of a confession too, if you like, so a bit indulgent on my part (but probably helpful too).

Married for around 25 years and sex had taken a bit of a back seat in the relationship, partly my fault and partly hers. Mine for losing my nerve and never wanting to initiate it; hers for deciding that mean't I wasn't interested. Added to which, after the craziness of the first few months, sex had slowly become a bit predictable (but with some great bits on the way it must be said) and dull. Her sexual needs are a bit at odds with what we are lead to believe as well - she is a one orgasm girl, only through penetrative sex and with a bit of help from her fingers (which has always made me feel slightly inadequate), and it needs to be quick too, with quite minimal foreplay. She loved/s oral but won't allow herself to cum that way; it has to be proper shagging although the positions have varied a lot over the years. She also instigated anal from time to time, and has said many times she loves giving oral too, so clearly not too inhibited.

From my side, I had never really grown up sexually and still masturbated two or three times a week, whether we were at it or not, so I was never desperate for more. (Blame this on some very deep pyschological problems relating to my first sexual experience being at the age of less than 11 and with a man - not great but quite close to getting sorted now). Added to this I was getting a bit older, erections were a bit harder to come by and cumming definitely was not what it once was, and repeat performances were almost impossible. And, funnily enough, despite access to all the porn a man could ever want, I was getting fed up with it and fed up with masturbating too on account of the solitude of it and, to some extent, the guilt - being in control is all very well but sex really does work best in company.

Thus, I end up drinking way too much, being sexually frustrated, frustrated with my sex life, masturbating as a matter of course whether I really wanted to or not, and feeling very lonely. And she is away a couple of nights every week mostly, on business. What would you do in the circumstances? I found Punterlink first and after messing several girls around with making and breaking appointments (through a combination of nerves and guilt) I finally found myself on the train after work one evening heading for west London, feeling much the same way as I do if I have to fly anywhere (resigned terror if you must know) but also feeling that I could not let the girl down as she has gone out of her way to make this happen.

A pleasant evening followed which, honestly, asked as many questions as it answered. I saw her again and realised that it would be very easy to get too close so made a point of looking elsewhere from then on. Since then, three of four years on, I have seen a number of girls and had some really good times and some very odd ones too and, all the time, I still haven't really sorted out the problems at home which have been compounded now by her now having quite bad lubrication issues. That is the next thing to do but it is a VERY BIG THING indeed and will require a great deal of thought and effort to get right.

I don't see punting as a long term solution but it has had it's good moments and has been quite useful in my getting my head really sorted out for many weird reasons which I won't go into now. Probably now, I should think of stopping but I'm not quite ready to yet (although I have almost given up the drink!) as the last few appointments have actually been very therapeutic. And, no, I'm not a nutter.

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Fortunately the tales of angst and woe that some punters have told and suffered isnt part of my decision to start punting.

It was simply a way to get instant sex when i wanted it with no strings attached apart from having to pay. Nowadays its the case that paying gives me the opportunity of punting with WGs who i couldnt pull without going to a lot of effort and wining and dining that i have no interest in doing. So paying cuts the bullshit out and cuts to the chase which is what i am requiring within punting.

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It was simply a way to get instant sex when i wanted it

Which, oddly enough, is never what I wanted.....

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My decision was based partly on the practicalities of getting a regular supply of sex and partly on my moral standards when dealing with people and ladies in particular.

At the time I was divorced and bringing up two teenage daughters with the help of the mother in law so whilst opportunities to meet single ladies in real life were limited, it was the early days of the internet with dating sites in their infancy and people were more trusting of who they met on line. At the time I also had a job in which I travelled the country and hooking up with someone on line and then arranging to meet them when I was in their area was not too much of a problem. Conmpany for the evening, a nice meal and sex was usually on the cards.

Generally though the ladies I met were looking for some sort of committment after meeting up a few times and after a while I did start to question myself as to what I was looking for in meeting them and the way I was going about it. The answer was basically I was chatting them up to have no srings sex and was this morally correct when they were probably putting a lot of effort in to try and find someone to have a relationship with.

Punting seemed to be the answer and after a lot of soul searching and research I took the plunge and became a regular punter. I now get no strings sex whenever I want it without the posibility of hurting anyone. In pure financial terms it's probably cheaper than trying to maintain a no-strings-sex relationship with someone when you consider the hotel stopovers and meals / entertaining I've paid for in the past. On a practical level - punting is a lot simpler to arrange than chatting up numerous ladies hoping they might have sex with you.

