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So I Saw My First Escort...

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Well after many moons of procrastination I saw an escort for the first time yesterday.

They say the first step is the hardest, I did feel nervous, but I think that was helped by the fact I decided to see the lady only for a massage and hand relief for 30 minutes and thus the pressure was reduced somewhat. I am still a virgin. ;-)

Given my total and utter lack of experience with women I think it went OK, no apparent major disasters. I did think I may not get an erection, or suffer premature ejaculation or not cum at all, none were suffered. Hopefully no faux pas committed. To be honest the whole experience was a whirlwind and I hadn't a clue what I was doing. The lady was really down to earth and said some very sweet things I'll take away with me.

Leaving I had mixed feelings. Having had a night to think on it, I am still somewhat perplexed. Physically it felt great and I guess I couldn't have hoped for much more and that was what the experience was about no doubt. However, leaving I did feel something emotionally was missing. This is no criticism of the lady at all, because that emotion which makes us human is maybe necessarily missing in seeing an escort. Maybe I'm still in shock, I'm not sure.

Overall I'm pleased. I think I will definitely benefit from the experience and thank the lady for it. I think the main thing I take away is more self belief and confidence in myself and others, that is more important than the physical for me, right now.

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My nervous first is still very memorable ... many years ago ... now you can relax and enjoy the next .. and the next ... and the next.

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Well after many moons of procrastination I saw an escort for the first time yesterday.

They say the first step is the hardest, I did feel nervous, but I think that was helped by the fact I decided to see the lady only for a massage and hand relief for 30 minutes and thus the pressure was reduced somewhat. I am still a virgin. ;-)

Given my total and utter lack of experience with women I think it went OK, no apparent major disasters. I did think I may not get an erection, or suffer premature ejaculation or not cum at all, none were suffered. Hopefully no faux pas committed. To be honest the whole experience was a whirlwind and I hadn't a clue what I was doing. The lady was really down to earth and said some very sweet things I'll take away with me.

Leaving I had mixed feelings. Having had a night to think on it, I am still somewhat perplexed. Physically it felt great and I guess I couldn't have hoped for much more and that was what the experience was about no doubt. However, leaving I did feel something emotionally was missing. This is no criticism of the lady at all, because that emotion which makes us human is maybe necessarily missing in seeing an escort. Maybe I'm still in shock, I'm not sure.

Overall I'm pleased. I think I will definitely benefit from the experience and thank the lady for it. I think the main thing I take away is more self belief and confidence in myself and others, that is more important than the physical for me, right now.

Well done.

Next is to become not a virgin (a la David Niven) with an Escort.

Why?

You only have to look at the first time for many many men and ladies (just look at the 'Interview' tabs on the purple sites) to realise that the first time is nearly always a quick fumble under less than favourable conditions.

Visit lots of ladies, practice your technique, find out what you are good at giving and receiving, that way, when Mrs right comes along, you can marry her and enjoy life having sown your wild oats and not having married the first girl who opened her legs for you.

Enjoy!

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I think the practice/exp is a good and useful thing, but I wouldn't encourage new boys to only seek/exp this way. It's a confidence booster for sure. But there's a 'punch the air' moment when he calls you and says..'I have a date/I got a gf.'

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I remember my first experience with an escort. It was a year ago and I remember being very nervous as well. I still can't belive I did this but my first experience was a full on bdsm with one of the submissive girls in London and it was just perfect. I have not looked back ever since. I guess everyone have different experience. I still get nervous when seeing an escort but it is a real buzz for me.

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Well after many moons of procrastination I saw an escort for the first time yesterday.

They say the first step is the hardest, I did feel nervous, but I think that was helped by the fact I decided to see the lady only for a massage and hand relief for 30 minutes and thus the pressure was reduced somewhat. I am still a virgin. ;-)

Given my total and utter lack of experience with women I think it went OK, no apparent major disasters. I did think I may not get an erection, or suffer premature ejaculation or not cum at all, none were suffered. Hopefully no faux pas committed. To be honest the whole experience was a whirlwind and I hadn't a clue what I was doing. The lady was really down to earth and said some very sweet things I'll take away with me.

