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OK, I have experienced an increase in guys booking and then not showing up just lately.

I'm sure you guys reading this are 'serious' punters so probably don't (or won't admit) to doing this- but I'm wondering if anyone has any thoughts to share. What makes you not show up to see a girl without bothering to let her know?!

I appreciate things happen which means a booking has to be cancelled, I get that life gets in the way sometimes, but just to not show up is soooo rude!

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You've mentioned you are on the other site are you getting people to book via the ** booking system? I would guess

anybody who books through this is less likely to not turn up without explanation as they would run the risk of negative feedback.

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OK, I have experienced an increase in guys booking and then not showing up just lately.

I'm sure you guys reading this are 'serious' punters so probably don't (or won't admit) to doing this- but I'm wondering if anyone has any thoughts to share. What makes you not show up to see a girl without bothering to let her know?!

I appreciate things happen which means a booking has to be cancelled, I get that life gets in the way sometimes, but just to not show up is soooo rude!

Unless your not in a position to phone/text/email due to being in an accident and not physically able to or suchlike its out of order not to let the WG know in my opinion.

My usual modus is sameday punting so ring to enquire, book, confirm by agreement before leaving mine, turn-up, punt and leave, simplicity, which is what i like. Once i have chosen the WG i always turn-up, its after i have seen and spoken to her i have on ocassion walked due to various reasons but i have never done a no show that i can remember. :)

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Like you said I think some of the genuine people, do have reasons for not turning up, work, traffic etc, but don't think anyone has a real reason for not letting the girl concerned know, it only takes a few seconds to send a txt. I've only cancelled an agreed time only a couple of times, and have on those occasions let the lady know in advance.

From conversations with other escorts, I think some phone just to get off from the phone call, or some are too shy and back out. Maybe you should just tell them to confirm when they make a booking that they will have to send a txt or phone in the morning of the booking to confirm their attendance. If they fail to confirm, then you can make other arrangements.

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Since I went fulltime and have my phone number on the site most bookings (90+% at a guess) come via the phone- I used to ask them to book through the site, but most don't want the hassle or don't want to join up or are not in front of a computer at the time etc. I can't afford not to accept clients who do not want to book through the site!

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Like you said I think some of the genuine people, do have reasons for not turning up, work, traffic etc, but don't think anyone has a real reason for not letting the girl concerned know, it only takes a few seconds to send a txt. I've only cancelled an agreed time only a couple of times, and have on those occasions let the lady know in advance.

From conversations with other escorts, I think some phone just to get off from the phone call, or some are too shy and back out. Maybe you should just tell them to confirm when they make a booking that they will have to send a txt or phone in the morning of the booking to confirm their attendance. If they fail to confirm, then you can make other arrangements.

Yup, if it's an advance booking of more than say 3-4 hours ahead I get them to text to call to confirm they are still on. Most bookings I find are made within an hour or so of seeing me.

I've had the second no show of the day! At one time I rarely had any. Am getting paranoid!

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Since I went fulltime and have my phone number on the site most bookings (90+% at a guess) come via the phone- I used to ask them to book through the site, but most don't want the hassle or don't want to join up or are not in front of a computer at the time etc. I can't afford not to accept clients who do not want to book through the site!

I am one of those 90%, no phone number no booking from me, i have no interest in booking through Adultw0rks booking system. A phone chat is essential to me and as i usually book sameday its about getting a response immediately. :)

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I am one of those 90%, no phone number no booking from me, i have no interest in booking through Adultw0rks booking system. A phone chat is essential to me and as i usually book sameday its about getting a response immediately. :)

I'm the same as smiths on that no phone number, no booking. I cant be bothered to keep checking if the appointment has been accepted. I have been asked to "use the booking system" while on the phone which I have no problem with as the booking has already been confirmed. Maybe that is something you could consider doing ELG.

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Since I went fulltime and have my phone number on the site most bookings (90+% at a guess) come via the phone- I used to ask them to book through the site, but most don't want the hassle or don't want to join up or are not in front of a computer at the time etc. I can't afford not to accept clients who do not want to book through the site!

Unfortunately the annoynmity of punters allows the tire kickers to get away with it.

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OK, I have experienced an increase in guys booking and then not showing up just lately.

