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Can Punters And Wgs Ever Be Just Good Friends?

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The question applies both to Punters and WGs as much as in the non punting world. My regular tells me that she is going to retire in 12 months time. We really like each other and swap Birthday and Christmas presents. She has asked me if we will still be friends when she retires.I made light of it and said "No I only come and see you for sex ha ha!" But behind the joke is a serious question. How many men have women friends? Does the sex always get in the way? Would you be great friends with a lady and meet her for lunch if she weighed 22 stone, had bad teeth and appalling dress sense?

I would like to think I am a modern liberated man without any chauvinist inklings but I always associate attractive women with sex and have much less time for the unattractive ones.

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I don't see why not, if you get on personally. If shes going to retire and still get on, in terms of enjoying each others company, conversation wise, why not. It wouldnt bother me. One of my best friends is a female. Sex doesnt come into it.

When you say would you meet a women if she weighs 22 stone,with bad teeth etc, are you refering to the wg your seeing? or just asking a general question?

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The question applies both to Punters and WGs as much as in the non punting world. My regular tells me that she is going to retire in 12 months time. We really like each other and swap Birthday and Christmas presents. She has asked me if we will still be friends when she retires.I made light of it and said "No I only come and see you for sex ha ha!" But behind the joke is a serious question. How many men have women friends? Does the sex always get in the way? Would you be great friends with a lady and meet her for lunch if she weighed 22 stone, had bad teeth and appalling dress sense?

I would like to think I am a modern liberated man without any chauvinist inklings but I always associate attractive women with sex and have much less time for the unattractive ones.

I have seen two of my ladies and planned a thrird for lunch and once one was at a charity event. It can happen, discretion obviously is all.

Whilst I saw all of these for sex, I wouldn't have done so were they not appealing to me and not just for sex.

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yes, i saw one girl quite a few times and we came good friends, have seen her a few times for a coffee and a meal with no strings either way.not seen her "at work" for 2 yrs..

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Yes you can definitely just be good friends, I have a friend and he will know who he is and it is really great. If you get on really well why cant you be friends? It is also a nice feeling that someone can see you for the person you really are and genuinly likes you.

Shelly

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I would hope so but all newbies be aware when apparent innocent references to lack of money and desire for foreign travel with you become apparent.

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Seems like a silly question to me. What you're asking is if a man and a woman can be friends, right? Then of course. As long as you dont pick your friends according to their profession.

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The question applies both to Punters and WGs as much as in the non punting world. My regular tells me that she is going to retire in 12 months time. We really like each other and swap Birthday and Christmas presents. She has asked me if we will still be friends when she retires.I made light of it and said "No I only come and see you for sex ha ha!" But behind the joke is a serious question. How many men have women friends? Does the sex always get in the way? Would you be great friends with a lady and meet her for lunch if she weighed 22 stone, had bad teeth and appalling dress sense?

I would like to think I am a modern liberated man without any chauvinist inklings but I always associate attractive women with sex and have much less time for the unattractive ones.

I have lot's of male friends, i don't have sex with them, known them for years, sex complicates things, no sex = no complications!!

Ps that's not a liberated attittude always associating attractive women just for sex and having less time for unattrative ones!!! it's all subjective but my male friends are all a very mixed in all areas, i would never be small minded not to be friends with those some might consider to be unattrative.

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As I said " I would like to think" I am liberated but I fear I am not. At least I am bei8ng honest!

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Yes, definitely. I've had several good WG friends over the years, although, sadly, it never lasts for long.

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Don't see why not but discretion would be of paramount importance and of course a consistent back story when people ask how the two of you met.

What does size and looks matter when choosing friends? Surly loyalty and personality matter more

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Can Punters And Wgs Ever Be Just Good Friends?

Yes they can - and just as good friends as any two people, for the same reasons as any two people. Escorts /prostitutes/WG's whatever you label them, are ordinary people first and labels last.

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Yes they can - and just as good friends as any two people, for the same reasons as any two people. Escorts /prostitutes/WG's whatever you label them, are ordinary people first and labels last.

It's a shame really how people can meet under strange circumstances like punting, knowing their paths might never have crossed otherwise, and can become really good friends. The sad part is they can't take the friendship any further or even discuss that friendship with friends and family. I have a client who has helped me more than once with a particular problem and in return I have helped him through legal contacts I have made as a WG.

Last night I went to my local garage for a pint of milk and he came in. We said 'hello' and had a few words outside, but we were careful not to stand too near each other, and we did not talk for long. I know my children would like him as 'mum's friend' because he is decent and nice, and he has a bloody great car...LOL

When he comes to see me, the best part of the meet is the catch-up talk. We can both talk for England anyway, and genuinely enjoy each others' company. I know he punts with other ladies, but the friendship is something I consider to be special.