Leaving I had mixed feelings. Having had a night to think on it, I am still somewhat perplexed. Physically it felt great and I guess I couldn't have hoped for much more and that was what the experience was about no doubt. However, leaving I did feel something emotionally was missing. This is no criticism of the lady at all, because that emotion which makes us human is maybe necessarily missing in seeing an escort. Maybe I'm still in shock, I'm not sure.

Overall I'm pleased. I think I will definitely benefit from the experience and thank the lady for it. I think the main thing I take away is more self belief and confidence in myself and others, that is more important than the physical for me, right now.

Glad to hear your pleased. :)

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Well after many moons of procrastination I saw an escort for the first time yesterday.

They say the first step is the hardest, I did feel nervous, but I think that was helped by the fact I decided to see the lady only for a massage and hand relief for 30 minutes and thus the pressure was reduced somewhat. I am still a virgin. ;-)

Given my total and utter lack of experience with women I think it went OK, no apparent major disasters. I did think I may not get an erection, or suffer premature ejaculation or not cum at all, none were suffered. Hopefully no faux pas committed. To be honest the whole experience was a whirlwind and I hadn't a clue what I was doing. The lady was really down to earth and said some very sweet things I'll take away with me.

Leaving I had mixed feelings. Having had a night to think on it, I am still somewhat perplexed. Physically it felt great and I guess I couldn't have hoped for much more and that was what the experience was about no doubt. However, leaving I did feel something emotionally was missing. This is no criticism of the lady at all, because that emotion which makes us human is maybe necessarily missing in seeing an escort. Maybe I'm still in shock, I'm not sure.

Overall I'm pleased. I think I will definitely benefit from the experience and thank the lady for it. I think the main thing I take away is more self belief and confidence in myself and others, that is more important than the physical for me, right now.

Well done you! I can remember my first time as a WG and it was nerve racking to say the least.

Now you concentrate on the positives. I have seen quite a few men who have never done this before and their main worry was always to be able to perform when it came to the real thing as opposed to 'paid for'. What you must remember is that the connection that comes with any kind of sexual activity is always nicest when it's with someone you care about - never mind how dull or amateur the sex is - it's the people doing it that count.

And in the meantime, you always have 'paid for' as a stop gap until someone really nice comes along.

Hugs for being brave :)

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The lack of emotion was possibly due to the fact that you were having a relatively "mild" massage with happy ending. If you had chosen to "get down and dirty" you may have found more emotion. However you have broken your duck. Good luck to you and I hope, when you feel ready, you will take the plunge and go a bit further.

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Leaving I had mixed feelings. Having had a night to think on it, I am still somewhat perplexed. Physically it felt great and I guess I couldn't have hoped for much more and that was what the experience was about no doubt. However, leaving I did feel something emotionally was missing. This is no criticism of the lady at all, because that emotion which makes us human is maybe necessarily missing in seeing an escort. Maybe I'm still in shock, I'm not sure.

Is emotion the right word ? Do you really want to encourage yourself to feel any more of an emotion than excitement with an escort or masseuse ? Or was the excitement not what you expected ?

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Is emotion the right word ? Do you really want to encourage yourself to feel any more of an emotion than excitement with an escort or masseuse ? Or was the excitement not what you expected ?

Good point LillyB. Perhaps emotion wasn't the right word, it wasn't as though I wanted to marry the lady on the spot or something. The phsyical excitement was certainly there and I really enjoyed it.

When I mention emotion it was perhaps a bit of an empty feeling on leaving. More like this is what I have been missing and are missing out on. It is quite hard to explain for me. It made me feel quite emotional, yet now looking back the positives feelings and sensations I had more than made up for the negatives.

I think what porker paul raises is interesting, would sex make that feeling less apparant when leaving, I just don't know.

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I just wanted to say thanks for all the comments.

I wasn't sure whether to raise this, but it has been on my mind.

