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Lonely Life Of A Punter

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Hello people. Not sure if it is just me but I find the life of a punter quite lonely.

I am married with kids and love paying for sex with hot girls. But I have no one to talk to about it. Right now, it is probably my favourite pass time.

Anyone else feel the same way?

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Hello people. Not sure if it is just me but I find the life of a punter quite lonely.

I am married with kids and love paying for sex with hot girls. But I have no one to talk to about it. Right now, it is probably my favourite pass time.

Anyone else feel the same way?

I think that's this forum flourishes.

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Hello people. Not sure if it is just me but I find the life of a punter quite lonely.

I am married with kids and love paying for sex with hot girls. But I have no one to talk to about it. Right now, it is probably my favourite pass time.

Anyone else feel the same way?

For most of my 28 years punting i felt the same but had too much to lose by telling people, i now have friends who are punters that i met at parties or through this forum, and its great to talk to like minded guys. :)

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Nothing like some face to face chats. So I really must party soon. Away in Spain right now so will sort myself out on return.

Forum is fine for faceless conversations. Just need to share my excitement, fears, ideas etc with some humans

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I know what you mean. I feel the same way, I can't talk to anyone about my hobbie as a punter because I don't want to lose everything I have outside of it. You just can't trust your mates up the pub not to tell the wife.

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Hello people. Not sure if it is just me but I find the life of a punter quite lonely.

I am married with kids and love paying for sex with hot girls. But I have no one to talk to about it. Right now, it is probably my favourite pass time.

Anyone else feel the same way?

similar set up except for the sex part [FBSM so far ...but almost there] so far I haven't felt the need to talk about it, psychological barrier maybe to want to remember as little as possible or at least not have it anywhere near the front of my mind lest i say something on a tipsy friday or a puff puff pass sunday, besides the lack of mojo with the missus life is pretty full on or i build in enough distractions to occupy the blank spaces. I'm super risk averse so forum posts will be the limit to expressing my thoughts or sharing experiences

For most of my 28 years punting i felt the same but had too much to lose by telling people, i now have friends who are punters that i met at parties or through this forum, and its great to talk to like minded guys. :)

while i exchange PM's with the odd PN user on local recommendations I'm too paranoid to make a non internet disclosure about this hobby, if it ever came out I would like to be 100% sure it could only be me who f'd up plus I might feel a psychological obligation [or threat down the line] to invest in protecting that secret, ie keep said punting 'friends' buttered - there is a point where I would feel less paranoid or have less to lose but not now [my mind is a place of dark permutations ya see]

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Hello people. Not sure if it is just me but I find the life of a punter quite lonely.

I am married with kids and love paying for sex with hot girls. But I have no one to talk to about it. Right now, it is probably my favourite pass time.

Anyone else feel the same way?

someone pass me the violin... :rolleyes:

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Forgive me for intruding on the manchat but I am a little surprised.

Surely this "hobby" is best kept secret?

Ok if you indulge in the occasional party you can enjoy the camaraderie with the

other hobbyists but outside of that do any of you guys really really really want

to meet up and talk about it all?

I find that idea a bit weird.

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Hello people. Not sure if it is just me but I find the life of a punter quite lonely.

I am married with kids and love paying for sex with hot girls. But I have no one to talk to about it. Right now, it is probably my favourite pass time.

Anyone else feel the same way?

Although its obvious your post is aimed at other guys who use prostitutes there is another side to the coin! It can be quite solitary existence as a prostitute.

For me - as I don't have any friends who are prostitutes, and don't mix socially or interact online with other prostitutes so I can show a little empathy for your feelings.

I might visit some exotic location, or meet some really interesting guy, and I have to keep those experiences to myself. I wouldn't call it lonely exactly, more an 'occupational isolation'

I've been places and met people that would make my friends swallow their tongues in shock! One thing about being a prostitute is that everything you experience whatever it is, , everyone you meet whoever they are, has to stay inside your head, I suppose its a bit like being a super heroine...... Clare Kent, Petra Parker and such like :-)

Even though it is a self imposed isolationism, it can be difficult at first as you are bursting to tell somebody about this place or that place, How someone fabulously famous sat at the table opposite, or how you were introduced by a date as his partner to some celebrity or sportsman at some dinner or 'do' Soomeone once intoduced me to Nick nowles

It gets easier the more you lean to adjust your mind set and resign yourself to living a double life in one of which you have no friends or family to talk to .