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i have never seen prostitution as wrong, just a fact of life.

i have had a good long term realtionship with mrs CP but as I have grown older and older, have fancied something more. I dont think I have ever been against ahving a fling -just never got the opportunity.

I nearly took the plunge 15 years ago but it was just too complicated so it never happened.

Then came the internet with porn on tap and that raised the urge again. I found PN and then the purple site then took the plunge early 2008

i have had some fantastic times and met some lovely ladies since then it now is just a part of my life. I now cant envisage it stopping -indeed why should it?

My only regret is I cant say to people 'had an amazing punt at the weekend.' my highs and lows are just for me and on ON message board.

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There was no "road to Damascus" moment for me. It was always going to happen, just curiousity plain and simple. It happened in the rue blondel, a street which features in many french coming of age films, you know the type, 3 adolescents pushing each other on to go first, some forty something washing her fanny in a bidet, premature ejaculation, almost de rigeur. A hetero man who doesnt try it once, is just lacking in curiousity.

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There was no "road to Damascus" moment for me. It was always going to happen, just curiousity plain and simple. It happened in the rue blondel, a street which features in many french coming of age films, you know the type, 3 adolescents pushing each other on to go first, some forty something washing her fanny in a bidet, premature ejaculation, almost de rigeur. A hetero man who doesnt try it once, is just lacking in curiousity.

Aha - had forgotten that my first heterosexual encounter happened in Soho. £3.00 eh, course, we 'ad it tough.

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Well for me, it was a combination of getting dumped by my gf and not wanting to be an 18 year old virgin. So i saw a wg in Amsterdam on my 18th bday. Tried the 'real/normal' way and failed so what the hell, money talks.. :o

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Well, I went for the "Im lonely, looking for companionship" route.

Im single, live alone, all my friends are married with kids so after several years of sitting alone at home, doing internet dating, evening course and all that crap, just wnted something to keep me from going insane.

So decided to go try punting to keep my mind fresh on female companionship and getting lonely on the cold lonely nights.

Sadly there appears to be a difference between escorts (who would prefer the f%^k me, now f%^k off verity ) to the adult companionship escort that would be more helpful....

Which means that Im still stuck after all these years.

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Firstly,I have a girlfriend who I have been with for a long time,I love her very much,unfortunately,I'm the sort of bloke who needs sex quite often and my girlfriend doesn't need it as much as me!

I wouldn't dream of forcing my girlfriend to have sex when she wasn't "up for it" so I see WGs.

Also, I choose WGs that offer services that my girlfriend has never done of has stopped doing,notably,as you possibly guessed,anal sex which I really enjoy,I also have a thing about fantasies,particularly schoolgirls,it's hard to get my girlfriend to dress as a schoolgirl,she'd probably think I was sick!

Anyway,I can choose young ladies who I would never stand a chance of picking up normally & have sex with them whenever I want, I've been fortunate to have some absolute stunners and then again,it's not always that,I had some absolutely lovely WGs the same age as me (mid 40s)who have been really great fun but also true ladies.

In the end,OK there's the sex but,I've met a lot of girls I can talk to have a laugh with andjust generally,enjoy their company so,in a way it's kind of socialising for me too?

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when I started at 18 (now 36), it was to screw middle aged women that I'd have no chance of pulling...

Now it's to have fun with fit birds I'd have no chance of pulling or to have stuff done to me that my missus wouldn't dream of.

Punting is great - some weeks I've had a fit MILF, a very fit late 20's brunette stunner and a quickie in a travelodge just for the hell of it.

It is very exciting, a bit complusive and a bit expensive - try to keep it below £500 per month.

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when I started at 18 (now 36), it was to screw middle aged women that I'd have no chance of pulling...

Now it's to have fun with fit birds I'd have no chance of pulling or to have stuff done to me that my missus wouldn't dream of.

Punting is great - some weeks I've had a fit MILF, a very fit late 20's brunette stunner and a quickie in a travelodge just for the hell of it.

It is very exciting, a bit complusive and a bit expensive - try to keep it below £500 per month.

Welcome to the board Ron. :) I agree with your sentiments here, punting is great (mostly in my case), exciting, compulsive and a bit expensive and i meant to add well worth it as a pastime. :)

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OK, I went in somewhere I thought would be a lap dancing joint and turned out to be a brothel staffed be east European girls.