I always felt taking the first step to see an escort was the hardest. I've had no one to confide in when making this decision and cannot say I found it easy to make or that I haven't made errors along the way. People have attempted to help me here, either directly or indirectly and I thank them, even if I didn't at the time, however, it had to be an issue for me to resolve, clearly.

I am a virgin in my 30's through a combination of factors and really not ashamed to say that. Yet I do accept this is not the social norm and that probably any serious relationship I may have would be hampered at my age by my lack of experience.

That is not to say I feel forced into seeing an escort, I don't. It is a decision I have made going on my own feelings and what I think is rational.

The point I really want to make here is I realised what I had been missing out on for years last Friday. My parents certainly didn't talk about sexual issues and nor was it really covered at school. Throw in a few other factors and I think it is so easy to become stuck on autopilot almost or either not wanting or really knowing how to attract a partner (be it shyness, physical or emotional issues, etc) or experience sex. I think you then just hit an age when you feel all that should be almost behind you and you are too old to be less experienced, which further compounds the problem.

I remember reading a thread about a father taking his soon to see an escort. I'm not sure if this is an urban myth, but I remember thinking (perhaps writing) I just don't understand that. However, I now feel really I was wrong and I totally understand it.

I really wished say at 18-20 my father would have discussed this with me and perhaps even encouraged or taken me to see an escort. Not to lose my virginity, but to have confidence in my own sexuality and explore things a little, I think it would have helped me to mature quicker. I'm sure people may find that hard to understand, but the 10 years of isolation, frustration and yes confusion I feel wouldn't have been so present. For a period I wasn't even sure if I was straight or gay because I had low sex drive. When half the population is of the opposite sex, yet somehow sex or sexual feelings has become a block, it can affect you negatively in many areas.

I don't believe that having a fumble at school or losing my virginity that way would have been wise. In fact, I do think visiting an escort and losing my virginity like that is a much better thing than losing it say at 14 at school. It is likely to be a much better experience I feel. Infact seeing an escort for the first time just to be in contact with the opposite sex in a sexual way has given me more confidence not just to sleep with any lady.

I will see an escort for my first time, but only when I feel ready and that the lady is right for me. But if I am ever lucky enough to be a parent, I'd certainly be more open about sex with a child I had because I wouldn't want them to go through the issues I have on my own and pretty much isolated with them.

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I just wanted to say thanks for all the comments.

I wasn't sure whether to raise this, but it has been on my mind.

I always felt taking the first step to see an escort was the hardest. I've had no one to confide in when making this decision and cannot say I found it easy to make or that I haven't made errors along the way. People have attempted to help me here, either directly or indirectly and I thank them, even if I didn't at the time, however, it had to be an issue for me to resolve, clearly.

I am a virgin in my 30's through a combination of factors and really not ashamed to say that. Yet I do accept this is not the social norm and that probably any serious relationship I may have would be hampered at my age by my lack of experience.

That is not to say I feel forced into seeing an escort, I don't. It is a decision I have made going on my own feelings and what I think is rational.

The point I really want to make here is I realised what I had been missing out on for years last Friday. My parents certainly didn't talk about sexual issues and nor was it really covered at school. Throw in a few other factors and I think it is so easy to become stuck on autopilot almost or either not wanting or really knowing how to attract a partner (be it shyness, physical or emotional issues, etc) or experience sex. I think you then just hit an age when you feel all that should be almost behind you and you are too old to be less experienced, which further compounds the problem.

I remember reading a thread about a father taking his soon to see an escort. I'm not sure if this is an urban myth, but I remember thinking (perhaps writing) I just don't understand that. However, I now feel really I was wrong and I totally understand it.

I really wished say at 18-20 my father would have discussed this with me and perhaps even encouraged or taken me to see an escort. Not to lose my virginity, but to have confidence in my own sexuality and explore things a little, I think it would have helped me to mature quicker. I'm sure people may find that hard to understand, but the 10 years of isolation, frustration and yes confusion I feel wouldn't have been so present. For a period I wasn't even sure if I was straight or gay because I had low sex drive. When half the population is of the opposite sex, yet somehow sex or sexual feelings has become a block, it can affect you negatively in many areas.