My biggest lip biter is when I hear people talking about the CL final in Turkey at Attaturk stadium (Liverpool Milan) I was there as a guest in the prawn sandwich seats, yet I have to listen as if I'm spellbound by the stories being told by other people who say were there, No-one I know has a clue I was there because I couldn't explain it away !

I think its a lot more difficult for women as they actually have to live two lives. That as the real life woman with all her responsibilities - and that as the Escort, a completely separate life that doesn't involve friends family or colleagues........apart from the guys I meet I suppose it is a pretty isolated/lonely career choice when you don't have anyone to unwind,to or de-stress to.

Maybe this is one of the reasons escort blogs have become so successful over the last few years, and people like myself look into message boards. Its somewhere to sit down, kick your stilettos off and rant and rave about the issues and trials of the real word 'second life' .

Its also worth sparing a thought for some of the girls out on the streets or who girls are not working by choice., I cant imagine how lonely and vulnerable some of them must feel.

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Although its obvious your post is aimed at other guys who use prostitutes there is another side to the coin! It can be quite solitary existence as a prostitute.

For me - as I don't have any friends who are prostitutes, and don't mix socially or interact online with other prostitutes so I can show a little empathy for your feelings.

I might visit some exotic location, or meet some really interesting guy, and I have to keep those experiences to myself. I wouldn't call it lonely exactly, more an 'occupational isolation'

I've been places and met people that would make my friends swallow their tongues in shock! One thing about being a prostitute is that everything you experience whatever it is, , everyone you meet whoever they are, has to stay inside your head, I suppose its a bit like being a super heroine...... Clare Kent, Petra Parker and such like :-)

Even though it is a self imposed isolationism, it can be difficult at first as you are bursting to tell somebody about this place or that place, How someone fabulously famous sat at the table opposite, or how you were introduced by a date as his partner to some celebrity or sportsman at some dinner or 'do' Soomeone once intoduced me to Nick nowles

It gets easier the more you lean to adjust your mind set and resign yourself to living a double life in one of which you have no friends or family to talk to .

My biggest lip biter is when I hear people talking about the CL final in Turkey at Attaturk stadium (Liverpool Milan) I was there as a guest in the prawn sandwich seats, yet I have to listen as if I'm spellbound by the stories being told by other people who say were there, No-one I know has a clue I was there because I couldn't explain it away !

I think its a lot more difficult for women as they actually have to live two lives. That as the real life woman with all her responsibilities - and that as the Escort, a completely separate life that doesn't involve friends family or colleagues........apart from the guys I meet I suppose it is a pretty isolated/lonely career choice when you don't have anyone to unwind,to or de-stress to.

Maybe this is one of the reasons escort blogs have become so successful over the last few years, and people like myself look into message boards. Its somewhere to sit down, kick your stilettos off and rant and rave about the issues and trials of the real word 'second life' .

Its also worth sparing a thought for some of the girls out on the streets or who girls are not working by choice., I cant imagine how lonely and vulnerable some of them must feel.

Beautifully written. Thank you for such a superb reply. Odd how such intimate relationships can leave both parties lonely.

I agree I want to keep the punting part of me a secret from my family and I also like to find opportunities to be completely honest. I have an ex who I have confided in (we had an affair a couple of years ago and she is very open minded) but that could get awkward..

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Hello people. Not sure if it is just me but I find the life of a punter quite lonely.

I am married with kids and love paying for sex with hot girls. But I have no one to talk to about it. Right now, it is probably my favourite pass time.

Anyone else feel the same way?

I feel exactly the same way about punting.

Every friend and work colleague ive tactfully tried to talk about escorts, has more or less always been the same... basically they wont see an escort.

Id love to have a local friend who regularly likes visiting WG's, for the social element of being able to talk about my experiences - which to many people would sound like just fantasies, which they arnt. And visit the high class sort of massage parlours/saunas together and sometimes share a WG together - totally straight nothing bisexual as men do nothing what so ever for me, i just find it very kinky when a girl takes 2 men on who genuinely enjoys it.

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Although its obvious your post is aimed at other guys who use prostitutes there is another side to the coin! It can be quite solitary existence as a prostitute.

For me - as I don't have any friends who are prostitutes, and don't mix socially or interact online with other prostitutes so I can show a little empathy for your feelings.

