Sarah Summers

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I had a client who was divorced from his wife. They had two children. He met a woman who also was divorced with two children, and they eventually got married. It was a complicated life because his second wife was jealous of his other family, and he wished he had not married her. She told him she wanted a baby, and he said a firm 'No' because they both had children and he did not see enough of his own two as it was (because she made things difficult).

She went behind his back, stopped taking her pills and got pregnant. He told me he felt like he had been raped, and their marriage was fucked and he left her. He saw me ( and others) because he needed sex but no more complications in his life.

Would anyone go along with his analogy? He is a decent guy btw.........

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Sounds like he married a stupid selfish bitch and the worst happened! I know some people in similar situations, not that unusual.

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To me, that is so wrong what that woman did. Reminds me of Jeremy Kyle.. I will say this though, if he didn't want another kid he shouldn't have relied on her to take the pill. He should have used protection himself. I oon't think he got raped. Lied to, entrapped, yes. I would never wanna talk to that woman again but now they have a kid.. i feel really sorry for him.

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Sarah,

If the point of the issue you explain is there are rotten people in the world, I would say that is obvious.

I feel sorry for the guy, but cannot see what he can do about it? I guess the moral of the story is each should empower themselves to look after their interests.

There are rotten people all around. Some escorts, some not, some male, some female, some who even have the veneer of respectability.

I'm naturally cautious of people, it is sad I have that outlook, I dare say it even costs me, but of course it does also protect from the sort of situations you outline.

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As a guy, as soon as I decided that I didn't want any more kids I got a vasectomy. Cost about £30 20 years ago. Probably more now but cheaper in the long run both financially and emotionally.

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Just affirms how life and people are complicated...

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I had a client who was divorced from his wife. They had two children. He met a woman who also was divorced with two children, and they eventually got married. It was a complicated life because his second wife was jealous of his other family, and he wished he had not married her. She told him she wanted a baby, and he said a firm 'No' because they both had children and he did not see enough of his own two as it was (because she made things difficult).

She went behind his back, stopped taking her pills and got pregnant. He told me he felt like he had been raped, and their marriage was fucked and he left her. He saw me ( and others) because he needed sex but no more complications in his life.

Would anyone go along with his analogy? He is a decent guy btw.........

They should of thrased this matter of having another child out before getting married, of course a change of mind happens but if he was as opposed beforehand as after she would of been in no doubt where he stood before they married. I met someone in my late 30s who wanted children but i didnt want anymore and i made that crystal clear and that was the end of us and she met another guy and now has two children.

She was totally out of order to go behind his back and i daresay any trust was gone and the way he felt, understandebly so, leaving her was a good move. :)

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Raped, no. Betrayed, swindled, and cheated, yes.

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Hmmm. Did they discuss the question of children before they got married (most people do)? Assuming that their views were compatible (otherwise why would they marry?), which one of them changed their mind?

Any man who is 100% sure he doesn't want to be a father (again) should have the snip or use condoms, instead of expecting the woman to take care of contraception.

And IMO blaming his new wife for the lack of contact with his children from a previous relationship is a lame excuse. I have no respect for any man who allows this type of situation to develop, just as I have no respect for any woman who tries to separate a man from his children (what is she, 12?!)

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She certainly comes across as uncaring (I had thought of describing her as bovine but thought better of it) but he is also weak. How can someone else stop you caring for your kids? Marriage second time around isn't always easy but it takes two to work at it. Sounds like she didn't want to work at it.

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I had a client who was divorced from his wife. They had two children. He met a woman who also was divorced with two children, and they eventually got married. It was a complicated life because his second wife was jealous of his other family, and he wished he had not married her. She told him she wanted a baby, and he said a firm 'No' because they both had children and he did not see enough of his own two as it was (because she made things difficult).

She went behind his back, stopped taking her pills and got pregnant. He told me he felt like he had been raped, and their marriage was fucked and he left her. He saw me ( and others) because he needed sex but no more complications in his life.

Would anyone go along with his analogy? He is a decent guy btw.........

I would go along with this and have to a certain degree although my experiance was different from his.

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Hmmm. Did they discuss the question of children before they got married (most people do)? Assuming that their views were compatible (otherwise why would they marry?), which one of them changed their mind?

Any man who is 100% sure he doesn't want to be a father (again) should have the snip or use condoms, instead of expecting the woman to take care of contraception.

