wazza

Would You Ask A Friend To Sleep With You For Money?

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I have a female friend who is in financial difficulties. She is divorced and attractive. With her present income she has difficulty paying off her debts and managing household bills etc. I help her out now and then with a loan. I value our friendship and don't want to risk losing her. She sees me as a friend and nothing more.

Was wondering the following..

If you had a female friend in a similar circumstances would you be tempted to give her the idea of sleeping with you for money? No strings attached etc etc.?

I am scared to say it to her in case i will lose her. :-(

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No, I wouldn't, but if she was a real friend, and I could afford it, I would offer to give, or at least loan her some money, if anything developed after that then all well and good, but asking her to sell herself might be the last thing she needs.

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For me wazza it is a big NO.

If you value her as a friend then I don't think sleeping with her would be wise in any circumstance, let alone offering money.

I think it highly likely the friendship would be over if you suggested such a thing and even if not what is the best outcome?

Why change a friend based relationship by introducing the complexities of sex and money all for a short term gain of getting your leg over?

I understand it is tough to separate the brain and the privates, but feel you should in this case.

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Erm..no.If I considered her a friend I would give/lend her the money.

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If you had a female friend in a similar circumstances would you be tempted to give her the idea of sleeping with you for money? No strings attached etc etc.?

I am scared to say it to her in case i will lose her. :-(

Haha.... I'm sure that we make her feel better about her situation. This place cracks me up sometimes. With friends like these, etc...

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Wait....isn't this what is called grooming?! Psychologically exploiting a woman when she is most vulnerable to coax her into sexual services. And if anyone claims this is not sexual grooming of vulnerable women, then I don't know what is :o

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Thats it, finally an effective strategy to reduce the rich poor divide in the country, and you get to feel charitable in the process..!

I will drop an email to Iain Duncan Smith and give him the good news...

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I value our friendship and don't want to risk losing her.

If that is true then you know it's the wrong thing to do.

The chances are that she will be offended and you will lose her as a friend.

Stick to the loans I say.

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I have a female friend who is in financial difficulties. She is divorced and attractive. With her present income she has difficulty paying off her debts and managing household bills etc. I help her out now and then with a loan. I value our friendship and don't want to risk losing her. She sees me as a friend and nothing more.

Was wondering the following..

If you had a female friend in a similar circumstances would you be tempted to give her the idea of sleeping with you for money? No strings attached etc etc.?

I am scared to say it to her in case i will lose her. :-(

100% not, one of my very best friends is a woman who has had some financial problems and i have helped her out on occassion which i was and am happy to do, our friendship goes beyond sex, and i wouldnt insult her with such a suggestion not that i would ever suggest such a thing. :)

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The tone of what I am about to say might sound a bit blunt - apologies for this - but please try to follow the gist of what I'm trying to say ...

Making the presumption that you're hetrosexual - would you make that offer to a friend you were very close to ... who was male ?

If not - why would you make it to your female friend ? Worst case scenario - she thinks you're trying to take advantage of her and ends the friendship as has been pointed out by other posters .. best case scenario she laughs it off as a joke .. either way you've just lost a friend - as she WILL view you differently.

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It does sound exploitative. She's a mate just give her the money. If it were your male pal, would you ask him for a blowjob for the bullseye you slip him while at the bar?

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I have a female friend who is in financial difficulties. She is divorced and attractive. With her present income she has difficulty paying off her debts and managing household bills etc. I help her out now and then with a loan. I value our friendship and don't want to risk losing her. She sees me as a friend and nothing more.

Was wondering the following..

If you had a female friend in a similar circumstances would you be tempted to give her the idea of sleeping with you for money? No strings attached etc etc.?

I am scared to say it to her in case i will lose her. :-(

She is not a WG, and frankly, as you're even thinking about it you're the worst type of 'friend'.

You help her or you don't, no strings.

Get a grip.

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I have a female friend who is in financial difficulties. She is divorced and attractive. With her present income she has difficulty paying off her debts and managing household bills etc. I help her out now and then with a loan. I value our friendship and don't want to risk losing her. She sees me as a friend and nothing more.

Was wondering the following..

If you had a female friend in a similar circumstances would you be tempted to give her the idea of sleeping with you for money? No strings attached etc etc.?

I am scared to say it to her in case i will lose her. :-(

You mean should I exploite a "friend" in financial difficulties to provide sexual favours for money?

No.

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Glad to hear of positive feedbacks.

Have known her for 15 years when she was married etc etc.

She has been divorced and been in financial problems for the past 5 years.

Have helped her to control her spending habits.

She is too proud to accept money from me as a gift.

She will take a loan which i don't bother reminding her about.

I have always fancied her but am afraid to take it further regarding having a relationship.

Life is tough lol

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Glad to hear of positive feedbacks. Have known her for 15 years when she was married etc etc. She has been divorced and been in financial problems for the past 5 years. Have helped her to control her spending habits. She is too proud to accept money from me as a gift. She will take a loan which i don't bother reminding her about. I have always fancied her but am afraid to take it further regarding having a relationship. Life is tough lol

As i said my friendship with my mate is beyond sex, it would be like shagging a sister, its of zero interest to us, i have set her up with dates with guys i know, but in your case you fancy her so why not consider just telling her that without mentioning money, because i really wouldnt advise doing that. As someone else said bear in mind once you have told her you fancy her if she doesnt fancy you your friendship will likely be different. So be absolutely sure before doing anything. Good luck. :)

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If I was in that situation then I would jokingly say to her ''I have a solution to what you are looking for in Life", she will ask what is it and you start giggling and say "Why don't we" giggle again and say " Why don't me and you have sex for an hour and I pay you for your special skills you perform on me". See what her response will be but make sure you are not serious when you ask her

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You could suggest that she take up escorting? Obviously do it in a I know a friend of a friend who knows a girl who... type thing and suggest it in a light hearted 'I'm sure you couldn't do this but...' and see what her reaction is.

However I suspect you want to keep her for yourself and be her boyfriend in which case be brave and romance her.

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The answer is no, don't suggest she sells herself.

But wouldn't it be awesome if you found out that she did (start to sell sex) and a relationship started because of it.

Just saying.... (Plus there seems to be a undertone of desire in the OPs question)

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If you've known her for some time, then I'm sure you can think of other ways to show your interest in her than offering her cash. I'm assuming you want a relationship, and you don't just want to satisfy your curiosity. (If the latter: you're just looking to take advantage - down boy).

You could suggest taking her somewhere nice for a weekend to forget about her troubles. Just float it as an idea, see if she's receptive or whether she sees it as crossing a boundary she doesn't want to cross. Keep it ambiguous as to whether it's romantically inspired or platonically, leaving that to her to steer. That way, you should probably be able to stay friends if she says no.

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what are friends for eh?! oh yeah, not punting

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No, it sounds quite a horrible thing to do to your friends to be honest and 99% of women would most likely never speak to you again if you suggested it. If you genuinely like this woman then you'd help her regardless and anyway there are so many better ways to get her into bed than offer to pay her.

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I think if she's not a WG, and if you've never talked about this sort of thing before, she will probably take offence to the suggestion. Because she is a friend, you are already on emotionally-charged ground and if she agrees it will undoubtedly dredge up all kinds of weird feelings. If you're already attracted to her (which you must be), you may find it difficult afterwards if your feelings develop but she doesn't want to sleep with you again, or wants you to pay every time.

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Just to view this from the flipside.

I hope that you're not loaning her money because you want get inside her knickers. Because if that's the case, then it might be that you're the one being exploited.

Does she know how you feel about her?

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Maybe who knows, I'd have to think about it really

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