I might visit some exotic location, or meet some really interesting guy, and I have to keep those experiences to myself. I wouldn't call it lonely exactly, more an 'occupational isolation'

I've been places and met people that would make my friends swallow their tongues in shock! One thing about being a prostitute is that everything you experience whatever it is, , everyone you meet whoever they are, has to stay inside your head, I suppose its a bit like being a super heroine...... Clare Kent, Petra Parker and such like :-)

Even though it is a self imposed isolationism, it can be difficult at first as you are bursting to tell somebody about this place or that place, How someone fabulously famous sat at the table opposite, or how you were introduced by a date as his partner to some celebrity or sportsman at some dinner or 'do' Soomeone once intoduced me to Nick nowles

It gets easier the more you lean to adjust your mind set and resign yourself to living a double life in one of which you have no friends or family to talk to .

My biggest lip biter is when I hear people talking about the CL final in Turkey at Attaturk stadium (Liverpool Milan) I was there as a guest in the prawn sandwich seats, yet I have to listen as if I'm spellbound by the stories being told by other people who say were there, No-one I know has a clue I was there because I couldn't explain it away !

I think its a lot more difficult for women as they actually have to live two lives. That as the real life woman with all her responsibilities - and that as the Escort, a completely separate life that doesn't involve friends family or colleagues........apart from the guys I meet I suppose it is a pretty isolated/lonely career choice when you don't have anyone to unwind,to or de-stress to.

Maybe this is one of the reasons escort blogs have become so successful over the last few years, and people like myself look into message boards. Its somewhere to sit down, kick your stilettos off and rant and rave about the issues and trials of the real word 'second life' .

Its also worth sparing a thought for some of the girls out on the streets or who girls are not working by choice., I cant imagine how lonely and vulnerable some of them must feel.

Can concur with this. Anyone who expects a civilian to understand and confides in them will find out what a knock-on effect the imparting of such information has. It won't be long before you become some sort of social pariah, because people assume you are lacking in moral fibre and would feel sorry for your wife, almost to the point where you become hated and despised.

As for me, I have only two working girl friends, one of whom is all but retired now, and the other one works quietly like I do.

I can talk on here, and that is more than enough for me. There is a big world out there full of civilians and I want to be a part of it.

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One of my girls had the awful experience not so long ago of her best friend finding out by accident that she worked for mke as a prostitute...she was heartbroken, crying and begged her friend to still be her friend...her friend said this..."oh darling, dont worry, I work there too, look on the website my name is......."

Imagine if every prostitute in the whole country all walked outside and stood on their street at the same time, there would be few streets i think without at least one lady standing there.

On more than one occasion this year I have had a new girl either starting or a girl change to a day she has never worked before only to hear cries of OMG then laughter coming from the girls room as two neighbours have just come face to face in my parlour, them both never knowing till then that the other was a wg despite living 2 doors away from each other for a few years lol...mk train station has heard a few too as girls have burst through my front door exclaiming that realised when chatting as they bumped into each other there that they were both heading to the same destination...quite often the big bag gives it away lol.x

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One of my girls had the awful experience not so long ago of her best friend finding out by accident that she worked for mke as a prostitute...she was heartbroken, crying and begged her friend to still be her friend...

...quite often the big bag gives it away lol.x

I'm glad it worked out well for the girl in question, but it's very sad that she should feel upset about being discovered doing a perfectly respectable job to earn a living. But I thought large handbags were the fashion at the moment? Maybe I've been fooled and most of my female friends are actually brazen hookers? OMG! :P

Anyway, I'm surprised none of the guys (unless I missed a post above) so far have said anything similar to how I feel about punting. Personally, I like that it's a secret. I've got a suspicion my Dad is a punter although I wouldn't know how frequently he goes or what he's into. But I wish I didn't know, because he's married to my mum! A lot of my friends are at least occasional visitors of parlours. We discuss it in a few words, then a nod and a wink and the conversation moves on. Which is a few words and winks more than I wanted to know frankly, especially if I'm also friends with their wives and girlfriends.

I like my punting to last an hour or two at a time and then it should be over. It's my private time, a time for me to ignore everyone else in my life and enjoy myself doing what I want to do. If I shared it with anyone else I think it would ruin it for me.

Obviously I still come onto Punternet to talk about it, but you're all faceless text on a computer screen to me :D I don't even like writing reviews, and when I feel the need it's out of polite recognition of a job well done and the review tends to be short.

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........................... or how you were introduced by a date as his partner to some celebrity or sportsman at some dinner or 'do' Someone once introduced me to Nick nowles

Oh my Lordy lord! !

