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I have been punting for about three years and have two experiences to share with you. The first was with a London escort who was listed on most of the popular sites. We had a good time together and after seeing her a few times I took her number and she told me that I was no longer her client, but her hobby and refused to take money from me. We never took things outside the bedroom but in effect it was a true GFE. I am a nice enough person to realise that her time was money so i'd leave the cash in her shoe or under the pillow but she'd always give it back to me the next time. It was a great few months which we both enjoyed and she returned to Poland where I understand she now has a family. I suspect many people would never believe this happened, but it did.

This unusual experience altered my mindset on working girls as I got to know the person behind the act. It also meant that for me anyway, a punt without any sort of intimacy was hollow.

Six months ago I met another girl who I went to see a few times. After about six visits over a couple of months she agreed to give me her number. She was on many of the London agency sites (no I wont give her name!) and it took a long time for me to gain her trust enough to get her number and book her privately. She was not particulary amazing in terms of service (quite cold in fact), she was just very beautiful and we got on well. I dont think she loved the job and her wall was always up until I got to know her better. She was good company and it was great to spend time with such a stunning girl. She had had money problems in London and I offered to help her out, but she would hear nothing of it. We'd spend some good hours together (always paid of course) and that was that, she went back to her home country. Anyway she'd been gone a few months and called me out of the blue one day. She told me she had not returned to London due to a medical problem. She remebered that I was often visitng her home country on business and so we arranged to meet up on my next trip. She told me in advance she was unable to have intercourse due to her problem and that she was in great need of money for medicine. I met her, paid her for her time (a day and a night) and we had a good time together even without the sex. I believed her story re the medical condition as I saw physical evidence. We kept in touch re her condition and her hopeful return to London but she then needed more medicine and an operation. I sent her more money for the medicine and she told me her estranged father paid for the op which was this week. I dont know if I'll see my money again (it was not a large amount, but reasonable) or hear from her again.

1. It's possible I've been scammed completely and it was a huge con.

2. It's possible she is being honest and views me as her friend and will pay me back as promised when we next meet.

3. It's possible I've done a nice thing for a girl in need and wont hear from her again. My guess.

What did I hope to gain? I suppose selfishly I wanted her to return to London. Less selfishly I wanted her to be healthy. Somewhere down in the depths is the juvenille excitement of a dangerous new fling. You can tick all three boxes.

So, do you take the side of the cynical working girl scamming her client or do you put your faith in friendship and the good nature of nice people?

I'll keep you all posted as to the outcome, unless I get a load of replies from other members all with the same sob story. In which case we'll keep it between us!

Happy Punting

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Long time lurker, first time poster.

I have been punting for about three years and have two experiences to share with you. The first was with a London escort who was listed on most of the popular sites. We had a good time together and after seeing her a few times I took her number and she told me that I was no longer her client, but her hobby and refused to take money from me. We never took things outside the bedroom but in effect it was a true GFE. I am a nice enough person to realise that her time was money so i'd leave the cash in her shoe or under the pillow but she'd always give it back to me the next time. It was a great few months which we both enjoyed and she returned to Poland where I understand she now has a family. I suspect many people would never believe this happened, but it did.

This unusual experience altered my mindset on working girls as I got to know the person behind the act. It also meant that for me anyway, a punt without any sort of intimacy was hollow.

Six months ago I met another girl who I went to see a few times. After about six visits over a couple of months she agreed to give me her number. She was on many of the London agency sites (no I wont give her name!) and it took a long time for me to gain her trust enough to get her number and book her privately. She was not particulary amazing in terms of service (quite cold in fact), she was just very beautiful and we got on well. I dont think she loved the job and her wall was always up until I got to know her better. She was good company and it was great to spend time with such a stunning girl. She had had money problems in London and I offered to help her out, but she would hear nothing of it. We'd spend some good hours together (always paid of course) and that was that, she went back to her home country. Anyway she'd been gone a few months and called me out of the blue one day. She told me she had not returned to London due to a medical problem. She remebered that I was often visitng her home country on business and so we arranged to meet up on my next trip. She told me in advance she was unable to have intercourse due to her problem and that she was in great need of money for medicine. I met her, paid her for her time (a day and a night) and we had a good time together even without the sex. I believed her story re the medical condition as I saw physical evidence. We kept in touch re her condition and her hopeful return to London but she then needed more medicine and an operation. I sent her more money for the medicine and she told me her estranged father paid for the op which was this week. I dont know if I'll see my money again (it was not a large amount, but reasonable) or hear from her again.

1. It's possible I've been scammed completely and it was a huge con.

2. It's possible she is being honest and views me as her friend and will pay me back as promised when we next meet.

3. It's possible I've done a nice thing for a girl in need and wont hear from her again. My guess.

What did I hope to gain? I suppose selfishly I wanted her to return to London. Less selfishly I wanted her to be healthy. Somewhere down in the depths is the juvenille excitement of a dangerous new fling. You can tick all three boxes.

So, do you take the side of the cynical working girl scamming her client or do you put your faith in friendship and the good nature of nice people?

I'll keep you all posted as to the outcome, unless I get a load of replies from other members all with the same sob story. In which case we'll keep it between us!

