Lynn

Lonely Life Of A Wg

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Obviously I am starting this .... well I don't need to explain :rolleyes:

Helen has already given us a detailed account of her own situation.

I am lucky in that I can discuss and confide in one or two people regarding

my work as they are trusted and reliable people who fully understand my reasons

for working and they support me in everything I do.

If I meet new people socially then it is a different matter. I never EVER tell

anyone what I do.

What about you other ladies.... how do you cope with this secret?

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Did you see the tumbleweed roll by :D

I thought instead of invading the thread aimed at the men I would start one here

but if the ladies are happy to post in the other one......those who are able may just

delete this or watch it fade away......................

:)

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Did you see the tumbleweed roll by :D

I thought instead of invading the thread aimed at the men I would start one here

but if the ladies are happy to post in the other one......those who are able may just

delete this or watch it fade away......................

:)

Well, I suppose your opener and the silence proves a point. :)

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To be honest it was never lonely for me that much because I mostly worked in parlours or agencies so had lots of "in house" friends, I never socialised with them though as I was too busy with my kids out of work, had I been childless I definatley would have though and I know a lot of girls do make very good friends there. I did used to do my weekly jaunt to coventry and occasionally somewhere else for a change of scenery and occasionally i did think OMG what must it be like for girls who are indie all the time. How lonely it can be sitting in a hotel room for several days if you are away on tour on your own, or just sitting in your own flat on a day when you are available to work on your website so you cant go out or have friends round...must be fairly nerve frazzling sometimes.

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{ gently blows the tumbleweed from Adele's thread} :D

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{ gently blows the tumbleweed from Adele's thread} :D

Merci Chloe :P

When I was with an agency I often met several of the other ladies....

whether it was in the same car being driven to outcalls or more often

on those 3sum appointments ( I did so many! ) and it was good to talk

and share things. I met them socially very occasionally and it was all

good fun.

Being independent is a whole different matter. I refuse to share my place

with any other girl and some of the ladies I used to see are now retired.

The advantage of being indie though is that I am not tied to an agent or

promised availability so can take time out if the weather is good or if I

just want to meet with someone for a coffee or shopping... I have no one

to answer to but myself!

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When I first started I did this full time and even though I knew some of the ladies I still found it a lonely life. Now I do this part time and have a very hectic normal career I never have the time to feel lonely I'm glad to say.

Shelly

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As I said in the mens thread- which I did feel like I was invading working alone can be a bit lonely, but most my friends know what I do so it's not so bad not having a deep dark secret, although I would have preferred it not to have come out!

I also know a couple of local WG's so do have someone to talk to who really understands this game, one friend and I often get the same men so have fun swapping notes!

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As I said in the mens thread- which I did feel like I was invading working alone can be a bit lonely, but most my friends know what I do so it's not so bad not having a deep dark secret, although I would have preferred it not to have come out!

I also know a couple of local WG's so do have someone to talk to who really understands this game, one friend and I often get the same men so have fun swapping notes!

For me,my situation is so different from the ladies who have posted so far.I keep what i do totally secret.It's a case of having to,as people around me are not so understanding.Many of my friends have often scoffed and slagged off escorts.I did however tell who i thought was a close friend of what i did.she was shocked at first until i explained things,she then offered to drive me around as and when i needed.Wanted to know all the details of each visit which i found very intrusive,she soon realised that driving me around was a good money maker and wanted more and more,when i refused she turned into somebody i didn't like.I decided to go my own way and do things my way,the venom was shocking from this person i thought was a close friend.

I guess for me it is a lonely way of life now,as i have to be different people,Escort for a few hours or overnight and then day job and mum another,sometimes my brain is just so worn out sometimes that i have a complete melt down sometimes.I have indeed met some truly diverse people and has taught me a thing or to,to which i am so truly grateful.

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I don't find escorting lonely at all but I think the trick is a good balance in your life as with any job/career :D

My family, closet friends and collegues in my other job all know I escort and I have people I can discuss escorting with including my friend I work with in my incall place.

I have escorted only before now and worked 4 days per week and also worked 1 or 2 days a week aswell as had another part time job or studied.

I am in the middle of starting to forge a new career for myself ready for my retirement next year and have after a recent course started working part time in my chosen career so I now only do incalls one day a week.

I'm finding it a little weird at the moment but was only doing 2 days a week before that and enjoyed that too.

I guess its whatever suits each individual lady and through the years whats suited me has changed so I have changed things to suit what I'm happy with in order to not become jaded in anything I do!

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I'm extremely lucky in that some of my close friends from Uni know what I do, and some of the girls I met during my parlour days have become ladies that I count as close friends.

I miss the social aspect of working in parlours. Being my own boss is fun, rewarding etc but there's nothing like having a quick giggle with the other girl/maid you're working with in between bookings. I work from hotels nowadays and if I didn't bring a book with me I'd probably end up getting a serious case of cabin fever. Luckily all my clients are lovely and all bookings involve at least a brief chat / catch-up so I get a social aspect out of bookings, but I do miss my girlies sometimes.

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I have never felt lonely in escorting.

I am, by nature, a very private person. I don't share any of my personal stuff with anyone in the escorting world.

People in the escorting/punting world tend to blab/gossip [sometimes accidently]. I have had to stop people mid sentence when I feel they are about to give away something personal about someone.