I hadnt finished when I clicked the enter button

What I actually meant to write was...........

.."someone introduced me to Nick Knowles, but sometimes good things happen too" lol

Yikes I feel so embarrassed :unsure:

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Hello people. Not sure if it is just me but I find the life of a punter quite lonely.

I am married with kids and love paying for sex with hot girls. But I have no one to talk to about it. Right now, it is probably my favourite pass time.

Anyone else feel the same way?

I wouldn't have it any other way. I love having this super secret hobby and never intend to tell a single soul about it. I have a few regular girls I see who I regard as friends and I get the opportunity to chat about the industry and swap stories with them. That (plus this message board) more than satisfies my need to share experiences.

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similar set up except for the sex part [FBSM so far ...but almost there] so far I haven't felt the need to talk about it, psychological barrier maybe to want to remember as little as possible or at least not have it anywhere near the front of my mind lest i say something on a tipsy friday or a puff puff pass sunday, besides the lack of mojo with the missus life is pretty full on or i build in enough distractions to occupy the blank spaces. I'm super risk averse so forum posts will be the limit to expressing my thoughts or sharing experiences

while i exchange PM's with the odd PN user on local recommendations I'm too paranoid to make a non internet disclosure about this hobby, if it ever came out I would like to be 100% sure it could only be me who f'd up plus I might feel a psychological obligation [or threat down the line] to invest in protecting that secret, ie keep said punting 'friends' buttered - there is a point where I would feel less paranoid or have less to lose but not now [my mind is a place of dark permutations ya see]

You must be 100% sure thats for certain. With guys you know are punters many though not all of course have something to lose to so its mutual destruction if you get friendly BUT that has never been a problem or issue in my experience anyway. The point is in my early punting years there was no internet and i didnt have a clue who punted and who didnt apart from punters i saw coming out of Parlours i was going into, and i wasnt about to harass them. :)

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Although its obvious your post is aimed at other guys who use prostitutes there is another side to the coin! It can be quite solitary existence as a prostitute.

For me - as I don't have any friends who are prostitutes, and don't mix socially or interact online with other prostitutes so I can show a little empathy for your feelings.

I might visit some exotic location, or meet some really interesting guy, and I have to keep those experiences to myself. I wouldn't call it lonely exactly, more an 'occupational isolation'

I've been places and met people that would make my friends swallow their tongues in shock! One thing about being a prostitute is that everything you experience whatever it is, , everyone you meet whoever they are, has to stay inside your head, I suppose its a bit like being a super heroine...... Clare Kent, Petra Parker and such like :-)

Even though it is a self imposed isolationism, it can be difficult at first as you are bursting to tell somebody about this place or that place, How someone fabulously famous sat at the table opposite, or how you were introduced by a date as his partner to some celebrity or sportsman at some dinner or 'do' Soomeone once intoduced me to Nick nowles

It gets easier the more you lean to adjust your mind set and resign yourself to living a double life in one of which you have no friends or family to talk to .

My biggest lip biter is when I hear people talking about the CL final in Turkey at Attaturk stadium (Liverpool Milan) I was there as a guest in the prawn sandwich seats, yet I have to listen as if I'm spellbound by the stories being told by other people who say were there, No-one I know has a clue I was there because I couldn't explain it away !

I think its a lot more difficult for women as they actually have to live two lives. That as the real life woman with all her responsibilities - and that as the Escort, a completely separate life that doesn't involve friends family or colleagues........apart from the guys I meet I suppose it is a pretty isolated/lonely career choice when you don't have anyone to unwind,to or de-stress to.

Maybe this is one of the reasons escort blogs have become so successful over the last few years, and people like myself look into message boards. Its somewhere to sit down, kick your stilettos off and rant and rave about the issues and trials of the real word 'second life' .

Its also worth sparing a thought for some of the girls out on the streets or who girls are not working by choice., I cant imagine how lonely and vulnerable some of them must feel.

Good post. Apart from the obvious safety aspect the social interaction with other WGs who wanted to work together would be an advantage to WGs interested in doing so, so short sighted and plainly wrong for brothels to be illegal.

After speaking to many party WGs most say its the being with other WGs many of whom become good friends outside the party that they really enjoy, they dont earn what many could as an Indie and certainly punt with more punters than a lot of Indies but the social side is a big draw to many of them. :)

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Some people are more open about these things, some, like me are not.