And IMO blaming his new wife for the lack of contact with his children from a previous relationship is a lame excuse. I have no respect for any man who allows this type of situation to develop, just as I have no respect for any woman who tries to separate a man from his children (what is she, 12?!)

She changed her mind. They had discussed it at length. I agree with you about him not having any balls to stand up to his wife as regards not seeing his own children, but the atmosphere in the house was so bad when they visited that they didn't like to go there and so he saw them at their home, but then his second wife accused him of shagging his first wife when he visited them, so she put a time limit on the visits. I am not making this up either :) But there you go.

I don't think he was raped either but I do think he wuz robbed :)

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He has done the right thing leaving her, how could he ever trust her. She was aware he had children and he didn't want any more. Some people are a nightmare what did she expect ?

Shelly

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He has done the right thing leaving her, how could he ever trust her. She was aware he had children and he didn't want any more. Some people are a nightmare what did she expect ?

Shelly

But did you think he was raped? He said he was because she violated him and stole his sperm.

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But did you think he was raped? He said he was because she violated him and stole his sperm.

She did not force herself upon him and have sex with him against his will so, no, he was not raped.

He was, however, violated and cheated.

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She did not force herself upon him and have sex with him against his will so, no, he was not raped.

He was, however, violated and cheated.

Yes, I would agree with this.

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But did you think he was raped? He said he was because she violated him and stole his sperm.

How could she have stole his sperm? Once he has cum in her pussy I think the ownership of the sperm passes from him to her. Simple.

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And he's kind of undermining rape...

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But did you think he was raped? He said he was because she violated him and stole his sperm.

Betrayed. It's horrible when trust breaks down, but that not a reason for not having it in the first place.

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And he's kind of undermining rape...

If she had bummed him with a 15 inch veiny dildo then he could cry rape, but he had sex with her, he deposited his sperm inside her vagina and he is still moaning about it afterwards?

By the way, how does he know that she had stopped taking her pill? It's not 100% effective so perhaps it was pure chance that she became pregnant?

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Rape, no.

Betrayal and possible/probable blackmail, yes.

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Certainly not rape, but definitely a bad thing to do when she knew he didn't want anymore kids. Funnily enough when my wife to be got pregnant I wasn't that bothered about having kids, but was happy when she became pregnant. We got married and less than 14 months after the birth of my daughter we had a son, she was sterilised then as she'd had 2 Caesareans. For medical reasons she couldn't take the pill and we'd relied on condoms, however there'd been times when we'd had sex without them. I was of the opinion that we'd had 'accidents' as in times when we'd just been careless. It was a few years later that she said she'd set out to become pregnant. I didn't really bother me because I had 2 kids who I loved and still think are great. When we split, I was in my 40's, had 2 kids, figured that was enough, one of each, decided the planet wasn't short of humans and had a vasectomy.

With regard to the rest of the stuff, her attitude to his relationship with his kids stinks, he was daft to let her bully him into not keeping proper contact with his kids. Things haven't always been wonderful since the divorce however it's usually quite good. Yesterday late afternoon I went up to where my ex lives, she and my daughter went to church fairly soon after I got there but my son and I nattered and had a couple kebabs while watching telly. When ex and my daughter came home, my daughter went off to her boyfriends but the ex and I had a glass of wine. Wednesday we're all having tea together, Saturday, ex and I are taking our son back to University, I think that's a good way of living with divorce.

As far as relationships go, I'm getting to think that everyone I meet is carrying to much baggage, (perhaps I am too). The last person I was seeing on a regular basis fell out with me when I forgot to put a x at the end of a text, I told her she was 41 and not 14, that was when I gave up on dating sites. I've not got such a high a sex drive as I used to have, so think I'll probably just stick to the odd casual thing, swinging and the odd punt. Relationships are weird as you get older, I was seeing someone I met through work recently, but she turned out to be a mentalist so I fucked her off, I just can't be arsed with bullshit anymore.

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I think we shouldnt judge other people until we hear both sides of a story. I know that sounds harsh but despite all the friendlyness between client and wg...we dont know each other really.

As a theoretical situation I would say she is morally in the wrong...but on that score us lot are even less qualified to judge.x

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But did you think he was raped? He said he was because she violated him and stole his sperm.

No Sarah he wasn't raped at all. However he was betrayed by her, as you stated he said no to more children and she went against that.

Shelly

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