Happy Punting

Interesting post. I wouldnt want to get this involved to be honest. If i had to put money on it i would say she may like you but is taking advantage of your kind nature and i doubt you will ever see your money again plus she may well ask for more. I have heard many sad things over the years but i view it that its best to back off and walk away. :)

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You said you ''offered to help her out'' and that ''she would hear nothing of it''

So did a discussion take place about repayment or did the heart over ride the wallet?

(that's not a criticism btw)

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Have faith in nice human nature, unless you have firm evidence to the contrary.

I would probably have done the same.

Motives, her well being, and hope for a future reunion.

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I overpaid her really for our night together. Her idea was to meet up again for a night as her treat when she is better.

The additional money sent was a loan which she promised to wire back when she could.

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Act without expectation.

Privately, consider the money a no-strings gift to her, for the time you enjoyed.

If she chooses to return it, that's fine. If she doesn't, that's fine too.

Whatever the truth of the matter, the die is cast. You have nothing to gain by worrying about the outcome, and risk polluting your happy memories.

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From her eyes - I reckon she scammed you....

From your eyes - you helped out a girl in need.....

Everyone's a winner!

Move on and learns from the twisted lessons life throws at you.

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it sounds like you only spent what you could afford to lose, so forget about her. One day you may be pleasantly surprised if she contacts you. If not, then it's no big deal, you probably still helped out someone with genuine money problems.

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Thanks for the replies.

Sound advice. I should be more pragmatic I guess.

It's more the deception thats hurtful rather than the money.

No update really: Money was sent a fortnight ago. We last spoke Saturday, her op was Monday and she was due to come out this Friday.

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Long time lurker, first time poster.

I have been punting for about three years and have two experiences to share with you. The first was with a London escort who was listed on most of the popular sites. We had a good time together and after seeing her a few times I took her number and she told me that I was no longer her client, but her hobby and refused to take money from me. We never took things outside the bedroom but in effect it was a true GFE. I am a nice enough person to realise that her time was money so i'd leave the cash in her shoe or under the pillow but she'd always give it back to me the next time. It was a great few months which we both enjoyed and she returned to Poland where I understand she now has a family. I suspect many people would never believe this happened, but it did.

This unusual experience altered my mindset on working girls as I got to know the person behind the act. It also meant that for me anyway, a punt without any sort of intimacy was hollow.

Six months ago I met another girl who I went to see a few times. After about six visits over a couple of months she agreed to give me her number. She was on many of the London agency sites (no I wont give her name!) and it took a long time for me to gain her trust enough to get her number and book her privately. She was not particulary amazing in terms of service (quite cold in fact), she was just very beautiful and we got on well. I dont think she loved the job and her wall was always up until I got to know her better. She was good company and it was great to spend time with such a stunning girl. She had had money problems in London and I offered to help her out, but she would hear nothing of it. We'd spend some good hours together (always paid of course) and that was that, she went back to her home country. Anyway she'd been gone a few months and called me out of the blue one day. She told me she had not returned to London due to a medical problem. She remebered that I was often visitng her home country on business and so we arranged to meet up on my next trip. She told me in advance she was unable to have intercourse due to her problem and that she was in great need of money for medicine. I met her, paid her for her time (a day and a night) and we had a good time together even without the sex. I believed her story re the medical condition as I saw physical evidence. We kept in touch re her condition and her hopeful return to London but she then needed more medicine and an operation. I sent her more money for the medicine and she told me her estranged father paid for the op which was this week. I dont know if I'll see my money again (it was not a large amount, but reasonable) or hear from her again.

1. It's possible I've been scammed completely and it was a huge con.

2. It's possible she is being honest and views me as her friend and will pay me back as promised when we next meet.

3. It's possible I've done a nice thing for a girl in need and wont hear from her again. My guess.

What did I hope to gain? I suppose selfishly I wanted her to return to London. Less selfishly I wanted her to be healthy. Somewhere down in the depths is the juvenille excitement of a dangerous new fling. You can tick all three boxes.

So, do you take the side of the cynical working girl scamming her client or do you put your faith in friendship and the good nature of nice people?

I'll keep you all posted as to the outcome, unless I get a load of replies from other members all with the same sob story. In which case we'll keep it between us!

Happy Punting

From my experience, if you lend anyone money, you are not expecting to get it back. You did a nice thing, and can pride yourself that you are a kind man who helped someone in need. The cynic in me says that she was/is a working girl and was making money out of other clients besides yourself.

I have helped another working girl who came to me for money because she was in a bad place. I decided that the money I gave to her would neither make me nor break me, and wrote the loan off.

She came to me for more saying she had paid a deposit for a car of £700, and unless I gave her £1300 she would lose the deposit. I decided this was a form of blackmail, and ended the friendship. This happened about five years ago and I think about her a lot because I really liked her. She sent me a text message saying she knew she had fucked up and wanted to be friends again, but I never did anything about it.

I think in life you have to be able to look at yourself and like what you see. Forget about it and her and move on.

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My partner paid off the credit card debt of our sons girlfriend a few years ago. They agreed a monthly repayment. At the time i advised against it because i thought it would affect the relationship (it did) but said that Ok, if you can afford to lose the money, go ahead. The payments were Ok until the couple broke up, then the payments stopped, so she's about 3k out of pocket. Giving like that is kind and trusting on one side, but unfortunately foolish on the other

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