Escorting isn't my be all and end all which is why I still love it so much after 9 years. I have other commitments that keep me mentally and physically occupied.

Edited by Indian-Delight

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I work from hotels nowadays and if I didn't bring a book with me I'd probably end up getting a serious case of cabin fever.

You're like me for that Kitty, never travel anywhere without a book. I can't believe it when I see people in doctors' waiting rooms etc with nothing to do. The last time I went out without a book it was in a hire car, we had a crash, (not my fault), I had to wait for hours while my passenger was checked over, never again.

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I made that mistake years ago and had it thrown back in my face and used as rod to beat me so to say, now no I do not tell folk of my p/t activities as unless you have walked in my shoes you cannot honestly know the truth of the lives of wg's nor truely understand our attitudes or mindset

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There is not a time to be lonely. Of course thats depends what is constututes "to be lonely".

Only few days ago i've chatted with a client, and he asked me what what is my dream is (yes, I know, cliche pillow talk kind of question, when awkward science took over for a few minutes).

I answered: (and I was honest!). "I want somebody to lock me in the house with all my books are aquired but did not had time to read, and left me there for about a year completely alone and when nobody can disturb me for all this time"

Of course I want clean beautiful bedding provided, bath, and supply of food depending what I like to eat on particular day. That will be a paradise for me! Access to internet is desirable also, but optional. :-)

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I think it's access to the internet, and a daily paper, that keep me from reading. And they're not as good.

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I think it's access to the internet, and a daily paper, that keep me from reading. And they're not as good.

Oh, and now 123 Flash Chat, which no-one else seems to use this week.

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Obviously I am starting this .... well I don't need to explain :rolleyes:

Helen has already given us a detailed account of her own situation.

I am lucky in that I can discuss and confide in one or two people regarding

my work as they are trusted and reliable people who fully understand my reasons

for working and they support me in everything I do.

If I meet new people socially then it is a different matter. I never EVER tell

anyone what I do.

What about you other ladies.... how do you cope with this secret?

I am very lucky in having a good circle of rather liberal friends, most of whom know, (strangely their hubby's are the most worried for me!) But I do miss the working environment of having lots of fun colleagues/friends around which I left recently, as I spend my time now mainly studying or WG stuff, and as I am quite a social creature go a bit stir crazy if I don't get out enough.

Same as you Adele, I NEVER tell new people I meet socially what I do, it is only my very close friends. In time I hope to meet a few more WG's, as even though my 'straight' friends really don't mind listening about my work, they probably don't really get it!

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Interesting post :D

I am what society calls "one of life's loners"...there are many negative images that spring to mind when the description "Loner" is used.

There really should not be, I love my own company, I like folk, but can happily travel up to Cornwall on my own and book into a spa hotel, some folk that I know on a very casual level have turned their noses up at this, why so.......we are after all, born into this world on our own, and if we are lucky will leave on our own, with a few loved ones around our bedsides to see us on our way out.

I enjoy my own company, and am not one for having masses of friends, I do have a good of girl friend who I have known for 6 years, who leads a "normal" life knows, and has not judged me with my choices ( well not to my face), our lives are very different, she is ten years older, has a child, partner, I am the opposite, but we get on, and if I need to speak with her about my foray into this world she is all ears.

However I have wanted to meet at least one escort who I can get on with, someone where we can chat about our appointments/general life/etc, I have met a girl,really cool, and level headed, I would not say "yah, we are friends" only met few weeks ago, but we do get on and have had many decent/stimulating conversations, it does feel good to converse with a girl who can fully and internally understand the dynamics of the relationships between client./escort, my pal can try and understand, but does not really have a true sense of it all.

I can feel alone in this world often, but this is more about feeling on the edge looking in ,always felt this way since childhood so not related to my profession, however, lonely?

Nope, I entertain myself greatly ( I know, how sad).

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I have a few close friends who know what i do, and probably others that suspect it. When i first started and nobody from my personal life knew what i was doing, i greatly enjoyed being able to confide to other WG's without having to feel on edge.

I don't think it makes me lead a lonely life though. My life is mine. Trinity's life is her own. Sometimes the two overlaps, but i make sure it's only in the best of ways!

When i first started as a WG i saw many other newbies and young WG's have breakdowns because nobody else outside of work knew what they did for a living. I told myself that having a guilty secret only works if you feel guilty about it, and if anything i feel like my job has made me more sociable because of it.

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I have a few close friends who know what i do, and probably others that suspect it. When i first started and nobody from my personal life knew what i was doing, i greatly enjoyed being able to confide to other WG's without having to feel on edge.

I don't think it makes me lead a lonely life though. My life is mine. Trinity's life is her own. Sometimes the two overlaps, but i make sure it's only in the best of ways!

When i first started as a WG i saw many other newbies and young WG's have breakdowns because nobody else outside of work knew what they did for a living. I told myself that having a guilty secret only works if you feel guilty about it, and if anything i feel like my job has made me more sociable because of it.

I like your analogy about having your own life and Trinity having hers. It is keeping a healthy mindset like that, that sees you through IMHO. I would not get up to half the things that 'Sarah' does. if you met me in 'real life' butter would not melt in my mouth. 'Sarah' is just sooo bad, and that is great !

Edited by Sarah Summers

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Of course I want clean beautiful bedding provided, bath, and supply of food depending what I like to eat on particular day. That will be a paradise for me! Access to internet is desirable also, how about

a big black dildo as well

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