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Is it wrong to take money if he's fallen for you?

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Ladies. If a punter declares that he has fallen madly in love with you then starts to pay for your services almost every day would you think to yourself how great the easy money is or would you do the knind thing and cease his visits?

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I would have a good chat with him about his feelings towards you, and make it clear that you do not feel the same way towrds him, if indeed you do not.

Possibly limit his visits and even stop them if necessary, its not all about the money is it.

Peoples feelings are at stake here.

Good luck!

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I'm afraid I would have to stop seeing someone under those circumstances. Bound to end in heartache for both parties.

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Ugh. Horrible situation. This happened to me and I stopped his visits as tactfully as I could. If he was becoming mental before, trust me this was one way to send him over the edge. I think it is the responsibility of both parties to do something if this happens or else the situation has the potential to become quite scary. :D

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I'm afraid I would have to stop seeing someone under those circumstances. Bound to end in heartache for both parties.

Yes I have had this recently, I have had to stop seeing the client. I dont have feelings for him and would not date him, so its not fair to string him along.

Also it wasnt 'easy money' as i found him rather hard work near the end. he wanted a much more intence GFE than i was willing to give to a client.

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Get him to contact me via PM and I will put him right, he obviously needs some sort of counselling. :D:rolleyes:

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Get him to contact me via PM and I will put him right, he obviously needs some sort of counselling. :D:rolleyes:

Like your new quote. Too true. I offend people all the time, so I counter this by being self-deprecating - then you're vaguely even. I think.

I saw a 19 year old twice in the same week. Hmm. Well-spoken, well dressed, but doubt it was a good idea. Did not see him again thankfully, I think he wanted the repeat visit just to "settle in", as he was a virgin before - and now I think he can wield his pole without undue performance anxiety in his personal life, as I went through the most usual postitions with him.

I've had the occasional, older, client form a slightly mad attachment, but thing is - it isn't worth the guilt or the money, given that I can see other clients anyway without having blood on my hands. Or excacerbating someone's problems, who clearly has trouble forming relationships.

Rarely have this problem as I mostly see seasoned punters, the new ones smart enough to realise I'm a paid for, occasional treat, not a daily dive into a whole tiramisu.

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Is it wrong for a bookmaker to take bets from a gambling addict?

I don't think it is, as the responsibility lies with the consumer, but where emotional ties and feelings are at stake, I think yes, it is wrong.

It's a funny old game, this prostitution lark. :D

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Is it wrong for a bookmaker to take bets from a gambling addict?

I don't think it is, as the responsibility lies with the consumer

Well, that's what a court decided too when a chap who'd lost £2 sued William Hill, asserting that the bookmaker had be derelict in its 'Duty of Care'. He lost. http://www.timesonline.co.uk/tol/news/uk/article3537020.ece

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Is it wrong for a bookmaker to take bets from a gambling addict?

I don't think it is, as the responsibility lies with the consumer, but where emotional ties and feelings are at stake, I think yes, it is wrong.

It's a funny old game, this prostitution lark. :D

Clarence, a bookmaker would prefer to limit the gambler to reasonable punting to keep them in check, so they do not lose their job etc... over the addiction (and therefore can no longer gamble) I would guess.

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Like your new quote. Too true. I offend people all the time, so I counter this by being self-deprecating - then you're vaguely even. I think.

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Doesn't work with me, even though I have done the same thing as a sort of 'rear action' sometimes. Being self-deprecating is not the same as humility - it is an amusing tactic to put people off the scent. If someone has genuinely annoying, ignorant or offensive views, covering them up doesn't do them any favours if spotted. But at least they are making an attempt. Which is more than some people do. :D

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Ladies. If a punter declares that he has fallen madly in love with you then starts to pay for your services almost every day would you think to yourself how great the easy money is or would you do the knind thing and cease his visits?

Aren't these a bit like questions fed to one's own backbenchers.

"Ladies, if a customer is having a heart attack near the end of his appointment, would you still call for an ambulance if he didn't have enough credit on his phone?" :D

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Is it wrong for a bookmaker to take bets from a gambling addict?