I'm sure you guys reading this are 'serious' punters so probably don't (or won't admit) to doing this- but I'm wondering if anyone has any thoughts to share. What makes you not show up to see a girl without bothering to let her know?!

I appreciate things happen which means a booking has to be cancelled, I get that life gets in the way sometimes, but just to not show up is soooo rude!

Yesterday I called a girl and made a booking. She said she would text address. NO TEXT .I texted her asking for address.No reply so I didnt travel 1/2 hr after booking scheduled she called and gave abuse for not turning up. What the fuck?

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You need to have a system and also to chill out a little about it. There can be several reasons for a no show, firstly absolute nerves - this one usually prevents the person from cancelling, but the thing is it doesn't take 2 seconds to send a quick text, and barring absolute disasters there shouldn't be any reason not to let you know. Since being self-employed I now make sure I let anyone know if I'm now running late, or can't make an appointment in my private life. Whereas in the past I will admit to being guilty of 'forgetting' Drs appointments.

Having a set confirmation time for any booking really helps, and it means you also give a time to call back for other potential enquirers in case of cancellation. Very occasionally though some guys will genuinely forget to confirm, and they can be disappointed later in the day when they do get in touch. As Smiths often says - it's the unreliable few that make things difficult for the genuine ones.

By the way the ** booking system is no guarantee for anyone.

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You need to have a system and also to chill out a little about it. There can be several reasons for a no show, firstly absolute nerves - this one usually prevents the person from cancelling, but the thing is it doesn't take 2 seconds to send a quick text, and barring absolute disasters there shouldn't be any reason not to let you know. Since being self-employed I now make sure I let anyone know if I'm now running late, or can't make an appointment in my private life. Whereas in the past I will admit to being guilty of 'forgetting' Drs appointments.

Having a set confirmation time for any booking really helps, and it means you also give a time to call back for other potential enquirers in case of cancellation. Very occasionally though some guys will genuinely forget to confirm, and they can be disappointed later in the day when they do get in touch. As Smiths often says - it's the unreliable few that make things difficult for the genuine ones.

By the way the ** booking system is no guarantee for anyone.

Thanks Strawberry! I am usually chilled out about it, but it seems weird I seem to be getting more of late and today having two in a row has made me twitchy! I had to go check my profile to see if I hadn't written 'Hey, today is piss me about day! Go on call me, sound lovely, then not show!'

I do ask them to confirm again if it's a booking ahead of time (the two today were for within an hour of the call) which I have found does wheedle out most the time wasters, and on a busy day I have been able to get back to a chap who I have previously turned down and all ends well!

I suppose it's the nature of the beast and soon I will have another fabulous day with lots of lovely men and everything goes to plan and I'll remember why I love doing this!

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I know of a guy who books for outcalls to his supposed penthouse then cancels last minute. Apart from myself, i know of 7 other girls he's done this to! And unfortunately he's not the only one! But at least he has the decency to let us know... After we're already halfway through the journey... Douche...

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Thanks Strawberry! I am usually chilled out about it, but it seems weird I seem to be getting more of late and today having two in a row has made me twitchy! I had to go check my profile to see if I hadn't written 'Hey, today is piss me about day! Go on call me, sound lovely, then not show!'

I do ask them to confirm again if it's a booking ahead of time (the two today were for within an hour of the call) which I have found does wheedle out most the time wasters, and on a busy day I have been able to get back to a chap who I have previously turned down and all ends well!

I suppose it's the nature of the beast and soon I will have another fabulous day with lots of lovely men and everything goes to plan and I'll remember why I love doing this!

I don't take short notice appointments at all and insist on email contact from punters booking through Adultwоrk, but then I don't rely on it for work and get most of my bookings from my site and other directories (including PN). I know last-minute works for some people, but I have a strict booking/screening and confirmation system and as a result I very rarely have no shows - I think there's been two in the last year, possibly longer. I remember one in Edinburgh last October and I daresay theres been another at some point but that's it.