It was a bit rushed and crap but I thought better must be available so searched the next and came across a good quality escort agency, booked a girl and never looked back.

I'm married, 24 years, and love my wife but the bedroom has become a bit stale. Actually, I've had more sex with my wife since I started punting so there you go...

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OK, I went in somewhere I thought would be a lap dancing joint and turned out to be a brothel staffed be east European girls.

It was a bit rushed and crap but I thought better must be available so searched the next and came across a good quality escort agency, booked a girl and never looked back.

I'm married, 24 years, and love my wife but the bedroom has become a bit stale. Actually, I've had more sex with my wife since I started punting so there you go...

I reckon a lot of men will get the refreshment effect from a bit of variety. Actually the more you have the more you want, self esteem and endorphins both kick in.

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Having read the posts to-date I feel good that I could not afford another relationship style mistake and found the ideal solution to my problem was to go 'a puntin'. :)

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I was cheated on by my girlfriend of four years and lost any confidence I ever had. I was never any good at meeting gilrs conventionally before her, and I'm still not. But I quite like sex, and after nearly a year without it, I started punting. And I like it.

I like it a lot.

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short answer - no Eureka moment that I wanted to bang a WG, just kind of happened.

longer version if you can be arsed to read....

first punted in Thailand at 20 years old, kept going back regularly on holiday (not just to punt but to enjoy the food/culture etc as well) - also went there with various western girl friends. However I really never thought about punting at home - I had the preconception that all WGs worked on street corners and were just feeding their habits - skanky ho's!

I then started seeing a girl on and off who worked as a bar maid in my local - she was terrific in the sack but a bit of a nutter - not the type you'd take for Sunday dinner at the folks - after a seeing her periodically for a few months - she one day asked me to take her to a hotel where she was having an interview - unbeknownst to me an interview to become a receptionist at a famous small parlour in Manchester. After working there for a few weeks she moved on to being an occasional stand in and one thing lead to another and she became full time (3 days a week). She eventually told me a few weeks after she became full time and I became intrigued. She invited me to pick her up from work one night and that was the first time I'd been in a parlour. I ended up having lots of threesomes and moresomes with the girls there (free) and slowly became addicted to the buzz of guaranteed hardcore sex with random women (of all shapes sizes and creeds). Our relationship eventually fizzled out (she attacked me with a King Arthur style Excalibur style sword - but that's another story)......

since then I have been visiting various indies and parlours doing the evil deed - it's now become a bit stale to be honest - I got off as much on the nervous adrenaline pre punt as much as the act itself.

I now live 6 months of the year in Oz - and believe me boys this is a punting wasteland!!!! - only bother punting every 3 months or so, no OWO or CIM (in Queensland) allowed by law, seriously expensive ($500-700 a pop - so when I get back home to the UK there's now quite a bit of pent up energy waiting to be punted and I'm enjoying it again......

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Our relationship eventually fizzled out (she attacked me with a King Arthur style Excalibur style sword - but that's another story)

If that's how you define a relationship fizzling out, I'd love to hear what you regard as one finishing with a bang :D .

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Yeah we need to hear the story about that breakup!

As for me, basically missed female companionship and sex. After my break up, was sad and alone, and sex free for 2 years up to my first punt. Had no interest in another relationship and had no opportunity to meet girls I fancied ( I got very lucky and was way out of my league, but the bar had been raised!).

Wanking to porn was getting depressing and the media furore with Harriet H and PN got my curiosity. Lurked for nearly a near and made a few close phone calls, but decided I with all the info and advise here taking a chance is not really a risk.

I'm still young (30) and not too ugly :) but the idea of no strings companionship with women who appear to enjoy the sex and time you spend with them without any of the responsibilities and expectations of a committed relationship. Count me in.

Reading that back makes it seem to be selfish decision.

But the best decision I've made in a long time.

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Everybody is giving the obvious reasons but no-one is asking themself why - what was the rationale behind that decision? It doesn't matter but it does interest me.

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Maybe it is that simple for a lot of punters. We have urges that cannot be sated in the traditional (modern british culture) ways, and through sexual curiosity, general intrigue and good old fashion risk-taking we have found a way to get satisfaction. A way that enjoys one of the one oldest job in the world :)

You post was brave and scarily revealing, I doubt a lot of men could come close to that kind of rationale without the guidance of counselling. Perhaps more in depth answers will come from the younger generation, as emotions are seemingly pandered to a lot more.

But I still believe in suck it up and deal with it.

Within reason.