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Yes they can - and just as good friends as any two people, for the same reasons as any two people. Escorts /prostitutes/WG's whatever you label them, are ordinary people first and labels last.

Agreed Helen, when we all stand up to be counted, we are much the same, so why cannot punters and WGs be good friends? This business would be pretty dull if we considered ourselves just to be blocks of meat there for the taking.

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I doubt that a man and a woman can ever be just good friends at all!

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Does the sex always get in the way?

I think if you have crossed the line into sex, it's difficult to revert to and maintain a platonic relationship. What would be the different party's honest expectations as to the relationship? Is the punter hoping for free sex once the WG retires? Is the WG looking for a stable relationship/marriage? How would the ex-punter react if the ex-WG entered a sexual relationship with someone else? How would her new partner react to the 'friendship' with the ex-punter? Or will she remain celibate? Will the ex-punter continue to punt with other ladies? How would the ex-WG feel about that? Or will he remain celibate? I think it's a minefield, really.

Maybe the line that was crossed was getting too attached to a WG in the first place, it's difficult when you have good sex, feel that there is a connection beyond the sex and you become a regular, the most natural thing is to develop feelings for someone, but there are so many lies told by either party to oil the wheels, how can you ever know where you really stand unless the transaction remains purely commercial?

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I doubt that a man and a woman can ever be just good friends at all!

My best friend is male and an ex client, I've known him for 11 years now and he stopped being a client 10 years ago when we became really good friends.

So, IMHO, yes punters and wg's can be just good friends.

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I do not see why wgs and clients can not be good friends, I have quite a few. In fact one of the first person I turn to is an ex client/driver

if ever I am in a crisis or need him lol. I think it is good to have a nice network of friends from all different backgrounds etc,.

I rarely fall out with good decent friends, I cherish them and quite choosey with close friends that I confide in. good friends are hard to come by lol xxxx

Edited by natashasexy4uxx

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I doubt that a man and a woman can ever be just good friends at all!

I have several - some I've known 20+ years and one or two more recently, they are in some cases still in their 20s! Although with one there is a lot of unresolved sexual / relationship tension IMHO - the more so as I am moving to another town so as to be nearer and spend more time with her. Though as we aren't (as yet) shagging this does not get in the way of me seeing WGs. You can't be sexually unfaithful to your friends.

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*sighs*

Yes.

As Helen Jones, Miss Pleasure and Karen Dee have said, it's perfectly possible to be be friends with a person who happens to be an escort. How the friendship works is going to depend on boundaries and attitudes (e.g. will the escort/client relationship remain, or not?) But I regard myself as being friends with at least three ladies who have retired, and some few who haven't.

If you are a man who can enjoy friendships with women then there's no problem. If you can't enjoy such friendships that I guess that there is (at least one) problem.

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The other question is " Can you have sex with someone and then later become just good friends?" I remember all the angst of teenage and early twenty something dating. When a relationship didn't work out the lady would say "Well can't we just be good friends?" for me the answer was always "No". At least not for some time. Once you have been a lover it is hard to be just a good friend. If you have never been lovers then it's much easier.

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*sighs*

Yes.

As Helen Jones, Miss Pleasure and Karen Dee have said, it's perfectly possible to be be friends with a person who happens to be an escort. How the friendship works is going to depend on boundaries and attitudes (e.g. will the escort/client relationship remain, or not?) But I regard myself as being friends with at least three ladies who have retired, and some few who haven't.

If you are a man who can enjoy friendships with women then there's no problem. If you can't enjoy such friendships that I guess that there is (at least one) problem.

Like yourself Pabulum I weary at this same topic coming up again. Of course it's possible. As one of the ladies said, they are all human beings - and those that post on here generally seem to have sensible and interesting things to say and more than a few brain cells. I find the independents are always more interesting (and thoughtful). One of the joys of punting for me is the chat, before and after, where you find out about each other. I've not been punting long but good social interaction with the right lady when it happens is a real bonus for me.

Would you go out with a WG? It's a similar question but the answer is the same. Once you properly understand and accept (and even appreciate) the professional side of what your partner does for a living, you can begin to move on. Hell, it could be a lot worse. She could be a banker.

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Nope; once you become friends sex with friends becomes weird. I did that with 2 escorts - one Russian and one Indian escort. With Russian escort sex after becoming friends is horrible and with Indian escort it was disastrous.

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