Billie Jean

Why Do Some Guys Take Rejection So Badly?

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I'm getting sick of responding to angry emails and texts and blocking everyone. Usually if i dont accept a booking, its because i'm busy or they've tried to haggle the price or because they dont come across as genuine somehow. But no matter what the reason, i'm always polite. Nevertheless, some folks decide to bombard me with bitter emails and texts and tell me i should be 'grateful' for their service and "In future I suggest you just say no thank and be polite to the people that write to you..."...

Sheesh... I make a point of coming across as pleasant as possible as its in my nature to do so and also because i dont want some crazy dude posting my name with fake degrading feedback on some forum somewhere...!

Is it just me or are there some serious weirdos who have issues of the Freudian nature?

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I'm getting sick of responding to angry emails and texts and blocking everyone. Usually if i dont accept a booking, its because i'm busy or they've tried to haggle the price or because they dont come across as genuine somehow. But no matter what the reason, i'm always polite. Nevertheless, some folks decide to bombard me with bitter emails and texts and tell me i should be 'grateful' for their service and "In future I suggest you just say no thank and be polite to the people that write to you..."...

Sheesh... I make a point of coming across as pleasant as possible as its in my nature to do so and also because i dont want some crazy dude posting my name with fake degrading feedback on some forum somewhere...!

Is it just me or are there some serious weirdos who have issues of the Freudian nature?

There are some weirdos about and sex brings some nutters, sadly its the way it is. They do genuine punters no favours. :)

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I seem to always attract the nutcases!

Oh dear, not good, you have my sympathy Billie. :)

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I'm getting sick of responding to angry emails and texts and blocking everyone. Usually if i dont accept a booking, its because i'm busy or they've tried to haggle the price or because they dont come across as genuine somehow. But no matter what the reason, i'm always polite. Nevertheless, some folks decide to bombard me with bitter emails and texts and tell me i should be 'grateful' for their service and "In future I suggest you just say no thank and be polite to the people that write to you..."...

Sheesh... I make a point of coming across as pleasant as possible as its in my nature to do so and also because i dont want some crazy dude posting my name with fake degrading feedback on some forum somewhere...!

Is it just me or are there some serious weirdos who have issues of the Freudian nature?

I know EXACTLY what you mean. I'm always polite to people but if something isn't going to work, I'll tell them so as politely as possible but it still sends some of them kicking off. A profilic member on The Other Site launched a campaign of abusive texts after I blocked him for trying to haggle on prices repeatedly. He then somehow found out I'd asked others about him on the LBB (on a private board - they'd had equally bad experiences) and sent texts all afternoon claiming he'd made me the star of his blog, good luck in my chosen career and essentially how dare you choose to ignore me, I have 158 feedback!

People can't handle rejection and especially men who feel we are so desperate for money we will see absolutely every tom, dick and harry that gets in touch. It gets to them because it's not just any girl saying no, it's a working girl.

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Lady,

It is all so simple! If you won't fuck with me, you can only be a bloody dyke!

Any real woman worth her salt would give anything (and everything) to get me on top of her.

Sorry - do I strike home?

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Yeah really! How dare we turn down £30 for a 2 hour booking on the other side of town at 2am in the morning! What the hell is wrong with us?

What made me mad at the last one was that he initially sent me a really long, well written email describing exactly what he wanted to take place during the booking and for various reasons, i decided that i wouldnt do it. So i told him it sounds great but i wasnt willing to do an overnight with someone i've never met before and stuff... He replied back with a poorly written email basically thanking me for getting back to him. That was yesterday morning. Then this morning, i see he's sent me another email. I read it and it was the most bitter sounding email i've had! This one was in well written English again! I'm sure this dude has a friend who's telling him what to type! He's now claiming that my last email was rude and i should be more polite and grateful and blah blah... Just more longwinded rubbish...

It really pisses me off! Glad its not just me then!

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Lady,

It is all so simple! If you won't fuck with me, you can only be a bloody dyke!

Any real woman worth her salt would give anything (and everything) to get me on top of her.

Sorry - do I strike home?

Haha! That sounds familiar! Wait a minute... Didnt i meet you at the bus-stop last saturday night? :blink:

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Just put it down to bruised male ego and the anonymity of the internet and move on. people like that can't get laid on civvey street and failing in the paid game hits them hard. Losers.

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Sometimes that's the way it goes. As punters we get equally cross when we get blanked or receive short shrift from girls behaving oddly. It's not your fault, just that both sides have too many idiots. Hope you begin to attract the more sensible types in future.

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Perhaps the other half has rejected him time and time again because she knows what he is like in that department and then he seeks it elsewhere with a WG and she rejects him for one reason or another. Much easier to take it out on the WG than her indoors as it would mean no dinner to come home to and all his clothes ironed and his home clean and tidy etc, etc!

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Some blokes really do think they are gods gift to women ,and cannot understand it when they are turned down,and from what i read from the ladies here it is usually the content of their E-mails that puts them off.

I am disabled so i'm no superman,but my polite E-mails get a polite reply.Only the other day i recieved a reply thanking me for my very nice mail,and a meeting was quickly fixed up. A new lady and it was brilliant,just getting ready to see her again.

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I'm getting sick of responding to angry emails and texts and blocking everyone. Usually if i dont accept a booking, its because i'm busy or they've tried to haggle the price or because they dont come across as genuine somehow. But no matter what the reason, i'm always polite. Nevertheless, some folks decide to bombard me with bitter emails and texts and tell me i should be 'grateful' for their service and "In future I suggest you just say no thank and be polite to the people that write to you..."...