I don't think it is, as the responsibility lies with the consumer, but where emotional ties and feelings are at stake, I think yes, it is wrong.

It's a funny old game, this prostitution lark. :D

could not agree with you anymore its the punters problem not the escorts

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Clarence, a bookmaker would prefer to limit the gambler to reasonable punting to keep them in check, so they do not lose their job etc... over the addiction (and therefore can no longer gamble) I would guess.

As long as the bookmaker was not losing out, I suspect that they would not give a toss.

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I had one of these when I started at MB'S and he followed me to Gem's and then started seeing my independently it got so difficult and I really couldn't take his money anymore because I felt so guilty knowing nothing was ever gonna happen but he generally thought there was. I sat him down before his last booking and explained my feelings where purely business related and although i classed him as a friend it was nothing more and I didn't want to hurt him or cause anymore confusion he then left bless him never saw him again x

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As long as the bookmaker was not losing out, I suspect that they would not give a toss.

If they bookmaker does not offer the punter help and advice they can have their licences revoked. Now how this would be proved is beyond me.

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If they bookmaker does not offer the punter help and advice they can have their licences revoked. Now how this would be proved is beyond me.

Yes but if someone who is filthy rich has the money to pay for the bets, but is nonetheless addicted, how is the bookmaker to know?

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Yes but if someone who is filthy rich has the money to pay for the bets, but is nonetheless addicted, how is the bookmaker to know?

Clarence I just think it is nany state gone to far. The state thinks it can control and take responsiblity for actions and decisions of the indivudual.

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I had one of these when I started at MB'S and he followed me to Gem's and then started seeing my independently it got so difficult and I really couldn't take his money anymore because I felt so guilty knowing nothing was ever gonna happen but he generally thought there was. I sat him down before his last booking and explained my feelings where purely business related and although i classed him as a friend it was nothing more and I didn't want to hurt him or cause anymore confusion he then left bless him never saw him again x

But I still love you :)

Joking joking joking - gorgeous, intelligent, feisty, level-headed, sensitive young ladies were never my thing...:D

did I mention GORGEOUS?

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but i still love you :D

joking joking joking - gorgeous, intelligent, feisty, level-headed, sensitive young ladies were never my thing...

did i mention gorgeous?

rofl!!! :D:):D

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Most parlour girls have at least one punter who becomes infatuated with them, following them in the streets etc, the sensible ones try and nip it in the bud pronto, anyone who encourages it for pecuinary gain, is absolutely idiotic. Infatuation was the cause of a recent court case in edinburgh, which ended in tears for everyone.

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I'd say this really depends on the situation.

Scenario 1. a guy who has fallen for you, is spending way beyond his means, is texting/ringing all the time when not making a booking - hassle.

Scenario 2. a guy who has fallen for you, is able to keep himself well under control, only calls you to make a booking, behaves normally throughout booking.

I'd say the girls would give a diff answer between 1 & 2 (although I could see 2 leading to 1 for some guys).

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Is it wrong for a bookmaker to take bets from a gambling addict?

In reality there is very little the bookmaker can do.

When I managed betting shops a woman came in one day and asked me to ban her son, I explained to her that he would simply go to another shop so why should I ban him. :D

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Ladies. If a punter declares that he has fallen madly in love with you then starts to pay for your services almost every day would you think to yourself how great the easy money is or would you do the knind thing and cease his visits?

I would talk to them..... give them a probationary period and if they then can not keep their feelings under wraps.... I would then have to let them go as a client..

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That's fair enough, but what if it happened the other way? My partner (for close on two years, and still going!!), and who was a WG suddenly expressed a desire to be with me. I was obviously taken aback. At the end of the day she was 22, gorgeous, and I was 40! I'm no Joh Merrick myself but you get the insecurity! I know I know, but what the fuck is a man like me meant to do? I suppose in a way it's a bit like McCartney, he actually thought that that one legged gold digger "LOVED HIM". Bollocks mate, we all know what she loved, £££££, and its not you!!

Am I to get rid though, because I'm an idiot too?

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