My last visit to a FKK in Germany was on a Monday and they had a 3 for the price of 2 offer on the entrance fee. So they obviously share their hobby over there. Although when I arrived, a German bloke stopped me before the entrance, explained the deal to me, so we had to wait for a 3rd 'friend' to turn up.

At another place the receptionist was a really bubbly friendly girl and we always have a chat when I arrive/leave.

I dont speak much German and she was worried I might be a little lonely, so when another English man arrived she brought him over and introduced him so we could talk and have company inbetween sessions.

So the Germans seem more comfortable with sharing their hobby with friends maybe.

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I've got a suspicion my Dad is a punter although I wouldn't know how frequently he goes or what he's into. But I wish I didn't know, because he's married to my mum!

I knew someone who went punting with his father-in-law when abroad. I found that strange as well.

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I knew someone who went punting with his father-in-law when abroad. I found that strange as well.

Now THAT would really freak me out! That's on a par with trying to shag the mother-in-law!

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Some people are more open about these things, some, like me are not.

My last visit to a FKK in Germany was on a Monday and they had a 3 for the price of 2 offer on the entrance fee. So they obviously share their hobby over there. Although when I arrived, a German bloke stopped me before the entrance, explained the deal to me, so we had to wait for a 3rd 'friend' to turn up.

At another place the receptionist was a really bubbly friendly girl and we always have a chat when I arrive/leave.

I dont speak much German and she was worried I might be a little lonely, so when another English man arrived she brought him over and introduced him so we could talk and have company inbetween sessions.

So the Germans seem more comfortable with sharing their hobby with friends maybe.

I do often see friends at parties where its often the case one of them has been and his mate has decided to have a look himself. I have even seen five or six friends come along as a group including guys who work together as well and its like a company outing, ;) so plenty do share their hobby with mates, more than i thought would of. Personally i have no wish to see my non punting mates having sex so i wouldnt attend the same party as them but if i first met the now mate at the party thats different as its an unavoidable consequence of partying.:)

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I agree but punting isnt exactly a hobby that you can post on your CV.

Being outted is probably the worst thing that can happen to a punter. (Well, that and the finding out that the swedish ingerie model on A W is actually a 7ft bloke with a knife...)

I know people outside punting who think punters are scum of the earth, down there with rapists and peodophiles. I know one who got in a tizz cos the new Dr Who assistant was a stripper.

So obviously I dont want them finding out or outting me. Might not be good on the job front either.

That said I wouldnt mind at least saying hello if they are a forum member or I've PMd them or something. But then what happens if I find out that I actually know the forum member already? What if my dad turns up or something? Or my brother in law? Probably best left.

I think the closest Ive ever been is seen Mr D in a van 12ft away, the side of Lamoraks head 20ft away in a car, the back of Chloes head and Natasha walked past once. Thats about as close as Ive got to actually meeting a forum member.

But to the OPs question, as a hobby YUP its very lonely. But then I dont think punting is the hobby if your looking for a thriving social scene.

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I agree but punting isnt exactly a hobby that you can post on your CV.

Being outted is probably the worst thing that can happen to a punter. (Well, that and the finding out that the swedish ingerie model on A W is actually a 7ft bloke with a knife...)

I know people outside punting who think punters are scum of the earth, down there with rapists and peodophiles. I know one who got in a tizz cos the new Dr Who assistant was a stripper.

So obviously I dont want them finding out or outting me. Might not be good on the job front either.

That said I wouldnt mind at least saying hello if they are a forum member or I've PMd them or something. But then what happens if I find out that I actually know the forum member already? What if my dad turns up or something? Or my brother in law? Probably best left.

I think the closest Ive ever been is seen Mr D in a van 12ft away, the side of Lamoraks head 20ft away in a car, the back of Chloes head and Natasha walked past once. Thats about as close as Ive got to actually meeting a forum member.

But to the OPs question, as a hobby YUP its very lonely. But then I dont think punting is the hobby if your looking for a thriving social scene.

Good post. I would have thought punting would be something nobody would want to share, because it is socially unacceptable?

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For most of my 28 years punting i felt the same but had too much to lose by telling people, i now have friends who are punters that i met at parties or through this forum, and its great to talk to like minded guys. :)

I am a widower, I was lonely and I thought my daughters would

understand and I told them that I was seeing escorts.

They have disowned me and there is no way back. I have tried

but to no avail.

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