Sheesh... I make a point of coming across as pleasant as possible as its in my nature to do so and also because i dont want some crazy dude posting my name with fake degrading feedback on some forum somewhere...!

Is it just me or are there some serious weirdos who have issues of the Freudian nature?

Would you agree in applying the policy that someone doesn't look genuine you may get it wrong now and again?

At the end of the day it is a ladies right to see who she wants and for the guys there are many other escorts.

I understand many people go on instinct, but that isn't always right and if you fall into that category it is frustrating if you are genuine.

As a quick example it happened to myself. The first escort I saw said to me because I am quite fit and can string more than a few sentances together she (and no doubt other escorts) would have probably thought I'm a timewaster (her words not mine), so I was being judged on my body image.

I guess that is the world at the end of the day and I take an approach I'm me and can only be myself, if people don't class me as genuine, that is an issue for them and just move on.

Edited by nntt

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Would you agree in applying the policy that someone doesn't look genuine you may get it wrong now and again?

At the end of the day it is a ladies right to see who she wants and for the guys there are many other escorts.

I understand many people go on instinct, but that isn't always right and if you fall into that category it is frustrating if you are genuine.

As a quick example it happened to myself. The first escort I saw said to me because I am quite fit and can string more than a few sentances together she (and no doubt other escorts) would have probably thought I'm a timewaster (her words not mine), so I was being judged on my body image.

I guess that is the world at the end of the day and I take an approach I'm me and can only be myself, if people don't class me as genuine, that is an issue for them and just move on.

So how can the ladies know how fit you is on a email?

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Hey - always sorry to hear of anyone getting phone or Internet hassle. Everyone's sent a hug I hope so I'll try add a constructive tuppence.

I've spent some time on a dating site for a while. The largest number of ladies contacting me I would consider an 'unsuitable match' but 'thanks for emailing.' Ones that persisted, I'd say oh well and wish them luck then block them so I didn't have to get into defending my decision. Rude, gobby or textspeak ones wouldn't even get that.

I use email alerts based in proximity and so on from the purple site - 90% are worth only immediate deletion - and 70% of those (approx) are put on immediate block cos they are too outrageously awful/fake/scam/tacky. It takes seconds.

I just accept that a very large majority of heavy Internet users I would find undesirable in real life (wasn't it the the Facebook film that showed it was invented to save people actually meeting) - and of course, crucially and importantly, a considerable minority or people are rather lovely and interesting and I'd probably rather enjoy meeting them in real life.

So my point?

I think we all find ways to cope. To keep the people we want in our lives as much as we can, to focus in their attractive qualities, and to find as efficient as possible ways of dealing with other people so they don't screw us up beyond redemption. Because if we focus in the crap, it eats us up. If you use the purple site you will get a large proportion of crap. Or kick it. You let the benefits - and know they are benefits - outweigh the crap. That way it's still worth it. If you are getting more than your fair share, it's maybe even worth looking at your profile structure and comparing it with people who get less.

But I know . . . The point was not to ask for a 'solution' (don't we men love giving 'solutions'!). Or even to demonised that portion of mankind with sperm generators between their legs. It was probably just to kick off s bit and say hey, I'm feeling shit about this!

So hopefully we've blocked a few irritating birds with one stone, or scared them away, or made those annoyances that take flight in our brains just a little bit less annoying by means of convivial discussion?

Prost!

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Would you agree in applying the policy that someone doesn't look genuine you may get it wrong now and again?

At the end of the day it is a ladies right to see who she wants and for the guys there are many other escorts.

I understand many people go on instinct, but that isn't always right and if you fall into that category it is frustrating if you are genuine.

As a quick example it happened to myself. The first escort I saw said to me because I am quite fit and can string more than a few sentances together she (and no doubt other escorts) would have probably thought I'm a timewaster (her words not mine), so I was being judged on my body image.

I guess that is the world at the end of the day and I take an approach I'm me and can only be myself, if people don't class me as genuine, that is an issue for them and just move on.

Does that imply most punters are ugly/unfit and incoherent?

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Does that imply most punters are ugly/unfit and incoherent?

Let me just clarify, to Jerboa, I was talking about the other site and hence profiles can be viewed.

I didn't at all claim most punters are any of the things you said.

The point I was making is what the lady said to me, some/many ladies wouldn't believe a guy contacting them who was a virgin would tally with my profile. Somehow people think because you are phsyically fit then everything else follows, they are judging on instinct or a book by its cover and if the two don't tally they conclude you are not genuine.

I do underatand in a large percentage of cases going on instinct is right, but in a percentage of cases (however small) people do not fit the perceptions you have, that is what makes us human, after all.

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I have always found that both in my real life and my punting life that a little politeness goes a long way. What goes around comes around as they say. If people are rude to you smile sweetly and don't make a kneejerk reply, no matter how tempting it might be.

If all else fails, the block/ignore/blacklist function is your friend ;) .

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But i was polite! And then he sent me a polite reply! Then 24 hours later, he decided to change his mind and send a bitter email! Of course, i've now blocked him but i'm sure there will be another one next week...

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But i was polite! And then he sent me a polite reply! Then 24 hours later, he decided to change his mind and send a bitter email! Of course, i've now blocked him but i'm sure there will be another one next week...

Unfortunately It comes with the job, getting shitty emails off low lifes will always be normal.

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