I don't believe that having a fumble at school or losing my virginity that way would have been wise. In fact, I do think visiting an escort and losing my virginity like that is a much better thing than losing it say at 14 at school. It is likely to be a much better experience I feel. Infact seeing an escort for the first time just to be in contact with the opposite sex in a sexual way has given me more confidence not just to sleep with any lady.

I will see an escort for my first time, but only when I feel ready and that the lady is right for me. But if I am ever lucky enough to be a parent, I'd certainly be more open about sex with a child I had because I wouldn't want them to go through the issues I have on my own and pretty much isolated with them.

I think you have written a very frank and open post.

Where are you based?

Reason for asking, I know just the lady who would be ideal and willing to help you break your duck.

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I just wanted to say thanks for all the comments.

I wasn't sure whether to raise this, but it has been on my mind.

I always felt taking the first step to see an escort was the hardest. I've had no one to confide in when making this decision and cannot say I found it easy to make or that I haven't made errors along the way. People have attempted to help me here, either directly or indirectly and I thank them, even if I didn't at the time, however, it had to be an issue for me to resolve, clearly.

I am a virgin in my 30's through a combination of factors and really not ashamed to say that. Yet I do accept this is not the social norm and that probably any serious relationship I may have would be hampered at my age by my lack of experience.

That is not to say I feel forced into seeing an escort, I don't. It is a decision I have made going on my own feelings and what I think is rational.

The point I really want to make here is I realised what I had been missing out on for years last Friday. My parents certainly didn't talk about sexual issues and nor was it really covered at school. Throw in a few other factors and I think it is so easy to become stuck on autopilot almost or either not wanting or really knowing how to attract a partner (be it shyness, physical or emotional issues, etc) or experience sex. I think you then just hit an age when you feel all that should be almost behind you and you are too old to be less experienced, which further compounds the problem.

I remember reading a thread about a father taking his soon to see an escort. I'm not sure if this is an urban myth, but I remember thinking (perhaps writing) I just don't understand that. However, I now feel really I was wrong and I totally understand it.

I really wished say at 18-20 my father would have discussed this with me and perhaps even encouraged or taken me to see an escort. Not to lose my virginity, but to have confidence in my own sexuality and explore things a little, I think it would have helped me to mature quicker. I'm sure people may find that hard to understand, but the 10 years of isolation, frustration and yes confusion I feel wouldn't have been so present. For a period I wasn't even sure if I was straight or gay because I had low sex drive. When half the population is of the opposite sex, yet somehow sex or sexual feelings has become a block, it can affect you negatively in many areas.

I don't believe that having a fumble at school or losing my virginity that way would have been wise. In fact, I do think visiting an escort and losing my virginity like that is a much better thing than losing it say at 14 at school. It is likely to be a much better experience I feel. Infact seeing an escort for the first time just to be in contact with the opposite sex in a sexual way has given me more confidence not just to sleep with any lady.

I will see an escort for my first time, but only when I feel ready and that the lady is right for me. But if I am ever lucky enough to be a parent, I'd certainly be more open about sex with a child I had because I wouldn't want them to go through the issues I have on my own and pretty much isolated with them.

What others do is their business but i would never take my son to see a WG as i want him to build relationships with women which fortunately he is capable of doing having a girlfriend at the moment. Do what you makes you happy is my advice, if that means punting, pulling or both good luck to you. :)

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What others do is their business but i would never take my son to see a WG as i want him to build relationships with women which fortunately he is capable of doing having a girlfriend at the moment. Do what you makes you happy is my advice, if that means punting, pulling or both good luck to you. :)

I would echo that, but add "without hurting anyone else".

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I would echo that, but add "without hurting anyone else".

I didnt put that as i do hurt others on occassion when cheating on them by punting with WGs which some have and some havent been aware of. :)

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