It's a bit off topic, but if you've gone full time (and are presumably depending on whoring for an income), have you thought about getting a website, or even just advertising in a few different places? Putting all your eggs in one basket isn't a great idea (the site was down for almost a day and a half not so long ago when they moved servers and whilst we had much wailing and gnashing of teeth over on SAAFE; I wouldn't even have noticed). I'm not saying that all punters from any particular site are twats or that all from another are great, but I do think you're limiting your options a bit and if you are having to compromise the way you would rather do things it might not hurt to have a bit of a marketing upgrade :).

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I don't take short notice appointments at all and insist on email contact from punters booking through Adultwоrk, but then I don't rely on it for work and get most of my bookings from my site and other directories (including PN). I know last-minute works for some people, but I have a strict booking/screening and confirmation system and as a result I very rarely have no shows - I think there's been two in the last year, possibly longer. I remember one in Edinburgh last October and I daresay theres been another at some point but that's it.

It's a bit off topic, but if you've gone full time (and are presumably depending on whoring for an income), have you thought about getting a website, or even just advertising in a few different places? Putting all your eggs in one basket isn't a great idea (the site was down for almost a day and a half not so long ago when they moved servers and whilst we had much wailing and gnashing of teeth over on SAAFE; I wouldn't even have noticed). I'm not saying that all punters from any particular site are twats or that all from another are great, but I do think you're limiting your options a bit and if you are having to compromise the way you would rather do things it might not hurt to have a bit of a marketing upgrade :).

Amy- Yes, I have half thought about where else I can promote or market myself but stay totally independent. I gather there are various places I could get me a webpage, but how do I get it noticed? Any suggestions of where to start? Any advice muchly appreciated!

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OK, I have experienced an increase in guys booking and then not showing up just lately.

I'm sure you guys reading this are 'serious' punters so probably don't (or won't admit) to doing this- but I'm wondering if anyone has any thoughts to share. What makes you not show up to see a girl without bothering to let her know?!

I appreciate things happen which means a booking has to be cancelled, I get that life gets in the way sometimes, but just to not show up is soooo rude!

I do not and will not ever advertise on the other site so I cannot comment on the system they use, but one thought springs to mind about 'No Shows', and that is sometimes men book more than one lady and decide who they will see at the last minute. I know this is a mean thing to do, but in their defence they say they get girls cancelling at the last minute too so they use it as a form of insurance.

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Occasionally a guy will have an emergency at the same time that his phone dies I guess but the most common excuses I receive for no show's when they call back a few days later to try to book someone again is..

a) I was in a meeting and couldnt phone.

B) eerr yeah...sorry

Both are shoddy and anyone can excuse themselves from a meeting to use the bathroom.

Once I clock who they are I simply refuse to take an advance booking, they have to turn up and take their chances therefore making way for a guy who has a bit of respect for others. If they really want to make an advance booking they have to come in and pay the girl first then come back later...harsh but fairer on the girls and we have one or two who do that now.

It is the self-importance syndrome I feel.

Obviously sometimes emergencies do come up...but not for the same guy 2 or 3 times in a row...come on now.

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Occasionally a guy will have an emergency at the same time that his phone dies I guess but the most common excuses I receive for no show's when they call back a few days later to try to book someone again is..

a) I was in a meeting and couldnt phone.

B) eerr yeah...sorry

Both are shoddy and anyone can excuse themselves from a meeting to use the bathroom.

Once I clock who they are I simply refuse to take an advance booking, they have to turn up and take their chances therefore making way for a guy who has a bit of respect for others. If they really want to make an advance booking they have to come in and pay the girl first then come back later...harsh but fairer on the girls and we have one or two who do that now.

It is the self-importance syndrome I feel.

Obviously sometimes emergencies do come up...but not for the same guy 2 or 3 times in a row...come on now.

Some guys do not realise we are actually running a business here, and think we sit doing our nails while we wait for the 'phone to ring. Some guys don't consider the appointment to be important as in - if they can't make it they don't bother to let us know. This has happened to me when a guy calls later and has completely forgotten his 'No Show' from ages before.

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Amy- Yes, I have half thought about where else I can promote or market myself but stay totally independent. I gather there are various places I could get me a webpage, but how do I get it noticed? Any suggestions of where to start? Any advice muchly appreciated!

check out moonfruit. with a little time you can make your self a competent website quickly. You can link to that from here, which you cant with adultwank.

there is another website builder caled wix if you dont like moonfruit.