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I've yet to have my first punt, but I personally have a little bit of a romanticised fetish for the thought. It's a scenario I actually enjoy the idea of, not just the prospect of 'have sex with a beautiful woman' but I really like the idea of two people who might not normally have crossed paths having sex, and the idea that she feels like she is doing me a favour... It's hard to explain.

I've always been fascinated/turned on by stories of brothels in ancient Rome or Greece or in the saloons of the wild west, the oiran (similar to Geisha) in Japan, or more indirectly of concubines in harems, or the mistresses of royals in the 18th century.

Basically I find the easiness of the sex in itself sexy if that makes sense. I suppose I also like the feeling of empowerment from being able to simply choose someone you find attractive without being constrained by whether you would normally be able to get her in bed. Personally I always feel constrained by being kind of shy and sometimes socially awkward, not really good at small talk/knowing the right thing to say, especially around someone I find really hot. So I've only ever gotten intimate with girls I didn't totally fancy, but rather was pretty drunk around and went with the flow.

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Everybody is giving the obvious reasons but no-one is asking themself why - what was the rationale behind that decision? It doesn't matter but it does interest me.

I clearly gave my rationale but to explain further, it was and is a way of having sex with as many women as possible without getting bogged down in that thing called emotional baggage. All you need is cash. :)

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I had a very sheltered life....but a lifelong love of beautiful women. I have adored gorgeous girls since being very young and discovering that page 3 girls gave me a very funny "feeling" down there!! I still remember that that was how i learned to wank...at a very young age, and the first time i orgasmed i thought i'd broke the fucking thing :lol: My balls hadn't obviously started working as no cum came out!! I was terrified and thought i better leave it alone :lol: But a few days later the urges were too great and i enjoyed a wank again until...BANG!!!! That funny "broken" feeling again! Only this time a tiny bit of white stuff came out...and i came to the conclusion it was supposed to happen :lol: From then on....i masturbated pretty much daily. Used to sneak off into the loo at home pretending to need a crap and taking the paper to "read"....as it was the only place i could lock the door and bash away without fear :lol:

At 17 i discovered Soho...and was hypnotised by sex!!!! I was offered a "girl" by one of the female pimps...funny enough she's still around pimping!!! (or was very recently). She picked up my inexperience, but i said no as i was determined my first time would be the "right way". I knew that one day i would almost certainly be visiting a prostitute at least once, as i was so intrigued!! But managed to get laid first.

At 27 years old, having left my wife because i was being treated like complete sh*t, and her being the only woman i'd ever even touched, let alone fucked,i was living in Norwich. My friend lived right in the middle of the Red Light District (which was purely street walkers, no sex establishments. Back in those days there were a lot of really sexy girls on the Norwich streets, nothing like the typical crackhead stereotype, and i'd always be seeing them around...thinking "god i want to" but never having the bottle. Got more friendly with my new mate...and over a drink he admitted he had used a couple...just because it was so convenient being on his doorstep. I'd noticed one stunning girl in particular..and saw her walking around one night with a sexy skirt that revealed the bottom of her arse cheeks, and she was wearing stockings and suspenders. I wanted her. My cock was straining for her. But i didn't have the bottle. Until one Sunday night. I left his place very late and the streets were deserted. But my girl was working, although dressed much more normal. She offered services...i felt an insane adrenaline rush being offered sex by this very beautiful girl. Could it really be this easy???? And why i started to see WG's....i just thought why the fuck not??

Standing in a quiet side street for £20 i think i was getting my cock sucked by a babe. She was sweet...and i'm standing there, trousers round my knees, girl kneeling in front of me...and a guy walks past and turns a blind eye!!! PMSL :lol: put me off and i couldn't cum.

So i met her next time in my car. We went to a car park and instead of oral i fucked her. My god, it felt so good. But....we got disturbed by someone flashing their lights in another vehicle and i shit myself and we shot off...still i hadn't cum with her. She gave me her phone number, said we could go to a friends flat she uses sometimes and i went and fucked her properly on a bed. Finally got the pop :D

And from there....never looked back. Wouldn't use street girls now, not a good scene. Gone on to have some of the most stunning girls i could imagine. So, my decision was partly because i wanted to fuck beautiful girls, and as i'm a minger, i can't pull one!!! :lol: and partly just because it was there...so easy, so available...and i just couldn't resist temptation!!

LOL...didn't think i'd write a whole story!!

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All you need is cash. :)

La la la la la la!

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