Buy a url. I get mine from lcn.com. In the lcn.com website you can forward your url to your moonfruit website. The data you provide to lcn will be publically available so watch your anonomimity. Do this bit yourself. You dont want someone else holding your url to ransome. A .co.uk address is £6.50+vat for 2 years.

eith your url you will also get email addresses that you can forward to your email account. make sure you dont use an account with your real name!

good luck

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Yesterday I called a girl and made a booking. She said she would text address. NO TEXT .I texted her asking for address.No reply so I didnt travel 1/2 hr after booking scheduled she called and gave abuse for not turning up. What the fuck?

Not nice but if one of out clients calls after a no show to apologise then at least he made the effort and the reasons are probably genuine....or why would he bother. Those guys arent on my naughty list...unless they keep doing it.x

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Some guys do not realise we are actually running a business here, and think we sit doing our nails while we wait for the 'phone to ring. Some guys don't consider the appointment to be important as in - if they can't make it they don't bother to let us know. This has happened to me when a guy calls later and has completely forgotten his 'No Show' from ages before.

I agree with certain aspects but as I said to steve...an apology goes a long way...although it doesnt pay. Sometimes life does throw curve balls and people forget things...I do,,everyone does ..if the ball is big enough or fast enough. The fact that they phone when they realise their cock up shows it wasnt just a fuck you no show in my opinion. The guys who do phone later are usually sounding so guttet and over apologetic to the point where they sound like they wanna cry sometimes at the realisation that they missed out on their shag. Punishment enough possibly lol.x

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Occasionally a guy will have an emergency at the same time that his phone dies I guess but the most common excuses I receive for no show's when they call back a few days later to try to book someone again is..

a) I was in a meeting and couldnt phone.

B) eerr yeah...sorry

Both are shoddy and anyone can excuse themselves from a meeting to use the bathroom.

Once I clock who they are I simply refuse to take an advance booking, they have to turn up and take their chances therefore making way for a guy who has a bit of respect for others. If they really want to make an advance booking they have to come in and pay the girl first then come back later...harsh but fairer on the girls and we have one or two who do that now.

It is the self-importance syndrome I feel.

Obviously sometimes emergencies do come up...but not for the same guy 2 or 3 times in a row...come on now.

This is what i would do in your situation, a pragmatic approach that means they can still punt at your place but cant book in advance unless paid in advance in case they are a no show once again. Very professional way of doing business Chloe, wish i was nearer as i would be in to punt regularly and arriving as agreed. :)

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One thing that does annoy me is guys who no show their confirmation phone call then get pissed off that they have lost their booking. I tell all advance bookers that they have to call on the day between 10 and 10.30 am. Sometimes they call later to cancel their appointment and I do get a little joy when I tell them it was booked over long ago. This has met with some strange responses one being total anger that the appointment he had booked...and I had taken the week before personally...had been cancelled. He insisted that he had called twice the previous week to confirm...he had...and each time I told him he still had to phone to confirm on the morning of the booking between 10 and 10.30.

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This is what i would do in your situation, a pragmatic approach that means they can still punt at your place but cant book in advance unless paid in advance in case they are a no show once again. Very professional way of doing business Chloe, wish i was nearer as i would be in to punt regularly and arriving as agreed. :)

Why thankyou Mr Smiths. It would be a pleasure to see you in our neck of the woods...xx

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One thing that does annoy me is guys who no show their confirmation phone call then get pissed off that they have lost their booking. I tell all advance bookers that they have to call on the day between 10 and 10.30 am. Sometimes they call later to cancel their appointment and I do get a little joy when I tell them it was booked over long ago. This has met with some strange responses one being total anger that the appointment he had booked...and I had taken the week before personally...had been cancelled. He insisted that he had called twice the previous week to confirm...he had...and each time I told him he still had to phone to confirm on the morning of the booking between 10 and 10.30.

x

This is what i do before i leave mine for the WGs/Establishments by arrangement when i booked anyway even though i usually punt sameday. I would NEVER just turn up assuming the punt was still on without getting phone confirmation first or texts from WGs i have punted with at least once before. Its unthinkable to me to not seek confirmation. :)

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